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TTC no.2 after successful IVF for no.1

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Chocoholic85 · 08/05/2023 09:23

Hi,
I’m just after some advice and to see whether anyone is in the same boat!
Just found out that my 3rd FET failed.
We are very lucky to have DD who came from our first fresh transfer. We were also very fortunate to get 5 frozen embryos from that round so have been trying for a sibling. 1st FET was BFN, 2nd was a chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage and 3rd now is failed. Down to the last two and starting to feel the pressure and also wondering why on earth it isn’t working?!
We have unexplained infertility so nothing was ever found with our initial tests and I was 34 when we had out first IVF round so odds were in our favour. I read somewhere that at 34 around 50% of embryos are abnormal so I guess out our 6 maybe the last 3 were all abnormal. I’m also worried something has changed since I had to have a csection for DD. I did have an ultrasound which showed the scar had healed fine and there no niches, I’m wondering if there are adhesions that might not have been seen on the ultrasound though.
Would love to hear any advice for what to do next or from anyone else in a similar position. Thanks x

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SErunner · 10/10/2023 16:16

Thanks for your well wishes everyone. HyCoSy went fine - uterus looks good, lining 9.3mm trilaminar, both tubes patent and I'm literally just about to ovulate. I've never seen what the follicle looks like when it's about to pop - it goes all wibbly round the edges. So interesting! No prizes for guessing what we'll be doing tonight 😂 I'm feeling relieved and glad we can continue TTC naturally with a small amount of hope it might happen.

@loulamay sounds like a really lovely trip. How great for her to meet all that family ❤️ Weather sounds dreamy and great your work are being so accommodating.

@KLM25 we replicated our previous protocol this time round and got pretty much the exact same outcome in terms of numbers, but not result obviously. I suppose it just means following the same drug regime? Re progesterone my clinic likes it over 30nmol/L. I have read before that it being too high can sometimes be less optimal than mid range, but don't know what 'too high' is or what truth there is in that. Maybe a question for the clinic? I was on 800mg cyclogest I think and they checked my levels day before transfer. You could perhaps do that and add the lubion in on transfer day if needed? That's what my clinic said they would do if my levels weren't high enough but they were fine.

Eggling · 11/10/2023 12:25

@loulamay mine is graded at day 3 as it's a day 3 embryo not day 5 which is why it's different. Most uk clinics use the 5aa / 4AB etc grading for day 5 embryos but for day 3 just count the number of cells and give it a grade. So mine is 8 cells grade 1.

I'd imagine for yours HB is hatching blastocyst? That's just a guess though tbh! I don't know what FHB could be though

Swirls346 · 11/10/2023 14:53

Hope everyone is well.
We are in the stage of getting referred again , so just over a week ago I had a blood test to check ovulation and then waiting for period to come to have that blood test. Partner has got to have a semen analysis too. Well period hasn't arrived. I did a test and it's a faint positive. I'm beyond shocked but also too worried to get excited about it!!
Like I can't really believe it right now because you hear these stories but never thought it could be me.

KLM25 · 12/10/2023 12:48

@SErunner I’m so pleased to hear that your Hycosy went so well 😊 That’s really good news and one less thing to worry about, I’m sure it’s a huge relief! Definitely lots of hope.
I had a phone call with my doctor yesterday and will be starting again when my next period starts, hopefully in the next few days. We discussed quite a few things and I’m going to be going back to the protocol that worked with my son, so I feel quite positive about that. She understood my reservations about the ERA so will be going back to the original timing. They tested my progesterone levels the day before transfer last time and they were happy with them so will be doing the same again, as your clinic do, it’s reassuring isn’t it? I didn’t have them tested with my previous clinic as it wasn’t something that they did.
She did suggest a hysteroscopy again but I’ve said I’ll consider that if this one doesn’t work. I think it would just be to rule out any problems rather than because they suspect a problem, if that makes sense. Mr Lower said I didn’t need one when I asked him (he did a 3D scan) so that’s why I’m kind of reluctant but I’ll reconsider if we have another BFN.
@Eggling hope you’re doing ok and you’ve got lots of distractions to keep you busy this weekend ❤️
@Swirls346 That’s wonderful news, I’m really pleased for you, it just goes to show we just never know what’s around the corner. Will keep everything crossed for you x

