FET March 2023

[Rainbowpeach]

Hi All,

Looking for others starting their FET cycle in March. This will be my 5th cycle (after 4 cycles last year). I did PGT-A testing this time and my embryos went down from 13 to 4. Hoping for success this time round and just wanted to go through the journey with others.

@Rainbowpeach i believe most of us going through these fertility treatments go through this roller coaster. Just this morning i woke up very early and was wondering so many what if''s but eventually pasted few sticky notes on my work table saying "iam pregnant" like a reminder and keep looking at it. Its my husband's bday this April and have been wanting to give him this good news for a couple of years now. Now this year i am really hoping to give this news as a gift.fingers crossed. More baby dust to you ,@zus And everyone going through this

Hello ladies, I have FET on 31st march and this is my first ivf cycle, I have endometriosis had tubes removed so my only way is ivf but I’m currently living in Spain and have a lovely clinic in Alicante. I am so nervous about transfer, so far my body has been good with all meds and had 22 eggs retrieved, 19 fertilised and 8 have been frozen. I have a 5AA which is being transferred first but I don’t think grading is really relevant, I have not done PGTA either I am like all of us ladies just praying it sticks!!!! 🤞🤞it’s so emotionally draining me more than the physical side lol 😂 I am trying to keep busy with work and focusing on being positive but also prepared for the worst as we got to be xx

@KKDec23 Aww that would be such a sweet gift for your husbands birthday. Fingers and toes crossed, test day is almost here. Do you feel like the days are dragging on soo slowly!

@Bookiebooboo welcome to the group and thank you for sharing your journey with us :) 8 frozen embryos is an amazing outcome, so so amazing. Also so good to have a clinic you trust and love, Ive had to move clinics in the past which wasn’t a pleasant experience. How are you preparing for your FET?

Hi @Rainbowpeach thanks for your reply 😊 i have been eating well and just keeping active like walking the dog in the nice sunny weather I honestly think that has also helped my moods lol 😂 I had a scan today on my lining and back next week for another scan and blood work to check my progesterone levels and then transfer day is 31st march I feel like it’s going to go really slow now and then another 2ww to wait for! That’s the thing with ivf it’s all the waiting and appointments etc. I wish everyone baby dust and hope everyone can stay positive even if it’s hard and its so nice to have forums to speak with people in the same situations, I chose not to tell any family or friends I’m doing ivf yet so it can feel lonely when you don’t have anyone to talk to when your feeling overwhelmed worried etc 🤞

@Rainbowpeach sorry to hear you had to move clinics i hope you have found a better one that treats you like a person and not a number or statistic and just wants your 💰 I hope you don’t mind me asking are you in the uk ?

@Rainbowpeach I totally understand your point hun, some of my friends used to tell me that oh I got pregnant accidentally! That irritate me more! Actually I'm happy for her but on the other side I'm thinking why I can't just have sex with my husband and then get pregnant rather than 100 million medicines, injections, mood swings also cost money!

At one point of time I thought I will never be able to get pregnant and I have to look for surrogate etc ... I'm with you! Don't worry. You will reach there for sure! One day you will be with your little one and be proud of yourself.

All the best hun x

@KKDec23 aww I really wish that your husband will get the best news on his birthday! All the best 💗

@Bookiebooboo oh I know the pain!! Only my husband, his aunt and my best friend knows about my ivf. None of my family, his side family or friends knows about it as I don't want to share it with anyone. In our family circle, couple get married, then get pregnant naturally that's the format haha 🤣 only me in that family struggling so I don't want to tell them about IVF. I always tell them like I'm developing my career so taking a break etc.. but on the other hand I will be on treatment. It's hard! I'm also thankful that we have this forum and we can share our feeling.

