IVF / FET March/April 2022 Thread 2

[AliceAbsolum]

Shiny new thread as we filled up the last one.

@LT103 the pause before FET seems sooooooooooo long I agree! Pretty sure that's actually the worst wait of them all.

This TWW is funny for me. I had such an absolutely ridiculous day yesterday - basically the most important day of this whole process - running around town, having to lift a heavy suitcase up a bunch of stairs (fixing a mess one of my coworkers had made), wearing leggings that were too tight, eating something that gave me stomach issues... and now I'm just like, well. That couldn't have gone worse. Nothing to stress about now really. Ask me again in three days, but right now I'm super zen about it all.
(Although uncomfortable because the progesterone is making me very gassy. That can't be ideal either can it.🤔)

@AliceAbsolum understand being cautious but so glad there is a little heartbeat there

@SamTTC you poor thing! Your coworkers sound very annoying. My DH came home today and was irritated that I'd hung clothes out on the line and lifted bags of glass recycling etc because he was there when the nurse told me not to do any heavy housework/lifting.
Should I knock it off I wonder? It's hard to know how to go about it and it's all new to me. I still have what feels like ovary pain and crushing fatigue.

@AliceAbsolum I'm so relieved for you! Hope you can relax somewhat now.

@SamTTC that sounds exhausting!

@Somatronic when is otd? I think my clinic said to avoid bending, I guess they are being super cautious though it all seems a bit silly sometimes as people are implanting every day unknowingly and they aren't resting etc I did get DH to hang the low clothes on the clothes horse/airer for me during the tww not that it did any good!

@AliceAbsolum that's great news!! What a relief. Did they give you any explanation for the spotting based on the scan?

@Herewegoagain881 No they didn't mention it. I read the report and there is no evidence of a hematoma currently, so that's good.
They couldn't figure out my dates though, she asked me what the conception date was, I told her the transfer date with a 5 day embryo, but she still put my Estimated Due Date 5 days later that it is :/
They properly rummaged around though for a good 5 min after looking at the pregnancy trying to find my ovaries. I just wanted to jump off the bed. I don't care about my bloody ovaries!

@Herewegoagain881 Feck! Bending was the one thing I thought I could do so I was bending away all day. Oh well. I also swept the floor which we all know is not allowed according to @AliceAbsolum 's clinic 😀

Seriously how do you avoid bending down ??? Bare minimum to put your shoes on 🤔

So sweeping floors or shoving a child! 😅

@Somatronic the guidance seems to be different depending on the clinic, I can't imagine it really makes much of a difference!

@AliceAbsolum that's great they didn't find anything worrying, I know what you mean about feeling uncomfortable about the overly long scan and wanting to get off the table, mine took ages and I felt the same (because the sac was so small she wasn't sure she actually found anything at first). Hopefully at least she put your mind at ease straight away by telling you about the heartbeat. I guess your sonographer may have been trying to rule out ectopic, even though how unlikely would that be given she saw two sacs in the right place! I suppose there is the very small possibility one of the embryos split and moved up to the ovaries so maybe she was just being extra cautious about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

@AliceAbsolum thats good news! Do you have a date for your next scan? Hope you're having a restful evening. X

Yeah who knows. I'll ask them to not do that next time.
Next scan is in 7 days. They said I'm under them now until 16 weeks. Which is great, I hate being in no man's land with clinics abroad.

@AliceAbsolum that's fantastic that you got to see the heartbeat - I completely get what you mean about not getting too excited though. And so good that you're under their care until 16 weeks: I'm now discharged from my clinic so have booked a private scan for 9 weeks.

Oh, and I did most of the things on your clinic's list of don'ts - not on purpose but a toddler doesn't understand the 2WW!

Hi Ladies sorry Mims net wouldn't let me load the chat yesterday and the I couldn't post today! Also works kicking my butt as the progesterone fog has lifted and I've realised how much I have to do! It really does affect you doesn't it.

Thanks @LT103 for the quick round up that helped. I'm in Limbo too 24th May for my next app. Full nee cycle for me.

@ginandtonicformeplease amazing news :)

@AliceAbsolum so pleased you was able to get a scan and seen the little heartbeat. Hoping the week until your next scan doesn't drag for you.
And great that your under them until 16 weeks now :)

Hope everyone else is doing well, I'll read through and catch up now x

Thanks ladies.

Mims net certainly is being a giant pia recently!

@AliceAbsolum i hate that you had some spotting but really relieved that your scan showed a little baby and a heartbeat. I had 2 spotting episodes with my son and then everything else was pretty smooth, so I’m hoping the same for you.

@ginandtonicformeplease Great news!!! it really is hard to follow the list when you have a toddler. I haven’t picked mine up since transfer day, but bent over a bit and more.

@Herewegoagain881 I’m glad your experience with EPU was much better and they have offered another scan.
My local EPU is Addenbrookes down in Cambridge and they make it well known that they are very busy and have more restrictive policies as far as seeing patients than many other hospitals.

Heavy red bleeding this morning :(

@AliceAbsolum so sorry to hear this, I hope that it will be ok, Are you going to go back to the hospital?

Sending lots of hugs and luck, keep us updated.

X

@AliceAbsolum easier said than done but try to stay calm. Are you able to contact clinic again and get back in? Could be off the scan yesterday maybe?

Oh Alice, fingers crossed for you.

Negative test for me this morning. Consultant is more gutted than we were, which made me more upset tbh. My boss has given me the day off. I don’t know how I feel. Disappointed. Relieved I don’t have to take the progesterone any more. Relieved I don’t have the worry of pregnancy (due to my work I know everything and I mean everything that can go wrong and I was aware I would probably be a mess for the first 20 weeks). Sad because it means we probably won’t ever be parents. Ashamed because it means I can’t do it. Stupid because I should have pushed harder to do this sooner when we were younger but you can’t make someone ready for marriage and kids when they’re not. Wish my husband was home just to be here.

@AliceAbsolum oh no, I'm so sorry. Did they talk to you yesterday about what to do if that happened? As others have said, it's really easy to say 'stay calm' but it might not be a sign of anything bad, I really hope you manage to get some answers from the clinic if you ring them.

@Iwouldlikesomecake I'm so sorry. That is absolutely gutting. Please please don't blame yourself - you don't know what would have happened if you'd tried to rush this, there are never any guarantees and it was absolutely the right decision to wait until you were ready. You did everything you could, and I really hope you will be able to see that at some point <3

@Iwouldlikesomecake I'm so sorry. Its good to acknowledge your feelings. It's overwhelmingly sad that this is our reality but its not a reflection on us as women and trying earlier might not have changed anything. Take some time to feel and to process. Lots of love. X

@AliceAbsolum I am so sorry to hear that you are bleeding again. It so unfair after everything we've all gone through that this happens. I am sending loads of positive energy your way.

@Iwouldlikesomecake I am so sorry you had a negative test this morning. This process can be so cruel. I remember after my ectopic and then failed OE IVF cycle, being told I'd never have my own biological children and I had a lot of feelings that I honestly should have seen a therapist about. I hope you have someone to talk to. I'm glad you've been given the day off.

@AliceAbsolum I'm so sorry to hear this - you've been through so much already it's so unfair. Hoping everything is OK.

@Iwouldlikesomecake I'm so sorry about the BFN. All those emotions are normal and understandable. I really struggled with the idea that I'd left it too late and that this was all my fault but I spoke to a counsellor who really helped me through those feelings so if you haven't already done so that might be an option for you down the line. Wishing you the very best as you and your husband go through this.