TTC6 · 12/10/2023 12:56

Hi. I hope you don't mind me joining. I am totally new to these forums but I thought I would post my story to see if anyone has any advice.
I am 33 started TTC 6 years ago. Our first round of standard ivf had low sperm and egg binding and unfortunately was unsuccessful. We then moved to another clinic and did a round of ICSI in 2019 which we were very blessed to have a healthy baby boy from in 2020, and one frozen embryo.
A miracle happened when we conceived naturally when my little boy was one, but unfortunately ended in a MMC at 9.5 weeks (mid 2021). I ended ip having to get a D&C.
Since then we have gone through a further 4 fresh rounds of ICSI (transferred A-C quality embryos each time but none to transfer) and the FET of the frozen embryo from my sons round which ended in a chemical pregnancy.
My last round we tried steroids, intralipids, antibiotics, dhea and Coq10.
I have low AMH 2.21. I have since had a hysteroscopy and endometrial biopsy which results have come back normal. And waiting for karotype blood tests back.
I also have an under active thyroid (post partum) so I never had when we were successful with my son, but it is very well managed so apparently should not be affecting fertility.
My consultant keeps telling me it's just bad luck..but I'm finding that hard to believe with so many failed rounds now after having success (relatively easily). Thank you!

KLM25 · 12/10/2023 13:03

Hi @TTC6 you must have read my mind! I’ve just posted on the thread you started to say why don’t you join us over here 😊 Welcome, it’s good to hear from you although I’m sorry you find yourself here of course. I’ve got to rush out now, so I’m sorry this is a short one, but I just wanted to say hi and I’ll post again later on x

TTC6 · 12/10/2023 13:05

Haha I posted that and then was having a look through other groups and came across this one and thought a lot of your experiences sound very similar. Thanks for saying hi, look forward to chatting more. x

Eggling · 12/10/2023 13:30

That's amazing news @Swirls346!! I hope all goes smoothly from now on.

Welcome @TTC6 - I totally understand what you mean in finding it hard to believe there's no problem and it's all just bad luck, I think a few of us are in the same boat. It's so rough when you go through ivf and have a successful outcome and think you've done the hard part and in fact it's only just beginning. I'm sure you'll find plenty of support and understanding here.

Good to hear you have a plan @KLM25. Re the hysteroscopy, my consultant said that for me they wouldn't recommend as it could do more harm than good, obviously every case is individual but I guess just something (else!) to bear in mind.

I'm definitely not as chilled as I was a few days ago - the due date on Tuesday got me pretty hard and I'm just struggling to feel positive at all about this transfer. Absolutely dreading testing, even though I keep telling myself that either way I'll be fine and get through it. I wish I just had some certainty about things. Still not certain when I'll test but I haven't bought any FRERs yet which are my test of choice so obviously no time soon!

SErunner · 12/10/2023 22:11

So pleased for you @Swirls346 and keeping all fingers crossed this progresses well for you.

@Eggling sounds like you're doing well so far with no tests in the house! That's the only way I can avoid testing. I'm so sorry Tuesday was difficult. I can't imagine how it felt but feel for you none the less. I find the second half of the TWW the worst and find it very hard to distract myself. When is OTD?

@KLM25 glad you've got a plan and can start soon. Yes the progesterone testing is reassuring. I hadn't had it with previous transfers. Think they added it in to check because I bled early with our first fresh transfer this year. Yes totally makes sense re the hysteroscopy. We're only did the HyCoSy and will do the sperm fragmentation tests to check, not because they think there is anything wrong. I do feel more reassured having had it done though.

