IVF cycle November 2022

[HJen22]

Hi ladies

Just wondering if anyone is doing a cycle in November, looking for some cycle buddies.

I started stims yesterday, this is the 3rd cycle for us (2 NHS rounds where we didn't make it to transfer either time) and now we have signed up to a private a 3 cycle package with Create in Manchester. 3 egg collections and hopefully some embryo banking before and potential transfer. X

Hi @Cat89 i had a lovely Christmas thanks I hope you did too. Though I’m unfortunately back at work today.

mmmm I’m looking forward to the scan tomorrow just to find out more information. Unfortunately our scan isn’t until 4pm so have to struggle through most of the day.

I had achey boobs since I found out I was pregnant and then last week one day of nausea (I think Wednesday-Thursday) but since then I have had nothing and even the achey boobs have completely disappeared so feeling pretty nervous. I also came down with a horrible tummy bug over Christmas which I’m really hoping hasn’t affected anything!

I’m hoping clarity one way or another will be good. Trying to be super optimistic that it will all be good news!

Will keep my fingers crossed for the both of us! Let us know how yours goes!

xx

@Foreverhoping33 I really like your optimism, I think it should be an exciting time so thanks for replying and giving me some of your positive thinking ☺️. I think I'm learning that I have really be anxiety so should consult counseling after the scan, whichever way it goes. Good luck!! Xx

@Cat89 @Foreverhoping33 good luck for tomorrow

I have call with consultant Friday about trying again.

hoping she has answers for me of 22 days since testing negative I’ve bleed half of the time

I had 6 day period the day I tested negative, then 5 days off, then 4 day period and then I’ve been stopped 5 days and started spotting today

so not sure what’s going on

always been 28/30 day cycle so hoping she can shed a light on it

because if I can’t get my period in check I think they will delay me trying again 😬

@Crystal88 thanks for your message I hope the call with the consultant tomorrow goes well. I can imagine the frequent periods would be worrying.

@Cat89 how did your scan go?

mine was unfortunately not so great. They found the gestational sac and fetal pole but no heartbeat. Apparently it looks about 1 week behind which completely correlates to my pregnancy symptoms disappearing so I’m pretty sure the pregnancy has stopped progressing. Unfortunately they were not able to tell me 100% though so I am now booked in for another scan next week to find out.

Preparing myself for the worst though. I have had a cry and will try to start thinking about a new cycle. We have two embryos in the freezer so can try with one of them. And see the rest of the group in 2023! I will be so pleased when this sh*tty year ends!

Hopefully your scan was much better than mine! Xxx

@Foreverhoping33 I'm sorry you feel down after your scan today, but the fact that there was a gestational sac and fetal pole present is really good isn't it? I know you're a bit behind me on dates (I'm 7w1d), remember things change literally by the day with embryo development and sooo much can change in just 1 weeks time 🤞. What did the sonographer say, were they cautious or fairly neutral until they see next week's progress? I only ask because I know I'm terrible at putting my own spin on the interpretation, usually more pessimistic than what was said 🙂. I've barely had any symptoms the entire time and in fact saw faint pink when wiping yesterday so I ruled myself out, but symptoms don't necessarily correlate as you'll see from my update below. I know I'd be the same as you and air on the side of caution though for self protection, but please don't give up hope yet, I liked your positivity! 😘.

My scan today went well despite my low confidence going in. There was a gestational sac, fetal pole and they did see a heartbeat (but I am past 7wks..). I've had two natural pregnancies in the past 15mnths which both ended up ectopic (right fallopian tube both times, ended up having it surgically removed), so for me just seeing it in the uterus was already going to be a big milestone tbh! I've also got shitty irregular periods and mild endometriosis so another milestone was going to be seeing a sac & fetal pole as this suggests the body and hormones are working in sync and are capable of developing a fetus, something I've always been worried about! It's early days still but if anything did happen between now and Wk12, I feel reassured by these two things alone for future cycles if needed, it's still progress overall and all in the right direction 🙂. My advice after today would be to not worry about symptoms and try not analyze everything: my boobs stopped being tender very soon after the BFP and don't feel any different to normal, I've had no morning sickness whatsoever, I did have a big bloated belly but that disappeared about 4 days ago and now seems quite flat like something literally disappeared 🙈. I was shocked by my scan today as was absolutely convinced there couldn't be anything there if I don't feel much different. You really never know! Xx

@Crystal88 good luck for your consultation tomorrow. I know periods can be a bit erratic after all the hormones. I wonder if you could even have had a very very early pregnancy loss with the first bleed? 🤔 Let us know how it goes x

Sorry for the very long post!

