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FET/IVF July 2023 - Thread 3

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Olivia199 · 13/08/2023 12:12

As always, huge apologies if I miss people, all welcome!

@IVFfirsttimer91
@10degreessunny
@wtawtaw
@EllieCatMom
@DauntedAF
@Lauralozzle
@Walker12
@loulamay
@beehappy19
@SH998
@ASGIRC
@orchid29
@IVFround1
@Sangels267

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EllieCatMom · 13/08/2023 19:11

@Walker12 Oh thanks that's reassuring to hear! I've been trying to tell myself that ectopic would feel worse!

Keeping my fingers crossed for you for your scan, when is it?

ASGIRC · 13/08/2023 19:14

I am cramping like a MF today, so obviously have been googling miscarriages and checking for blood...
Of course google says that cramping at 6 weeks is normal! But since I haven't really had any symptoms, and the cramps, while still very mild, are much stronger than I've had so far, my mind goes to worst case scenario.

@loulamay Im sorry you still don't have the result you are hoping for. But good that you're already devising a next plan of attack, for if it doesn't work!
I also had some more money put away to try again a couple more times.

It will be great if I can use it for other things, but likely won't touch it until the baby is actually born!!

loulamay · 13/08/2023 19:25

@EllieCatMom also had the twinges and I don't think you need to worry about ectopic. Although I say that knowing that it doesn't matter what people say, you still worry anyway 😆If it was ectopic then you'd really know about it - apparently the pain is very intense and it's more shoulder pain to watch out for rather than abdominal.

How many weeks are you now? If it puts your mind at rest then there are lots of options for a private viability scan which some places will do from 6 weeks I believe. I know how hard it is and you just have to take it one day at a time! I think sadly, that this process conditions us to 'bad news' and so when the good news finally comes, we struggle to accept and process it. Totally valid and normal but not much fun to go through. Your anxiety is very welcome here as I think we can all empathise!!

loulamay · 13/08/2023 19:27

Crossed over a bit with @Walker12 's message but you can see that we're all on the same page at least!

Walker12 · 13/08/2023 19:44

@EllieCatMom thank you- my scan is on the 22nd so a week on Tuesday, at exactly 7 weeks. I am desperate for it to come around but also sort of dreading it!

@ASGIRC sorry about the cramps, mine seem to have been a bit worse today too but I've had them on and off for a while now, with no spotting etc, so trying to anticipate them now and accept them as a symptom! Is your scan this week??

EllieCatMom · 13/08/2023 19:46

@loulamay Thank you, that does make me feel a bit better. It's so hard not to expect the worst 😬

I'm really early still, 4w6d (had my egg transfer on 29th July). I'm tempted to look into getting an earlier scan but if it didn't show anything I'd be even more worried so might be better just to wait! I think I'm struggling more because my clinic seems to be very hands off with the whole process now, they don't want to do a blood test or anything and basically just told me to relax, eat properly and wait for the scan 😑hubbie reckons I should ring them and ask for counselling for the anxiety or something but I'm not sure whether they'd be that helpful...

IVFfirsttimer91 · 13/08/2023 20:01

@EllieCatMom id definitely call them and try! My clinic offers counselling all the way through, otherwise try olliehealth. It’s something I’ve signed everyone at work up to and it seems to be a really good MH platform. I’ve spoken to my counsellor on there about the IVF journey and they have been great! @ASGIRC & @Walker12 ive been cramping a lot today as well! No spotting since week 6 so I’m just taking it as part of the process and as normal, there’s bound to be cramping as our uterus’s expand, apparently mine is now the size of a 🍋! Which is why my clothes don’t fit anymore and my jeans are a no no 😂

ASGIRC · 13/08/2023 20:13

@Walker12 my scan is on Thursday! im both really excited and looking forward to it, and also terrified that it wont be good news (though I dont really have a reason to suspect that, but you all know what I mean!!)
My mom offered to go with me, but I declined... I dont want to have to mirror someone elses emotions (Im still very detached from this pregnancy, and while I do worry, I dont have many emotions about it yet - who knows if it might change on Thursday??)

@IVFfirsttimer91 hahah I dont have that problem just yet, but I also think my uterus is tilted, so might not grow outward as much...
My jeans are still fine, but it is too hot for them at the moment!!!
I am, however, about a week behind you, at 6+2 today!

IVFfirsttimer91 · 13/08/2023 20:19

@ASGIRC its cool enough for jeans here, but not comfy enough!

I really really hope your scan goes well lovely xx

JPG94 · 13/08/2023 20:39

@EllieCatMom our scans are the same day! I had my transfer on the 27th so I’m now 5 weeks 1 day. I had some bleeding today although it has stopped 🤞🏻

I’ve booked a private scan for Sunday where I should be 6 weeks 1 day as with my previous pregnancy we had an early scan and it put me at ease some what. Especially with what happened today.