@TTC6 welcome 👋 sorry you find yourself here but do join and chat. Lots of us are struggling a lot more with the sibling attempt. I was lucky and conceived first transfer with our daughter. A fresh and frozen transfer failed this summer for a sibling. Having a break for the time being due to finances. I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Have they been happy with your uterus/lining on your subsequent transfers? I only ask because I had a very invasive internal repair after I hameorrhaged shortly after delivering our daughter. My consultant mentioned internal surgery can be aggressive and cause damage to the uterus lining? I was just thinking about your D&C? I can understand the difficulty accepting the possibility of it all just being bad luck after so many transfers. It's very hard to stay positive isn't it? It sounds like you've tried a lot already.

TTC6 · 12/10/2023 23:25

@KLM25 thank you for the welcome (just realised if I don't tag people you won't get notified)

@Eggling I've spent the evening reading through the thread. My gosh you guys have been through a lot..and I can honestly relate to every single thing people have said about how they are feeling. It just sucks a lot! I wish we didn't have to think about what we are eating, feel guilty for having a drink, feel guilting for not being able to give our children siblings to pay with and also having to pay thousands of pounds for a chance of success! I look forward to the advice and support from this group.

@SErunner thank you! It's so lovely joining a group that honestly reading half the posts I could have posted them myself. Yes they seem to be happy with everything each round and transfer. (But of course I always doubt it- I think that is just natural when things don't go our way). I pushed for a hysteroscopy after the last failed transfer in June as following getting pregnant naturally and then having to have d&c over 2 years ago now that's when the failures have happened so I did question it. But nope all good (which of course I'm happy about) but would just be nice to have some answers!!
I am so up and down..and want a sibling for my little boy so so much but I also wonder how long I can keep going. Mentally physically and financially. We have just paid for another 2 rounds upfront (one of the programmes) and I honestly think if these fail we will be done.

KLM25 · 13/10/2023 14:31

Hi again @TTC6 I’m so pleased you’ve found this thread and joined us. I know exactly what you mean about feeling you could have written the posts yourself. Until this year I was always nervous to post on a forum, I’m not sure why, but I’m so glad I took the plunge as I’ve found it incredibly helpful and supportive on here.
I’m the same with the overthinking and the guilt. I’ve got a few days off at the moment after my last transfer failed, starting again when my period starts, and I’m trying to cut myself some slack, but I’m still feeling guilty that I haven’t eaten very healthily this week 🤦‍♀️
It’s very tough as one thing I’ve realised over the last year is that so much of it is unknown and the doctors don’t even agree on things. It sounds like you’ve had lots of testing, so if your consultant says it’s pure bad luck then I think that’s quite positive, as if you can cope with keeping going, then surely you will get there in the end. Plus you have age on your side, although I know we never feel that way, no matter how old we are!
I know the disappointments are so tough. I’ve had 4 BFNs in a row, not a sniff of an implantation and if I’m honest, I can’t imagine seeing those 2 lines come up again. And then I blame myself for being too negative and think oh maybe that’s why it’s not working 😂
Have you got any dates in mind of when you might start again with the first of your two cycles?

Hope you’re doing ok @Eggling I was the same with the pregnancy tests - I always use the FRERs too. I only ordered some early on because I read that there was a shortage, anyway that turned out not to be true as they arrived the next day! I left them in the Amazon parcel until the night before and just forgot about them. It’s so hard to prepare yourself mentally, but I just kept telling myself, at least I’ll know one way or the other, and I can stop going crazy and counting magpies 🤦‍♀️
That’s really helpful to hear what your consultant said about the hysteroscopy possibly causing more harm than good. Do you mind me asking if he elaborated on that? Did he mean in case it caused infection? I know that’s always a minor possibility with any invasive procedure. You’re so right with what you say about every case being individual but it does really help in terms of weighing it up.

