IVF November 2022 - thread 2

[countrypunk]

Hello everyone, shiny new thread for us IVF warriors.

@Crystal88
@Jx3303
@LF82
@Hopewishprayer
@Foreverhoping33
@Cat89

@countrypunk it's really playing on my mind. I have a tilted uterus (depending on the day and who looks at it it seems) which worries me more. I've had a big cry and we've decided if nothing is happening by Monday we'll call EPU and maybe book in for the operation the following week. So we're at least waiting a bit but also booking for back up as I don't want to wait the 2 weeks then another week. Although I know I'll still feel awful even when it's done.

Sorry to hear you're hormonal 😞 everything crossed you'll be good for next cycle. Was it a multi cycle package or anything you went for? I feel so stupid trying to sort out the finance side of ours and paying off the remaining loan and starting my "maternity savings" again. That money was swiftly moved back and my spreadsheet increases. In the grand scheme not a big deal but thinking we were done financially to then not be is another hard pill to swallow x

I apologise for my money moans, we all know what it's like when we have to go down the private route. Just another thing to have to think about I guess 😞

@Jx3303 Oh god, I'm worrying about money too! I've already spent 1k with this clinic and I haven't even had any treatment yet. It's appallingly expensive!

I was the same. I felt that I definitely wanted to wait, and then after a week I changed my mind completely and definitely wanted the op. I actually started to miscarry when I was in hospital. It started with mild pains and a small amount of bleeding - so just like a period. It's hard to give advice on this because it's so personal and different for everyone. All you can do is what feels right for you. I haven't spoken to them, but apparently the miscarriage association helpline is very very good. I would steer you away from reading the stories on their website though, I found them upsetting (and not representative of my experience).

Xx

@countrypunk so expensive isn't it 😞 I have no idea the cost of FET given it's very tailored and depends on medicated or natural etc. All I can do is continue to save as much as possible. We'd actually recently found out we'd maybe be able to claim through OH's private work health insurance but now this has happened we've kinda stopped pursuing that. Maybe they could cover FETs but not holding our breath.

Thank you, it's reassuring (but very sad that you also went through this) to know I'm not the only one struggling with the decision and knowing what to do and wanting to wait but also not too long. I got some flyers that I read but yeah, there are so really sad stories and I've read a few horror stories about medicated too which has me 100% sure I don't want to go down that route.

It's another hard place to be isn't it, especially with the waits and hurdles around IVF and us not just being able to try naturally after a miscarriage.

Thank you so much for your support I cannot tell you how much I appreciate it. I've really struggled through every step of our IVF journey over the years and you and this group have helped me immensely xxx

@Jx3303 Ditto. Xxxxx

That's made me think about my OH's medical insurance through work! Must investigate.

I think an unmedicated FET through my old clinic cost 2.5k. It's insane isn't it. I'd like to know more about how clinics set their prices. I really think there should be more regulation. Profiting from people's misery just feels wrong to me. Some clinics are charities that plough all profits back into research - I think they all should be, personally!

@countrypunk we had no clue, I'd looked at mine and nothing fertility wise was covered, but it's been up in the air as I wasn't on his insurance but he's added me now. No idea if we'll be able to claim anything but worth a try at some point for sure. I hope your OH's can order some hope too!

I'm sure I read somewhere that it was around the same, £2.5k for medicated including meds. On the general price list it says £1750 but that will be without meds. Wonder if as I'll not be having a pregnancy test or scan down there they'd take those of as I'd be paying up here for them. Maybe not though if it's part of a package.

Yeah 100% agree, money should definitely be put back into research x

@countrypunk yes first injection tomorrow and first scan booked for Monday. I wish we were cycling at the same time too- it’s always helped me when someone is going through it at the same time I think. So not looking forward to the injections! 😂 hate them! X

@LF82 we're here for you every step of the way ❤️ even though we're not stimming at the same time, which is always a good support, we all understand and have been there it. Take each day as it comes, you've got this. Plenty rest and putting yourself first xx

@LF82 Don't forget lots of fluids to keep your follicles juicy!

Do you do the injections yourself or get your OH to do them? I don't mind doing it too much, it's the feeling sad and furious I don't like 😵‍💫

Period has arrived sooner than I thought. This is so stupid, but every month I still have that tiny bit of hope that we might conceive naturally. Can't seem to stamp it out.

