Ivf nov/dec cycle buddies

[ivfhope3]

Hi.. I'm starting my third round of ivf First didn't stick second did an ended with a miscarriage.. I'm about to have my third round so throught is start a thread if anyone would like to share there journey or is awaiting ivf. Etc. Let do it together. I was on a thread before an really helped.
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Hello can I please join the thread.
2nd ICSI cycle, 1st cycle resulted in my daughter now 4.
Semen antibodies are our problem.
Short protocol starting early Nov

It sounds like there's a few of us on the short protocol starting early/mid nov 😊.

Welcome!!

There certainly does seem to be a few of us! Welcome all.

@ivfhope3 I'm good! How about you?

Work is super boring 🤪 - Looking forward to the weekend! Not long to go now 😁 xx

Welcome @81Poppy xx

@all how's everyone else? Xx

@BrandyM I'm ok just really emotional today an really bad aniexty xx

Sorry you’re struggling today @ivfhope3. My anxiety was bad at the weekend too. So many ups and downs for us all. Take care of yourself and do something to make you feel good x

@all, sounds like lots of us are feeling anxious and emotional this week. Sorry to hear that and hope you’re all feeling better. If it’s any consolation, you’re not alone. I had a teary meltdown on Monday (haven’t event started injections yet!) and then ate the chocolates I was saving for trick or treaters 🤣 F* infertility!

Hey there - hope it’s ok to join the thread. I’m IUI not IVF but just started cycle yesterday so the timing is right. Be good to go through the process with some other people.

Baseline scan today - 13 follicles which I guess is good. Now to hope they mature. Took my first injection yonight (menopur) - was worried it would really hurt but felt fine!

Morning ladies, Feeling excited that things are finally starting for me. Off to the clinic today with my partner. They want him to do another sperm analysis since the first one was done by the NHS who said everything was fine but when you look at the morphology it was 3% so not sure why they said everything was OK. Fingers crossed todays sample is better and we don't have to deal with male factor as well as my low AMH! ha
I think I am only there for blood tests. Anyone know what they are testing for? I presume it is STDs but no one has actually told me. Nurse consult on Tuesday.

Hope you are all coping OK with the stress. The weekend is almost here :-)

@Jane1284 hi Jane... don't worry too much about the low morphology, my understanding is that doesnt impact things too much and icsi can override those issues 😊 but I know its not nice when there's other things to worry about. My hubs also has low morphology and I have so many things going on with my fertility 😬.

I believe the blood tests are to check for HIV and rubella?

Hope everyone is feeling okay today. The weekend is in sight!! Xx

@Jane1284 welcome hun. Icsi is amazing. As @MrsF1989 was saying :)

@Ofpalestsilver welcome lovely. Wow 13 that is good :)

@ShiMo hey hun I've been up since 3am crying then angry then thinking of everyone who is worse off an in infertility an the crying against. I haven't felt this bad ima long time. Anyways how are you going along? Haha I do that with Xmas presents. Wine chocolates 🤣🤣.. the call me come get me 🤣🤣🤣..

Good luck anyone have any thing done xx

@MrsF1989 thank you! Good point about the ICSI. So many other things to worry about so one less thing would be nice but not too worrying. Sorry to hear you have a few issues with your own fertility. I know how crap that feels. That said, some people can have the best test results and still not get pregnant so no point us worrying about things that are out of our control and just be hopeful that this cycle works for us all.

Thanks on the blood tests advice. That makes sense. x

@ivfhope3 - sorry to hear that you're feeling so miserable. this is a tough journey.

@Jane1284 absolutely, but its only natural to worry. I go through moments of being super positive then to over thinking absolutely everything! Im trying to be as kind to myself as possible.

Is anyone going to do acupuncture alongside their treatment?

@ivfhope3 sorry you are having a tough few days 😥

Baseline scan just done and good to go, first menopur tonight!

@MrsF1989 I couldn't agree more. One minute i am super positive and feel like everything will be OK and then suddenly i have this overwhelming worry of 'what if this never happens for me, how will I live my life'? Overthinking every little bit of the process. I have found that listening to a guided meditation every day has helped a bit with my overactive mind and stress. Do you meditate or do yoga?

I am currently doing acupuncture weekly and my lady has said I need to have it on the morning of transfer and after transfer. Apparently it can really help implantation. To be completely honest, I feel like if the embryo is going to implant it will happen anyway and nothing else is going to change it. But since it is my first and only NHS round i am keen to throw everything I can at the situation in the hopes it will work.