Thanks @SErunner Yes I feel much happier now I’m having my progesterone checked. It’s one of the things I always have big doubts about. I feel more confident now I take the Lubion, but I’m always worried the Cyclogest hasn’t absorbed and I haven’t inserted it far enough. Also for this last transfer, I had to do one at 8.30am and our little boy has been doing mini football and rugby at that time on an Sat/Sun. I was sticking one up there before I left to take him to that and then I was convinced it had all dripped out - especially as I then spent the next half an hour convincing him to kick the football etc rather than lying down flat which would have been my preference ☺️ I have to admit on a couple of occasions I just shoved another one up there once I’d got home, just in case. I spoke to my doctor about that and she said if I was having an active day I could use them rectally, so I suppose that’s another option for next time, although tbh I don’t relish the thought 😂

I’m just waiting for my period now, expecting it any time really. I’ve got some more supplies of the lower dose of Prednisolone now which arrived this morning. The clinic sent the prescription to this place Ali’s pharmacy in London which I’d heard of but never used. I called them and they sent the meds through the post. I’m not sure it was the cheapest way of doing it but there was a bit of time pressure, so I’m just glad I have them. My doctor gave me some vague dates so I’m quite happy that we have a plan in place.

Hope everyone has a great weekend x

Swirls346 · 13/10/2023 15:21

Absolutely gutted my pregnancy is over before it started. I've started bleeding this afternoon. This is so hard 💔

CycleGirl20 · 13/10/2023 16:54

@Swirls346 I'm so sorry to hear that. That must be really hard. There is always the chance it's not over. A lot of women have bleeding in pregnancy. There's also a realistic chance you're right and all you can do then is try to take care of yourself giver yourself a little time

CycleGirl20 · 13/10/2023 18:52

@KLM25 it sounds like you're managing well. Are you doing a frozen or a fresh cycle? The progesterone is rubbish! I have a prescription to pick up next batch and it gave me crazy dreams last time. Then as you say, there's the mess!!

@Eggling hope things are all good also.

@TTC6 👋. I'm new too!

I'm preparing for a frozen transfer in November. It will be my first. I only have a trigger shot and progesterone. Is a frozen transfer similar to a fresh but without the collection?

loulamay · 14/10/2023 08:41

Gosh, so behind on messages!

Such great news @SErunner and hope the procedure wasn’t too bad!

@swirls346 I’m so sorry to hear about your bleeding – have you taken another test yet? This really is all so incredibly hard and takes such a toll on your emotions. Thinking of you.

@KLM25 great that you have a new plan and can hopefully move forward again quickly – how many embryos do you have left?

@Eggling I’m so sorry you’re having a rough time – have you caved and tested yet? I am crossing everything possible!

@TTC6 hi and welcome! Sorry, you’re having to join this group – I don’t think any of us want to be here, but the solidarity of hearing other people’s stories does make you feel less alone!

@CycleGirl20 I have only ever done one fresh transfer and the rest have been frozen. I actually think it’s easier on your body because you’re not coping with the drugs and bloating from the egg retrieval as well. How are you feeling about it?

Hanging in over here and just waiting on our PGT results. Trying to focus on getting prepped for our trip rather than stress about it - it's out of our hands now! Beautiful clear day up here in the Lakes so I think we're going to go to the park and the shops :-)

Swirls346 · 14/10/2023 09:08

Thanks everyone for your support. @loulamay no I haven't done another test and won't now because the bleeding is heavy and I'm passing clots so I'm pretty certain what's happening. It's devastating but has kind of given me hope that we can get pregnant naturally ?
Just stuck in a place now of what to do- whether to get referred for fertility help (we were in the process because partner might need varicocele operation) or should we just continue to try naturally ?
They said his sperm count is low and every parameter isn't great but 4 -5months in trying properly and I got pregnant. Bare in mind I'm talking about his results from March 2021 so quite a while ago- could they have possibly improved? Very aware it might not happen again but also it's given me that glimmer of hope? Although don't want to end up trying for years and then not end up getting referred. I am 27 so feel like there's not a massive rush but I didn't want a huge age gap. What does everyone think?

