FET March/April

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Hi everyone,

Does anyone have any dates pencilled in for an FET during March/April? I have been given the dates of 30/03 for baseline scan and transfer the week of 12/04.

It would be great to see if there are many others on similar timelines?!

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@louloulemons I'm sorry your feeling like this.. yes that's that side effects of those awful drugs there used for menopause.. I've started taking the burserlin at night now rather than the morning..
ThNk you my lovely I think where I had the big miscarriage last august, I got to 7 weeks then was told at 8 weeks to let the heart beat stop had the erpc at 10 weeks then had to have another one 12 weeks later. The early pregnancy clinic have offered this time a scan at 6-8-10-12-14 weeks. I'm scared I really am..
Think it's all these hormones aswell me and hormones are not a good combination, I wasn't going to come on. Here and chat this time but now it's getting closer I need so support I think xx

When you get pregnant after IVF, it’s the most amazing thing. I walked around in a daze for weeks, feeling like I’d won the lottery and a huge weight had lifted off my shoulders. To have that suddenly taken away again is the hardest thing in the world, it hits you like a ton of bricks and you’re still trying to grieve and come to terms with it all months after everybody around you thinks you’ve moved on. So just to have picked yourself up from that and carried on makes you so brave and so strong, but I think the fear is completely understandable and normal after everything you’ve been through. You are just trying to protect your heart and that’s a natural instinct after a trauma.

You can do this though, just take each step as it comes and keep focussed on why you are doing it. I know how hard it is, I’m scared too and I don’t think if I ever got a bfp again, I’d allow myself to be excited for a longer time. But we are here to hold your hand and always happy to listen. We’ll get through it together.

@louloulemons thank you that made me cry this morning. I don't like to be a downer. But hubby doesn't understand and at the moment I'm
An emotional bitch.. we tried after the MC and 2 cancelled cycles thn Xmas was supposed to start again but I've waited, and thought I was ready now I'm like I can't.. but I think it's all the meds and like you said truma. Thank you so much for you kind words ❤️

@louloulemons I had a raging headache the day I started the progynova, so it could well be that. It cleared up the next day though, so hopefully you won't have to endure it for long 🤞 I also just wanted to say that your reply to ivftake3 was beautiful - it had me welling up too. That's exactly how I felt and still feel after my MMC. Thank you for sharing 💗

@ivftake3 I felt exactly like you. I'd gotten back to my usually self after the MMC and between FET's and felt like I could do this/it's no big thing/if it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't... but then once you're in amongst it that feeling goes out the window pretty damn quickly! 😏 I also wasn't planning on coming on the forums this time because I thought I could handle it on my own, but here I am! 😂 I'm terrified of a BFN because the thought of having to go through this another 3 times (still 3 in the freezer after this one if nothing goes wrong with thawing) is gruelling. However, I'm even more terrified of a BFP because I know I'll never be able to relax, always expecting it to be taken away at any second. My hands actually start sweating at the thought of having to go to another 7 or 12 week scan for fear of getting the worse news again 💔 You're not alone - keep talking to us.x

Hello all. Thought I would join the FET bus. I started buserelin injections yesterday, transfer is due around early May all being well. I can relate to a lot of your recent posts. I had missed miscarriage last November following a fresh cycle in September. It was devastating. And I’m finding it harder now than ever before to cope. Perhaps it is going through the trauma again and not knowing what will happen. My test date is due around the same time as the twins would have been due - so I think perhaps the timing is making me more sad...thinking I would be 8 months pregnant now. I would do anything to have them back and it hurts so much. @ivftake3 we also tried naturally after miscarriage as we are unexplained..in total only 3 cycles to try and nothing , no super fertile after miscarriage going on here! @louloulemons I remember that feeling well - walking around thinking I’m pregnant - finally! Then for all that excitement to be taken away :(

Sending everyone good wishes for their cycles. I’m sure I’ll be back to moan about the side effects soon 🙄 xx

Welcome @JandL2020
I remember you from the threads last year. I also had a missed miscarriage. It’s a journey isn’t it! Sad, happy and everything inbetween. I’ve felt better since starting again and I had my transfer about a week ago.
Having a plan and focus helps a lot. Be really kind to yourself and put yourself first xxxx

Hello @IloveHaroldBishop (love your username 😂)

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage as well.

Best of luck for a positive result next week and thanks for the positive vibes xx

For anyone else who was on period watch with me for this starting - it's just arrive! Woo.
Have to start progynova today now, 3 x 2mg tablets. Anyone else taken and would you suggest taking them at night or are there not much side affects? Trying to decide between taking them now or later

Welcome @JandL2020 👋 I'm so sorry to hear about your MMC - it's horrible that so many of us have been through the same 😔 Wishing you the best of luck for this cycle 🍀🍀🍀

Excellent news that AF has arrived @willithappen 💪 I take my progynova first thing in the morning, but the nurse did say that it's OK to take it in the evening if it makes you feel nauseous (not a problem I've had, thankfully!). When will your lining scan be?

@BambiOnIce80 no idea haha
I have to call the clinic when day 1 was but don't think I will get through until Monday. I think from what I remember though it's not until a while later but will find out Monday
When are the scans usually done?

@willithappen my clinic aim for day 14 of progynova, but I appreciate that other clinics do more progress scans than mine - yours might be sooner 🤞

@willithappen fab news!!!

