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IVF / FET March/April 2022 Thread 2

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AliceAbsolum · 01/04/2022 11:02

Shiny new thread as we filled up the last one.

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lucymills1234 · 20/04/2022 12:43

Hi, could I join please? My history - 42, single, using donor sperm and my own eggs. Started IVF in 2020 and since then I've had 4 collections. I get a good number of eggs, a variable number of blasts which usually score quite well (AAs/ABs/BAs, some BBs) but so far, no success. I've had six transfers, 5 BFNs and 1 chemical.

I had my 7th transfer recently. I had a medicated FET for the first time, previous FETs have been natural. The transfer itself was a nightmare this time but they got the embryo in eventually. It was a 3BA when thawed but it took so long to do the transfer that by the time it went in it had progressed to a 5BA.

I'm 43 soon and really aware my time is running out. I've got 2 more frozen but lower grading and unsure whether another full round would make sense given that my egg quality appears to be poor.

I'm now 6dp5dt. Trying not to symptom spot or get my hopes up but failing at both. I've had so much crushing disappointment and hope it can be 7th time lucky for me because I've tried so so hard. But I know life doesn't work that way.

Will catch up with everyone's news :)

Steph2345 · 20/04/2022 13:20

@Autumn245 I did maccies breakfast after the EC! I was going out for dinner after the ET so didn’t risk eating twice as the transfer was in the middle of the afternoon and I had to wear a dress which wasn’t great with the progesterone bloat 😂😂 congrats on being PUPO! when is your test date?

@lucymills1234 welcome! I have everything crossed for this time! When is your test date? How do you find the TWW?

Steph2345 · 20/04/2022 13:22

@Somatronic ive just seen you have 4 Frosties!! That’s amazing!! Hopefully you won’t need them until the future 🤞

Yoga817 · 20/04/2022 13:24

Hi everyone!

I had my EC yesterday and was feeling pretty gritty so went to bed early. Slept through this morning and the clinic called to tell us out if the 11 eggs collected, all 11 were mature, and 7 were fertilised. It's quite daunting seeing the number reduce, but I do hope we get good news on Friday. I have started the progesterone pessaries today in preparation for a fresh transfer Sunday. Eek! Does 7 fertilised sound ok? I am 40, so trying not to expect too much. Xx

Autumn245 · 20/04/2022 14:02

@samTTC thanks! Yes it feels so strange, I came home and didn't really know what to do with myself so ended up sweeping the floor and folding the laundry 🙈 just getting on with the day like normal really.

@Somatronic thank you, I'm so pleased to have a few frosties. Congrats on your 4! That's fantastic 😊

@steph2345 we were meant to be having chicken burgers for dinner tonight but I said to hubby that I'd rather have a McDs burger and fries 😂 so we will save the burgers for another night. The progesterone bloat is 100% getting me too! I'm paranoid people at work will notice my belly.

OTD is 5th May which seem like such a longer wait than everyone else, 15 days after transfer. I don't think I'll hold out that long though!

@lucymills1234 Welcome to the group! You are so strong to have gone through 6 transfers on your own, fingers crossed number 7 is the lucky sticky embaby 🤞

@Yoga817 hope you feel alright after yesterday, it took me a day or 2 to feel normal again. 7 is fantastic! I had 5 fertilise out of 9 collected, so you have a great chance with that number x

ginandtonicformeplease · 20/04/2022 14:41

@lucymills1234 welcome! When is your OTD?

@Autumn245 is that 15dp5dt? That seems pretty excessive. I can't say I'd hold out!

I'm booked in for a scan with my clinic first thing tomorrow. The doctor didn't seem at all worried, which seems strange given my history of miscarriage. I've still got a dull ache over my belly.

@TommieNC Thinking of you Flowers

Autumn245 · 20/04/2022 14:46

@ginandtonicformeplease yes 15dp5dt! It's so long. I reckon I'll get to 30th April or 1st May and then test. Both me and hubby are off work that weekend so it would be better for me to test then incase of bad news.

