August IVF

[Mseddy]

Had a quick look through but can't find an existing thread. Anyone due to cycle in August after a bit of moral support?

We are due to start our 2nd cycle of icsi for male azoospermia and my premature ovarian aging (full house for us!)

Oh @Mseddy that's quite a day of news! It's so hard isn't it? I was talking to one of my (currently still childless by choice) friends a few months ago about how dreadful I felt for being jealous of my "pregnant the instant we started trying" friends - of which I seem to have a disproportionate amount- even though of course I am happy for them, and she said "of course you can be both". It made me feel a bit better because she made it feel like my reaction was perfectly logical. It's ok that we find this hard.

Yes @Zamzam21 first cycle. We were on the nhs waiting list (I suppose we still are actually) and about to start when COVID hit, so decided to go private. Haven't heard further from the nhs clinic since a letter 3 months ago saying not to contact them and they would get in touch so I'm glad we made that decision, even though it's left us a bit stretched.

I've spent so much time on google I could probably write a book about ivf at this point 😂 it's so difficult not to endlessly search, not good for the stress levels though!

Can I join please? I have a naturally conceived just turned 4 year old and have been trying for 2 1/2 years. Had a failed fresh cycle in jan/Feb (period arrived 6 days after transfer so progesterone was far too low), a started then cancelled FET in March due to lockdown, a failed FET in May/June and should be having our last frozen embryo transferred mid August.

I'm nervous! Start norethisterone in a few days and also my doctor is doing a mock transfer on me in a couple of weeks. I think I have some bends that are tricky for the catheter or something. Not looking forward to the stirrups and the lamp!!

Everyone around me is giving birth at the moment. Agh!

@mseddy totally normal to have days like that. Shit though obviously. I was having quite a nice day and feeling alright about everything until I opened Facebook and saw someone's new baby announcement.

What pisses me off is people who know about my infertility telling me they're pregnant to my face. Just no. One of my close friends is pregnant with her third, who was an accident. Her and her husband told us with awful "I'm so sorry" faces on and we had do the whole 'oh that's amazing' thing while wanting to go and have a quiet self pity cry. And another friend doing it on a group zoom call. No! Sorry, just gone off on a massive rant there

Hi @EllieEskimo I’m exactly the same as you! Had all tests pre-COVID in Jan & Feb and a telephone call from the Fertility clinic doctor mid-May to tell me our results after me chasing (male factor). He said call up and arrange a pre-treatment consultation so I did and the receptionist said call back mid-June as they’re just getting all those through who were about to start their cycles. Called up mid-June like she asked and she said oh we haven’t worked out how to do them yet but you’re on our list to call. 3 weeks on and nothing, I left a VM on Monday and they haven’t even called me back. I’ve been calling them fit to burn and my other half is like get real there’s a pandemic and they’ll be maxed out! But awful communication x

@Positivity20 that's so awful. Keeping you in limbo like that for so long. They must realise how important it is to keep you at least a little updated.

@EllieEskimo P.S I don’t even know what happens after the consultation, does that mean we then start? Cos if so I need to get my sh*t together and prep! I.e no alcohol and tip top nutrition, we have no idea on timelines so need to get prepared! X

@seven201 Aww thank you, I think I’m going to have be stern with them and call them Monday as just so in the dark about the whole process whether we might be 6 months or if we start kicking things off sooner once we have the consultation. Need to speak to someone other than the grumpy gatekeeper receptionist! x

@seven201

Can I join please? I have a naturally conceived just turned 4 year old and have been trying for 2 1/2 years. Had a failed fresh cycle in jan/Feb (period arrived 6 days after transfer so progesterone was far too low), a started then cancelled FET in March due to lockdown, a failed FET in May/June and should be having our last frozen embryo transferred mid August.

I'm nervous! Start norethisterone in a few days and also my doctor is doing a mock transfer on me in a couple of weeks. I think I have some bends that are tricky for the catheter or something. Not looking forward to the stirrups and the lamp!!

Everyone around me is giving birth at the moment. Agh!

I started mine yesterday so we're roughly the same stage! Feeling I should have started my healthy eating a few months ago. Was hoping to have lost a bit of weight before but I'm going to try so hard for the next month with less sugar & fat. Fingers crossed I also have 1 naturally conceived too.

@Bruce2 I haven’t been doing well at the healthy eating either. Still some time left though.

