FET/IVF/ICSI - October 2033

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Anyone due to start cycle/have transfer in October jump on board!

Little history:

TTC our first. Trying for 4 years. Officially unexplained but I only have one ovary that responds/works. Fertilisation issues. Positive Sperm Oxidative Stress Test (likely DNA Frag). So it’s really a bit of a mix.

Dec 22/Jan 23 - First ICSI cycle. 8 eggs, 6 mature, 2 fertilised. One poor blast to transfer. Nothing to freeze. BFN.

July 23 - Second ICSI cycle. Using AOA & ZyMot chip. 8 eggs, 8 mature, 4 fertilised. One fresh to transfer and 2 to freeze. BFN.

Oct 23 - First FET scheduled.

Currently waiting for my period to start so that FET cycle can start. Should start beginning of Oct, so FET likely towards end of the month.

Hi all, I’m officially in the TWW as of this afternoon! Anybody else just starting too?

Anyone suffer from sore heavy boobs during stims ?? They’ve just started today

Hey @4thcyclelucky - I put myself in November - but I had a transfer today so will join you on the TWW. Wishing you the best!

All the best to you too! @IslandsintheOcean

@Millie89xx haven't experienced sore boobs so far. Today I am just having little stabs in my ovaries if I walk too much. I feel like I need to lay down all day.

@Hopingforno2in2023 hi hope your doing ok , quick question have you noticed any cramping as yet ? I’ve started today 😭 just light on and off but it’s worrying me as not much cm today

@Millie89xx I had sore boobs starting on my stims up until today which is 6dp5dt which feels like forever. My boobs were really firm and huge too

@MoonlightDreamer ohh really they’ve started today and slight cramping down below did you get any cramping ??

@Millie89xx yes I had cramping the entire time. Consultant told me its normal. My cramping has never really settled down since.
Its started to get alot worse the past 2 days ( real strong deep cramps) and now I'm killed with lower back pain

@MoonlightDreamer Oh that’s a relief .. I’m day 11 now stimming so i did think it was normal but I just panic hahaha how are you feeling ? I don’t know what I’d do without this group really puts my mind at ease ❤️

I don’t have the heavy boobs or cramping @Millie89xx but that doesn’t mean it isn’t normal. My only symptom now is a very swollen, heavy belly.

@Millie89xx I’m on day 8 of stims and I’ve been quite uncomfortable today, my ovaries were throbbing when I was walking to my car tonight! Really swollen and bloated too, can hardly bend to tie my shoes lol 😆 been to the loo loads too…it’s just all a bit crap! 🤣 but hopefully so worth it! 🤞🏻 hope your feeling ok!

Hey everyone just venting a little bit but maybe some of you can relate. I had my FET Saturday 28th and my OTD is Wednesday 8th Nov but I've been up all night tonight with really bad nausea so I ended up testing earlier I guess I really thought it would be a good sign plus either the estrogen or progesterone have been giving me crazy dreams for days now that I'm pregnant so I caved at 6am. Negative 💔.
My partner woke up about an hour ago and I admitted it to him although we had promised to do it together and he didn't say anything he just walked off and showered and is doing his own thing.
I understand he's upset and he's allowed to be but honestly a part of me thinks that the weight of the entire process of infertility and treatment is on the partner recieving treatment and I would've expected him to express his upset more sensitively given what I have been going through for months now. I know that might sound really selfish but not only do I feel gutted and heartbroken that it hasn't worked but I'm also feeling so alone.

Morning everyone,
Hope your all having a lovely weekend!

@Babyplease23 how are you feeling now following collection? This time was by far the most painful I've been following it. Yesterday was the first time i felt normal tbh. Still got a slightly sore stomach but felt so much better in my self.
Really hoping you can go for a fresh transfer tomorrow. Have they booked you in with a time, or will they call you tomorrow with your embryo update?

@Millie89xx @Melisss @Hopingforno2in2023 good luck for your scans tomorrow!

@ThinkPink37 @marshk @MoonlightDreamer when are your OTD? Fingers crossed for you all ☺️

@Kitt86 hope it all goes well tomorrow 🤞🏻 cracked me up about breaking your bf 😂
I also was a little bit like that 😂

@Rosesinbloom19 good luck for EC tomorrow

@Woaaaahnelly don't lose hope they could be the best 2, will keep everything crossed for you

@4thcyclelucky @IslandsintheOcean how did the transfers go? I'm booked in for mine tomorrow, so we will only be a few days apart. I'm scared of the craziness that PUPO brings 😬

Well that took some catching up on 😂 sorry if I missed anyone!!