By mid of April we will all know about our results! Can't wait 😀 X but definitely nervous

Hi @Zus i know it’s so difficult to hide the treatment from people and my work!! I feel bad for not telling them but I believe it’s my private life and it already makes you feel different and a failure 😞 so I decided it’s best not to tell anyone so if it fails I don’t have to put on a fake smile everyday knowing people know about it, me and my husband have agreed to give it 3 attempts for now as that’s all we can afford, I am 38 in July so time is ticking and not on my side, I don’t think people consider how sensitive it is going through infertility and family can be the worst people to make you feel that the need to give them grandchildren nieces nephews etc! I have an auntie who keeps asking when I’m having children and I like you say I’m focusing on new life in Spain etc as I only moved last January! I feel like saying mind ya own!!! Lol 😂

I had a frozen transfer on 9 March, currently in the TWW (2 week wait). I am testing though… have had daily negative tests since day 5. I know they say don’t test but you also find people online with positive tests anywhere from day 2 to day 10. Arguably feeling a bit hopeless (hence why they tell you not to test).

egg status: everything is in Prague (was cheaper to go private). 5 remaining 5 day blastocysts on ice. 3 out of the 5 are so/so at best so I’ve got 2 more ‘good’ quality.

it’s hard doing it abroad. No personalised care- like if I was here in England would the clinic be giving me blood tests to make sure my progesterone is high enough in case they need to change the meds? I just feel thrown to the wolves. This clinic tried to play off my OHSS (which killed my fresh transfer back in Jan) and only after having hauled my self in 3 times did they acknowledge I may need to be hospitalised. I left the country (and my eggs) the next day and rode it out in England. So going back to get the transfer was an equally unpleasant experience (they wouldn’t let my partner be involved at all. I could record anything. Basically forced to get ‘pregnant’ alone.

so the idea having this transfer be a failure is gutting for a number of reasons. Additional additional context a friend of mine had a 5 day blasto transferred 2 days before me. She tested on day 10 with very strong positive on the test. I’ve tested today (day 9) and still negative.

any have experience with negatives tests and eventually getting a positive? My ‘intuition’ says not pregnant but I’ve never been pregnant so technically I wouldn’t really know in that sense.

help ☹

@Bookiebooboo hola! Yes I am in the UK. That’s good you have been eating better and doing exercise, I on the other hand I’m extremely paranoid and just worried about going anywhere. Also I’ve been eating really well but this evening I had abit of a panic and my usual coping mechanism is to eat Junk food which I did and now I am in total regret.

@zus hahaha 100 million medicines, I know right lol. Girl I totally understand the point about feeling like you can never get pregnant, I decided that if I don’t get pregnant by end of this year I will use a surrogate because this is just exhausting. Gosh I am soooo tempted to test, I was thinking of buying a test tomorrow but it’s literally only 2 days past Transfer 😂.

@LadyTato welcome to the group and thanks for sharing! Oh gosh that must be quite stressful especially after seeing your friends test go positive. Hope is not all gone so unfortunately you just have to wait till your official test date. When is that?

Lol @Rainbowpeach don’t worry I did the same, had to get some Cadbury cream eggs and also had a big curry from the Indian last night lol 😂 I felt like a walrus afterwards 🤣🤣 but we are allowed to indulge now and again so don’t feel bad!!! I wish you all the baby dust girl 👧 ☘️☘️☘️

Thanks for the kind reply. It’s day 10. Still testing negative. I feel very not pregnant. But official test date is Thursday. I just can’t find anything on here or on Reddit or people with early negative tests that become positive. Hence why I don’t necessarily think it’s ‘early days’ but rather it just didn’t work.

@LadyTato did you use the 6 days early test? Think you shouldn’t give up till Thursday. You never know, this is why they tell us not to test cause it will just cause anxiety, but I soo understand how you feel and why you are testing. I’m only on day 3 post transfer and I am itching sooo much to test, I know it will be negative but I struggling to be rational.

@Bookiebooboo haha at Walrus, that’s literally me right now, rolling on the bed 🤣

@LadyTato Hi, thank you for sharing your story. I can feel the stress! I know it must be hard but I would also suggest you to wait until your test date. All the best ❤️

@Rainbowpeach Hey Hun, don't worry about the food, just enjoy! I don't think I will wait for more than 7 days haha 😆 but it's always good to take the test on the actual test date! But I know I won't do that! How are you feeling so far?

@Bookiebooboo oh yes! Aunties can be nightmare sometime 😆😆 I always says that I'm concentrating on my career lol 😂 it's hard but I also don't want to share it with them as if it's negative then I will have to hear many advise from them and it irritates me. Only ladies who goes through IVF will understand the real pain!