It's good that your clinic aren't overly concerned. I'm hoping for the best for you tomorrow x

unCliche · 20/04/2022 15:25

Can't tag anyone as mumsnet is currently bugging out

Thanks Steph2345

Had my scan, not feeling super positive. What made things even worse was the nurse completely failed at taking my blood and my vein literally exploded blood everywhere - it was literally like my arm had been decapitated - and they managed to stain my jeans (for a second time this week! I'm done with having my jeans ruined!) I now have three follicles over 10mm. The remaining 21 or so are still small with seven under 6mm still, so I don't think I'll be getting any more than maybe 5 or 6. I'm ready for this process to be over tbh.

Yoga817 that sounds amazing! Your body really showed up for you! You must be pleased. I think 7 sounds wonderful - congrats! Hopefully you get a few blasts to freeze too.

lucymills1234 Hello! Sounds like you've really been through it. How are you feeling this cycle? Let's hope transfer 7 is where the magic happens!

Autumn254 Good luck with your TWW!! I really don't like the Cetrotide either but yesterday actually wasn't too bad. It did hurt but I tried pushing it in slowly like you said, and I didn't get as much of a reaction at the injection site as I did before. Can't wait to be done though.

Jampot36 I felt something today beyond my usual apathy - I actually cried, yay! I hope this pregnancy progresses without any issues! When is your first scan?

Herewegoagain881 · 20/04/2022 15:32

Welcome @lucymills1234 and congratulations to all the pupo's!

I hope your scans go well @TommieNC @ginandtonicformeplease thinking of you both Xxx

Re. Taboo around discussing miscarriages, I totally agree they should be discussed more so it's normalised, and then people probably wouldn't feel so alone when going through them themselves if they know others they know have gone through it too..I found my miscarriage so hard to discuss not because it's taboo but because it just brought the pain back to the surface, and I didn't want to feel that pain all the time. I was much better able to cope and recover from the loss by just having most people treat me normally because they didn't know, rather than regularly being asked if I was ok/shown sympathy. One of my managers knew about my pregnancy/miscarriage for risk management purposes and when I returned to work she was very sweet asking if I was ok/sympathetic look etc, but then I ended up in bits in the toilets for about an hour, whereas I'd happily been getting on with my day before that. That's just me though, I guess everyone has their own ways of coping. I've spoken about it since to some friends and some knew at the time

On another not, I'm absolutely exhausted, I nearly fell asleep multiple times while sitting upright at my computer! Haven't been sleeping well and it's definitely catching up with me!

Herewegoagain881 · 20/04/2022 15:32

Welcome @lucymills1234 and congratulations to all the pupo's!

I hope your scans go well @TommieNC @ginandtonicformeplease thinking of you both Xxx

Re. Taboo around discussing miscarriages, I totally agree they should be discussed more so it's normalised, and then people probably wouldn't feel so alone when going through them themselves if they know others they know have gone through it too..I found my miscarriage so hard to discuss not because it's taboo but because it just brought the pain back to the surface, and I didn't want to feel that pain all the time. I was much better able to cope and recover from the loss by just having most people treat me normally because they didn't know, rather than regularly being asked if I was ok/shown sympathy. One of my managers knew about my pregnancy/miscarriage for risk management purposes and when I returned to work she was very sweet asking if I was ok/sympathetic look etc, but then I ended up in bits in the toilets for about an hour, whereas I'd happily been getting on with my day before that. That's just me though, I guess everyone has their own ways of coping. I've spoken about it since to some friends and some knew at the time

On another not, I'm absolutely exhausted, I nearly fell asleep multiple times while sitting upright at my computer! Haven't been sleeping well and it's definitely catching up with me!

Iwouldlikesomecake · 20/04/2022 15:47

@Autumn245 my OTD is 14 days post 3 day transfer and it's the longest EVER. I am considering waiting till day 15 just cos it's then the weekend but I think my consultant will be ringing me saying 'what's the result??'

