IVF November 2022 - thread 2

[countrypunk]

Hello everyone, shiny new thread for us IVF warriors.

@Crystal88
@Jx3303
@LF82
@Hopewishprayer
@Foreverhoping33
@Cat89

@Jx3303 100% yes. My clinic said that when they gave it to me.

@countrypunk thank you ☺️ after almost 6 weeks of the alarms, I just can't. It felt this morning like I was on autopilot getting up and for a split second everything felt ok. X

@Jx3303 It's horrible, that split second before you remember.
I promise it will get easier.
Xx

@Jx3303 thinking of you… can’t even imagine how you are feeling. Sending strength x

@countrypunk the pain caused by a split second is intense isn't it. Thank you, I really hope so. Right now it's hard to see it but i know so many of us have gone through it, and you ladies give me hope that I can find the strength afterwards to carry on. I've started getting some stomach pains which are scaring me, it was cramping every few minutes when we were walking the dog. It's a bit better now I'm lying down and had some paracetamol. I have no idea if I'm just overthinking given what I know xx

@LF82 thank you so much, so kind ❤️ xxx

@Jx3303 You will find the strength. You absolutely will. It is extremely positive that you've conceived - your body wants it to work. I hope it isn't too upsetting to think like that now. But the fact that you've conceived increases your chances of you conceiving again and carrying to term along the line. My doctor told me that at my scan the other week.

I got some cocodamol supplies in case it started to happen naturally.

Hope you're snuggled up with dog xxx

@countrypunk thank you, I know what you mean and as hard as it is, I hope I'll be able to take that positive from it later when it's passed.

We had confirmation today that I will miscarry 😞 we've decided today to see if anything happens naturally and have another scan in two weeks. They've said if we change our mind and want to go down another route we can call at any time. I'm scared of all options to be perfectly honest xx

@Jx3303 I'm so sorry. It's truly heartbreaking. Talk all you want to about it on here.

It helped me a lot knowing there were choices and I got to choose what was best for me. I hope you feel the same even though it feels scary too at the moment.

Massive cliché but time really is a healer. Xxx

@countrypunk thank you ❤️ yeah it was a lot of information and it's so hard to know what to do. I hope we've made the right decision, time will tell I guess. I might do a little bit of work tomorrow. My boss said absolutely no pressure but I feel like there are going to be more days coming up I'll need off so I'll try and do a bit here and there from home behind the scenes.

How is everyone else doing? And where are you all at? I hope there are some positive things coming up for the rest of you xx

@Jx3303 how are you? Been thinking of you. So glad your boss is being so understanding re work x

@LF82 thank you for thinking of us, so kind ❤️ just taking it day by day. Not long after I wake up I cry 😢 I'm doing a bit of work today at home, in the same room as my OH as I can't bear to be alone, even though just upstairs, and he doesn't want me to be either. We took the dog along the beach earlier. Only my boss and colleague know I'm working so no one else is bothering me and I'm "appearing offline" so just working in the background. No bleeding yet but my back ache is getting worse.

How are you? How long is it until you start your next cycle?

Clinic have been very kind too and supportive. I'll have a Dr follow up and plan later, I've just said I'll get in touch in a few weeks or whenever I know this is over / on the way to being over physically x

@Jx3303 it’s so heartbreaking, just do whatever you need to over the next few days and weeks to look after yourself and put you and your OH first.

Glad work & the clinic are both being good/thoughtful

I just started AF so first injection on Friday. Feeling nervous after last round but trying not to stress/over think which for me is easier said than done. Still haven’t told work or anyone bar my sister so making up excuses for things is getting hard. Taking it one day at a time is the plan xx

@LF82 I'm just so scared it's going to drag on and I'm going to end up needing surgery. I'm hoping now I've stopped progesterone but who knows 😞

Sending you all the luck and love for this cycle. I know it's hard not to worry after a cycle that didn't go well, but I am sure they will closely monitor you and I really hope you get some more embryos, and transfer. Are you aiming for fresh yes? Xx

@Jx3303 I have everything crossed for you that it doesn’t get to that stage for you.

