BFP after IVF - anyone want to join me in the wait for first scan?

[HopefulllHolly]

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Hi everyone,
I’ve just had our first cycle of IVF and although we had very slim odds of it working (low AMH, low AFC, male factor, which led to only 2 mature eggs which thankfully led to one perfect day 5 blast). We are absolutely amazed and over the moon that it worked despite everything, but I am really struggling with the wait for first scan. I almost feel with infertility (we TTC for 6/7 years) that it does make you anxious and I’m finding the wait to my first scan (6th June) unbearable. I don’t want to seem ungrateful but I really wish I could enjoy it or relax a little but instead I am worrying about miscarriage and things I can’t control. For me this has been the worst bit of IVF so far, and I’d love to just be able to be happy so I don’t look back (if it does work) and wish that I hadn’t been so anxious and scared.

Is anyone else in the same boat who wants to keep me company? 🥹 Or can provide some tips on how to distract myself and cope better? I know there’s nothing I can do to change the outcome and what will be will be, but I don’t think I’ve ever worried so much in my life.

Thank you 🙏

@Edf Oh gosh I know. I’ve spent the day looking at outfits for a little January girl! Some of them made me cry they were so cute! I did buy something very small for my partner to open this weekend to tell him the gender with. But that’s as far as I’ll go for now, it’s going to take all my strength not to buy all the cute stuff though!!

Oh bless you. Everything will be fine at your scan I’m sure it will. 5 sleeps and you’ll get to see him/her again and see how much they have grown and are thriving in there. ☺️ It will be ok! You’d still feel anxious with NIPT - I’m still nervous about my scan too. Hang in there - you’ve got this!

What's everyone's due dates so far? I've got babies on the brain today I can't concentrate, I keep reading all the conception and infertility threads and getting all giddy at people's positive test photos 😂

@lemonyfox 23rd January 😊 the poor thing! No one wants a January birthday!

16th jan here but was 3ish weeks early with first due to suspect pre eclampsia so if this one comes on the exact time timeframe we may be nye 😂 which would be perfect for childcare funding 😂 first was early April so long wait for sept funding! (Not that it matters )

@lemonyfox welcome and congrats!

@HopefulllHolly thanks for the reassurance 💕

@DogMummy87 so lovely to read your scan went well , amazing news !! You will be slightly more relaxed now .. @HopefulllHolly that's amazing you know the sex now .. how exciting for you!
quick question for the group, for those that took CoQ10 prior to EC .. what dose did you take and where did you buy it from ? Want to start this but not sure which ones to get as so many out there. Thanks and so lovely reading the postive updates from everyone .. well wishes to all 🥰

Thank you @hopefullsosbry 🥹
I used these: https://www.amazon.co.uk/CoQ10-Ubiquinone-Absorption-Intelligent-Naturally/dp/B08BL8PMYH/ref=mpsa11sspa?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.O1RFSSbaYKjFaLEmnXNiuyJv4aer66n2-8dIHpPsw8g0HnyvY-WjnvqTEPBTpbU8nvEj72GNPxs1kvFqPyuJXLd54-0mtIp-7RwSa91JsS4lQAwXdRc6K0fZm7874AjGrvSl5dNEIcGMABGF1l9wElAa3t2ZDmyQJc43rcXO2R6AVxjRB95-qh9T-dtD0CssslNpkHjD3HN1Z8usVFGg.emx6iPzh0XNs3D6e92HcxRrU5TazoHRsBXM12bccfs&dibtag=se&keywords=coq10+300mg&qid=1720012598&sr=8-1-spons&spcsd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9zZWFyY2hfYXRm&psc=1

Took 2 a day and my partner took one a day. ☺️ My conception supplement also had some in I think. Not sure though! I was on Wild Nutrition fertility support tablets

Thanks so much, so many different brands etc out there, will go buy these now .. 🥰

@hopefullsosbry Yeah it’s a minefield! There’s probably better ones out there but we just went off the ones my friends got (and they were pregnant from ivf so I just went with it 😊)

@hopefullsosbry I switched from Ubiqunone to Ubiqunol after doing some reading, but not sure it makes that much difference really. Also, get your OH to take it too!

@DogMummy87 wow!! Congratulations that’s a big milestone passed.

@lemonyfox welcome :) I am due 7th Feb but hoping for an elective c-section so have my own due date of end of Jan assuming they’ll do it at 38/39 weeks.

Good luck for your scans tomorrow @Natty2 and @Snowdrop131 ☺️ Will be thinking of you!

It’s a busy couple of weeks of scans - exciting!

@lemonyfox my due date should be around 1st March, just a couple of weeks ahead of you

@HopefulllHolly hopefully my 6-7 week scan is next week too. I’m supposed to message my consultant on Sunday and then he’ll get me in whenever he has an opening I imagine. So annoying not to have a clear date but I can’t waaait to see what shows up on the screen

Good luck tomorrow @Snowdrop131 and @Natty2 !