Eggling · 14/10/2023 14:08

@KLM25 im not sure what the "harm" he mentioned was to be honest, I should have probed more but I never think clearly in the moment! I got the impression that because the niche is so small there's basically more risk of something disturbing the rest of my uterus / the procedure going wrong than any benefit. I don't know though.

@Swirls346 oh I'm so sorry 😞 it's so hard. In terms of next steps would you be starting with a new clinic from the first time or is it the same one? I've found mine really good with ad hoc advice (once I reach the right person!!) so might be worth giving them a call?

@CycleGirl20 I've found frozen transfers quite a quick process compared to ivf - I think my last two were about 12 days from start of period to transfer?

Plodding on here - OTD is Wednesday so might just hold out for then as I have no desire to test anyway!

TTC6 · 14/10/2023 22:40

@KLM25
It’s great to have a plan in place and have some ‘control’ again. I always find I can handle things better if I have a plan. I met another consultant in another clinic last month and he essentially told me to stop. After 7 full fresh cycles and only really 5 embryos out of that that were ‘ok’ quality he just told me to stop and enjoy my miracle at home. I found it really tough to hear to be honest but I just don’t feel ready to walk away yet - even though the thought of another round exhausts me. All the heartache…but there is still hope. And I’m sure we are all on the same page, we wouldn’t keep going if there wasn’t a glimmer of hope. I do have age on my side but I wish I could tell my ovaries that!!! Sure my AMH is probably that of 10 years plus.
Do your clinic let you do back to back? What protocol are you on? I’d love to hear from people in terms of stim drugs etc because I’ve only ever tried 2 different ones and I’ve always wondered would it make a difference or are they all the same thing just different names?

@Swirls346
I am so so sorry. It is just heartbreaking! Age is just a number but I do think doctors look at younger women and there isn’t as much urgency around things.

@CycleGirl20
✋🏻 nice to meet you albeit virtually. I have only ever done one frozen transfer which essentially I found exactly the same apart from no injections or egg collection so a lot easier on your body I feel. Did you choose to do FET or just have embryos left over from a fresh round?

@loulamay
Absolutely. I wish none of us were part of this group but I do love reading and hearing that so many feelings that we all have are so so normal with all we are going through. I scanned through older messages so apologies if you’ve already mentioned this. Did you get more eggs and embryos from this round versus previous? And if so was there anything you changed?

@Eggling
You are totally right in 7 rounds I only tested once early (which of course ended up being a chemical pregnancy) but it was absolutely awful. I am a big advocate of just waiting and living in the ignorance is bliss bubble. I will keep everything crossed for you!!

We were out with friends last night and had a few drinks (felt guilty having them) but feel like that’s me now as we are hoping to start in another few months. Does everyone here usually go off alcohol if they drink it before going through a cycle? (Not that it probably makes any difference whatsoever but we will try anything).

loulamay · 15/10/2023 08:25

Don't worry @TTC6 - too many messages to read through! So I've done three egg retrievals altogether and had these results:

Age 36: 16 eggs retrieved, all frozen (had only just met my husband at that point so we weren't talking about kids!)
Age 39: 24 eggs retrieved and ended up with 8 embryos (1 failed fresh transfer, one chemical, one double transfer that ended in miscarriage and D&C, PGT testing and 3 euploids, one successful transfer and then two more failed transfers)
Age 43: 16 eggs retrieved and we have 6 embryos that have been sent for PGT testing.

I can't remember what stims I was on for the first two but this time I was on 350 IU of Pergoveris a day for about ten days and then we did the egg retrieval after the trigger and ICSI. We're at a clinic in the Czech Republic and a clinic in Cape Town for the earlier stuff.

They measured my AMH before this last retrieval and it was 5.33 pmol/L and luckily my husband's sperm has also been normal.

