IVF/FET October/November 21

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I think I'm a bit early on some of the other threads so starting one for October/November 😊

1st fresh cycle in august ended in CP.

Booked for follow up consultation 30th September so hopefully I'll be able to transfer late October early November 🤞🏼

5 frozen blasts. Hoping to transfer 2 this time round but I'm not sure they'll let me 😬

@ginandtonicformeplease I'm so sorry, it's just awful going through all of this for just nothing. Have the clinic said to test in a few days or advised to stop meds? Hope your husband's better soon, there's some awful cold/flu going around as well as covid

@ginandtonicformeplease I'm so sorry to hear that - please look after yourself and I hope your husband is ok xx

@CycleGirl20 @IVFGotThis05 I was dreading the phone going too! My transfer was at 11 and I had to leave at 8 for the clinic but never got a call - you guys shouldn't now so try and keep busy! I had such a nervous belly !

I wouldn't say getting on a bike is a good idea? I have probably rested much more than I should though!! Don't they say don't change your exercise when tcc buy anything with ivf I would just not risk - might be wrong ? But I suppose you have to do what you feel is ok.
Me I'm a complete worry wart and I'm anxious enough !! I suppose if your active anyway
I had a bit of light spotting and felt tender after so I think more for just being uncomfortable in the saddle?

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Thanks @strawberrysummer19. I got the train in the end even though it's faster to cycle. This full bladder thing is not helpful when you're nervous!!

@CycleGirl20 oh I know I struggled with my bladder but they let me empty some just before and that sooooo helped ! Last time I was so uncomfortable but it really helped me letting some out!

Be thinking of you x

It's strange my clinic haven't even said anything about no perfume and gull bladder for transfer ! I'll do it anyway just to be sure

@lucymills1234 I've never had ivf before. But I had 3 rounds of iui and was on progesterone for all. The first 2 400mg and the last 1 I was on 800mg. I'm only on 600mg now so I'm thinking my body will still push through that? It did the 800. Only very slightly, but I knew. No spotting yet though.
@makeithappen2022 hard to tell and I didn't get a day 3 update so I can't help. But I had 12, 8 mature, 5 fertilised, 2 blasts.
@CycleGirl20 good luck today! And no biking!
And you 🍀 @IVFGotThis05 - definitely full bladder and no perfume.
@ginandtonicformeplease I'm so sorry. Its tough. No rush, process it all in your own time and do what you need to do. 💐

@paintfairy that's good no spotting yet
My body also pushed through - I'm on 600mg progesterone and was same for my last cycle
My boobs feel less sore today - this is what happened last cycle and then AF came.
I had period type pains for a couple of days so it was like my body was preparing for af
I have this dull ache in my tummy still it's strange but keep thinking maybe it's period coming x

I'm not sure how my transfer went. They said they'd got a 1bb & a 2cc. The 1bb was better quality so they transferred that. The embryologist thought it might be a 4bb in under a day but said it was ready to go back now. I had 10 fertilized eggs frozen because I live abroad and they only fertilize 5 at a time here due to various laws.

There was some talk of transferring both and it got quite stressful. I'm still not sure if things are very poor or moderate in terms of chances

@CycleGirl20 oh hope you ok?
Never heard of only freezing 5 at a time
So where some don't make it until day 5 you have to go through it all again if this one wasn't successful? Never heard of that

How are you feeling now? Sorry it was stressful x

@strawberrysummer19 I'm ok. Wasn't painful or anything. Trying to work out what a 1bb even is and if I even have a chance. They froze 10 fertilized eggs so of the 5 developed we got a 2bc & 1bb. Doesn't seem great

@CycleGirl20 I don't understand the grading
I was just told mine was good quality but with that said I know people that have transferred both good and poor and have good results even with a poor so I'm under the impression that if they transfered then there is a chance so try to focus on that

So was it one back and one frozen and 5 left for next cycle ?

