FET/IVF July 2023 - Thread 3

[Olivia199]

As always, huge apologies if I miss people, all welcome!

@IVFfirsttimer91
@10degreessunny
@wtawtaw
@EllieCatMom
@DauntedAF
@Lauralozzle
@Walker12
@loulamay
@beehappy19
@SH998
@ASGIRC
@orchid29
@IVFround1
@Sangels267

@ASGIRC - I'm so glad your dad at least tried and put some effort in. I've also heard of the ones who struggle with emotions, struggling with the first trimester for fear something could happen. Almost like they don't want to get excited or acknowledge it yet.

So glad everyone was so thrilled and you had a lovely time!

Yeah I've found all AF wines to be quite sweet. I can only drink it with a load of lemonade as a spritz but do love that!

I've gone off both tea and any of the AF stuff.

@Olivia199 thanks for the feedback, any blood/spotting is not good to see. I know there are no abnormal bleeds as 6 week 6 day scan confirmed this (I assume nothing would have gathered in that time). The only thing I hope really is it was a small period bleed as I last had a period 8 weeks yesterday.

Its stopped now, well it stopped last night after a few wipes and I've had no pain so hoping that's a positive. I have my official viability scan tomorrow so haven't called the clinic as they will probably not do a lot unless the bleeding gets heavier or painful. I was really excited about tomorrows scan, no I'm absolutely petrified.

There's me thinking the hardest part was actually getting pregnant, I didn't anticipate how stressful the following months would be :(

@ASGIRC I'm glad to here your dad did acknowledge your pregnancy, men are not the best with emotions so I'm sure this is what it is. He will come around soon :)

@SH998 - I totally understand, it's horrible to see and easily sparks fear. I've been spotting on and off since transfer really. Most the time the pesseries are quite uncomfortable so I guess I can just hope.
It sounds like yours is very minimal so hopefully very good news.
Not long to wait now!
Honestly I thought I'd get a positive test and bask in the glow of pregnancy from then on. The anxiety and fear it brought really did throw me last time. At least I was expecting it more this time though I'd also promised myself I wouldn't panic so much...!

@Olivia199 I have been relatively calm since the first scan but now having spotting/bleed twice in 1 week has thrown me and any calm thoughts are way gone.

Will this be your third scan? How many weeks will you be Thursday? From what you've said, I take it the scans never get any easier :(
Is this scan via your clinic or private? Is it booked just as a check up/settle the nerves? I was thinking if tomorrows scan goes well ill be able to wait until the 12 week scan, that's not going to happen and I can already say ill be booking one between.

@SH998 I keep telling myself that I will relax after each scan and it hasn’t happened so far! But I do feel a bit reassured after the last one, so I’ll be able to wait the 3 weeks now until my nhs official one. I’d say if it helps you feel better definitely book a pvt scan

@IVFfirsttimer91 its such a tough journey isnt it, at least we have the support of each other. The few friends I have told about the pregnancy have been great but no one understands the stress of it unless they have experienced exactly what we are going through (none of my friends have).

I'm glad you are feeling a little more reassured after the last scan and 3 weeks will fly by. I hope I feel the same way after tomorrows scan.

@SH998 it is really tough, but we will get through it, and hopefully all have babies at the end! It will definitely be worth it :)

I hope your scan goes so well tomorrow as well!

@SH998 - No first scan for me. I never really relaxed last time because there was the question of the mass of cells etc and they didn't know what it was for a while. So imagine that didn't help!

I’ve just had my review.

Looking at FET in October, like I’d hoped for anyways.

So, plan is to call September when my period starts and that gives them 4 weeks to sort out my protocol to start in October.

It’ll be a medicated FET. Progesterone will be increased and I’ll have a blood test day before transfer in case levels are low and I need lubion. That seems like a good start.

No immunes yet. However, if this next one fails then I’ll have tests for blood clotting and immunes.

@IVFfirsttimer91 thank you, I doubt I’ll sleep tonight but my scan is at 8.30am so at least no hanging around all day.

@Olivia199 oh sorry, I get so confused who’s had what or where they are in the journey on this thread lol 😂. Good luck for yours too, I’m sure all will be OK for us all.
this time next year we will all have our baby’s and forget about the trauma of getting there.

@Lauralozzle that’s great news, just as you had hoped. You have some time now to refresh, enjoy yourself and also prepare for the next round. I wish you all the best for October.

@ASGIRC I'm glad your dad acknowledged it, I am sure he will start to show excitement in his own way as things progress!

@SH998 I'm sorry the bleeding is worrying you, I've also got my scan tomorrow too and also feeling terrified! No bleeding here but I keep having cramps on one side which now sets me off worrying about an ectopic. Even though its probably just my swollen left ovary still or normal stretching pains. Its so hard to rationalise these things when we have been through so much to get here!

