IVF - Feb/March - continued

[Mrbay]

Hi All

Thought I'd better start us a new thread as we are so close 999 messages!

@2mumlife that sounds encouraging!

@HopingForRainbow2021 so sorry. Definitely worth testing in 3 or 4 days to see if anything has changed.

@HopingForRainbow2021 really sorry for your news but as everyone said it's probably too early to test. I was told blood test 9 days after transfer but to wait another 2 days to test at home.

@RichmondLady1981 I forgot to reply! We have a chihuahua so 'dog' is pushing it really he's big for a chihuahua at 4.5kg, he's 7 years old now and so mellow. Currently snuggled up by me on the sofa.

Hello everyone. I’ve been watching this forum for a bit. I start my stims tonight, feeling slightly anxious about it but I’m sure it will be fine after a few injections. This is my 2nd fresh cycle. I had a little boy out of my 1st who is now 14 months.

The embryologist just called me to say my four embryos that hadn't made it to blastocyst stage hadn't changed overnight so they would be discarding them today. I took the opportunity to tell her how her behaviour had caused me distress and I that I had cried most of the day yesterday etc and said that she should have talked me through the quality of my blastocysts and consulted me regarding decisions. She talked me through the two I have had transferred and they are mid range, not top quality but absolutely not poor quality. She said they were doing what they should have been doing for the stage they were at. I still felt like she wasn't giving me answers to what I was asking and her story seems to keep changing so not sure what to think. She finished saying there was no reason for a pregnancy or twins not to happen whilst at the same time sounding negative!!! I think I will still complain to the clinic director as wouldn't want others to feel like this.

@dragonfly1978 well done for telling her how you were feeling - do you feel better for it? I think it's a good idea to speak to the clinic director, you'd have thought good people skills would be essential for a job like that! Sorry to hear your remaining 4 aren't good enough to freeze but keeping my fingers firmly crossed for the two you have on board now.

Feel so upset and angry , just had a phone call from the embryologist who literally spent no more than 3 minutes explaining the situation , so out of 9 only 1 made it to the blastocyst stage which is good enough to be frozen being a 5BA, there was 3 others she said was discarded yesterday as they didn’t look healthy. I have so many questions but she didn’t give me the time of day to even ask all I got was “ well your partners sperm was frozen so maybe why. Goodbye”

Welcome @hazza2021 - fingers crossed for another successful round for you.

@dragonfly1978 - I hope that they were tactful when saying about your remaining 4 embryos.
I am so sorry it wasn't the news you were hoping for, ivf is fucking shite. However, I would also complain as the service you have recieved is not good enough
You have the top 2 in the best place, please relax and enjoy the 2ww as much as you can.

@georgia2799 - I am so sorry that you have had an awful day too. But you do have one to freeze so that is good news, you will get to transfer. Have a lovely large glass of wine and be kind to yourself today.

@Mrbay I know your so right and Thankyou for putting it into perspective because it’s true least there’s one ♥️ , I just feel so disappointed now; and just want someone to blame, which isn’t going to help

Morning Ladies

Quick update:
6dp5dt 13dpTrigger Shot tested negative, so finally trigger is out of my system.
I kno its early but I dont think im going to get my BFP now, I just have a gut feeling.

Good luck to all those EC & ET this week also massive good luck to those in 2ww i hope use all get your BFP 😘

Morning. So sorry to hear that many of you have had poor experiences - it’s just not good enough. Try and look at the positives and take care this week.

@Blessing12 glad the trigger is out of your system now. You just don’t knew what’s going to happen so chin up and stay positive.

It’s such a big week ahead - everything crossed and saying lots of prayers for us all. 🙏🏼 .

@Hazza2021 good luck what protocol are you on?

@Blessing12 good that it’s out of your system, I’m also feeling very negative but I know it’s not logical! Still a fair way to go.

