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FET/IVF July 2023 - Thread 2

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Olivia199 · 25/07/2023 14:49

Right. Sorry I've I missed any of you....!

@10degreessunny
@loulamay
@Lauralozzle
@ASGIRC
@TTCbabyno2in2022
@orchid29
@ttcsolomumtobe
@Walker12
@Bristol1988
@SH998
@Ivfround1
@wtawtaw
@IVFfirsttimer91

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Bristol1988 · 27/07/2023 18:55

Definitely rather ours than an uninterested, unsupportive husband😂

It’s our first round and I’ve said since the beginning that I don’t think it’ll work, it’s a trial round blah blah. But each step you get through, you get a little more excited that it might actually work. We do have 3 in the freezer that makes me feel better. We also went with a 2 cycle 50% refund package so we definitely have more goes left without bankrupting us.

Luckily I’m away this weekend which will keep my mind off everything and I might test a couple days early when I have a day off on 2/8.

ttcsolomumtobe · 27/07/2023 18:57

@Bristol1988 &@21C I'm so sorry to read how you are both feeling, this will be my first IVF treatment so haven't been that side of it but I do think in this process we suddenly notice every slight change to our body, every slight feeling and although normally we would be able to think rationally it's just not that easy with everything you've gone through. I hope other people's experiences give you hope and reassurance. I think the waiting on OTD is the best idea, although hard as it just seems another uncertainty when testing early.

I hope the next couple of days go okay for you @21 and that your OTD comes round soon @Bristol1988

Keepingeverythingxxx · 27/07/2023 19:17

@LittleAm sorry to hear about your losses too. Our measurements also fell short last time at our first scan which sadly led to that outcome. I was so worried going into our first scan on this cycle but everything was measuring as it should so breathed a huge sigh of relief. I’ve got everything crossed that you get the outcome you deserve this time round 🤞🏻

I was at the doctors today to get my second bloods so will hopefully hear back from them tomorrow. I’m absolutely bricking it 😪. On a plus side I’m super busy with work carrying out 4 days of interviews so it’s keeping me occupied. I’m just praying my levels are still rising and we get to see our baby again still healthy at the scan next week.

@IVFfirsttimer91 sorry to hear the stress that you’re going through but it sounds like all of these lovely ladies have given you some hope that all is not over. Those levels are still really good for where they need to be at this time. Again I’ve got everything crossed that your scan tomorrow goes well. At 6wks you should get the chance to hear your baby’s heartbeat which is just magical 🥰 xx

LittleAm · 27/07/2023 19:30

@Keepingeverythingxxx thank you lovely! I’ve got everything crossed for you too!

ASGIRC · 27/07/2023 19:38

@IVFfirsttimer91 im so sorry you're having all that stress! Crossing my fingers that everything is alright with your scan tomorrow!!

@Bristol1988 and @21C also sorry you're feeling low.

Hopefully that will improve

Feeling gassy/bloated today, but also haven't really had access to a working toilet since I left the house aftee 1pm,so it might be that!!!
Dinner time will happen soon, so I'm hoping to use the toilet then! Haven't even had a chance ti do my afternoon pessaries!!

Sending love to all!

Also! My child can also contact tge donors when they're 18. I just don't know anything about them. And they had genetic testing done before being "matched", so I know that's not a concern!

Walker12 · 27/07/2023 19:47

@IVFfirsttimer91 I'm so sorry you're stuck with this worry but from what the other have said it sounds like there is a lot to stay hopeful about, really hope it goes well for you tomorrow.

@loulamay fingers crossed for a nice cushiony lining tomorrow!

@Olivia199 hopefully you recover quickly, glad you have a good GP, and a break from work coming up!

@Bristol1988 I've had the same today, signs of AF and it would usually be due this weekend, my OTD is the day after yours. After having no symptoms other than the progesterone bloat it's really thrown me but I'm trying to stay hopeful that it could mean anything at this point. @21C sorry you are struggling too, hope Saturday comes quickly for and you get a lovely surprise.