@lemonyfox congratulations!

@Edf hey due date twin! 16th Jan for me too according to embryo fertilisation, but was measuring a day ahead on my last scan, so maybe 15th now!

@HopefulllHolly how exciting, a beautiful little girl! So so happy for you!

@ThePeachGoose That must be annoying not having a date to fix your sights on! Hopefully on Sunday you’ll speak and he’ll say come in tomorrow, or something close!

@LouP87 Thanks lovely! I’m over the moon! Though it’s really hard with no one else knowing as I just want to tell the world! How are you doing? 12 weeks tomorrow - that feels mega to me!

@LouP87 they may be in sync- also measuring a day ahead so may very well be twinning 😊 musta been doing things the exact same day all the way through Ivf ☺️

Thanks @AnnieStar12 hope you are good 🥰

@HopefulllHolly @ThePeachGoose thank you both! A bag of nerves ahead of tomorrow but it's at 8am so won't have to wait too much longer!

@hopefullsosbry I went for ubiquinol too which is on Amazon, we think that played a part in our difference between both egg collections

@DogMummy87 so pleased to hear your first scan went well! I'm sure that was such a huge relief 🥰

@lemonyfox congrats again and nice to have another June FET join the group!

Welcome @lemonyfox and congrats!!

Good luck tomorrow @Natty2 and @snowdrop131 with your scans! 💕💜

Thanks everyone for your well wishes today. I am absolutely shattered and the nausea is not letting up with me at all so work has been a struggle. Could really do with a few days in bed I think to catch up on sleep after a few restless nights! Our due date is the 19th February 🥰😍

Thanks everyone and hello from the other thread @Natty2!

Good luck to everyone having their scans today!
i have a beta test tomorrow, and I keep doing hpts just to make sure they’re still positive and they are indeed getting darker. 🫣 This is my second transfer and I got a positive after my first as well, but around day 12 I got a bleed and the next day the line was almost invisible. So I’m still not completely sure this is it. 😬 I’m pretty nervous for tomorrow.

good luck for scans!

@summerchild92 Ivf preg is so anxiety inducing let alone preg after loss! Im sure everything will be just fine 💕 but this stage is tough- you got this 💪

@summerchild92 argh, it’s just so nerve wracking isn’t it! Glad your tests are getting darker.

Good luck for all scans today 🤞🤞

Im having one of those panic days I don’t feel any strong symptoms and it’s freaking me out! My last scan was 8 days ago which is too far away to give me any reassurance and my next one isn’t for another 9 days which is too far away! Maybe because I’m 8+5 today which is the exact day I had my last pregnancy surgically removed. Argh! I know I just need to work through this anxiety but it’s bloody hard! There’s one of those window to womb places not far from where I live and I tempted to see if they do a same day walk in. But I know that’s mad I can’t get scanned once a week!!!

@summerchild92 good luck for your bloods! I’m sure everything will be perfect.

@AnnieStar12 Awww bless you it’s rubbish isn’t it. On the window to the womb website you can book appointments and see if they have slots? I hate that feeling of anxiety - it’s horrible. Definitely go have a scan if it makes you feel better. And remember - your past experiences have no impact or sway on what will happen now; just because it happened then, doesn’t mean anything will happen again. 🙂

Ive just decided that my worrying and anxiety is ruining pregnancy for me and I want to enjoy it and be happy. Worrying won’t change the outcome, and neither will being happy and excited. So I am choosing to be happy and excited. If anything bad was to happen, I know I will be sad and it will be terrible, but I’ve been through much worse and I will get through it. But if this my only pregnancy in my life I’ll ever have, I want to make sure I soak in every minute of knowing I have a little one growing in me 🥹
It seems to be working so far - I definitely feel stronger and happier! Daily mantras have been helping me when I have a wobble! Maybe try and really focus your mind on the positives @AnnieStar12 and make a list of all the things that are going well so far? Might help a little?

Thanks @HopefulllHolly thats helpful. I think it’s because I’ve set getting to 12 weeks as my “end” goal after which I can allow myself to relax and enjoy the pregnancy. And it’s now so close, only 3 weeks away like I can see the finishing line after months and months of fertility treatment so it’s just soo scary getting past these final weeks. I’d be grateful for some sickness right now just so I can hold on to something for reassurance.

@AnnieStar12 Bless you, I totally get that feeling. It really drags. Do whatever will put your mind at ease - if you need another scan then get one! I think once you have your NIPT you’ll feel a bit better too, and that’s not too far away now. Have you got some nice plans this weekend to keep yourself busy?

Yes weekends are easier. I think days that I work at home are definitely bad for my anxiety as I have space all alone to go into my thoughts!