I've told my boss and a handful of people, I work in maternity and so they 'get it' at least. Not told any of our family at all. I think the people I've told will be ok and not say stupid things if it is a negative. We won't be doing this again. It's a lot of money for not good odds and I need to live my actual life not spend months in pain and sickness and limbo for an absolute pipe dream. That's not to say that I don't support others doing multiple rounds and if I was younger and in a different job I'd feel differently for myself but really this was our last and only go at it and I'm resigned to whatever happens really.

SamTTC · 20/04/2022 15:55

Losing my mind at Mumsnet today… gotta just type a note and copy/paste I guess

Yikes at the blood draw mishap @uncliche! That happened at one of my recent ones too. It’s wild how much just gushes out isn’t it?? Luckily mine just went on the floor. The nurse was so embarrassed!

@autumn245 wonder why the test day is so late! Have they said what to do if your af arrives before? I specifically asked because my af would naturally arrive in 5 days, and I just don’t completely trust the drugs to hold it back. They said they’ll move up my test date if that happens so that I don’t miss a cycle, which is a big relief.

Welcome @lucymills1234! What a journey you’ve been on. Really hoping this is the cycle for you.

@somatronic wow, 4 Frosties! That shoooould be enough…at least it’s very promising!

I planned to have another stationary day today but have ended up walking sooo much because of ridiculous reasons meaning I have to go all over the city. I usually walk a lot so hoping it’s a good thing for my body to basically just behave like normal, but I was really set on the idea of keeping as still as possible this time during the implantation window. That is just not happening!

SamTTC · 20/04/2022 15:56

*ridiculous work reasons, was what I meant 🙄

Herewegoagain881 · 20/04/2022 16:08

Welcome @lucymills1234 and congratulations to all the pupo's!

I hope your scans go well @TommieNC @ginandtonicformeplease thinking of you both Xxx

Re. Taboo around discussing miscarriages, I totally agree they should be discussed more so it's normalised, and then people probably wouldn't feel so alone when going through them themselves if they know others they know have gone through it too..I found my miscarriage so hard to discuss not because it's taboo but because it just brought the pain back to the surface, and I didn't want to feel that pain all the time. I was much better able to cope and recover from the loss by just having most people treat me normally because they didn't know, rather than regularly being asked if I was ok/shown sympathy. One of my managers knew about my pregnancy/miscarriage for risk management purposes and when I returned to work she was very sweet asking if I was ok/sympathetic look etc, but then I ended up in bits in the toilets for about an hour, whereas I'd happily been getting on with my day before that. That's just me though, I guess everyone has their own ways of coping. I've spoken about it since to some friends and some knew at the time

On another not, I'm absolutely exhausted, I nearly fell asleep multiple times while sitting upright at my computer! Haven't been sleeping well and it's definitely catching up with me!

Autumn245 · 20/04/2022 17:34

@Herewegoagain881 I know of a few family members that have suffered miscarriages but its never been discussed which is sad. It is nothing to be ashamed of and should be openly talked about. Less people would suffer alone if it was talked about more often, but I agree that sometimes people don't want the constant 'are you ok' questions and find it easier to work through the loss with just their partner.

@Iwouldlikesomecake not long to go now! Your right though, the consultant will probably phone you if you don't call them with the results. Your job sounds like a difficult one to do while going through IVF, I'm not sure I could be so strong seeing all the pregnant women and babies.

@SamTTC I'm glad I'm not the only one having issues with the website today. Always seems to happen after an update. I didn't ask tbh but they are phoning me next week to check in so I'll ask then. If this was a regular cycle then my period would be due on 4th May so testing on 5th doesn't seem like a bad idea, however EC was 4 or 5 days earlier than I would naturally ovulate so I may end up bleeding earlier if its not worked.

I've had a quiet day today but back to work tomorrow and walking 10+ miles 😕 nurses said just to go about my day as normal even if it means lots of exercise so I will do my best to not overthink what I'm doing.

