Medicated FET what day was your transfer?

[Happycrocodile]

Hi everyone,

Embarking on another round of IVF and I’m having a FET next Tuesday. I went for a lining scan on CD8 and it was 6.1mm so returned yesterday CD11 and lining was above 7mm. I’m to start the dreaded progesterone pessaries on Thursday CD14 this week and my transfer is now booked for next Tuesday CD19.

Is this very late for a transfer? I’m getting myself all worried that it’s late and it’s going to impact the result of this cycle but being medicated does it not make a difference? Can anyone put my mind at ease?!

Many thanks!

Fair enough @EasterBunny7 I think I'd also want to be out of there after three hours! Glad it's stopped again.

No haven't told anyone but my parents and a very close friend who knew about ivf. No one else knows we went through ivf so won't be telling anyone until we've cleared the three months mark.. maybe I'll even hold out until around 20 weeks if I can! Not planning to tell work for a good while either if I can avoid it.

@flowersinmay I would have loved it if I could keep it quiet for longer with work but couldn't attend all my appointments without letting my manager know. How did you manage without telling your workplace?

I go between wanting to tell everyone so they can understand why I've been noncommittal about making plans for the near future but also at the same time, I feel protective of the pregnancy and don't want to have a lot of attention on it, in case things take a turn for the worse.

How are you feeling this week?

@EasterBunny7 I work from home most days and my appointments were all quite close by so I could just block my diary and go to the appointment without work noticing luckily! I wouldn't have been able to get away with it before Covid though.
Whenever I want to tell anyone I also imagine having to tell them bad news which is enough for me to keep my mouth shut at the moment.
I'm feeling ok today thanks! My stomach is a proper balloon in the evening - so much bloat! Can't wait until there's an actual bump! Still doesn't quite feel real, don't think it will for a good few weeks! X

How are all you ladies? @EasterBunny7 @Hopefull1981

@Gracie2021 best of luck for your transfer tomorrow!

I have had awful back pain today, I googled it and it can be pregnancy related. I don't know if it is, but I think I've pulled a muscle so I've basically been flat out on the sofa all day! Tried to do a few yoga stretches but have mainly been lying down! Yesterday I was exhausted so managed a walk to the shop and then watch Netflix all day, feel like I've wasted my whole weekend but I guess that's life and I've just got to enjoy still being pregnant! Hope you're all doing ok! X

@flowersinmay I am good thanks. Trying to keep busy (currently clean the patio). I still feel pregnant if that makes sense. My boobs are sore and my tests are getting darker. It’s gonna be a long wait until Thursday.
A nice chilled weekend for you and bean is exactly what’s called for. Hope the back gets better.

The very best of luck tomorrow@Gracie2021

Hope you are good @EasterBunny7

i have attached my tests 😂😂😂 using the internet cheapies now. Anyone else that use them are yours like these? Ignore the DPO no
idea why that’s there.

@Hopefull1981 those are proper dye stealers! Glad those and your symptoms are helping reassure you. Really hope the week goes quickly. Will you have much to distract you til Thursday?

@flowersinmay I was complaining about how lazy I felt on progesterone and someone reminded me being tired isnt lazy, it's our body telling us it needs rest. So you're not being lazy, you're just taking care of yourself and giving you body exactly the loving care it needs right now.

@EasterBunny7 so sorry you had such a fright on Friday. Did you go back for the scan today? Hope things have settled down for you! Re telling work, I had to tell my manager in work for logistics and just keep things vague and if they ask how things are going my answer is "ticking over" "day by day" or some other generality that says nothing. Lately when our transfer was cancelled I just say really badly and I was sorry but preferred not to discuss as I rarely have good news and it's just very raw. Haven't asked since.... if things go well tomorrow, will only tell work at 3 months. Will aim to get to 8 weeks before telling my family but that's a hard one with Covid isolation plus they mind our dog on app days... Have 3 people who know we're doing a transfer and that's it....

Thanks for the good luck ladies, haven't been able to think about anything else all day. On holidays from work this week and it might be the worst thing ever as I'll have no distractions.... just want the morning to get here now and to know our embryo is safely thawed and transferred so I can commence worrying about the next phase...

@Gracie2021 good luck tomorrow!

@flowersinmay I'm doing ok. I haven't had increased bleeding again, just the usual spotting. I read online yesterday that a TV personality had two miscarriages at 12 weeks, which has knocked some of the joy of seeing the heartbeat at under 7 weeks. Anything could happen really.

@Gracie2021 I hadn't accepted the scan for today, the Dr offered and then retracted, saying that I should monitor the bleeding for a week. It wasn't a great EPU. Dr thought I had OHSS without even asking me whether I had taken follicle stimulating hormones. A very basic level of understanding of IVF.

I just cling to statistics all the time @EasterBunny7 and statistically every week gets you into better and better numbers and heartbeat is a great milestone. Glad the spotting is easing a bit. Not surprised at the lack of knowledge of IVF, tbh I've found that I understand more of some of the stuff than our nurses just from the level of obsessive studying you tend to do on the subject. Do you have options to attend a different EPU or are you tied to that one?

