FET/IVF July 2023 - Thread 2

[Olivia199]

Right. Sorry I've I missed any of you....!

@10degreessunny
@loulamay
@Lauralozzle
@ASGIRC
@TTCbabyno2in2022
@orchid29
@ttcsolomumtobe
@Walker12
@Bristol1988
@SH998
@Ivfround1
@wtawtaw
@IVFfirsttimer91

@Lauralozzle I'm so sorry you're feeling so down and things seem to not have worked.
A busy day will definitely be a good thing!

@ttcsolomumtobe congrats on the EC! Why a 3 day transfer and not a 5?and specific reason?
I took my pessary as normal in the morning and it was all fine. I don't even think they did a clean, or at least I didn't notice anything.

@Olivia199 thank, I am feeling much better! Still full of cold, but don't feel rotten anymore! Hopefully another day or two and it will be gone from the system.
How's your pneumonia? Fully recovered?

Been away the past couple of days, as away for the weekend and not a lot of time to check things!

Thanks for the info.

@ASGIRC With my clinic they do a day 3 transfer if there is a "clear winner" as they refer to it, so one developing amazingly compared to other. If you have a few that are at the same level and of good quality when day 3 checks are done they push you to a day 5 transfer.

@ASGIRC - I'm doing okay thank you. Finished the antibiotics now and definitely not feeling poorly. Just a bit knackered, though that could be anything!

Glad you are both feeling better @Olivia199 and @ASGIRC

My OHSS symptoms seem to be improving which is good but also worrying me a bit as I keep thinking it might be a sign my hcg isn't increasing. There is always something to worry about! @AnaS86 how are you getting on??

I'm now 4w+2d and this morning just had some light brown discharge/spotting. Anyone had it? I'm contacting the clinic tomorrow but I'm a bit worried now 😔

Hi @Sangels267, I think lots of people get spotting in early pregnancy- and brown means old blood too so shouldn't be anything concerning (even red blood can be OK), but completely understand why you are concerned. I feel this point waiting for scans is actually worse than the 2ww! Hope you get some reassurance from the clinic tomorrow.

Hi @Walker12 I'm a bit more reassured after reading online so many people having it/had it and being brown means old blood and can be from the progesterone pessary. I thought the 2ww was going to be the worse but I'm struggling more with the wait for the scan. My scan is on the 24th August only.

The wait is horrendous isn't it! I even had my bloods done when I was in hospital and even that hasn't reassured me 😂 my scan is the 22nd when I will be exactly 7 weeks, so only a couple of days before you. We can do this!

@Walker12 @Sangels267 completely agree the wait for the scan is awful! The days seem to last forever. Are you both still testing?

@Sangels267 try not to worry too much about the spotting (easier said than done I know)but it can be common. I had the same in my previous pregnancy and it was all fine

@beehappy19 I am trying not to test to be honest, I did a few days ago got a lovely dye stealer and then the next day got a slightly lighter result so I am trying to avoid it now as I know I will get obsessed! What about you?

@Walker12 my scan is one day before I turn 7 weeks. Cannot wait.

@beehappy19 it's good to read positive stories (people that had spotting and everything was fine). I'm trying not to test but I did a digital one yesterday, I just wanted to see the weeks and came back pregnant 2-3 weeks which is correct. I'm planning to do another one next weekend just to see if it says 3+ weeks. What about you?

@Walker12 @Sangels267 I’m trying not to test but failing but I’m going to stop I think. I bought some cheap tests from Poundland and they barely come up positive and it’s freaked me out a little (all other tests I’ve used come up a definite positive including digital) so it’s just a bit odd.

I've finally stopped testing. It's so hard not to get hung up on it all but honestly it means nothing! Especially if using different tests.

@beehappy19 if they are different tests it really is pointless comparing them, i used FRER and easy@home and the lines were completely different. @Olivia199 glad you have managed to put down the tests! I have been so tempted today as feeling horribly anxious about it all but holding off. Although saying that I have ordered a beta from medichecks! As I can sort of estimate what my levels should be from my betas this week.. hoping it will give me a bit of reassurance until the scan. @Olivia199 how long until your scan now?