I'm curious about doing acupuncture but part of me worries that it's just a way to profit off people's fears. I mean, I'm open to the idea of acupuncture and have done it before. I feel that so many people try to profit off our concerns. (Don't get me started - the fact that clinics have encourage you to gamble upfront with their three cycles deals really makes me angry).

@ivfhope3 I’m so sorry you’re having a crappy time, you’ve really been through the ringer from what you’ve said. I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to be strong and put on a brave face that we feel guilty when we do feel sad, angry etc.

I’m doing ok except for the odd meltdown=scoffing chocolate! I’m now teetotal and drinking only one cup of tea a day, having switched predominately to decaf, so maybe that’s why I’m so grumpy! I just miss wine and tea 🤣

Doesn’t help that other aspects of my life are also quite stressful (my mother has mental health issues and isn’t doing great and my old landlady is being a total cow about returning our deposit, even though the place was in tip-top condition when we left - she found a cobweb and now wants to charge us hundreds for a second deep clean lol), so none of that helps.

How is your/everyone else’s partner feeling in all this? Mine is my rock but even I can tell this is straining on him a bit. He said the other day he doesn’t expect this to work as this is our first round, which was quite sad really, I think he’s just preparing himself for bad news so he doesn’t want to get his hopes up xx

@ShiMo Sorry to hear that about your additional stress. That's infuriating about your landlord! Is your deposit held in the Deposit Protection Scheme? If so they shouldn't be able to keep money for something so minor. Obviously not ideal having any extra stress right now.

I can understand your partner feeling that way. Sometimes hoping for the best but preparing for the worst can be a way to protect ourselves. My partner is so laidback. I keep asking how he is feeling and he just doesn't seem bothered. I think he thinks it will still happen naturally and i am getting worked up unnecessarily. He does have a phobia of needles so I am hoping when he sees me injecting myself he feels a lot of empathy!

@ShiMo I prepare myself everytime for bad news I don't know why.. partner is ok but sometimes when I'm telling him stuff he doesn't get it an I get stressed lol. I told my mum last night what's happened and what we've gone through the last few months ( not ivf) an she said I'm to old to be having a baby now. Etc ( she's bi polar) maybe she was having a bad day. Who knows now I'm questioning myself I suffer with aniexty as it is.. I keep getting cramping pains I'm hoping it's the AF but then nothing.

I know the tell you not to stress and stress does this an that but how we supposed to stay calm etc..

Sorry I'm on a right rant today xx

@Ofpalestsilver I totally get what you mean! I wonder if it actually works or is in my head. Some of the things my acupuncturist tells me I should do are so weird i have to just ignore them. I keep thinking about the amount of money i am spending on acupuncture and it makes me feel a bit sick. I've told myself i will stop it after this first round of IVF and revaluate. It does help me relax but I can't help feeling like a massage would do the same and cost less.

@Jane1284 If it is relaxing you and giving you some time every week to take time for yourself then that can't be a bad thing. And I suppose acupuncture might be better than massage at the mo. Wasn't sure whether I should be having massages during treatment. I'm mad for my massages normally! :)

Have you guys considered reproflexology? I had a session last week and found it so relaxing - I’m too much of a wuss to try acupuncture! Reproflexology is relaxing and also physically helpful so I figured I’d give it a go. Sorry to hear people are struggling with the stress. I feel like I’m on a tightrope between trying to be really positive and super optimistic versus being realistic about our chances. It’s so tough to balance it. My partner is so optimistic and I don’t want to bring him down so last night we talked about just taking it a stage at a time and just getting through each stage before looking at what the next one entails. So for now we’re focusing on starting the meds and nothing else further on in the process. I had some advice yesterday from a friend who has been through this 3 times and she said it’s so important not to lose who you are as a couple and just keep communicating all the time.

@Ofpalestsilver I had a massage a couple of months ago and I had to wear my face-mask and the lady was wearing one too. I felt like the enjoyment I get from a massage outweighs the risk. Probably more risk going for a weekly shop at tesco. Once i start IVF in November i think i will be isolating though as a precaution so no more massages.

@MF1981I'm very keen to try reflexology. Might look into it early 2021 after this round of IVF. How did you find your practitioner? Google or is there a national list?
I like your plan to focus on each stage individually. I can definitely get carried away.

@Jane1284 - my concern is less Covid and more whether or not you're supposed to have massages while having fertility treatment. is that ok? it's not going to wiggle the embryo out is it? ha, sounds like such a stupid question but i'll do everything to try and keep it in!