IVF/FET October/November 21

[2021babyhope]

I think I'm a bit early on some of the other threads so starting one for October/November 😊

1st fresh cycle in august ended in CP.

Booked for follow up consultation 30th September so hopefully I'll be able to transfer late October early November 🤞🏼

5 frozen blasts. Hoping to transfer 2 this time round but I'm not sure they'll let me 😬

Any tips for after egg collection and before transfer ? And foods I should try and eat ?

@Chrischross I was on lubion and the same as the comment above draw with the bigger needle inject with a smaller one. Maybe speak to the clinic to get you some .

@IVFGotThis05 good luck today

Yeah, in the waiting room now!

Good luck @IVFGotThis05 and @CycleGirl20 🐣

Good luck @IVFGotThis05 and @CycleGirl20 ❤️

Lots of rest and bland food afterwards is what I found helped! Hope you get some lovely eggs! Xxx

@CycleGirl20 good luck!

Thanks @MrsC2018 - this 2WW feels pointless now, all the mental anguish without any of the hope.

@paintfairy yes they did freeze the one which should have gone in (4BA). The lack of care is awful.

@Gensola WTF is right.

@Justawannabemam thank you. It's negligence, in my view.

@Chrischross I hope you're right about the age cut-offs... I know after 43 the odds are very slim. Good news on your scan, I've never injected progesterone so can't offer any help I'm afraid.

@VenusStarr @SunshineAndScience @Holskey thanks for the good wishes, I appreciate the support.

@lucymills1234 let's just hope them getting it wrong turns out to be the best thing that ever happened. 🤞 I'm pleased they at least froze the other one.

The more I think about it though there is no benefit to these clinics getting it right. The less it works, the more money they get! The whole thing sits badly with me anyway but any clinic operating like yours needs holding accountable!

Hey everyone!!! Long post alert…sorry! I’m currently on my 2ww and feel like I’m going nuts! I’m 7dp5dt, had no implantation bleed so far, on day 3-5 I had cramps which felt like AF was on her way 😢 these seem to have stopped now and am just feeling twinges now and then. Boobs feel full and solid with sore nipples (sorry tmi), tiredness is setting in and I’m sure some things are tasting weirder than normal (is my head playing tricks on me seeing something that isn’t there) Test day is 16th Nov…trying really hard not to test early, not sure I can take seeing the bfn! Convinced it hasn’t worked however partner is extremely annoyingly super positive…sometimes I think he doesn’t understand so can be quite lonely 😞

Hi @Ivfnewbie1 👋

I'm on 9dpt5dt (Frozen transfer) and I so so hard. I actually just messaged my boss to say I'm losing my mind!

Youre symptoms sound promising and a lot more than I currently have. Other than very mild cramps I don't feel any different. I'm sure it hasn't worked either but I read on this post somebody saying that their negative cycles felt exactly the same as their positive cycles so I'm just trying to see that as a positive that we just don't know what will happen.

My partner is also very positive and just keeps saying 'it will work!'. The first week I was of the mindset that I was just going to enjoy being pregnant. Then somebody very close to us, who knows exactly what we're doing right now, announced their second pregnancy to us. And it floored me and since then, I've just felt low and teary and it's ruined the TWW for me!

Fingers crossed you get a BFP! My test day is Saturday! Xxx

Hi @SunshineAndScience thank you for jumping on my post 😊 it’s great seeing someone going through the same thing! I’m on my first fresh cycle (Grade A put back) but only managed to freeze one frostie which is a grade C. I also have told my boss i think I’m going mad! Find myself googling each day of the 2ww and symptom checking…but they all seem to be very similar to AF and the cyclogest side effects 😞
I do love my partners positivity and as much as I’d love to be there on his level I can’t bring myself to go there…I think if got a bfn it will hurt more!
Oh no how heart wrenching for you to hear the new baby news, fantastic for your friend but it’s does really hit home how easy it is for some women to get pg so easily but then so difficult for others, the world is so unfair sometimes. My sister had her 2nd baby 12 weeks ago, she’s gorgeous but I find myself getting teary when I’m feeding her a bottle or changing her nappy or even just pushing the pram…all the things we would give anything to do!
No symptoms are also a good sign from my Google search skills! 😂
I really hope you get your bfp on Saturday 😍

Fingers crossed for your TWWs @Ivfnewbie1 & @SunshineAndScience. I'm trying to work out how I can stay positive for mine. Does it start after collection or transfer?

I'm just back from EC. They got 17 eggs. Hoping many of them are mature, fertilize and turn into blastocysts and a baby! I'm frantically googling my chances based on 17 retrieved.

@Ivfnewbie1 @SunshineAndScience it's hard isn't it- because the drugs basically create their own symptoms. So most of what you feel is likely that. I can't even tell if my cramps are genuinely from that area or if they are bowel related, because everything is so upset! I suppose there's that much going on that some of it could be good (as opposed to feeling absolutely nothing and worrying about that instead) but it seems there's no pattern to bfps from any of it! Not everyone gets the bleeding either. I think if I don't I will worry I haven't, but if I do then I'll worry I'm bleeding. 🤦‍♀️🤣
@CycleGirl20 congratulations on your eggs! Fingers crossed for good fertilisation rates overnight.