@Cat89 im glad to hear your scan went well, hopefully it has helped to relieve some of your anxiety too.

thanks for your message about my scan, I will try and stay hopeful for next week but also want to be realistic and prepare for the worst so I’m not too devastated then.

I think the doctor wasn’t very positive about our outlook if I’m honest. Im normally a positive thinker and don’t get bad anxiety but pretty sure this time I know it’s done. Luckily my family know our situation and are very supportive and my husband is amazing so I am being well looked after.

@Foreverhoping33 I'm really sorry to read your update. I will of course keep everything crossed for you next week but I totally get that you want to manage your expectations after what the doctor said. I really hope you're OK. I hope it's a comfort to know that you can get pregnant. Lots of love.

@Cat89 Congratulations on your scan. It must have been so wonderful, especially after your ectopics. Lots of love to you too!

@Crystal88 Thinking of you tomorrow for your consultation. I felt a lot better knowing I had a plan in place and I hope you get some answers about your bleeds. Love ♥️

@Foreverhoping33 sorry to hear your update, I have been in your position earlier this year and while it didn’t end well for me the nurse at the time said that they do have cases where they scan again in a week and they are able to get a heartbeat, with it being so early at this point it can be difficult to get a good read on it. I hope that you have a positive outcome and saying a prayer for you 💕

Just had consultation she said the bleeds could be due to hormones still stabilising

she said I need to wait until I am regular and then I can try again, although I was keen to start again, I will just have to wait for my body to recover

so I need to give myself time xx

@Crystal88 thinking of you, so hard when they say rest & recover

@Foreverhoping33 I hope you have a positive outcome, sending you lots of best wishes

@Cat89 so pleased it’s going well

hope everyone else is doing ok. I had a very quiet Christmas & only had a few drinks, made up with it with the eating though. We have our appointment with the nurse about meds in a few weeks and then hoping to start my first round of treatment towards the end of Jan- trying to be positive and realistic all at the same time

I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas. I for one find the festivities a little difficult and am looking forward to 2022 being over and 2023 hopefully bringing us all happy times 🫶🏻

@Crystal88 sorry you've got to wait a bit until your body recovers, the waiting is hard so I hope it goes quickly and you have a plan really soon x

@Cat89 lovely news, congrats and great to hear all is looking good. Hope you are keeping well x

@Foreverhoping33 I really hope your next scan comes with good news and a positive outcome, I'm so sorry you're going through such a hard unknown and yet another wait. Sending love and thinking of you x

@LF82 that's great news! I hope you are feeling ok about it all. Where did you decide to go?

AF came for me today, we have our nurses call next week just to go over medication, any changes to first cycle etc and then we'll be starting next cycle, likely be down in Manchester again just before the end of January. I want time to just hurry up now. Kinda wished we'd just had the one month break but I knew this time of year wasn't ideal with the time away from home involved. So I'm wishing the days away! Xx

@HJen22 We are starting with Create too in Manchester so might see you in the waiting room! Think it will be last week of Jan. I know what you mean about next few weeks feeling like the longest ever. X

@LF82 aw amazing I thought that, I remember you were looking into there. All of the Drs and nurses and my patient coordinator are lovely, I cannot fault them so far. Any questions just ask 🥰

@HJen22 thank you! I am more than likely to take you up on that offer after the nurse appointment about all the meds …. So not looking forward to injections x

Hi All,

Sorry I'm a little late in joining. I didn't really know how to use mumsnet and naively thought I could do this on my own.

Long story, long -
My husband has CF, we always knew we would go down the IVF route. We started our journey in 2017, only to be told my bmi is far to high. Fast forward to 2020/21 and I lost over 4st, bmi was still too high, so we decided to go private (Northern Ireland). My thyroid is underactive, I had no rubella immunity, got married, had a trip to Australia in the summer. Came home and straight into treatment. I overstimulated with my meds, thankfully OHSS stayed away, I had a freeze all and had 9 embabies (5A, 1B, 2C day five and 1D day 6). I had my transfer at the end of November, tested positive on day 9, 10, 11, and OTD. Had the nausea, the sore boobs, the tiredness, the aversion to food, the bloating, the tears and mood swings.
Que the 7 week scan yesterday and embryo 1 is measuring 5+2. The nurse/deputy nurse said nothing during the scan, finally told me they could let see what they were looking for. Kept asking if I was cramping or bled which I didn't and still haven't. They called in the Dr who finally turned the screen, showed what I assumed is the sac, yolk and pole (?), said its measuring 5+2 instead of 7, said its looking to be an unviable pregnancy as there is no heartbeat (if its only 5 weeks, there wouldnt be though? Or am i just really hoping its a slow developing grade A?) BUT keep taking the prognova x 3 a day and cylogest pessaries x 3 a day and come back in a week.

