Starting IVF January 2024

[Natty2]

Hi ladies,

Just wondered if anyone is due to start their IVF cycle this month and want to keep company?!

I will be starting my first round hopefully in just over a week's time, on a short protocol.
After 2 years ttc, hoping this is finally our year!

@Blossomofhope yes all passed, rang them and booked my 7 day scan for in a few weeks which is exciting plus nerve wracking.

Conscious of stress at the moment though as I've been told this week my role is at risk of redundancy so I'm pretty upset and worked up. Already cried once today at work 🤣😅 trying to remember the positives and keep going 😰😰

Hope you're all okay xxx

@cbear1989 oh I’m sorry. I think it’s that time of year. I found out I was overloooked for promo and am moving teams but I know risk of redundancy is very unsettling, hopefully won’t come to that.

That's so exciting about the 7 wk scan. Do they expect to see a heartbeat at that stage? How do you feel physically?

Hey guys so some awful updates from me, am feeling broken and pretty devastated right now.

Had a bad feeling yesterday and confirmed this morning but I've lost whatever was there, I'm definetly not pregnant anymore 💔😭

@cbear1989 I'm so sorry to hear this 💔💔

@cbear1989 So sorry to hear 😢

Stay strong and sending positive vibes your way ❤️

Aw @cbear1989 im so sorry. This process is so cruel. Look after yourself 😔

@cbear1989 I'm so sorry to hear this.

We found out last Monday our attempt had failed. I work in a school so wasn’t at work as it was half term. I phoned my doctors for a sick note for a bit more time off, that can’t be issued for 2 weeks 🤯 but work need it for next week. I’m just absolutely mind blown at how that is suppose to work and why the hell it’s acceptable to add more worry on an already stressful time. Now I feel quilty and unreasonable for wanting a bit of time to myself. This is our 5th pregnancy loss in 3 years. Sorry just needed somewhere to vent. Also has anybody taken up the counselling offered by the clinics? I am torn whether to or not.

Hi
im really sorry about the failed cycle. It must be horrible.
I’m a GP and they must give you a sick note to have time off work after this difficult situation. Please speak to a different Dr and look after yourself. Xx

@Vian67 So sorry to hear. I would definitely keep pushing the GP. Look after yourself. ❤️

A sad update from me today. I went for my 7 week scan and they found an empty gestational sac. I’m devastated.

@Blossomofhope oh no! I’m so sorry. That sounds devastating.

Do they know what happened?

@Blossomofhope I'm so so sorry to hear this 💔

@Blossomofhope I'm so so sorry, this process is so hard. Take care of yourself and each other and take the time to recover, thinking of you and sending lots of big hugs 💔😘 xxx

@Blossomofhope I’m so sorry 😔

Thank you all so much.
They said it’s usually down to chromosomal issues. After 2.5 years, a chemical, 2 rounds of ivf and now this, I’m not sure I can keep doing this. It all feels impossible.

@Blossomofhope 💔 I'm sorry it's just such a difficult process.
My SIL lost her twins at 17 weeks, at the end of last year after their second round of ivf. They are now considering doing their third round of egg retrieval. It's such a heartbreaking time, but I hope you find the strength to keep going so you can finally meet your miracle baby 🤍
I've just signed up for ivf round 2 x

@Natty2 oh gosh that’s such a horrendous situation for your SIL.
I think today I’m going to take the day and research what I can - it’s probably just a coping mechanism more than anything. I feel like we’ve not really been given any answers other than low morphology.

The Waiting for the scan next week etc is not nice, I just want it to all to be over now so we can at least try again. Although I think my faith in the whole process will now be even lower sadly. Wishing you the very best of luck in the next round!

@Blossomofhope I completely get how you're feeling, just take some time to recover, it's totally normal to feel like this right now when its so raw, and I've def been through the exact same emotions as you, but you got this!!

Just one thought whether its helpful or not... I've found it frustrating with the NHS because there seems to be zero interest in finding out what's gone wrong in my treatment, it's just a bit like oh okay well let's try again and do exactly the same thing, which doesn't sit right with me when it's so hard and emotionally draining.

I have a friend who did multiple IVF cycles in the UK with no luck, and she really found the quality of care to be awful here, again with no learning or thought into why it wasn't happening.

After a long time trying in the UK they actually went over to a clinic in Greece and they now have a beautiful almost 1 year old. During their time in that clinic they found that antibiotics to clear up a common injection would vastly improve her fertility... something the NHS never found. I guess my point is there are other options, and there is potentially better care out there that will do more to find the root cause. She said they were amazing. Just don't lose hope. Fingers crossed we will all get there eventually, but I know this awful sad feeling is hard. Thinking of you xx

@cbear1989 Thanks so much for the message. I’m based in Ireland so not using the NHS. I’m using a private clinic but it’s not much better, I’ve had some tests but largely seems like just try another cycle. I’ll definitely be requesting a consultation with the doctor after this but I’m pretty sure she’ll just say it’s a good thing implantation happened and the loss was most likely due to chromosomal issues. I would literally do anything to just have children and put this phase of life behind us, the struggle is relentless.

@Blossomofhope I totally understand, I feel exactly the same 😘😘 I have a consultant appointment towards the end of March too so I'm def gonna ask some questions and try to consider why mine didn't stay, these frozen embryos are precious so cant see the point of going again if we can potentially mitigate any risks of it happening again.

If it helps I felt like I just couldn't do it anymore just after i lost mine, but I've had a couple of weeks to recover a bit and I'm starting to feel a bit better now. Just have a rest and look after yourself and see how you feel. This process is so hard but we are all warriors and we will get there, keep that end goal in mind 😘😘

How is everyone doing following the ivf start in January? I was wondering did anyone go on to have a successful pregnancy?
How are the plans for FET rounds for those who didn't?
I'm midway through a second round of IVF and been coping ok so far, but now feeling the anxiety build up again. Such a stressful process!
I hope you all have had/ get some positive news soon

@Natty2 so sorry to hear you didn’t have a successful outcome first time.

My January fresh transfer failed. I’m about to have my first FET on Monday. Are you having a FET or another egg collection?

@Copenhagener I'm sorry your transfer failed and wishing you the best of luck for the FET. Was it medicated or a natural cycle?
It's good that you have been able to do it within 2 months. My clinic initially said we have to wait 3 months, which seems longer than most other clinics
Of our 14 eggs only 5 were mature, 3 fertilised and 1 made it to day 5, which is frozen as my progesterone was too high for a fresh transfer.
After much consideration, we decided to do another round of egg retrieval, as if it had worked (which would have been great!) my maturity in a few years trying for a sibling would be worse. (The low maturity was a shock for us and the clinic!)