IVF cycle November 2022

[HJen22]

Hi ladies

Just wondering if anyone is doing a cycle in November, looking for some cycle buddies.

I started stims yesterday, this is the 3rd cycle for us (2 NHS rounds where we didn't make it to transfer either time) and now we have signed up to a private a 3 cycle package with Create in Manchester. 3 egg collections and hopefully some embryo banking before and potential transfer. X

@countrypunk Thanks

i wish i knew why 4 didn't fertilise :(

But lets hope the 2 are strong. Tomorrow will be hell not getting update. But there is nothing i can do. They are in best place and if it doesnt work then i will try again and hopefully they are give me advice on how to get more eggs to fertlise xx

@Crystal88 I know, the not knowing why things don't work is very frustrating. But all good thoughts for your two little embies.

Wishing everyone lots of luck with their embryos and to anyone still waiting on egg retrieval 💕 I went in this morning for egg retrieval and they got 20, though said some of those will not be mature enough. They also said that my partner's sample had lower numbers than our baseline tests (only 2 million plus poor motility) which is worrying, but they said they had enough to work with so keeping everything crossed! Keep reminding myself if only takes 1.

How is everyone else doing? Hope you're all surviving x

Hey there,

I had my ER yesterday and they got 7 eggs got the phone call today - two have fertilised and the other 5 have matures/maturing? my network was so bad I couldn’t hear

Sending you all the best wishes and hugs and I hope it goes well for you x

@Crystal88 I'm sorry to hear the number drop, but try and remember quality over quantity ❤️ hopefully they are strong wee embryos that continue to grow.

@Hopewishprayer congrats! A great number and really pleased for you that it's your best retrieval. Hope you are having a restful day x

@Nikster8012 it really does only take 1 💕 it's great that you got two, all the best for your update and i hope that you too are resting x

@Foreverhoping33 that sounds like a very positive scan and some great numbers and sizes there. Fingers crossed you get the go ahead for collection at next scan. The jabs do become a bit onerous don't they! Hopefully not much more left!

@countrypunk glad you are feeling better ❤️ it's totally normal for our emotions to be all over the place. We putting our minds and bodies through a lot!

@ohsohopeful wonderful news, I hope for a good update for you tomorrow 🤞🏻 they are very clever, amazing scientists and they will work their magic. It does only take one! Xx

Well the good news is I'll be having a very large drink at the weekend, but the bad news is neither of our embryos decided to stick around. Official test day today and it's a stark-white negative.
I've already cried on the doorstep to a delivery man bringing flowers from my sister, it's gonna be a long few days til my period comes I think. We're truly devastated, I really thought we got it this time, but just one of those things... Perfectly good embryos, but no implantation obviously this time.
We'll get a review with the clinic in a few weeks I imagine, but now what? I'm not sure, remortgage the house?! Selling the camper van was high in the list anyway. Or just quit. (I'm not quite ready for that yet).
Just one of those things we'll probably never know why. I've booked back with my PT tomorrow, so I'm gonna throw myself headlong into the gym as a distraction & maybe a bit of weightloss might help too.
All the best with your journeys, I'll be following you and cheering you on from a distance, but perhaps need to give myself a rest from the forums for a bit.
Much love & luck
Xxx

@CNizzle I’m so sorry to hear you got a bfn. It feels so unfair when there is no rhyme or reason for any of it, this really is a journey we are battling through!
Please be kind to yourself over the next couple of days! A drink on the weekend sounds nice. I’m sure we will still be here if and when you feel ready to come back to the forums. Sending lots of love and best wishes. Xxxxx

@CNizzle I'm so bloody sorry. This process can be so harsh - the disappointments and the not knowing why things go wrong. Definitely enjoy a boozy drink (or 5) at the weekend, and lots of distractions sounds good, especially things that are purely for you.
Sending lots of love. Take care of yourself. xxx

@CNizzle I'm so so sorry. This process is so unfair. Definitely enjoy those drinks and do all the things that might help you to deal with sadly not the outcome wished for. Don't force yourself to do anything you don't want to do, be kind to yourself and put you first. Completely understand questioning and wanting to take a break from forums, ivf, everything. Take each day as it comes. Let the tears out x sending lots of love and hugs, take care of yourself and each other xxx

@CNizzle I'm so sorry. This is such a difficult process to go through anyway, so to not get the hoped for outcome is just devastating. Sending you lots of love and I hope you enjoy several large drinks. Take care x

@CNizzle sorry to hear your update, it is so unfair and difficult to comprehend when there is no rhyme nor reason to it. Look after yourself and take it a day at a time ❤️

@CNizzle I'm so sorry to read that. Enjoy a few drinks & whatever else makes you happy, do what is right for you. It's so hard isn't it knowing where the money will come from, we got a multi cycle package from Access fertility & they do different packages depending on the clinic but it maybe worth having a look I know it's till expensive. Sending love to you 💔❤️ xx

@CNizzle I’m so sorry to hear your bad news, hopefully your follow up appointment will give you answers you need xx

@HJen22 how everything going with you xx

@ohsohopeful hoping they came back with good news on your ER xx

@countrypunk are you feeling more positive now xx

everyone else how are you doing xx

Thanks @Crystal88 It was good news, 17 we're mature and 12 fertilised overnight. Trying to manage my own expectations and remind myself that there's still a long way to go before we get to Sunday. The waiting is really tough isn't it?!