I am but also know that my lining wasn’t great last time - drs words were it was starting to disintegrate by the day of egg collection - so also know it might not be the case. Trying to just go one day at a time but have sat and worked out potential dates of when things might happen earlier today as that really helps me x

@LF82 it's daunting when there's a transfer involved too, the cancelled cycle before we had our actual transfer my lining hadn't been good, along with everything else though that wasn't right. I really hope this cycle is a much more successful one for you. Day by day is the best way to approach it and yeah it's nice to have an idea of dates. I took comfort in knowing we had frozen and hoped as long as my lining was ok we'd get to transfer. The decision was out of our hands as everything is, and we waited until day of egg collection to find out what my lining was at before we knew if we could transfer. Everything is such a tense wait isn't it, this is no easy journey at any stage xx

@Jx3303 I truly think IVF and all it entails is one of the hardest journeys out there x

@LF82 sorry by me talking about lining I was trying to say one month of it not being good for me didn't mean that the next cycle it was the same, it was better. Hopefully your lining will be exactly how it needs to be for a transfer after collection x

It really really is x

@Jx3303 thank you…. Am reading up on tips to make your lining thick x

@Jx3303 sending you all my love, hopefully it won’t be long until you can try again

ivf is so cruel

@LF82 hope your lining is better this time, the lady that’s doing my acupuncture says heat is really helpful and drinking lots of water

update on me AF arrived today should of been Saturday just in time for tomorrow when I have a award evening with work in London, good job I have delayed my cycle until next time otherwise I would of had to take my injection with me lol. So even though I will have cramps to cope with gonna let my hair down and enjoy

hope everybody else is ok xx

@Crystal88 thank you ❤️

Sorry to hear AF has arrived in time for your event! Glad you can enjoy it and let your hair down though and not have to worry about taking medication with you.

@countrypunk do you have your date for next cycle?

@Foreverhoping33 how are you getting on? Xx

@Crystal88 enjoy the event & definitely let your hair down! Thanks for the hot water bottle tip x

@Jx3303 @LF82 i agree I really think ivf is one of the toughest journeys! Filled with ups and downs and at no time can you feel relaxed and sure of anything.

it sounds like you are doing well @Jx3303 and looking after yourself which is most important. About next steps I waited 2 week for miscarriage to occur naturally but nothing happened at all so in the end I went with the procedure which I now can fully recommend. It was booked in so quickly (I think in 2 days) on the nhs and I was fully asleep so felt nothing. I also had very little pain or bleeding afterwards. Something for you to consider. Sending love.

I don’t have much of an update. We are trying to do a natural fet this month so no injections, I just need to monitor for ovulation. I have my first scan on Monday which is really to measure lining and check it’s thick enough. I’m quite nervous as my last two cycles have been cancelled due to lining being too thin.

@LF82 if you find any good tips to help thicken lining I’m all ears! So far I am eating Brazil nuts and drinking pomegranate juice. Will add in a hot water bottle.

@Foreverhoping33 thank you for the love 💕 and I am sorry that this is likely bringing up awful memories for you ladies who have also very recently been through this 😞

I think that's our plan, we have another scan on the 30th and if nothing has happened naturally by then (or maybe a few days before) I think we'll need to go down the surgical route. All the options scare me with their own risks, particularly the chance of a perforated uterus. It's just something you don't ever imagine having to decide is it.

I am sending you all the luck and love for this FET. You've really been through it the last few months, and I really hope your lining is where it needs to be. Do you do OPKs at home and have many scans prior? My friend sent me some yoga poses a while back, I had a google of yoga poses to thicken uterine lining and there are some videos if you're into that sort of thing, I know not for everyone. I like Bettina Rae though xx

@Jx3303 I was also worried about a perforated uterus and scarring, but the surgeon was very reassuring when I questioned her about those things. I get it though - the risks exist. How are you today?

I'm just waiting for my next meeting with the doctor on 31 May. I'm mega hormonal, my period is on the way. Hoping I'll be able to do the next round on my next cycle in June.

@Crystal88 Enjoy your work do! 🥂

@Foreverhoping33 Thinking of you too and your FET this month.

@LF82 Also thinking of you - first injection tomorrow? Exciting. I'm about 3 weeks behind - wish we were cycling at the same time!