So many updates, hope everyone else is doing OK. I am sure some of you can relate to this- My friend (who is pregnant accidentally! but happy about it) keeps saying to me 'we are on our different journeys' and I want to scream at her that this isn't a journey anyone would really want to be on and can we swap planes please!!

Walker12 · 27/07/2023 19:48

Also find it so interesting to read about the donor situations, so amazing and wonderful :) thanks for sharing

IVFfirsttimer91 · 27/07/2023 19:56

Thanks so much everyone. I just had a phonecall with my boss and told her what was going on. She was super lovely and has given me the day off tomorrow if it’s bad news. I didn’t really want to say anything at this stage but I think it’s probably the best thing I could have done as i feel supported at work and it’s not all a big secret now.

Keepingeverythingxxx · 27/07/2023 19:58

@loulamay we went down the donor egg route for our last 3 rounds. I did loads of research beforehand to find the right clinic and we had to go through counselling to make sure it was the right option for us. We explored treatment in the UK but found there were few clinics that provide this option and the ones that did had limited donors to choose from and long waiting lists.

Luckily our local clinic (the one that blessed us with our DD) offered a package in partnership with a clinic over in northern Cyprus. The clinic guarantees you will receive a minimum of 10 eggs and frozen embryos by the end of it should you wish to do a FET if the fresh round failed.

Also the laws recently changed in the UK which @Olivia199 touched on earlier. This means children can access their donor info once they turn 18. Our clinic said it has put a lot of people off donating which was the reason for limited access to donors. These laws don’t affect northern Cyprus.

In all fairness this wasn’t our reason for choosing this clinic as there are so many sites out there where people can pay to trace their routes. It really came down to their success figures (75-80%) and it gave us reassurance that we were still with our local clinic who have been amazing throughout everything ❤️

Regarding donor info…it was really sparse. They carry out in depth screening and keep info to a minimum (height, eye colour, hair colour, weight, ethnicity). You can make special request such as straight hair/curly hair. They then match you to 2 donors. If you don’t feel either are right for you they match you to another 2 donors and so on. It was such a difficult decision to make as on paper they all seemed the same.

@ttcsolomumtobe i love how you had a sperm party…what an amazing idea and great to get support from friends and family on choosing your baby daddy! 😊

Keepingeverythingxxx · 27/07/2023 20:03

@IVFfirsttimer91 sounds like a good move telling work and it’s great to hear how supportive they are. As much as it would be lovely to have a day off work tomorrow I really hope you don’t have to 🤞🏻 xx

ttcsolomumtobe · 27/07/2023 20:12

Curious question, just about to do my second injection of bemfola and wondered what day people started to experience bloating or side effects. I know it varies with each person.

21C · 27/07/2023 20:36

Thanks for your kind messages, trying to keep the faith whilst still going to the bathroom every half hour to check if AF has appeared. Going to get an early night and try sleep through the anxiety.

Every time I come on here and read more stories I am honestly in awe at everyone’s strength. I know sometimes you might not feel like it but I don’t think I’ve ever known such strong woman going through these things whilst still navigating life. You are all so inspiring to someone like me who often struggles to see the light! Keep going all of you; we’ve got this xx

LittleAm · 27/07/2023 20:45

@21C I hope you get a restful sleep 😘

Olivia199 · 27/07/2023 21:02

Wishing you all the best of luck tomorrow and hopefully some happy news!! It's so lovely having you lot. Thank you for joining.

I'm off to bed to try and get some sleep. The fever is back and I feel absolutely god awful. Tomorrow at work is going to suck but just one more day... I can do this! I think. I may throw up on the park and ride. Who knows.

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ASGIRC · 27/07/2023 21:08

@Olivia199 you can do it!!! One more day!!!

loulamay · 27/07/2023 21:34

@21C - I was just saying to a friend the other day that once you get into the thick of IVF you become an expert on the subject. Not an expert you ever wanted to be but an expert nonetheless. I think they say about the infertility community that it's the worst club to be a part of but has the best members! 😆

I am amazed at your resilience not to test. Personally, I wish some clinics would get their stories straight - there's no way that you would get a false positive after all this time so I don't love that the nurse told you and your husband that.

