Secondary Infertility

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I appreciate this is an infertility forum and feel incredibly lucky to have my DD. I'm currently struggling with secondary infertility and was wondering if anyone else was experiencing the same? I'm feeling a little lost at the moment 😔.

I finally got my peak today on day 20!!! And can't even Dtd because partner has his test on Monday and needs to abstain!
So frustrating. I've been so stressed this month anyway so will just have to try again next month.
Part of me just wants to give it a go and reschedule his test but it's usually like a months wait and could fall on ovulation again next month! It's a tricky one.
Getting closer to conceiving a Christmas baby as well which I do not want because my boy was born dec 19th. But also don't want to waste another month not trying!!
How is everyone ?

@Elisabeth3468 good morning, at least you got your peak, CD22 for me & still nothing but getting all the usual EWCM, this is the longest it's been. Clearly driving myself nuts. It will be worth the wait once the results arrive for your other half. You never know either if you've been DTD up until the said date.

@Cloclo93 emptying your fridge 🤣🤣 I know what you mean. Let us know how you get on. I'm still waiting for my positive ovulation test so I know roughly when AF will turn up so I can start my drugs for the transfer. So typical I'm ovulating late on the month I'm desperate to know!

Massive walk needed today and a spring clean! Enjoy xx

@FETmum That is so frustrating but if you are getting lots of EWCM I'm sure ovulation is coming soon for you so keep on testing. I actually hardly had any EWCM this month which is so unusual for me as I usually get like loadssss.
We did DTD Thursday and Friday night so you never know , there still could be a chance but not too hopeful. Also been mega stressed this month. X

Morning everyone & hi to all the people who have joined since I last posted.

l’m still reading all your posts with interest but not much to report my end, just plodding on as usual 😊.

Hope you all have a lovely week x

Same here, plodding along! I finally got my positive ovulation on DC23, must of been the stress. I can finally relax and we have booked a staycation for half term, will be taking a box of medication with me though 😆. Not keen on DD seeing the injections & patches on the tummy but what can I do, it's got to be done.

Thyroid blood test came back fine so no additional medication required.

I'm seeing so many second / third pregnancy announcements all over the gram recently! Argh.

Same. I understand your feelings. I hate watching the potential age gap grow. I hate watching my DD love other little kids and babies, and thinking she’ll never have her own sibling.

How's everything feeling today? Xx

@Cloclo93 have you started the medication yet?

Hey @FETmum yup I've started on fematab today taken them for a week and I'm guessing starting injections a week later around the 15th? All going good should be egg collection 29thish? 🤞🤞 nervous and excited! How about you what's your updates? Xx

@FETmum a staycation sounds lovely, I hope you have a nice time. Have you told DD much about it?
I’ve had lots of that too! - I had another parent announce her pregnancy on the school run this week. She hasn’t even had her first scan yet, I wish she’d waited a bit longer to tell me! Three of the parents have also just had babies (one had twins) which has prompted lots of “have you only got one?” questions and “do you think you’ll have another”. After three years I’ve got to the point of just saying “yes just one, we would’ve loved another but unfortunately I don’t think we can have any more” and then try and change the subject! After seeing all the babies outside school, DS asked me when we would have another person in our family and said that it wasn’t fair that some people can grow babies but others can’t 😔.
I’ve started watching the Alex Jones programme you mentioned. It’s really interesting.

@Pupsandturtles the growing age gap is heartbreaking isn’t it?!

@Cloclo93 that’s exciting!! 😊🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Hello! I'm 36 and been trying for over 2 years (on cycle 31 now...) with no BFP at all. We have a 4 year old DS, naturally conceived but took 11 months.
Started fertility testing about a year ago with everything coming up normal, hycosy fine, amh average, sperm count good. Thyroid was always a bit high but not high enough for meds, then about 6 months in as we were about to do IUI it was then too high so now officially have an under active thyroid that has taken 5 months of levothyroxine meds to get the levels down.
So finally started medicated IUI, started clomid and injecting meriofert every 2nd day until ovulation, let's see how it goes!

Howdy folks, I have no update just yet - still waiting for AF to show up so I can start the medicine and the waiting is absolutely killing me tbh. I was ready to start the process on my last cycle! So frustrating. I'm on CD30 and expecting AF next week, body is under stress so ovulated late. I'm losing my mind 🤣🤣. Going out for walks is helping me but I'm honestly not myself, putting on a brave face!

How is everyone else? @RedRedRobin1 I'm so glad you're enjoying watching Alex jones.

@Cloclo93 so glad you have started the medication! Let us know when transferring. I think for us it'll be around 5th March the way my cycle is.

Hi @Darma87! Sorry that you’re also struggling for your second, we all know how that feels 😔. That’s great that you’ve been able to go ahead with your IUI, I hope it’s successful for you 🤞🏻! Keep us posted x

@FETmum I understand, I think waiting is so hard. The days seem to go so slowly. You’ve not got long left to wait now though 🤞🏻. We also went out for (a very muddy) walk yesterday which was nice. Not much else to report from me.. still waiting for April to come around. We’ve had a letter confirming our referral to the fertility clinic, I’m hoping the waiting list won’t be too long! X

Hi Ladies,

Thank you for your kind messages. So it's been a bit crazy. We sought a second opinion, and they rescanned me and found nine follicles of good sizes; obviously, it can't show any eggs in them, but I'd take nine over three any day! I have my fingers crossed.

