Infertility general chat/support thread

[Roo45]

Not sure if this exists already, but I wondered if people fancied a thread just to vent and/or talk about things that have happened in their day that have either caused them to get upset or think a certain way due to fertility issues, regardless of where you are in the journey.

I feel like my friends who haven't got through this could never understand how infertility affects pretty much every part of my life now!

For example today I attempted to cook something complicated for some family members, it's quite rare that I cook for others even before the pandemic and I only make simple meals for myself. Anyway everything that could go wrong did and what I managed to salvage was largely uneaten.
I told my DH maybe the universe thinks I shouldn't have children because I'm so undomestic and can't cook for other people!

@Roo45 thank you 💐 feeling terrified, especially as having spotting. Just hanging on minute by minute really, as that's all I've been able to do for the past 12 months of IVF.

Found out today our OI was unsuccessful so now got to wait for the inevitable AF which will be heavier because of the Cyclogest. No one warns you how mentally and emotionally exhausting this whole process is. Hope you’re all doing ok and having better luck

@ChocolatePotCafe I'm so sorry. You are completely right about the process. Here if you need it. Look after yourself x

@ChocolatePotCafe sorry to hear that. How many attempts are you doing of IUI? If it helps, progesterone made no difference to my cycle when I did ovulation induction. The only heavier period I’ve had is after our first round of IVF.

Thanks all. @thislittlebird I don’t know, we paid privately for OI so I guess as many as we can afford or not sure if they have a cap. Got a phone call with consultant tomorrow. Thanks for info re period - has given me some hope. Had random (very brief) spotting last night but nothing since. Just want it over with.

@ChocolatePotCafe wishing you well.

So it's more than 2 weeks since my period was supposed to start and very stupidly, I thought I might just be pregnant (was feeling fatigued and having lower back pain) and became very hopeful and so I took at test and it was negative and I cried and cried and have been feeling really emotional and down since...

And to top it off, literally just hours after I saw a birth announcement of a family member...

Hope everyone's doing better than me 💕

I'm so sorry@seekingsolace2 I know that feeling. Treat yourself these next few days xx

How is everyone here? I had my first failed transfer since I was last here. It's very difficult and just hoping a future one works right now.

@thislittlebird completely forgot about this thread.

My last update was some time ago, think I had recently been referred by the doctor to the fertility clinic but was waiting on an appointment/wasn’t sure the referral had gone through.

It had gone through, I had my first appointment at the fertility clinic in May. They arranged for extra tests, ultrasound and HSG.

I had a follow up appointment with the consultant this month. Tubes are fine, we’ve been given the dreaded unexplained diagnosis. Consultant wanted repeat bloods on thyroid and prolactin (thyroid on last two set of bloods has been 9.something and 4.2 (I think, it might have been 4.4 or 4.5)) and prolactin has regularly been just over 1,000 (1006 last time). I had repeat bloods last Monday and should expect a call from nurse today about the results. They say it’s unexplained- I’m reckoning it’s not and maybe it’s my dodgy hormones!

Anyway, we’ve been referred for IVF and I’m waiting for CARE to call me in the next 1-2 weeks. So a lot has happened, but then again, still in this never ending waiting game!

im sorry to hear about your transfer. That sucks.

That’s meant to say first appointment in March, not May! 😂

@Lauralozzle sorry to hear about your unexplained diagnosis, I know how much it sucks. We're 16 months in now and still have no answers to what's going wrong.

@BritInNZ Unexplained is such a nightmare isn’t it? Feels like a cop out diagnosis. 16 months is a long time, I wish you luck going forward and hopefully towards finding a diagnosis.

I’m on a trial dose of levothyroxine so I’m hoping that will help. Doctor’s are also finally looking into my prolactin issue so hopefully my hormones can be sorted soon. I feel like it probably isn’t unexplained and it’s that so hopefully that gets sorted soon. Until then just waiting for IVF clinic to call!

Hi everyone. Can I tentatively join this thread? We've been trying for 20 months (but not preventing for a long time). I'm 34, he's 39 so I spend the majority of my time worrying about my age. We've had tests and no problems were found, & we've been tracking using the Clearblue Fertility Monitor for well over a year. I do wonder if it creates more of an issue tbh. We've had a few chemicals but nothing so far this year and the stress is just insane. My SIL (DH's sister) has two kids and I just feel like we're judged all the time! Just having a low day today! Hope you all have a lovely Bank Holiday x

@bwfcchick88 Hi. 20 months is a long time, in the nicest way possible, I’m sorry you have had to join this thread. How far are you with investigations?

Sorry I've been off the thread a long time! After our failed IVF my partner doesn't want to do anymore and it's been a very difficult few months. Here to support anyone who needs to chat/wants advice, I'm so sorry we all have to go through this xx

Hi, thanks for the welcome. We've had some investigations done & no problems were found but we're just so sad and frustrated with it all. Part of me wants to keep going but a bigger part is just broken.