I feel like I'm in limbo, I feel sick, my heart hurts and I'm expecting this be rush of blood, this significant clear sign its over. But right now there's no blood, just brown discharge and that's only if I really go looking. There's no pain, just nausea, tiredness and sore boobs..

I've pretty much resigned myself to the fact this hasn't worked first time, but I just need someone to cry with and talk to. I feel so lost with no explanation and I don't think the clinic will give me one if I phone.

Sorry if that's all too much, I just needed to write it all down.

X

@Laurenhuh I'm so sorry for the difficult time you are going through. I really hope that the next scan gives you some answers, a positive outcome 💕 the last few days must have been so tough, limbo is one of the worst parts of this journey isn't it, feels like a place we are always in. Sending love x

Happy New Year girls, I hope everyone had a nice time over the holidays. Wishing everyone love and hope and strength, 2023 will be our year 🤞🏻 xxx

@Laurenhuh so sorry you are going through this, I hope the clinic can help answer your questions at the least. Sending you positive thoughts x

happy new year to everyone by the way - fingers crossed this is our year x

@Laurenhuh @Foreverhoping33
Thinking of you both for this week. When are your next scans booked in for? It just shows how much of a rollercoaster the IVF journey can be 😔.

@Crystal88 glad you had your consultation. I know if must feel frustrating having to wait a bit longer, but it will be worth the extra time when your body is ready and in it's best form to start again.

Starting back at work this week uugh. I was very happy to say goodbye to 2022 though, bring on a successful 2023 for all of us! 💪

@HJen22 @LF82 @Cat89 thank you for your thoughts 💜 it's been a rocky few days. I had a light bled and mild cramps during the night, but nothing else since. I phoned my clinic and they won't see me until my scan. Thankfully its on Thursday, but I'm not hopeful it'll be good news. At least I've stopped crying, kinda! Lol

I hope you all have an amazing New Year and we all get what we wish for 💜

Hi @Cat89 thanks for your message. My scan is tomorrow morning. I am trying to be hopeful for it but think I have also come to terms with the worst (not that there won’t be more tears).

I am actually off on holiday tomorrow evening for 10 days (which is why my scan is just less than a week, when a week is normally the minimum time they do another scan in). Can’t decide if holiday is well timed for not tbh, as not working will definitely be nice but it will probably add complications for miscarriage.

I am interested to understand if anyone else has had a missed miscarriage before and if so what next steps did you take? (I think there are three: leave it for body to respond, take a pill to help or have an operation). My friend had the operation and has recommended that but as I’m away for 10 days I wonder if that’s too long and instead may need to take the pill.

Has anyone else taken this and if so do you have any opinions about it? Was it particularly painful would it completely ruin my holiday (aside from how much the miscarriage will anyways).

Im currently still on progesterone, adviced till scan tomorrow, and have had no spotting whatsoever so other option is to try and continue that until I get back then have operation. But this then further delays things and Im very eager to get started on a new cycle. Any advice much appreciated!

@Foreverhoping33 hope today went well xx

Hi @Crystal88 unfortunately it was bad news for me. I feel alright though as was expecting it.
hopefully I will see some of you when I start my next cycle (or hopefully you will all get positives as be ahead of me!) xx

@Foreverhoping33 so sorry to hear that … hope you are ok x

@Foreverhoping33 I'm so sorry. Sending lots of love and hugs. Be kind to yourself and I hope the days off you have help and give you a little breathing space xxx

@Foreverhoping33 I'm so sorry love. I'm sad we can't continue our journey together this time, but I feel a lot of positive energy from you and am sure that 2023 will be your year too! I'm just sorry you're having to go through this first.
My situation was slightly different previously but I was forced a medical termination for my ectopics. The first time I chose medication which was easy but I needed to go to clinic twice to monitor HCG . The second was surgery but they won't be comparable because I had to have fallopian tube removed. Anyhow, having been there before I'm sending big hugs and want to reassure you the future is still very hopeful despite how crappy the situation feels right now xxx