My main concern is all of my failed transfers. We seem to be able to produce decent embryos but I don't know why they don't stick :-( I have been on Clexane for pretty much all of the FETs as well as increased progesterone for the last two but no luck. Like you, I'm not ready to give up yet. x

CycleGirl20 · 15/10/2023 11:10

@TTC6 I've only ever done one collection. I was 35. 17 collected, 15 fertilized. 1 fresh transfer which is my daughter. Now on to using the frosties hoping for a sibling. We tried for 2+ years before that with no luck.

Enjoying your little miracle at home and getting on with more IVF aren't mutually exclusive 😊. I do often wonder about when we'd stop. It's a hard question but quite hypothetical for us at the moment with some frosties to go through.

@loulamay that's a lot of eggs you've been able to collect. When do you hear back from PGT?

loulamay · 15/10/2023 14:12

@CycleGirl20 yes, producing lots of eggs is apparently the only bit I'm good at 😂My Dr in Cape Town always said that women with PCOS (which I had through my teens and twenties) can often mean a higher number of follicles than normal.

They said 2-3 weeks for the PGT and latest 3rd November - trying to keep it out of my mind!!

CycleGirl20 · 15/10/2023 15:49

@loulamay I wonder if I have PCOS. I have a high AMH 4.67ngpmol (which is something like 30 on the other scale) and a lot of eggs. Otherwise, my blood hormone levels were normal except for my oestradiol which was low, but they wondered if that was due to me doing a fasting diet and being on a fast day the day before. It's hard to know if you have PCOS if you don't have other symptoms. I do have a harder time keeping my weight down too and seem to be moderately over weight regardless of what I eat unless I heavily restrict calories. Maybe PCOS is our "unexplained infertility" reason, or maybe not.

KLM25 · 16/10/2023 10:25

Morning everyone, just catching up on messages so apologies if I miss anything.
@Swirls346 I’m really sorry this has happened, it’s really tough to have a glimpse of hope and then have it snatched away from you. When you talk about being referred, would it be through the NHS? I’m not completely sure of all the rules surrounding it as I was too old to be able to access treatment that way so we went private from the start. Plus I know it’s a postcode lottery anyway. If you can be referred through them, I wouldn’t see the harm in starting the ball rolling with that alongside trying naturally. Then at least you’ll feel like you’re doing something about it, which I always find helps me.

Thanks @Eggling that’s helpful. My vague plan is to ask my doctor about the pros and cons of a hysteroscopy and maybe risk some Googling! I sometimes think I don’t ask enough questions but I’m getting to the stage where I don’t care about being an awkward patient, after all, we’re paying enough money for all this 🤦‍♀️ Hope you’re ok, I know this is the really tough bit with symptom spotting etc, but you’ve got this and we’re all really rooting for you.

Yes definitely @TTC6, I always cope better if I feel that we’ve got a plan and we’re moving forward. It turns out that my clinic will let me do back to back transfers, I wasn’t sure as I only started with them in the last few months. I’ve asked to go back to the protocol that worked with my son which is 3 x 2mg Progynova, 5mg Prednisolone, 1 Clexane from CD1 and then adding 2 x 400mg Cyclogest and 1 Lubion 5 days before transfer. Plus the Prednisolone ups to 10mg for a week on transfer day.
This is actually more progesterone than my successful transfer but I can’t bring myself to lower it as my levels were 48nmol with that dosage and I know some people have it much higher.
Plus I had that ERA test in July and it said I was pre receptive so we moved the progesterone timing forward a day last time. I’ve had a niggling worry about that as obvs I had a successful transfer (plus a second positive beta hcg last year but then started bleeding at 5/6 weeks) with the original timing. Doctors seem to disagree with the validity of the test so I feel happier going back to the original timing. Who knows?!
I’m not sure if we’re doing the right thing or not but I’ve read a lot of positive things about sticking to a successful protocol and I suppose it all ties in with the numbers game theory.
I know what you mean about all the different names! Progynova and Cyclogest are just estradiol and progesterone so those are all the same I think. The Prednisolone is a steroid and Clexane a blood thinner. My first clinic in Prague prescribed those to me empirically (the Pred is a v low dose) and another clinic that I spoke to in Greece questioned whether I needed them as I’ve never been tested for immune issues or blood clotting issues. Another case of all the doctors disagreeing! When I went to see the consultant in London about my c section scar, he said he would be throwing the kitchen sink at it, given my age, so I’m just choosing to follow his advice, and my doctor in Barcelona at the new clinic is happy to go along with that. She just wants me to have a hysteroscopy whereas he said I didn’t need one, so they don’t agree completely 🤦‍♀️😂