I really wish lots of baby dust to everyone ❤️❤️

@Zus I have ordered my test to arrive on Friday so I can test Saturday morning, lol although official test date is on Monday. So that would be day 9pt. I will try a lot to resist just walking to the shop to get a test 😂. The wait is just tooo much! What day are you testing?

@KKDec23 you came to my mind so early this morning. Did you end up testing or waiting for OTD tomorrow?

Thank you for thinking about me@Rainbowpeach . Iam waiting..lol😀fingers crossed

@KKDec23 good plan! Haha I might do the same, Il know closer to the time

@KKDec23 Oh I have crossed everything for you 🤞🤞 all the best ❤️

@Rainbowpeach I just had my scan today and luckily all looks good for the transfer. Only 1 thing is this time they gave me different type of progesterone. I have to insert through vaginally and via bottom as well 😆 it's sound so funny but I don't know how I'm going to do it! My god! I have to start progesterone from Thursday so all the best to me lol 🤣

From my experience, after my first FET transfer I have googled it and many ladies get positive test from day 4. I did test on day 5. I had negative, I was so devastated! I was prepared for the worse. Then I test again on day 6, I have seen a light pink line but I thought that could be false positive and I was so confused. I then test on day 7, I had strong 2 lines. I was over the moon! I was so happy but unfortunately I lost my son around 16 and half weeks!! Which I will never forget. This is why they advise us to wait and test on the actual test date. So we can avoid the unnecessary stress.

I did test on day 7 for my daughter and I saw 2 pink lines, again, I had a terrible pregnancy journey, went in ambulance at least 4 times or more! Finally I had my daughter who is 15 months old now. I really feel proud of myself for adjusting all the emotions. I just wanted to share this so you ladies can feel positive ❤️❤️ Be positive ❤️

This is my last embryo which I'm going to transfer on 28th Tuesday and I wil be testing on day 7. Will see how it goes. From today's scan I have seen my csection scare on my uterus so I may wait and test on the test day. Not sure, let's see how I feel that time.

I wish everyone all the best ❤️❤️

@Zus great news about the scan! So good. Lol regarding the progesterone 😅the Pessaries arent so bad if you have the little stick applicator, do you have that? I hated the one for the bum cause I found it hard to insert myself, not great angles! Lol

Aw I’m sorry about your son but super happy you got your daughter, you have been really blessed. Well I better confess now that 10 mins I ran out of my house and bought a pregnancy test 😅😅😂😂 the anxiety level was too high, it’s negative but it’s only day 4 post transfer so I am not going to panic yet. I don’t know what I was thinking! I just lost control I guess. I’m really hoping it’s negative because it’s day 4. Tempted to test everyday now, damn lol. That’s the problem with testing, once you start it’s quite hard to stop till OTD

@Rainbowpeach haha yes thank god I have the applicator! Let's see how I feel from Thursday haha 😂

Oh I can understand as I was also itching to test on my first transfer. I would advise you can start testing as you already did so continue that every morning until your test day. Don't get upset as I was upset and I had positive results on day 7. Some people get positive by day 10 so it's all depends on the time that your embryo implant in your uterus so stay positive ❤️

Yhank you @Zus. Good luck on your transfer the 28th Tuesday. Iam super nervous, anxious for tomo. Just keeping myself busy and not hinking about it much .@Rainbowpeach Good luck 👍
Progestrone rectally is uncomfortable i admit. Did them for my transfer. I couldnt take the oral progestrone. It caused severe dizziness for me , so the doc advised that i take them orally too

@Zus thanks girl! Just have to believe that HCG is not present yet, I can’t get upset yet, it’s literally just 4 days after transfer. This is why it’s best to wait! Cause now the anxiety has tripled lol, I would have to test everyday. Also hopefully you adjust well with the pessaries. One more week to your transfer :)

@KKDec23 good luck tomorrow! You are so good being able to wait. I’m on day 4 and already couldn’t help myself 😂

@KKDec23 oh tomorrow! All the very best hun x Thank you, I hope the transfer goes well next week.

@Rainbowpeach
Oh definitely! 4th day is too early. Results will be accurate after 11th day. I do get faint line on day 6/7.

All the best and think positive ❤️ all will be good and happy ending ❤️