Transfer is done and for the first time ever I am PUPO. Embryologist was thrilled with our blast, said it thawed at100% and re expended really well. Attached my little embaby 😍😍 transfer went really smoothly and headed home for a quiet afternoon on the couch and an evening walk. However this goes feeling really lucky to be in with a chance at last!

@Gracie2021 Yey!!!!! I'm so pleased for you, so glad it's finally happened! Congrats on being PUPO! It's a beautiful embryo if ever ive seen one!

@EasterBunny7 I also saw same celebrity news in the paper and it also made me anxious! The worry never ends does it!

@Hopefull1981 these look very similar to my lines actually! I think you're still in the game!🤞💪

@Gracie2021 congrats on being PUPO. How are you feeling today?

How is everyone else? My scan is on Thursday, so far away at this stage (well, it feels that way). I am going to have my beta checked today, trying to manage my own expectations which I am trying to be realistic. I have no idea what it should be at this stage, so it seems a bit pointless.

So glad you're getting beta today. Can't imagine the anxiety but really really hope it helps assure that everything is going well. Are the lines still looking as lovely and dark too @Hopefull1981? Feeling really good here. Cramping yesterday and today but just trying to have a nice mix of taking it easy and plenty of gentle walks to keep the blood flowing. Think I'll start testing tomorrow just so I know if I have a false positive to start from todays buserilin injection. I don't think it's hcg injection but just in case.

Thanks a mil @flowersinmay I know I'm very biased but I genuinely thoughts how pretty when I saw it. So glad I asked for the picture. How are you feeling these days? How is the back pain and the tiredness? Do you have a scan coming soon?

Good to read everyone's updates, hope you're all doing ok?! Today I have mainly been lying flat on the sofa.. (third day!) the back pain has improved slightly but it's not gone away completely.. I've also been feeling tired and a bit nauseous. For work, I have managed to attend one meeting and write one email - I am feeling very lucky that I am currently working from home and that work is not busy as it's summer and people are off on holiday. I think I'd be phoning in sick otherwise!
I've kept myself busy listening to podcasts about early pregnancy and infertility, but also think I need to have a break this afternoon and listen to a true crime podcast or something - this topic does make you go a bit insane after a while. Think I might need a break mentally from it all! Next scan is 22 days away! (Can you tell I'm counting?). On the positive side, the internet tells me I'm 19% through my pregnancy which seems quite good going! X

@flowersinmay sorry to hear about your back? Did you figure out whether you pulled a muscle? Hoping you checked in with a GP?

One of the luxuries of working from home. Where you might be able to continue light work from home but would not have been able to make it into the office, and have to call in sick, which the company would have to incur sick expenses to still pay you for your sick leave.

20% sounds grand! How far along are you? Honestly, I get muddled with everyone's dates. Is that the dating scan for you in 22 days? Doesn't sound as long as when you state it as 3 weeks!

@Gracie2021 cramping are good signs of implantation! I was a bit more active this time in PUPO. I didn't take the whole 'do nothing' for 5 days as seriously and I think it was helpful for blood flow to the uterus. To be honest, most times it wasn't a conscious decision, I simply forgot!

@Hopefull1981 good luck with the beta bloods

Hi all,

@Hopefull1981 good luck today! Will be thinking of you! Sending love and positive vibes!

@EasterBunny7 @Gracie2021 hope you're both doing ok?

My back is a lot better now but I had my first bought of morning sickness today - had been feeling nauseous on and off but didn't think I'd actually vom! Turns out I was wrong. My poor other half has been cleaning up my mess and serving me in bed, I've just sent him out to the shops for crisps and ginger! I look absolutely dreadful in the mirror but ive got a bit more colour back versus earlier this morning!

I'm 7+5 today, I've read sickness peaks between week 8 and 10. 😬

Sending love to all you ladies on here xox

Wow @flowersinmay you poor thing it's all very real now. Great to have DH to hand for minding. Rest easy.

I've done between 12-15k steps every day since transfer on Monday @EasterBunny7 so safe to say I've kept things moving. Have tried to do nothing he at though and tbh have been so bloated and crampy that I've been very conscious bending. The waiting is SO hard! Wish I could fast forward. Woke up with a feeling of complete negativity and doom today but I suppose day to day the emotions will be different. How are you feeling and how is the spotting? Did you say you have a scan this week or is it next? Really hoping all is going well for you x

@Hopefull1981 everything crossed for a brilliant scan today!!

@flowersinmay I thought I got away without nausea/ morning sickness but if you only started at 7+5, I thought that too soon!

Glad your back is better... just in time to be sick!

@Gracie2021 that's amazing that you're keeping up your steps. I do admit I slowed down on the exercise front, whilst not being overly delicate. I've also had bouts of feeling very down and gloomy, and each time I've felt like it was a bad sign of something going wrong inside. I had to remind myself that I've always had sudden bouts of feeling low prior to pregnancy so why would it stop now? How many dp5dt are you now?