I was born near Cambridge but have lived in Northamptonshire since I was 3. Went to university in Canterbury though where I met my DH

Olivia199 · 13/08/2023 20:47

I've had some cramping too and seem to be continuing with the odd little bits of spotting here and there. Trying to stay chilled about it as I know it can mean nothing. But the 11 days of waiting for a scan will be uncomfortable.

I'm having my first proper hormonal meltdown. We have had the most perfect day today, we've baked cookies, played with bricks... just honestly picture perfect. She was a total delight in every single way.

Obviously she wasn't keen for it to end because bedtime consisted mostly of her posting her bedding over the stairgate and singing to herself (and getting butt naked).
She then pulled down the baby monitor and it stopped working.

For reasons I'm linking entirely to hormones, I honestly felt devastated and cross. But mostly sad?! Like, it really shouldn't have logically been something that made me want to just sit and sob.
Anyway, I tried very hard to contain any sad and cross reactions but I absolutely know I was cross when I was in there trying to fix it. I took it downstairs and within 10 minutes noticed the sodding off button had just been knocked. So it's actually fine.

Went back up for cuddles and to apologise and put it back up and she's asleep. I tried to wake her up but she's zonked entirely so we just cuddled on the chair. The mum guilt is actually insane and I'm a blubbering mess of hormones right now.

Logically, I know that if she'd been upset by my reaction, she absolutely wouldn't have gone to sleep. Hormonally I feel like I've ruined what has been such a magical day after a couple weeks of me feeling so poorly and being rubbish.

I am not handling this well tonight.

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Olivia199 · 13/08/2023 21:25

Okay, best case scenario happened. She woke up, I got my cuddles and a kiss and all is forgiven. The hormones are now back in their box.

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IVFfirsttimer91 · 13/08/2023 21:36

@Olivia199 im glad you got your kiss and cuddles! I’m sorry that you had a rough evening xxx

EllieCatMom · 13/08/2023 21:49

@JPG94 Scan twins! Good luck, keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@Olivia199 I'm sorry you had a tough evening but glad it turned out ok. I've definitely had days where my hormones lead me to react badly to minor things, and that's without being pregnant!

Olivia199 · 13/08/2023 21:53

I'm so relieved that she woke up, which isn't something you find me saying often...! Glad our special day wasn't ruined and we can all go to bed happy!

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ASGIRC · 13/08/2023 22:12

@Olivia199 Im glad you managed to get it turned around!!!

Walker12 · 14/08/2023 06:51

@Olivia199 bless you, the hormones are real!! I've been a little weepy at ridiculous things but nothing too bad, although I can imagine there are many more opportunities to feel overwhelmed when parenting a small child.. So glad you got a nice resolution though, you should like such a lovely Mum!

loulamay · 14/08/2023 07:52

Another negative this morning on FRER. Ugh. Does anyone know how to work out DPO from days post transfer?

Walker12 · 14/08/2023 08:49

Sorry to hear that @loulamay.. for dpo I believe you just add your days past transfer to the stage of embryo at transfer so for example 10dp5dt= 15dpo.

wtawtaw · 14/08/2023 09:36

@loulamay you had a frozen transfer didn't you? I've read that frozen transfers take longer to implant to it may just be that it's too early, fingers crossed it is 🍀

Olivia199 · 14/08/2023 09:37

Oh @loulamay I'm so sorry you got another negative. I've got everything crossed this is just a late implanter. Absolutely understand your want to plan next steps though and looks like you've got everything sussed.

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Olivia199 · 14/08/2023 09:40

@Walker12 - It was definitely a bit of a storm there for little logical reason! Thank you, that's so lovely of you to say. She was the happiest little bean this morning and we had a super fun pre nursery dance-a-thon. So she's gone off happy and I'm now home with a microwave pizza. Because why not!

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ASGIRC · 14/08/2023 11:10

@loulamay Im so sorry the results keep being negative. It could be late implantation, though.

Ugh I dont feel like eating anything. Have to go to work in a couple of hours, and need to have lunch before hand, and plan dinner for later, but everything I have at home fills me with absolute MEH.

It would be "fine" if I then didnt get hit with ravenous hunger... while still not wanting to eat anything at all.

I definitely cannot face a ham and cheese toastie today, though.

This is the most annoying side effect of pregnancy so far. Im not even nauseous. Just dont want to eat anything. And I LOVE food.
Im even bored of babybells and cereal bars!

Olivia199 · 14/08/2023 11:14

@ASGIRC - I know exactly what you mean. I don't fancy anything but I'm starving. So I don't have anything much and then get really nauseous. It's such a weird sensation.

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ASGIRC · 14/08/2023 11:20

@Olivia199 fortunately I dont get really nauseous. Just that slight "Im so hungry I feel a bit sick" that you get even when youre not pregnant. Which is unpleasant as well.
But what the hell am I supposed to eat?!

Only silver lining is the potential for weight loss (I could stand to lose about 2st, so its not a dire situation LOL). Obviously this isnt the best situation for it, but Ill take it!
I am really stumped on what to have for lunch now... im not even hungry yet, which makes it even harder!!