@Walker12 - Adjusting to no beta this time is... odd!! Not sure anything will relax me between now and then. My scans on the 24th and feels like forever away. I've had some more brown spotting today after nothing but white since the last time. Trying to keep nice and calm and recognise that it's absolutely fine and normal.
Boobs are sore and I'm starving all the time (and taking regular naps with my DD!)
I'm slightly unnerved that I don't feel sick anymore. The whole time I had pneumonia I was so so sicky, I felt horrific even with the cyclizine. Although this was probably down to the illness, it still makes me anxious that I'm not longer nauseous? 😅

@Olivia199 to be honest I think even with the beta they only offer temporary reassurance. Your symptoms sound promising- I've had slightly sore boobs, and definitely napping/sleeping more but i think that might partly me being catching up from the lack of sleep in hopsital! It's so hard not to monitor everything isn't it.
I know exactly what you mean about worrying about feeling better, I measured my waist today to track my bloating and its reduced slightly which is good, but then I almost feel like I'm willing it to get worse again so I know the hormones are around! What does this process do to us 😂

@Walker12 - You're absolutely right, and I'm going to be 100% honest and say that the 7 week scan also only offers the same limited reassurance. I was back to panicking again within a few days. (Though did had a vanishing twin so it was a worry that I'd lose the other!)
It's so hard, I just wish we could know more. Mum was saying today that the only knew at 12 weeks as they'd have to miss 3 periods before the GP would test. She marvels at our ability to test just a few days after transfer. So imagine what our children will know about their pregnancies?!
We'll be saying how we just had to worry and assume for weeks! 😂
Oh bless you. I know exactly what you mean. When my morning sickness disappeared last time I was absolutely SOBBING despite having been miserable?
Man. This whole journey is.. a lot.

@Olivia199 Oh yes I can imagine it will be short lived! It must have been really anxiety provoking with the vanishing twin too.
Yes it's amazing really what we can know compared to a few decades ago, I do wonder sometimes if it's more of a curse that we can get our hands on tests and betas etc so easily. But equally I wish there was an instantaneus finger prick or something we could do that just confirmed yep, still pregnant!
I am trying to set myself a challenge to stop googling and just enjoy each day of being pregnant. Having a browse online at baby clothes which may be a terrible idea but I think that's surely a more positive use of my energy for now :)

@Walker12 - Or like a little flashing LED light on our tummy that stays lit up if all was good!
But no I totally get what you mean. And that is DEFINITELY a more positive way to use that energy so enjoy every second!

@Olivia199 YES bring on the LED pregnancy indicator technology 😂

Gosh, seeing that the wait for the 7 week scan is worse 🫣😵‍💫 I’m DPT 9 today and still BFN.

Sorry @Hi83 it does seem to be that way! I'm sorry you haven't had a positive but there is still time, keeping everything crossed for you.

Thank you @Walker12, I’ve never wanted a positive test so bad! The spotting is very light now. I’m really hoping 🤞🤞

@Olivia199 we are having the scan on the same day! I had spotting last week and today again, but I think it has stopped now. So worrying, I want to enjoy being pregnant as it's the first time ever I had a positive but it's not easy at all.

I haven't tested in a few days now, as I've been away (I packed some tests, but haven't really had the chance to use them), but will probably continue testing once I'm back at home. Just to make sure the line continues strong and doesn't start to fade.

My 7 week scan is on the 17th, so almost 2 weeks to go, still.

And I feel exactly zero things, so if I hadn't tested obsessively, I would not even imagine I was pregnant. I don't want symptoms, cause I know I will hate them with a passion, but it also feels like it's... Not happening, if that makes sense?
It's easy to forget, apart from the pessaries, the non alcoholic beer and the not smoking.

I have some slight bloating, and constipation, which might be from the pregnancy, but I've always had a lot of trapped wind, and alcohol gives me the runs, so it's been a good few years since I've spent this long without a single drink, and I have no idea what is normal for me!

There's no reason why I should think this won't work out, but I also never imagined it would work 1st time, so maybe that's what this is...

It's gonna be a long few months until the end of the 1st trimester.