Been keeping an eye on my resting heart rate, it dipped yesterday which I was sad about but picked up today and shot up. I don’t think it’s a very reliable measure though!

@HopingForRainbow2021 So sorry to hear your news sending love a hugs your way xx

@Mrbay Had to get out the house to stop the obsessive wiping this morning. Seems to be getting much lighter now which is reassuring after I had a wobble that it might be the start of a period that I was hoping was something else.

@Blessing12 Glad you've finally tested they trigger out, fingers crossed that line comes back now

@Georgia2799 @dragonfly1978 Both your experiences have sounded horrible, situations made so much worse by another's lack of tact. Fingers crossed for you both for positive outcomes in the end

@HopingForRainbow2021 Sorry for your disappointment. Still might not be over yet if it's a little early

@georgia2799 - sadly you have done as much as you can do, unfortunately, nature is so bloody cruel.

@Blessing12 - I have everything crossed for you.

@2mumlife - I think it's hard to not worrying and over analyse everything little thing.

@Mancbear88 - that is interesting, mine has been rising slowly over the last few days.

Soooooo.... I've been debating about putting this today as I know how terribly sad today has been for 2 of our ladies.
I had the urge to test this morning after telling my DH that I would wait. I declared that it was my piss and I'll do with it as I please. I'm very guarded but I got a BFP this morning - this is our 5th transfer and 3rd EC. I'm 7dp5dt.

Sorry 3 of our ladies - gosh I cannot count

@Mancbear88 I’m doing the long protocol. I’ve been on buserelin 2 weeks and starting gonal f tonight. I did the same for my first round and got 12 eggs, 7 fertilised and 1 made it to the end which was my little boy. I feel very lucky!

@Mrbay A massive contratulations. I understand feeling more guarded/tentative about it, but sounds like great news and take each day as it comes as you hopefully keep hitting the positive milestones!

@Hazza2021 sounds like you had similar numbers to me, what a miracle your son is amazing to read this it’s gave me a bit of optimism !! If you don’t mind me asking did you have a fresh or frozen cycle on your first round ?

@Mrbay omg amazing !!! Huge congratulations to you and your other half, you was right to go with your gut instinct and test 😊♥️

@Hazza2021 good luck on this cycle, hopefully it will be as lucky as your last!

@Blessing12 & @Mancbear88 I too feel negative about this coming week. Went for a walk today with one of my close friends and was talking about ivf. There's only a couple of people who know that we are on this journey, not even my parents etc. It hurt so much losing the last one I can't have lots of people waiting to hear every step of the way and when things don't work. It was the first chance I've really had to talk about it out loud to someone other than my fiance since starting and it got me really upset. As amazing as he is as a friend, he's not the emotional type so held the tears together until I got home but I think 3 years on from trying it just feels impossible right now. I know this is our first cycle and we have embryos in the freezer so can try again, I just can't imagine it working. Don't think I have any symptoms yet either, Im 8dp5dt so I know realistically since implantation (if it happened) not long, but feel like there should be something.

Sorry for the negativity, just sulking today I think and dreading test day on Wednesday.

@Mrbay congratulations! That's great news!

@Nix49816 I'm in the same boat as you - 6dp5dt and feeling very negative, convinced it hasn't worked. I'm also on progesterone pessaries AND lubion injections so feeling dreadful from all of the progesterone. Feel like there's no point in even continuing taking it, which is ridiculous as I'm a week away from OTD! The whole thing just does your head in.

Huge congrats @Mrbay that is amazing news. I love how consistently your heart rate has increased! I never knew about tracking heart rate before, but it's so interesting!

I know how you all felt. I had no symptoms whatsoever. I had a failed iui previously so was feeling very negative about it all. I thought I would test a day early as I had work the next day, so it was a Sunday. I looked at that test and when it said positive I just burst in to tears as I just couldn’t believe it. This time it’s different though because I know it can still happen but I keep thinking surely I won’t be that lucky. The whole process messes with your head!