I had my day 3 phone call yesterday, of the 4 that fertilised we have 3 top grade and 1 average ❤️ over the moon with that. Just hope we have the same tomorrow! Transfer booked for lunch time tomorrow 😬🤞🏻
We may transfer 2, but will see what we have when we get there... can't believe we are at this stage!! 🥰

@Lolly2507 I'm sorry you've had a negative test. I think symptoms during the tww can be so misleading as having them/not having any doesn't seem to correlate to a specific outcome. How are you feeling?
It's so tricky because partners are physically removed from the process, from the hormones, from the symptoms that drive you crazy and the weird insane internal push to test at random. I'm not sure really WHY our brains go through the process and deal with it so differently but I think it's probably quite normal/common.
It would have been nice had he asked how you were, so you could feel sad together. It does feel selfish to close himself off to your feelings. However, from the other perspective, he might have been holding onto hope and wanted to feel in that "ignorance is bliss" mode for as long as possible and you've taken that away without him getting a choice in it.
I can understand why you would both be upset. I do think a bit of grace is needed though because YOU are the one being physically put through your paces, YOU are the one who gets to feel all the symptoms. You're the one dealing with the physical wear down as well as the mental and emotional side of things. It's so bloody hard.

@User491 three top grade is such an amazing update! Fingers tightly crossed for you. Do you get to decide if you transfer 2 or not? Or does it depend?

@Lolly2507 sorry I missed your message.

Please try not to write it off as yet, hang on in there, it could just be too early!

Partner wise, my dh had a wobble this week, and I was the same as you, I was in disbelief that he was wrapped up about himself when I'm going through all of this and he went into detail about how he felt and I seriously had a different opinion. He said he just felt like a sperm donor and it really hit home with me. Maybe go and give him a cuddle and talk things through ❤️❤️

@IVFKinster Congratulations btw ❤️ amazing news ☺️ sorry I missed you!

I'm so happy, was bouncing all day yesterday 😂 really hope it's the same tomorrow.

They said it's our choice tomorrow, ideally if the average one is still there tomorrow I would transfer one of the top ones and the average, as I assume they won't freeze it, so may as well give it a chance! They will help us decide when we get there.
Likewise, if any of the top ones have changed, we may transfer them instead. I suppose until we see what we have tomorrow we can make any decisions. But I would really really like to have something to freeze so 🤞🏻 it's our last NHS round so really praying we have at least those top 3 🥰

Couldn't agree more with @IVFKinster @Lolly2507

Hey @User491 thanks for checking in! It sounds like we are very much in sync. Yesterday was also the first day I felt relatively normal. Still in a bit of pain (although I suspect that's more to do with constipation) and laxatives don't seem to be working yet! They're going to call in the morning for an embryo update and then I'm booked in just before 12 for, fingers crossed, a fresh transfer. I'll be thinking of you when I go in! Really good news that your embryos are doing so well, I have no doubt they will continue to thrive!

@IVFKinster @marshk @User491 thank you all so much for validating my feelings. You're right I am trying to feel sensitive to his side it would just be nice if he could do the same. I guess even the most well intentioned partner will never quite get it so I'm trying to remember that too. I'm just popping out for some space then will reassess later today. Thanks ladies 💜

@User491 All the luck in the world for your transfer tomorrow! We were advised and given the option to transfer 2 but when transfer day came, they only put 1 in. I was so full of emotions I forgot to ask why! It was a 5AA transferred so hoping wishing for the best 🙏🏼 only day 1 and I feel like I am going crazy already… trying to eat all the nutrients and also have compression socks on for added circulation 😁

@User491 that’s incredible news about your embryos 🥰! So many chances that it seems so very encouraging it’ll end up positively for you!!

I’m 6dp5dt. I craved and tested yesterday, and had the faintest, faintest line. Tested again today for hopeful line progression but (predictably) it was stark white. I know it’s early but I feel like my symptoms are decreasing. Having had a couple of CPs, I know I’m paranoid.

On the plus side, it’s still early and I do still have some symptoms. I’ll continue to test daily even though I know it’s slow torture!!

@Lolly2507 “Fertility treatment is a lonely process no matter what support you get” was what the female doctor said to me at my third collection. I know we have been told to put ourselves in our partner’s shoes. I personally think they need to really really think of us and put us/our emotions first during the process.

Whats important is a honest conversation. I have said to my husband I recognise having a baby is more important to me than it is to him; and that he needs to understand I’m not ready to give up yet. He’s either with me until there is no more hope or he can leave now. A bit extreme I know but I need him to be 100% into this to help me make it work.. and to know that he’s tried with me.

@Lolly2507 clicked too soon! What I’m trying to say is I think it’s ok to be selfish.