I’m not sure if you know that we’re using donor eggs (so many posts on this thread and a lot of us to keep up with) so that means my treatment has been slightly different. I’ve never had an egg collection as I was advised against it when we started (I was 45 and my AMH was 2.32), so it has always been a case of FETs plus one fresh transfer. I do sometimes wonder if we could have pushed back and tried with my own eggs, but we love our little boy so much, I wouldn’t want to change anything that would mean we didn’t have him, if that makes sense. I suppose I’m fortunate in that since we started IVF, I haven’t had to worry about my own eggs - although I spent many years worrying about that before I met my fiancé! I just have the worries about there being a time limit on treatment, I’m 49 now so I hit the age limit for the Czech Republic earlier in the year, hence moving to a Spanish clinic. I haven’t come across any negativity from doctors, it’s just that I know my Mum, who is very supportive and loving, wants us to stop and ‘enjoy our one little miracle’ in the words of your consultant! She thinks I’m too old and worries what it’s doing to my body. I feel absolutely fine and had a trouble free pregnancy with my son, but it’s an added stress to cope with as I don’t want to worry my parents. I’m just the same as the rest of us, we want our son to have a sibling and that desire is so strong, I think the only things that would stop us trying would be money, age limits or health problems. So for now we’re ploughing on!

@loulamay we have 2 frosties left. My vague plan is to hopefully transfer another one at the end of this month and then if that doesn’t work, have this hysteroscopy hopefully Nov/Dec time and then we’ve still got one left for early next year, obviously depending on results. You just never know what the next bump in the road will be, do you?! It’s hard to juggle it all with work, but I think it’ll fit in that way - I’m just trying not to worry about what could go wrong and scupper it all, and just take one day at a time! My period started on Saturday morning so I’ve started the meds, not great timing in terms of clinic communications but I’ve booked two scans at Ultrasound Direct for Sun and Mon so I can cancel one of them with 48 hours notice. The weekend team said I should have a scan on the Mon so I can send the results to my doctor but that’ll be day 10 in the afternoon (all I can get), so I thought surely it would be better to do it on day 9 Sunday as they say day 7-9, and I’m fully prepared to have to wait a day to find out the verdict from my doctor. Anyway they’ll be there today so hopefully I’ll find out soon and I can cancel one. I feel another email coming on 😂 x

Eggling · 17/10/2023 08:09

@TTC6 I think it's so hard knowing when to stop - people I've spoken to who have (I'm a trustee for a Fertility charity so speak to a lot of people with experience of infertility!) have all said they kind of knew when the time was right for them to call it a day.

I tested early this morning and got a BFP. I was kind of thinking it had worked the last couple of days as my boobs feel different and my sense of smell is through the roof which have been my symptoms before, but as we all know symptoms can play tricks on us! I can't quite believe it to be honest, will test again tomorrow which is OTD to be sure. Obviously very happy and also very scared as we have been here before. We are on holiday next week which will hopefully be a distraction.

Hope everyone is doing ok x

loulamay · 17/10/2023 08:41

eeeek @Eggling that's great news! Totally get that you might not want to feel excited yet. Infertility can be such a thief of joy! Are you getting betas done? x