Spoke to our consultant this morning, lovely chap. Very understanding. They told me I need to get my BMI down from 35 to 32 by May, but ideally 30. I was expecting that, to be honest, and to freeze my husband's sperm, in the case on the day of transfer, his sample was awful.

He quoted for a three-cycle package, and while I would go for it for the best chance. We can't afford £20k right now. So that was slightly disappointing after the positive meeting, but we have a lot to consider.

How is everyone else getting on?

Everyone getting on ok? I had my follicle scan on Fri morning showing 1 big and 1 medium, no idea if that's good or not but they seemed happy at the clinic. Got my peak OPK on Sunday evening so booked in for the IUI tomorrow morning! Is it weird that I'm looking forward to the progesterone after?! My self diagnosis has me thinking low progesterone is the issue for me as I've never had a BFP but I'm pretty sure I've been ovulating just not enough days between it and the start of period spotting (always a few days) then period.
Feeling hopeful!

Goodluck today @Darma87 fingers and toes crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞❤️xx

How is everyone getting on? An update from me is that AF finally showed by on CD37! We are now 4 days into the patches & injections. I have the baseline scan booked for next Friday with the transfer in for 7th March. Just praying it all works out! I've been invited to a baby shower in May, hoping I can be well pregnant by then.

Baby dust to all xoxox

@Cloclo93 have you had your transfer yet? Good luck 😀

Hey fetmum! I've actually just had my EC this morning 😬😬 got 7 eggs from 7 follicles, don't know how many are mature yet I will know tomorrow how many fertilized, I won't be sleeping a wink tonight wondering about tomorrow my stomach is on knots 😂 but I'm very happy with 7! What stage are you on now?? X

I hope you will be pregnant also for your friends baby shower in May! You can buy yourself some baby stuff when shopping for a gift 😉😉

@Cloclo93 oh that is fantastic news, 7!! Bet you were delighted. Did you have a nice sleep? 😆 loved that anaesthesia went out like a dream. So a fresh transfer likely to be next week? Keep us updated on how the embryos develop, wishing you all the luck! Xx

I'm day CD10, off to the clinic for a treatment scan tomorrow, if that all goes well frozen transfer will be Thursday next week. I'm on double dose of the patches (so sticky like pulling my skin off when changing) & was injecting for the first 7 days. A very different protocol that I'm used to.

Let's hope for some good news tomorrow!!

None of my 7 eggs fertilized! (4 were mature) We're are absolutely devastated 😢 the sperm and Egg just didn't bond together something about a egg zona irregularity. We can't financially afford another round of IVF as we're still paying for this round. Infertility is heartbreaking

@Cloclo93 I'm so incredibly sorry! That is unbelievable 😭. Are you having a follow up appointment with the consultant? Absolutely shocking. Please take it easy on yourself! Hot bath, face mask, fresh walks, take away & wine/cake! X

Thank you fetmum x
We will book in for a consultation next week I know icis will be recommended, maybe in the future we will try again it's just a devastating blow right now! I felt like ivf was our last hope and I'm scared to go down rabbit hole of death with ivf, who said money don't bring you happiness it certainly makes things easier!! I have my wine chocolates and Mr ballen on youtube right now to try take my mind off it all xx

Hi everyone,

I hope it's ok if I join you all on this journey which as I'm sure you know can be very lonely.
I have a DD who is 6 and turning 7 this year. We have been trying for nearly 2 and a half years and I do feel I am losing hope now.
I've actually kept this quiet , no friends or family know as I didn't want the pressure. I think what I struggle with the most is seeing my daughter getting older and realising how much the age gap is getting bigger 😢. She always asks me why does she not have a brother/sister and it kills me so much every time.

I've been to GP and my app with fertility clinic is not until oct this year. I paid privately for transvaginal ultrasound and all was clear. Ovulation tests most months show I am ovulating.

I guess I need to remember how lucky I am to have had my DD, it's just hard isn't it.
Sending you all lots of support and luck also 🥰

@alittlebitsocial 9 good sized follicles sounds really positive but wow £20k 😔. We also wouldn’t be able to afford that. I hope you’re getting on ok.

@Darma87 Hope you got on ok with your IUI! 🤞🏻

@FETmum Good luck for Thursday! I’m keeping everything crossed for you!! Let’s hope all the sticky patches and injections are worth it 😊🤞🏻💕

@Cloclo93 I don’t know what to say, I’m so sorry 😔💔!! I hope you’re getting on ok. Sending you lots of love right now!!

@Unicorndreams24 Hi & welcome! I’m sorry you find yourself here and I completely understand how you’re feeling. I have a DS who is 5 and started trying for a second when he was 2. Wow, October! I didn’t think the wait time would be quite that long!
It took us a year and 3 months to conceive first time around and I found it really difficult to go to baby showers etc and I felt like people were waiting for us to announce a pregnancy, always asking when it would be our “turn”… so this time, after about a year, we decided to tell our family and close friends that yes we would like a second but that we’re having a few difficulties. However, I regret that now especially as it’s been over 3 years! I thought it would make people more sensitive and that they’d ask fewer questions, but they don’t. They seem to think that I want to talk about it all the time and keep speculating on why they think we can’t conceive. Some family members have even told other people who I wouldn’t have chosen to tell.
I completely agree that it’s a long and lonely journey and telling people can definitely add extra pressure. We’re here if you need us though 💕!