My update: yesterday at 7+3, I attended an appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic. I was under the assumption that I'm going for a blood test review. First of all, I turned up one hour early! But, they were pleased as I was probably the last one of the day and they could wrap up.

Turned out that I was going to have a scan and a consult with a Dr! I have come to appreciate how difficult it is to get even 5 minutes with a Dr these days. I've had to wait 5 months sometimes at my ivf clinic.

Anyways, embryo's heart was still beating, which was a relief but when I got into the consult, they told me that I have a subchorionic hematoma! I did not know what that was and told them that the ivf clinic only mentioned fluid in my uterus. Dr confirmed that there is a 18 ml pool of blood between the wall of my uterus and the embryo. This is why I have been spotting. She told me that they will monitor it, and I'm due back for another scan in 2 weeks. They considered changing my progesterone to injections but wouldn't prescribe it themselves because of the cost, I'm sure! I left feeling ok because I don't think I fully understood what it was that I had until I came home and read Dr Google!

Subchorionic hematoma are more likely with IVF and especially so with frozen transfers. Lucky old me.

@EasterBunny7 ahh I'm so sorry to hear that! At least it's been diagnosed early and they can keep a careful eye on you now - and explains the bleeding! So happy you have a heart beat! Sounds like you'll need to go careful and make sure you're resting as much as you can! It's crazy how many things you learn about in pregnancy - id never heard of subchronic hematoma until now! Hope you rest up and take good care of yourself now! Must be reassuring to know you have another scan soonish.

@Gracie2021 wow that's a lot of steps, well done! I've barely moved from the sofa to the kitchen in the last week! Totally understand how hard the waiting is - and it doesn't get any easier even after a positive (sorry to say!). I'm glad you're looking after yourself, stay strong! There's so many ups and downs in this process. It's good your acknowledging them! Be kind to yourself. 💜

Xox

@EasterBunny7 that is so so amazing, delighted that all is relatively smooth. SCHs seem to be so so common with IVF. I've been lurking in the infertilitybabies forum on Reddit and it seems like every second person has one and they seem to resolve themselves as the baby grows so fingers crossed it only gets better from here. Are they telling you to take it easy or anything? Glad you get another scan in a couple weeks for reassurance.

Good that you're taking it easy @flowersinmay your body is telling you it needs rest so you gotta give it what it wants right now. Hopefully the nausea doesn't stay too long or get too persistent.

I have a bad back and lying around isn't great for it hence trying to just keep moving with low key walks and the high steps etc. but figure walking won't do any harm and I'm not doing anything too strenuous. 3dp5dt, still blank on the test this morning so hoping I might see a faint line tomorrow or Friday. What day did ye first see a line?

@Gracie2021 strangely they made no mention of modifying my activity levels whereas Dr Google says I must. I might have also mentioned I was planning a holiday abroad. Well, Dr Google says no travelling so I don't know what to do about that. The longer I leave it, the more expensive it will get.

Reassuring to know that it's common health condition and that people have overcome it.

I got my first positive at 4dp5dt. Fingers crossed for you!

@flowersinmay maybe I should take it easy? I had some active plans for the summer but I may need to rethink it now.

I'll be honest @EasterBunny7 I have a holiday planned in October and after seeing people talking about them on the forums I kind of had it in my head that we'd cancel if it turned out we had one, in the event of a positive in the first place that is... That said, they seem to range massively in severity and your own doctors know your scans and your individual circumstances so if they're happy for you to proceed, that might be the way to go either.

Pressure on for 4dp5dt tomorrow so. Not going to waste a FRER til I see something on the easy@homes though.

@Hopefull1981 how was your scan today?

Hey ladies apologies for delay. I have had a day. Sac has grown can see fetal pose measuring 6w and should be 7w. Had to go to the early pregnancy as they don’t know why my HCG had dramatically risen. (I do not think it has risen that much but I feel like they didn’t think it would last week so we’re surprised). So other than the sac they believed I the other embryo maybe somewhere.

The EPU is 2 mins walk from my clinic so off I went after the scan. I got there about 08.30. It was a disaster. The security guy didn’t know where to send even though I said the EPU. He sent me to outpatients, 20 mins queue and then they said no you need to go to admissions. Off I went there and to the ladies credit she was lovely. She said there was no referral and to get it emailed again. In the absence of that she brought me to a&e. They did a pregnancy test which was positive of course. This was about 9am, I was the only one in the waiting room and sat there until 10.30. They then sent me upstairs to the EPU which today doubled as many different clinics and it was packed.

I got seen at 14.40 and after all that need to go back next week. Now I don’t believe that’s a positive sign more the guidelines dictate it. I have what’s known as an interuterine pregnancy of unknown viability (IPUV)never heard that before.

I am ready for this to be all over now.

@EasterBunny7 a girl I follow on Instagram has that sub chronic haemotoma. She is 14 weeks now. Great you got to hear the heartbeat 😊😊😊

@Gracie2021 fingers crossed for the testing, really hope you get your BFP soon.

@flowersinmay I hope the morning sickness subsides soon. I never had it myself, heart burn killed me with my little one.

sorry for the long update…😊