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It was 1 back, 1 frozen, 10 left for the next cycle. I think BB is average to poor, although I'm not sure. I have a photo of it I'm comparing to others

@CycleGirl20 that's good then - try not to worry as I say they would have selected the best one. Sure the 2ww is the hardest bit I find !!
All is done now so make sure you are taking care of yourself xx

That's good numbers @CycleGirl20 ! Sending baby dust to you !! I would try to not focus 9n the grading, they didn't tell me the grade and I'm kinda glad, there's a good quality embryo in there and that's all that matters. We have 1 transfer, 1 frozen and 3 still being monitored for another day to see if they can be frozen ☺☺ I'm so pleased ! Officially PUPO ! We do a home test next Wednesday!

@IVFGotThis05 yay that's brilliant, well done and relax now xx

@IVFGotThis05 that's great news! Congratulations!

The clinic just called me and let me know the poorer blastocyst which earlier was a 2bc is now a 4bc! In the space of a few hours! I guess my transfer was quite early in the day, so I'm gonna assume the good one they put back is now happily growing around the 4bb mark!

@ExhaustedPigeon1988
I am also really scared that if I am not pregnant this round, it will ruin our Christmas 😢
Yesterday I saw a picture of my best friend on Instagram. She looked 2-3 months pregnant. You know, with a little belly popped out. I hope she is not pregnant and hiding it from me. I going to start my next ICSI round soon and I feel like she is hiding it not to hurt me or something. I really hope I am wrong because I would be heart broken if she is hiding it...
I have a colleague who is going through infertility for years now. She has been throwing tantrums in each cycle and making it really hard for us to be around. I really don't wanna be like her or at least perceived like her... So, I put on a jolly face when someone announces their pregnancy and come home and cry myself to sleep instead. Very healthy, right? 😜

However, one type of person I simply CANNOT stand is the mums/dads that are complaining about their kids all the time. Like how they cannot get long enough sleep, how they have to play with their kids all the time, give so much attention to them bla bla bla. I just want to slap these kind of people in the face. Many of us here exhausted emotionally, physically, financially just to have ONE kid and here they are complaining all the time for the kids they didn't even move a finger to have... These are the times I get b.tchy and say things like these to their faces "well, they didn't beg you to be born. You are his/her parents, of course you should be there for them 100%" . 😪

@CycleGirl20 @IVFGotThis05
Congrats 🎉 Sending both of you baby dust 🧚

@CycleGirl20 I don't understand the grading if I'm honest. But it sounds positive!
@IVFGotThis05 congratulations!
@strawberrysummer19 its getting nearer now! So every time I go to the toilet I'm dreading seeing spotting.

@paintfairy me too! I keep having to check as I feel wet and then realise it's my pessary or cm
This part I find the hardest x

Thanks for the advice girls.
Congrats on the transfers today - all sounding very positive which is amazing!!
Mine is tomorrow I hope and pray… just hoping for one that is strong enough to go in so I have a chance 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@Cayandsimit I feel exactly the same, it's so hard isn't it. I find myself being really judgmental, saying things like I wouldn't do that if I was pregnant, or, if you really wanted that baby you wouldn't be acting like that... then I realise everyone has a story, and you don't know theirs. But it's hard, it's hard to be reasonable and considerate, when others don't appear to be. I'm just focusing on Christmas, it's either going to be the best one ever, or I am going to be unbelievable drunk for the whole of it lol. My final test will be 17th, so I have a whole week to buy alcohol, I'm grateful it's not any closer. I run a salon though, so Decembers our busiest time. I'm really not sure how I'm going to cope with any of it, we work 9-8 everyday on the run up to Xmas, and dealing with a negative is really going to do me in :-/ some people like to stay busy, but I need to mourn and get my head back together, it's horrible but I just want these next 4/5 weeks gone!!! X

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 I feel the same - I’m a teacher and surrounded by mums at work who complain all the time about being pregnant or how annoying their kids are. It’s hard but none of them know about IVF so I just smile and nod.
I’m getting ready for transfer today at 12 - working online from home 9-11 then I’ll meditating to relax for half an hour before heading to the clinic which is luckily ten mins from my house!
Then I have the rest of the day off and tomorrow I’m WFH to minimise rushing about/carrying heavy bags etc. I wish I could take more time off but I just can’t.

Congrats IVF got this.

I totally get what folk mean about people complaining about their children or being pregnant. I hate it and may have blocked people on social media for it, or muted them if I know them and like them.

I'm just at EFREC waiting for a scan to see if cycle is cancelled. At least I'll be out of this limbo if it is.