Either way I hope you get some rest - even if you get some spotting between now and tomorrow that doesn't always mean the worst.

@Olivia199 you're an absolute rockstar. T minus 1 day!

@Walker12 'Accidental' pregnancies blow my mind. Especially knowing what needs to align for a pregnancy to happen. Can't help but feel huge pangs of envy! Wonder if that will ever go away?

Goodnight all - I'm watching Firefly Lane which seems suitably trashy for the occasion and have had a lovely glass of red wine. Tomorrow is another day!

Ivfround1 · 27/07/2023 21:58

@21C i absolutely feel like my period could start any moment. The only difference in symptoms I have is I’m much more tired, but that could be from this entire process just draining me! Im 8dpt and had no hcg trigger for my transfer and showing positives tests.

also have the most optimistic and annoyingly calm and rational husband 😂 god bless him.

ASGIRC · 28/07/2023 00:40

@loulamay accidental pregnancies also blow my mind. I just don't understand how they happen!
My MOM put me in the pill when I was 15/16,as she wanted me to be safe (she also showed me where the condoms were!).
I have never, to my knowledge, been pregnant, and in 25 years of active sex life I've had exactly 3 moments when I was late, and wondered if it could be, and one where I wasn't late (but I took the pill continuously) and someone said something I was experiencing was an early pregnancy symptom.
But I have friends who got pregnant after one night stands! HOW?!?! 😂😂

I don't have infertility (just a bit of low AMH), but I was always careful!

Olivia199 · 28/07/2023 07:50

I've got some light bleeding this morning and totally fretting!

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Walker12 · 28/07/2023 08:15

Oh @Olivia199 I'm sorry! I know you had bleeding in your last pregnancy but there is something about seeing blood that's so horrible isn't it. Will you ring your clinic? Sending lots of love.

I have been very silly and tested this morning (5dp5dt) even though I KNOW it could be the trigger shot, there is a line. Had some pulling feelings in the night and felt such a strong urge to test. Need to hide the tests now and give my head a shake!

Olivia199 · 28/07/2023 08:43

@Walker12 - There's definitely something about it! I did have quite a lot of bleeding last time so I'm hoping all is fine. Perks of working here is that my boss said she's happy to send me across to EPU for some bloods and a check if it gets worse. Despite it being early.

I'm hoping it settles. Seems to have calmed right down so fingers crossed it was just a case of my pesserie hitting a sore spot this morning.

Oh bless you lovely, got everything crossed it isn't your trigger and hoping that line stays! Mine was nice and strong today and I'm feeling nauseous so all good signs.

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Walker12 · 28/07/2023 09:16

T@Olivia199 that's great that you are so close to the EPU. I am sure it's just your little one settling in and getting nice and cosy!
I am frustrated with myself for testing, going to wait until at least Sunday now- the only plus is I will have something to compare it to. Oh and I caved and ordered a couple of ridiculously overpriced FRERs!

Olivia199 · 28/07/2023 09:35

@Walker12 - Sadly not a huge amount they can do at 4 weeks, other than see me as a favour to staff. But work sent me home anyway after I was a bit sick and looked a bit wobbly on my feet.

Gotta phone my boss back in my normal department now and cop to that 😭

Oh bless you lovely, don't feel cross with yourself at all, its so easily done. Not long until Sunday. When was your trigger?

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IVFfirsttimer91 · 28/07/2023 09:40

@Olivia199 im so sorry that you’ve got a bit of bleeding, it’s so scary!!!!! hope you’re ok, and I’m glad that they sent you home xx

IVFfirsttimer91 · 28/07/2023 09:43

I had my scan today. And it was perfect. Measuring exactly 6+2 with a heartbeat of 135.

Relief isn’t even the word I would use. Thanks for all the support everyone xxxx