@Jx3303 thank you! Am definitely trying to do that and relax

@countrypunk I have that same maybe it will happen this month naturally thing too so you aren’t alone! Will make sure I am drinking lots of water the next few weeks. Yeah my OH does all my injections for me as I still can’t make myself so them, kind of wish I could but in a way it makes him feel more involved x

I was always like that too between cycles, particularly the month we went on holiday since I was "on holiday and relaxed" but no such luck. So I was like see, doesn't work. It's that heartbreak every month, gets harder and harder to take x

It's nice your OH can be involved and honestly if you don't want to do them, don't. As you know I didn't enjoy doing mine when I was away myself at all, I very gladly handed them right back over to OH as soon as I could. You've enough on your plate x

@Jx3303 It does, it's rubbish. It's all rubbish. I hope you're feeling OK this evening. Xx

@LF82 I think that's nice! And as @Jx3303 says, anything we can hand over to them, we should! All they have to do (in most cases) is have some sexy time with a cup.

@LF82 exciting you're starting tomorrow! Good luck with the meds 😘.

@Jx3303 hope you're doing ok hun. I also worked quietly, I found keeping busy and distracted helpful but I appreciate everyone is different. Hopefully your recovery will go quick and smooth. Xx

@LF82 good luck starting meds today my love, and is your first scan on Monday? I know it's always daunting, no matter how many times you've done it, stay strong x

@Cat89 thank you ☺️ yeah doing a bit of work has been something to do. Daytime tv gets very depressing. Luckily we've got the dog and have been doing all the walks together, so we are getting out.

We've booked a wee cottage on the coast this weekend, it's only an hour away but be nice to get out of our house, but away from everyone still. As awful as it is, we don't want to see anyone yet x

I hope everyone else has some nice weekend plans xx

@Jx3303 That sounds just the ticket. Have a lovely time together. I think getting out and about in nature is one of the best things you can do. Xx

@LF82 Hope all went well with first injection today x

@Jx3303 that sounds like the perfect weekend escape.

@countrypunk @Jx3303 thank you yes first injection this eve and first scan on Monday 🤞

@LF82 good luck with first scan Monday

I would of been having my first injection yesterday if I had of been doing this cycle but glad I delayed it

had all clear from my other half blood test so I should receive my meds to start again mid June on next cycle xx

@Crystal88 sounds like you are all sorted for next month which is fab x

@LF82 how are you getting on with stims? I hope ok ❤️

@Crystal88 sounds like you're all set for next cycle with meds coming soon. Hope you are feeling ok about the next cycle x

@countrypunk how are you and how was your weekend? X

We're just back from our two nights away. It was nice but I was miserable and I feel so bad about it. My OH is being so understanding and amazing it just makes me cry more. Am I ever going to want to see / talk to other people? Or not cry? Right now it doesn't feel like it. I'm going to call EPU tomorrow. X

@Jx3303 I think it’s completely understandable how you are feeling, please don’t feel bad about it and your OH will completely get it. I was speaking to a counsellor earlier in the year said that when tears come just let it and don’t try to stop them/feel bad about it. Sending you lots of love & strength.

re my stims - all going ok so far. 🤞

xx

@LF82 thank you for your kind words ❤️ I'm booked in for surgery on Tuesday, called EPU as nothing is happening and I can't see it happening. I need to just get it done, and I hope I can begin to heal and process.

Glad to hear stims going well. I am sending all the positivity for your scan tomorrow xx

Oh @Jx3303 im sorry to read your update. Glad you had a nice weekend away and that your OH is being amazing. I totally get that even that can make it harder. It’s being shown how great they are at caring for others and how good at being a parent they would be which is even tougher. Sending so much love! I totally get the not wanting to see other people either. I just wanted to hibernate.

I think the procedure is a good plan, it will mean that it’s done and then not something to worry about constantly and you can start the healing process.

may not help much but I did lots of research and found that rates of miscarriage are much lower in next 6 months after having one and rates of successful pregnancy are higher.

@LF82 hope scan goes well tomorrow. I also have my first scan tomorrow at day 11. Very worried about it as i normally ovulate around day 13 so if it isn’t thick enough already I doubt it will grow much more and scared cycle will get cancelled again. Trying to stay calm though but easier said than done. My stress has not been good this week ☹️.

@Foreverhoping33 thank you ❤️ I really hope when it's done I can begin to heal emotionally, being in limbo waiting is tough. I just feel so awful for my OH, I've made sure he knows I am here for him as much as he is for me, and that I'll be ok - I just don't know when. I know so many go through this, and get through it, right now it's just hard to see that x

Thank you, it's always nice to have some good stats x

Wishing you all the very best for your scan tomorrow. I'm so sorry to hear it's been a stressful week for you - please do know that we are here for you, as you have all been for me. I really hope that it goes well and you can transfer 💕 xxx

@Foreverhoping33 sorry you have had a stressful week ☹️ I have everything crossed for you for tomorrow x

@Jx3303 i Hope Tuesday goes ok as these things can go, thinking of you x