@Lauralozzle glad your review went well, sounds like a positive change with the progesterone and fingers crossed it does the trick!

@Walker12 sorry to hear your worrying, I’m sure it’s just your ovary. It’s always something to worry about isn’t it! I really hope it gets easier and less stressful as time goes on.

Im normally quite a level headed person but this IVF has made me a mental case.

I understand the terror you feel before a scan, this is my second one and I’m no less stressed or worried than the first time. What time is your scan? I hope it’s an early one so no waiting around all day.

@SH998 Thanks so much, yes logic has all gone out the window for me now! My partner is feeling very positive which is lovely but I dont think he gets the fear. Scan is thankfully at 8am so I won't have to wait around at all, glad yours is also bright and early!

@Walker12 yours sounds like mine lol, he is always being positive and jolly which like you say is lovely but he doesn’t get how stressful it is, although I know deep down he’s hiding a lot as the sheer joy on his face when we had our first scan, I was already crying at this point but I actually thought he wouldn’t be far behind me bless him.

No waiting around for either of us, hopefully meaning we wouldn’t have time to work ourselves up. Good luck x

@SH998 @Walker12 good luck for your scans tomorrow!

@Lauralozzle That sounds like a very good review! And Im glad that more things will be done this time around!

I seem to be losing a lot of hair... Went to the pool all day, today, and so washed my hair when I got home, and the amount that came out was absurd! And even now, after brushing, and hair being dry, quite a lot has come out just by running my fingers through it!

Hope your scans go well today @SH998 & @Walker12 💛💛

@Lauralozzle that's good you have a plan in place already, I'm sure it'll come round fast for you 🤞🏻

@ASGIRC just read all about the scenario with your dad! I'm glad he came around somewhat in the end and hopefully as your pregnancy grows, so will his happiness! I expect he'll be a different person when the baby is here and his role turns into a grandparent! I haven't spoken to my dad for years so he won't even know unless my brother tells him but there's no way he's going to come into my life now! My step dad is my dad and has been since I was a toddler!

@Olivia199 not long to go for you scan now! I really hope all our scans turn out well for us, we've all been through so much!
Glad your are feeling slightly better with the sickness x

Thanks so much ladies, it went well- Saw a lovely heartbeat and our little bean. Feeling so lucky and emotional!

Yay congrats @Walker12 such a magical warning feeling isn't it 🥰 was it your 7 week scan?

Warming that was supposed to say!

Hi all!

So on day 6 of sims and went for my first scan today which showed 1 lead follicle. Just a measly 1.... I know it's early days and have another scan booked in for 3 days time...

A bit of background - I'm 34 year old, with 2 previous endometriosis surgeries this year. I've been down regulated on zoladex for the last 6 months for endometriosis. so I think it may take some time.

Just wanted to know everyone else's experiences and how it went?

Thanks all 

@wtawtaw yes it was amazing to see, and the sonogropher was so lovely as I was in tears pretty much as soon as I went in. Feel like I can actually start believing it now!

@SH998 hope you have the same outcome with yours 🤞

@Walker12 congratulations! So pleased your scan went well.

Good morning ladies! I don't know if you remember about me. I tried to stay away from forums because I was driving myself crazy, and I still do 🙄🙄🙄

First of all, big congratulations to all these amazing scans 😍😍😍 and also the sweet shopping I saw ❤️ I smiled the whole time I read the 13 pages 🥰

So, last time I wrote I was still waiting for my second beta results which were great . I had 2 scans already (one because I had red blood one night and I was terrified of an ectopic pregnancy). The last I had I was 6w5d and the embryo was7.4 mm with a nice heartbeat.

You think I should be thrilled by it but... I can't enjoy a single moment because I keep thinking that it is over already and I will only find it out at the next scan 😭 I can't help it! I constantly look for symptoms and I don't have many. Only slightly sore boobs only 3 minutes in the morning and, the biggest I have, is the nausea. As soon as I don't have much, I panic. Today is not that much and I cried before, like they told ot was over.

You are all so happy and positive and I really would like to believe it is happening for us as well, but after 7 years of failing it just seems impossible.

Sorry for the vent

@Warrier87 Hi, you may be best starting a new thread or I think there is an august thread which may be better, as most of us are a little further on now! Hope it all goes well for you though, I always found it helpful to think quality not quantity is important.
@beehappy19 thanks so much!
@Charming81 welcome back, so sorry to hear about all the stress, I totally get that its so hard to think it could really be happening but it honestly sounds all your results are great. Seeing a strong heartbeat is a good indicator of a successful pregnancy. My symptoms are also fluctuating wildly! When is your next scan?