Hi @CycleGirl20 awww 17 is a great number, I had 16 at EC. 12 fertilised and by transfer day 2 made it, 1 grade A and 1 grade C. It’s amazing how the numbers whittle down so quickly through the process. They say 15 plus is a really good number from EC so your chances are definitely good 😊 I was very crampy in the night after EC once
the pain relief they gave you afterwards wears off. I panicked but it’s very normal and expected. It’s all a waiting game 😢 waiting for your calls and updates from EC, starting your pessaries, transfer day and the 2ww. I remember being told that it’s a rollercoaster and you’ll be a bag of nerves all the way through, for me it wasn’t until after we left from transfer that it hit me..this is it, we can’t do anymore now. Very much a rollercoaster 🎢
I have everything crossed for you…keep us updated 😊😍

@paintfairy you are absolutely right! All symptoms could be any of the 3 things, meds, pg or af…such mind games being played! Apart from test day we can just hope and pray our symptoms are positive…it’s just blooming hard to be positive rather than negative! I even argued with partner last night about our Grade C frostie…what if Grade A falls now, Grade C is definitely going to fail if we try again! He says I have an alter ego..evil edna, maybe he’s right 😂 xx

@lucymills1234 words don't help right now, I appreciate that, but I really am so sorry you are dealing with this, it's unfair and I would be going crazy right now, you are super strong to be handling this so well! If it helps at all, the age is important at egg collection, not so much when transferred, so your frozen is still well within the age gap, no matter when transfer is.... again only words, but hopefully a little something you can hang onto?

As for all you ladies waiting for test day, you are all doing much better than me, I lasted 4 days and the tested every day for a week- every one just one stubborn line :( I'm also driving myself crazy about when to test already and my transfer isn't until 29th November, test day is 10th December, but we are on holiday 1-6th December, I'm not sure I can cope not taking a test with me lol x

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 awww Xmas, everything crossed for you and you get your little Xmas miracle new 😍 the waiting is torture. We do have to keep ourselves busy, I move house at the end of December so today I’ve thrown myself into start sorting out arrangements for that to keep me focused on something else!
Good luck to all of you ladies!!! We’ve got this 🥰

@Ivfnewbie1 I'm hoping for the best ever Christmas present, but also concerned it may ruin this Christmas too. My 2 best friends are both pregnant, one is due 7th December, the other only told me 2 weeks ago :-/ been a really rocky year, we all deserve some positives Dont we x

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 I have everything crossed for you, 😍 I do understand though how worse case can ruin xmas season for you 😞 pregnant friends and family around you is so hard! You have to show them on face front how happy and supportive you are for them, but inside your crying, why can’t it be me 😢 I know pregnancy is an emotional time but I think for us IVF ladies it’s even more emotional as we have to go through what we are just to get to that stage…yet we still have all of those same emotions ❤️

@Ivfnewbie1 it's great to have this group though, you're so accurate in your description, yet people don't understand it. I work about the IVF, then I worry about it working, I have never even held a baby lol x

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 honestly I’m that bad if I even see a celebrity announcing their pregnancy I could cry and I don’t even know them, it’s jealousy on my part 😢 I think these groups definitely help, never used them before but it’s refreshing to be able speak openly about what your feeling and thinking to ladies going through the exact same thing, who understand the negativity your thinking. It would be absolutely amazing if we can be 100% positive throughout it all, unfortunately I’m not that way inclined and am always planning my next move based on what ifs..i torture myself 😍 so to be able to get things completely off my chest, these groups I believe should be prescribed as part of our ivf journey 😂 xx

@Ivfnewbie1 I'm the same. The strange things is I find I'm almost looking for the announcements, even though I know it's going to pee me off. Yep mine is jealousy too, which is horrible, especially for my 2 closest friends, makes me feel awful that it's a face they see rather than genuine happiness :( x

Well done @CycleGirl20! 17 is a great start 🥳

Fingers crossed for you @IVFGotThis05! 🤞

@ivfnewbie1, @paintfairy and @SunshineAndScience I feel for you all - the tww drove me crazy! During my first tww, my sil announced her pregnancy. I had never been more desperate for it to work! It was the first baby in my partner's family so obviously all talk was about it.

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 taking a test on holiday is a bold move! Could be the best holiday ever though 🤞

Thinking of you @lucymills1234 Have you heard anything more? I would fully expect a call from someone senior!

Thanks @Holskey!

Other people's pregnancy announcements are difficult. My SIL is currently maybe 16 weeks pregnant. I'm really keen to have one of our own a few months later so they can be like little twins but that's one of the many things currently out of my control!

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 I’m with you there! Social media is worse than Google! Just brings us secret devastation I suppose through other peoples joy!
Enjoy your holiday as best you can…it may be the distraction you will need 😊 please keep me updated how things progress for you xx