IVF / FET March/April 2022 Thread 2

[AliceAbsolum]

Shiny new thread as we filled up the last one.

@PMAmostofthetime Feel for you, it's horrible to think something we did could effect our chances. But women have been hauling animals and children and wood and water for hundreds of thousands of years. It won't have had an impact.

@PMAmostofthetime Ive been pretty down today. Expected more as sperm is good and clinic did too.

I'm trying to reframe from
i only have 2 to
i have 2

Hoping they continue to grow. Its brought back a lot of memories.

@Jampot36 it is difficult and I totally understand how you feel, when we had the call to say ours had not made it to blasts I was devastated as Day 1 and Day 3 updates were so positive. I hope you get good news Thursday now- is that your next update?

Is this your first round? My OH said to me, we have to take this as a trial run and we will be more prepared for the next one.

I go from feeling positive about the 2 slow developers in me and dreaming to thinking it's already all over. It ok to be sad, angry and disappointed by the outcome but as @HJen22 said you will be ok.

@AliceAbsolum Thank you, I re-read my clinic aftercare notes and lifting is not mentioned after day 3. I'm going to see how I feel tomorrow and if it's still niggling at me I'll give them a call.

How is everyone else doing? X

@PMAmostofthetime yes Thursday is next update. It was a huge shock but must try to remain hopeful for our 2 remaining ones.
If it doesn't go further I'm wondering if they can test to see why low fertilisation.

Yes this round 1 for us, I know its not often that first cycles work but you dare to dream.

@Jampot36 I asked them when They called on day 3 if they thought the eggs that didn't develop were mature and they said they was when they checked the fertilisation the next day but they could have fertilised over night.

Worth asking- also ask what sperm was like? I'm guessing good as they didn't opt for ICSI. You could think of asking for ICSI next time based on this.

I was the same I started the cycle thinking this is it. I'm so glad I found this forum or I'd have thought it would never happen x

@jampot36 Definitely worth looking into icsi next time with those levels. It's such a trial and error process. 2 might make it to blast you never know!

I'm 8dp5dt today and decided to Google it, came across some serious line progression pics. I'm impressed with the lengths people go to (see Pic). Can totally see the appeal of testing every day. In for a penny in for a pound, really commit to the poas cause 😅

@AliceAbsolum are you considering testing? I'm only 6dp5dt and I am struggling with not doing a test today x

I am not. I've got 1 more day to wait. 10dp will tell me either way, so I'm holding out. But that's because I absolutely cannot deal with the uncertainty of early testing. Like when I did I thought I was obsessing before, jeshh it ramped up a whole level. Quite horrible memories looking back.
But some people commit and do it and it works for them. You gotta do what you gotta do to get through

@Agapanthus13 Hi I’m just about to do my first natural cycle. I’m having my baseline scan Friday which will be day 10 of my cycle. All I have been told so far is that I will then be testing for an LH surge, then I phone the clinic when that happens. But that’s all the information I have at the minute!

@AliceAbsolum
Not long for you now- how's the nausea I am trying my best not to test- I will only test in the mornings and i do my pessary at 7 so as long as I get past 7am i'm fine- I read too many positives that turned to CP's and I'm not up for dealing with that right now.

Anyone else off their food? Im eating but I'm not hungry at lunch time and in the evening I eat because that's when OH eats but I usually love a snack and that's just not been the case since ET I'm not sure if it's the progesterone- I assumed it would make me hungrier?

X

@LuckyNovember it did make me laugh the way she said hes a man so... 🤣 thanks for letting me know what you do... the coffee in bed sounds pretty wonderful

@PMAmostofthetime utrogestan has to be done vaginally. Last time i had cyclogest which can be done vaginally or rectally

@AliceAbsolum is your OTD tomorrow? How exciting! How much of your treatment did you have to stay in Cyprus?

@PMAmostofthetime Yeah it's pretty bad, got a very tasty slice of carrot cake this afternoon and could only manage half! That's unheard of
Progesterone does really muck with your digestive system though. Good you're still eating a little. Maybe eat what you really fancy little and often?

@Gigi89x it's Thurs morning, so just tomorrow to get through. We arrived 3 days before AF and fly back Thursday too, so a solid 31 days. You only need to be in Cyprus for 2 days for FET but we live in our converted van full time so we wanted a break from the UK weather and we work remotely so it worked out well.

@AliceAbsolum I can't believe how quickly that 31 days seem to have gone when I remember you guys flying out.

Living through my cycle the same time though it seems to have dragged for ages. Do you have anything nice planned for your last day in Cyprus?

@Steph2345 @TommieNC
how are you doing? Mad to think this time last week we were anxious about ET tomorrow. It feels like a month ago 😱

@FruitTwistFanta how are you doing?

@Greenisland101 did you have an update today?

@Iwouldlikesomecake good luck for ET Tomorrow

@Nutrinerd how you doing this week?

