FET/IVF July 2023 - Thread 3

[Olivia199]

As always, huge apologies if I miss people, all welcome!

@IVFfirsttimer91
@10degreessunny
@wtawtaw
@EllieCatMom
@DauntedAF
@Lauralozzle
@Walker12
@loulamay
@beehappy19
@SH998
@ASGIRC
@orchid29
@IVFround1
@Sangels267

good work @Olivia199 😊

Hi again everyone. I was born in Cambridge, but grew up in London then Northamptonshire. Currently living in the Lake District but first time living in the UK for a while - lived in Biarritz and then Cape Town, spanning about 8 years.

@loulamay - I adore the lake district!

@Olivia199 thanks for the new thread! And even though the red book is crumpled and may or may not smell like wee, it’s still a lovely memory to have!

@IVFfirsttimer91 - That it is! Probably even more so to be honest. I'll never forget that day!

Thank you for adding me to the new thread 🙂

New thread!!!

I was born and raised in Lisbon, Portugal. Moved to London in 2008 and lived there until basically covid hit, when I ended up coming back to Portugal, originally just for lockdown, but it ended up being longer (though I did go back to the UK for work in 2021 and 2022).

Now with baby I am fully back in Lisbon, as Id be on my own in London, and here I have my own flat and my family!

I feel like this round of ivf is a complete rollercoaster. We got back off holiday and my scan with the clinic has been booked for 31/08… I did two FRER and got massive dye stealers at the evening of 14dp5dt and 15dp5dt. I also got a digital clear blue reading 2-3 weeks.

then today 17dp5dt I’ve had some cramping and now got pink/brown/red spotting which I’ve never had before and my clinic said I shouldn’t get because of the progesterone pessaries. I’m now worried that this cycle hasn’t worked :/ I’ll call the clinic tomorrow but trying now not to over think things :/

@JPG94 - Oh I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's bloody horrid! However I will say it can be really really common and absolutely doesn't mean anything is wrong. I had a few bigger bleeds with my DD and got diagnosed with an SCH and I've had some spotting this time round which my clinic have reassured me is likely to do with a very vascular and irritated cervix being prodded with pesseries three times a day.

Even without the pesseries, I can be really common and totally normal to have some spotting so don't lose hope yet!

@JPG94 I've read the pessaries can cause bleeding in some people. I had cramping up until about 5 weeks. Of course it's super hard not to think the worst though

@JPG94 try not to worry! I have had cramping on and off since implantation and I had some red spotting as well and everything so far is fine. Can they get you in for an early scan to check everything?

@Olivia199 thank you, I think it’s just last round that resulted in my DD I was very lucky to have no issues and was on the same pessaries then. This one seems so up and down.

@wtawtaw im hoping that is the case!

@IVFfirsttimer91 i think it’s the red but that’s thrown me, I’m going to call my clinic tomorrow and see what they say :/

@JPG94 I can totally understand where you’re coming from, it really upset me too. I really hope your clinic can offer you reassurance tomorrow xx

@JPG94 - I totally get that. It threw me too. With my DD it was quite heavy. This time round it hasn't been so bad, but still threw me and worried me! It's such a whirlwind and no wonder we are anxious so much of the time!

New thread!!

If we’re saying where we come from:

I’m born and bred in Nottingham! Live in Derbyshire now, but on the border with Notts.

@Lauralozzle - My dad's from (and back) in Ruddington near Nottingham. He's coming down tomorrow!

Thanks for the new thread @Olivia199

@JPG94 I hope the clinic can reassure you tomorrow. Its natural to worry even though we know these things are normal. I've had period type cramps on and off today, and everytime I've been to the loo I've had a horrible fear that I'll be bleeding. I think I'm around the time of my previous loss so hoping the worries will settle a bit soon but it sounds like we are all naturally going to be quite vigilant to things throughout. We have all gone through a lot to get to this point!

I am a northerner! North Yorkshire to be a bit more precise :)

I was born in Surrey, duel citizenship with NZ, I now live riiiight on the boarder of London/Kent. 16 min train into central with the benefit of greenery and being able to have a garden :)

@Walker12 where abouts in Yorkshire? I always think Yorkshire folk are so lovely and friendly! I went to uni at Leeds.

@IVFfirsttimer91 so cool to have NZ as well! Have you ever lived there? My husband has three passports, lucky bugger!

@loulamay never lived there but I’ve been loads of times to see my grandma and other family. We’re quite spread out as my dads family is from Auckland, and my mums family is from all over NZ :) loads of cousins to visit.

@Olivia199 Oh! There’s a lovely pub in Ruddington that does lovely food! Can’t remember what it called though for the life of me!

@loulamay not far from Leeds actually but just over on the north yorks side (I won't say where exactly on here as its quite a small village) I like to think we are a friendly bunch yes!

@Walker12 totally understand. Sounds divine though!

It's been a hard day today. I slept badly last night and I was so hoping to get a faint line at some point so I could at least start to track progression or not. I will test in the morning but my heart feels heavy with pre-emptive disappointment. Thankfully I'm seeing my therapist on Wednesday morning so will have a good vent to her, whichever way it goes.

We're getting ahead of ourselves, but we had a look online at some European clinics for possible future treatment today. We're lucky that we have a little pot of money that we have set aside for more cycles and looking at costs in places like Prague, we could possibly afford two or three more cycles, including PGT-A testing. Statistics at my age aren't fantastic, but even at recent scans, my Dr has been impressed with how many follicles I have for my age and so if need be, I'm hoping there's a chance. Perseverance plays a part as well of course, but I feel like I have it in me to go for more egg retrievals.

A small part of me just wants this to all be over but then I look at our daughter and just desperately want a sibling for her - my sister and I are super close and my husband is also very close with his family and two younger sisters, so I think that shapes our perspective.

Just a little stream of consciousness for a Sunday evening. Hope everyone had a lovely weekend. Let's go Monday!

Thank you for the new thread and for including me!

May as well introduce myself - I'm 35, based in Surrey and had my first round of IVF in July although we've been TTC for 9 years (denial, procrastination and then Covid and NHS delays accounting for not doing anything about it sooner!)

It's gone really well and I had my BFP on 9th August, but now after 9 years of disappointment I'm struggling to process that I'm pregnant and am terrified something will go wrong. First scan booked for 31st Aug and in the meantime I'm a nervous wreck and testing every morning to check there's still 2 lines! 😅Doesn't help that I have no symptoms so far other than swollen, painful boobs which I think is due to the progesterone supplements, and I keep getting little twinge-y pains in one spot in my lower abdomen which is making me worry about ectopic pregnancy. Has anyone else had this? No spotting or anything though.

Sorry for coming in with my anxiety but there's no one I can really talk to about this who gets it and googling is just making it worse!

Oh @loulamay I really hope you get a lovely surprise in the next few days. But completely understand you wanting to be pragmatic about next steps. I've read a few threads of people who have used clinics abroad and had good results. Sounds like you are a wonderful Mum and giving your daughter a sibling is a brilliant motivator to keep going.

@EllieCatMom I've definitely had twinges, alongside some cramps. I read that its the uterus adjusting to the embryo, I think with an ectopic it would be much more obvious pain. I am also wishing the time away until my scan, although will be a complete nervous wreck on the day.

Your worries are welcome here!!