@unCliche not good about your blood draw! I sometimes wonder if the nurses are as nervous as I am when getting blood. I felt very disappointed with my first stims scan as they didn't see as many follicles responding as what I had expected, but then at the 2nd scan I was told it was time to trigger and loads had caught up. Easier said than done but try not to worry too much, it's amazing how quickly the follicles can grow in the space of 2 or 3 days.

Iwouldlikesomecake · 20/04/2022 17:43

@Autumn245 it’s weird, people who I don’t like getting pregnant bothers me more than the mums at work! Like people I like, I can be happy for, but I can’t be happy for twats 🤣

My boss and my midwife friends have been great though. I’m allowed to wfh and they’re supportive. My boss was like ‘what are you going to do on Friday’ and I was like ‘….. dunno’. I guess it depends on the result and how I feel.

SamTTC · 20/04/2022 18:23

@Iwouldlikesomecake hahaha I think that’s probably how a lot of people ttc feel! 🤣
I don’t mind so much when people I don’t like get pregnant, I’m only sad when people get pregnant that I wanted to be pregnant at the same time as so our babies could be friends 🥲 like my neighbours. Twice a couple has moved in, had a baby, and moved out again while I was ttc. Maybe third times’s the charm 🤞

AliceAbsolum · 20/04/2022 18:37

@TommieNC how're you doing? Xx

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Jampot36 · 20/04/2022 18:56

@Autumn245 what is this macdonalds tradition? I wish I'd known!!! Can i do a belated 🤔

@Yoga817 thats a good number! I got 9 and only 2 fertilised so really strong chance

@unCliche well done on the feelings, they tend to be sneaky! 7 week scan is 9th may...feels like all we do is wait!

@lucymills1234 good luck!!!

Autumn245 · 20/04/2022 19:17

@Iwouldlikesomecake I'd definitely agree with you there, some announcements I've seen I've felt nothing but joy for that person and then some I'm crying my eyes out thinking why them and not me!

@Jampot36 I came across it on Instagram. It's like an old wives tale superstition kind of thing. Said to help the embryo implant but really it's just a good excuse to eat a McDonald's 😂

TommieNC · 20/04/2022 19:39

@SamTTC @Herewegoagain881 @AliceAbsolum @Autumn245 The sonographer in EPU said her main goal was to confirm if this was an ectopic or not. I've had an ectopic before and my betas have doubled appropriately this time so I was pretty sure it was in the right place.
I asked her about progression/size and she said she could see a sack and yolk and was pretty sure she saw the fetal pole. She said that everything looked about the right size for dates and she couldn't find a reason for the bleed/clot. I asked her about checking HCG and she said it was pointless and I just needed to wait a week and get another scan to see if it grew or not.
So now it's just a waiting game.

I hope everyone else is doing well, wherever you are in your journey.

SamTTC · 20/04/2022 20:05

@TommieNC that is tentatively good news, isn't it?? Although having to wait even longer with the uncertainty must be horrendous, I'm so sorry.

Herewegoagain881 · 20/04/2022 20:15

@TommieNC that's good news that she thinks she saw the fetal pole, hopefully the bleed wasn't anything serious, it happens so often in early pregnancy. The waiting game sucks, wishing you a speedy week and good news next week!

I've got my follow up scan Friday, but all they saw last time was a tiny gestational sac 2 weeks behind and I have absolutely no pregnancy symptoms so just waiting for confirmation of no growth. The week is dragging still though 😬 xxx

Steph2345 · 20/04/2022 20:19

@TommieNC Im pleased they saw you today. That’s sounding relatively positive. I’ve got everything crossed that you can see good growth in 2 weeks! And I hope it doesn’t feel like a lifetime you’re waiting 🤞

ginandtonicformeplease · 20/04/2022 22:10

@TommieNC That sounds like it's good news? How many weeks will you be next week?

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