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@AliceAbsolum I've been trying to make sure I eat nuts for protein.
And some porridge or an oat bar in the morning. And then having a very light lunch and a bigger meal in the evening with OH as I just have what he has, he knows I need protein so he makes sure it's in there somewhere. It has to be something I really like though or I'll just pick at it.

For example I don't mind Quorn Spag Bol usually not my favourite but I couldn't even contemplate eating that this week.
I'm off chocolate as well.

I think it may also be all the fluids I'm drinking I'm having 3 litres of water 2 isotonic drinks and a glass of milk a day x

@PMAmostofthetime surviving, I bought a massive stash of FRERs when they were cheap on Amazon in case I found myself having to do serial ones if I broke early… suspect I will test a day earlier than clinic advised (8th rather than 9th) as my prescriptions run out that day, and if I’m going to need more I don’t want to be stressing about them arriving!

@AliceAbsolum I’ve been looking at those pictures too - some people are really committed, and I appreciate them sharing! I know that once I’ve started if it’s positive I’m going to obsess over it!

I’m nauseated and have been binge watching absolute trash on Netflix. Appreciate the suggestions made on here earlier! I’ve had Emily in Paris on in the background while I sort through old paperwork. As much as my brain can take - I put the sugar and (decaf) teabags in the fridge earlier and left the milk on the side, I’m not much use for anything complex at the moment!

@Agapanthus13 I’m still upset tbh, but sort of in the stage of trying to move on from that and remaining positive. How about you?? Have you heard from your clinic when your FET will begin? x My clinic only does medicated FET cycles, as they said they are just easier for them to control.
@PMAmostofthetime ringing the clinic was really hard, especially when the nurse said that she’s really sorry and asked me how I felt and that counselling is provided if necessary. You just try to stay strong and then someone is so kind to you and suddenly all you want to do is cry.

@SamTTC thank you x I’ve no idea when my FET would happen, apparently you have to wait up to 5 weeks for the appointment. If you’re into k-dramas, I recommend Our Beloved Summer - it’s amazing!! I’ve just finished watching Business Proposal yesterday and it was quite good! 😊

@HJen22 thank you x the call was quite upsetting but at least I felt like I closed that chapter and it’s time to move on and focus on the future and FET no. 1

@Jampot36 I’m keeping my fingers crossed Lovely! Although it must have been difficult hearing about the eggs that didn’t fertilise, you should try to stay positive as have two in the running and it only takes one! x

@PMAmostofthetime that's exactly what I thought reading @AliceAbsolum post: I can't believe that's already a month 😳 2WW clearly defies the laws of space and time 😵‍💫🤣

I'm on my way back to the real world now, and starting to think about it again... I swing from wildly optimistic, to being convinced it hasn't worked (still no symptoms! But last time I thought I did have and it hadn't worked), and practicing my reaction to another BFN 🤦🏻‍♀️ Will soon find out which one it will be... my blood test is Friday morning, I'll go straight to work after and receive the results a little bit before lunch 😬

I'm hoping that the freak out I had at bad fertilisation rates has been my breakdown for this cycle and whatever the news I'll be cool about it 😎

Courage to all who are still at stimms/EC/ET, I actually think the bit between EC and ET is harder than this, so you'll soon be in the downhill 😊

I think EVERY stage of waiting is harder than the next! I think the worst for me was the pause month, where ovulation came and went and it felt like I was just wasting eggs ☹️ for me it's easier to be actively in the process, so that I know I'm doing something (or the eggs are doing something in the lab) rather than just waiting around.
But a close runner-up is the time between EC and ET, for sure. That part is incredibly stressful.

@Hopingforamiracle11 thanks for those recs :)

Oh! Is it anyone's test day today?

My blood test is Friday! The week is going seriously slowly 😴

@Hopingforamiracle11 thinking of you 😢

@LuckyNovember I was soooo naive the time in between EC- ET as after day 3 I thought everything was fine until the awful phone call on day 5- so 2ww is kicking my butt. Half way there though.

@SamTTC

@AliceAbsolum OTD is tomorrow
@Nutrinerd OTD is Friday but testing tomorrow as she needs more meds
@Herewegoagain881 and @LuckyNovember
is Friday

Me @Steph2345 and @TommieNC is 13th but @TommieNC considering paying for Beta Friday x

Egg collection was this morning. They only got 3 and then came back and said there was no sperm whatsoever in DH's sample. When they first tested him there were 100 million! He's giving a second sample but tbh if there's literally NONE I don't see how there can be any this time?
I thought we'd managed the timing so perfectly with me being off school for egg collection and implantation and now I don't even know what happens next if we have to delay. Pretty gutted right now.

Thank you for all your lovely positive vibes.

This wait is def testing my sanity. Last week when we were still stimming i was so smug about how calm we were...little did we know!

Tomorrow cant come soon enough.

Binged The Split on bbc yesterday - highly recommend!