I was told to take 1 Progynova tablet 3 x a day... so I’m taking morning, afternoon and evening! 😂

@willithappen My clinic do one scan on day 12, but if lining isn’t there yet they do another on day 14

@BambiOnIce80 @CLP20 that sounds about right for what I was told yeah!

Oh I did ask and they said I could take all three at once, just so long as you take that full dose a day. A bit like the Norethisterone you could take it all at once or spread it out

Haven't taken mine yet, gonna go for 5pm and keep it at 5 every day I think. So excited to finally have got going! Fingers crossed for a good lining. I had a triple layer lining when doing stims so 🤞🏻 for the same. I had fluid in my lining at that time as well though

@ivftake3 @BambiOnIce80 @JandL2020 I’m so sorry you have all had to go through miscarriages. I only had a couple of chemicals and that was bad enough (walking around for a few days believing I was pregnant). @louloulemons those were very beautiful and wise words. Oh I really hope everyone finally gets to conceive at the end of this awful journey, so as to make it all feel worthwhile in the end!

I still have another 10 days to go before AF and starting my FET cycle. It is dragging on! Me and my husband keep having these weird conversation as we try to plan our post-Covid future where every sentence starts with “well if I am pregnant” or “well if we don’t end up having a second child”...it’s so hard to make any decision when everything is up in the air! I can’t help feeling envious of women who are able to plan when they will get pregnant (and know they will get pregnant)...

@willithappen ah ok, that makes sense!

@Tarsette Know the feeling! Found out today from my best friend (who is 20 weeks pregnant) that our other friends are expecting their second. Like they just decided to have another and it just happened like they planned! And we still haven’t been able to have one...

I literally can’t even imagine the luxury of deciding to have a child and then just having one! I genuinely forget sometimes that people can actually do that!!!

@louloulemons 🤣🤣🤣 wow imagine!! You’ve made me chuckle this morning x

That's me booked in for lining scan on 14th. AF decided to arrive Saturday morning so the ball is moving now!

Sorry I've been quiet over the weekend ladies, didn't want to think about ivf if I'm honest as I was dreading today so much so tried to put it out of my mind as much as possible.
Had my lining scan, I'm now at 8.04mm so only just there but they're happy to go for it. They explained how some women just have a naturally thin lining no matter what they try and aslong as it appears healthy (which mine does) they just have to make a decision. So I'm booked in for a transfer 15th 👍🏻 now to start worrying about something else 😆😆

How is everyone doing ? Hope you've all had a nice Easter

I was just logging on to wish you luck today @elsaesmeralda! 😄 Sooo pleased to hear all is looking well and you're booked in for transfer 💪 There's always something to flipping worry about 😏 I'm finding the progesterone is making me anxious (I get a reprieve from it when I take the progynova in the morning), which I really don't need any help with this close to transfer! 😂 I've had to give up on the psychological thriller that I'm reading because my heart rate is going through the roof! 🤯 Really, really weird for me 😏

Glad you've got your lining scan booked in @willithappen 🍀🤞🍀🤞

I hope everyone's had a lovely long weekend 😎

Thanks @BambiOnIce80 she didn't tell me the measurement either first of all she kind of ran out the room to "check the averages" and I thought oh god it can't be good if she hasn't told me what it is! 😳 I was physching myself up for a bit of a battle !

Sorry to hear the progesterone is making you anxious, I suffer with anxiety myself so I know how awful it can be. Have you tried anything to help with it ? Exercise is good for anxiety.
Is your transfer this Thursday?

Funnily enough @elsaesmeralda I'm just back from a 10k run in the snow! 🌨 🏃🏻‍♀️😂 Beautiful, bright sunny day out there - just snowing as well to keep things interesting! 😏 The anxiety is crazy - it's just there regardless of whether I'm thinking about anything or not! I'm having completely disproportionate reactions to things (I'm usually very even tempered). For example, DP was going to go outside yesterday to sweep the decking and wash the windows (he was being very lovely and said he'd tackle it on his own because I needed to relax with transfer coming up 🥰)... sounds good, right?! I look out the window an hour later to see that he's not touched the broom or the windows, but he has decided to rip up about half of our decking and leave it in an almighty and unruly heap beside the back door!! 🤯 Fair enough it's in desperate need of replacing, but did he need to tw🤬t about with it (with no plan of how to get rid of it, of course! 🤯) a few days before transfer?!?! I was awake at 4am this morning with a massive (and completely disproportionate 🤦🏻‍♀️) sense of dread about it when it's really something quite minor 🙄 Yes, transfer is Thursday so I maybe need to try and focus on getting to that goal and not sweat the ridiculous stuff... and maybe distract myself with cleaning the windows because they still need flipping doing! 😤

I'm so relieved you didn't have to fight your corner 👊 It does make you wonder how unaware these people must be about how stressful this process is for us when they leave us hanging in the middle of a scan! 🤯 When do you start your progesterone? Are you pessaries or jabs? Get those panty liners at the ready if it's the pessaries! 🩲😳🤪

Thanks @BambiOnIce80
If my lining looks okay at that scan does anyone know roughly when they'd transfer? Five days of pessaries then transfer?

Yes @willithappen I think it's generally 5 days of pessaries and then transfer on the 6th day. My clinic seem to like transfer to be one week after the scan, so I had my scan last Thursday and transfer is scheduled for this Thursday.