Have you had your day 3 update? Really hoping all good news for you.

Hope everyone else is doing ok too 💕

@ohsohopeful thats great numbers, well done

waiting game is tough

I have my day 3 update today and not feeling very positive as I only had 2 fertilised. What will be will be I can’t do anything about it xx

@Crystal88 good luck with it. Last time I only had 1 fertilise so I know what it's like waiting for the call. I ended up with a day 3 transfer unfortunately ended in a BFN. Got everything crossed for you.

@ohsohopeful hope you aren't feeling too sore after getting those eggies out!

@Crystal88 on a previous round I had 2 fertilised and one my day 3 update it was good news, 1 text book embryo was transferred and then hat resulted in a pregnancy. Sadly I had a MMC at 9 weeks but I wanted to share this with you because it can be done with low numbers
@ohsohopeful thats fantastic numbers! Well done you. I am same timelines as you as day 5 for me is Sunday too.
I had 8 retrieved and all 8 mature (my best round yet!) and 5 fertilised my clinic are going to call with day 3 update tomorrow, the wait during these few days is absolute torture, I find it really difficult, more so than the 2WW!

@Hopewishprayer thank for sharing that, much needed positive vibes. Good luck with your call today

@Reefy thank you too for sharing

just waiting for the phone to ring today will be torture

but i cant do anything what will be will be

thanks all again for positive vibes xx

@Crystal88 I'm feeling OK 🙂 I'm trying not to obsessively google every symptom/lack of symptom, and mostly failing. Can't believe it's only day 3 of 2WW...

I have all fingers and toes crossed for your call today. Xx

@Hopewishprayer The wait between calls is hard isn't it. Distractions are good. I find I haven't got the concentration for reading just now so I'm doing sudoku and jigsaw puzzles instead. And brisk walks in the fresh air (pelting rain yesterday) help.

@ohsohopeful Wonderful news! ♥️

@Crystal88 hopefully they call you nice and early , my clinic said “we call you after 9 because we don’t want to wake you”…. Eh like I’m sleeping anyway! 😂 I said “call me as early as you like you definitely will not be waking me up”
@countrypunk yes just got to keep busy and before you know it OTD will be here 🤞🏻I’m distracting myself with work, I’m still pretty sore from EC so walking is out for me today, hopefully tomorrow I can get out a nice walk

@Crystal88 we had our day 5 update yesterday and our other two embryos were added to the freezer ❄️🥹 so shocked. I know we are incredibly lucky to have gotten 3 embryos from 4 eggs safely tucked away. A huge milestone for us given we've never ever made transfer (1 egg cycle 1, 0 eggs cycle 2). I can now breathe a huge sigh of relief, enjoy the rest of the year and go into next with some hope 💕

Sending you all the very best of luck for your day3 update today, stay strong. Remember quality over quantity. I completely know how hard it can be with a lower starting point. But hopefully they were super strong eggs that are growing nicely in embryos🤞🏻

@ohsohopeful that's great news! Congrats! The waiting is horrible, I hope Sunday comes round quick and they call early!

@Reefy how are you lovely?

@Hopewishprayer all the best for your day 3 call today! I really feel for all you ladies waiting for updates, it's the worst. I hope you have some lovely embryos. The embryologist said to me yesterday ok so that's the end of the cycle and there will be no more calls, I told her thank goodness, my heart couldn't take anymore!!

@countrypunk it must be so hard not to symptom spot! I hope you've some nice distractions over the weekend? Xx

@Hopewishprayer hopefully its early but it was gone 11 last time, don't think i could cope waiting that long again :(

@countrypunk thank you, google is everyone worse enemy lol

@HJen22 great news for you, i am so happy for you. Enjoy Christmas, have some you time and family time and start again on the adventure in 2023

what i have taken from this forum is all people that have had more than one cycle, that each cycle is different, so hopefully if it doesnt work this time. Next time hopefully IVF Clinic can try something different and hopefully learn what went wrong this time. Hopefully producing a better chance.

i am so glad for everyone on here being brave and sharing there experiences, it has made a very lonely experience and better one

thank you again everyone xx

@Crystal88 thank you so much ☺️ I really didn't enjoy Christmas last year so I hope I can make up for that.

It's really hard going into IVF. For so many it does work first time, but for so many it doesn't. We all want to stay positive but go in cautious and the journey really is a tough one. You're right, each cycle is different, there are new things to try, I think we all go through some really dark days where we question everything. I have had so so many of those days. If your clinic offers counselling I cannot recommend that enough. I have spoken to mine since September last year and it's really good to off load with someone impartial. Family are invested too so some things I feel I can't say to them; as I don't want to upset or worry them.

But please don't write off this cycle just yet 💕