@Positivity20 what I've learnt through my infertility is that you definitely have to chase everything and make a polite pain of yourself to be heard. It shouldn't be that way but sadly it is, particularly with any Nhs appointments. Good luck

Can I join? I’m so excited that I just got the call that our provisional start date is 10 August. This is my first fresh cycle after over 3 and a half years of TTC, we’re unexplained but some professionals have said it’s probably my endometriosis. Our first cycle was scheduled for April but cancelled due to Covid. I wasn’t expecting the NHS to be running fresh cycles so soon, had my expectations it would be October or November, so this is a lovely surprise. Just hope nothing goes wrong this time and we can go ahead.

So my cancelled nhs appointment from May has been rescheduled for a few weeks time. Telephone call. Hardly worth it since I’ve gone private and there’s no funding now. But I like the consultant and she also works over at the private clinic. I’m slightly annoyed that they couldn’t be bothered to use proper headed paper and sign it off with the correct service. It’s sloppy and unprofessional. Just sums up the whole nhs process for me -Covid aside - it’s been shocking

@seven201 Great advice, you’ve inspired me and I’ve just sent a polite but assertive email, I don’t want a date next week, just a date! :)

Wishing all you lovely ladies all the luck in the world for your upcoming cycles and BFPs all round x

Hi all... Reading these posts is like someone has put all of my thoughts down into this thread... Having hope that a miracle will occur before the monthly disappointment of AF returning, tick. Everyone around you getting up the duff (often with the added bonus of it being unplanned), tick!

Hi @Positivity20 I hear you, wine is my absolute demon! As far as I was aware, now all the tests were done, we have that appointment where they go through your treatment and drugs, and then I think the next thing is to then start. When they replied to my email last week though, they still said there will now be a delay between that appointment and then treatment start. I'm so tempted to look at private now, even though I'm entitled to this NHS one, but it's just taking ages! I mean, if my current clinic is gonna be ages away, could we do a cycle somewhere else while we're waiting? Is this even a done thing? I've no idea!

@EllieEskimo have you looked at your local NHS guidelines? I found ours online and they seem to say that I would be entitled to 2 NHS rounds provided total rounds didn't exceed 3. So I could still do the nhs rounds if my private round wasn't successful. I haven't been able to reach anyone at the nhs to double check that but it aligns with what my private clinic think. It might be worth looking up your nhs ccg guidelines, it's a long boring read just to warn you!

I'm off work today and freaking myself out on google. I've been quite calm the past couple of weeks but now in full panic mode about everything that could go wrong. I'm reading about miscarriage risks and not even close to getting a bfp yet. Wish I could turn my brain off sometimes!

@Eggling I know exactly what you mean I am already googling everything under the sun already! Im terrified today .. i say today becaise it literally changes daily.
Today I am so angry I have to go through this and other peolple dont have to even have to try :(
I was alot more calm when I was working towards the retrieval to be honest but now im worrying a lot !

@Ails826 well it's nice to know I'm not alone in my google panic! I was fine yesterday, you're right, it really changes daily. I also felt better than this before egg collection, more excited. Today I'm just scared.

I'm going to try and put down my phone and head out for a walk this afternoon to stop myself spiralling further. Is there something like that you could do too?

Hello, can I join? I’m going in for my AFC on Monday.

This is our second round. My DP has azoospermia due to asymptomatic CF. We got 14 eggs on our first round back in January and none of them fertilised! Which was a huge shock. We have since been to see Dr Ramsay in London and we’re going to do a fresh sperm retrieval from a different place on the day of my egg collection. We’ve also moved clinics. Feeling very nervous after what happened last time but also a little bit excited! Good luck everyone xxx

@Eggling yes i know exactly how you feel I was also more exciter vefore the retrieval and now im scared it wont work itl go wrong and thatll be it. I cant imagine being pregnant today its scary

Yes thats a great idea, i try and go on walks as much as I can and im back in the gym now so hopefully i will try and concentrate on being healthy and taking time out
I want to enjoy it and be positive and excited so i need a change of attitude !

@seven201 not a massive rant at all, I've had alot worse! I told all my close friends a while back that whilst I'm happy to hear their news I'm also going to cry, so please dont tell me face to face or call me because I need time to process. They've all been pretty good about just sending me a text. It doesn't make it hurt less (and I still beat myself up with guilt for not being 100% happy) but it helps.

Welcome @Raggity19
Sorry to hear about your first cycle. Did they use icsi? Fingers crossed for better fertilisation this time, sounds like your consultant has a plan.

I came on today which is 2 days early, meaning my start date is probably going to come back a few days next month. For some reason this has made me panic a little!! I think these last 9 months since my previous cycle I've felt OK becuase I've always been like "maybe it'll work next time". Now next time is here and it's our last shot before considering other options I just feel a bit scared! Doesn't help that we would have been due this month had our little embaby survived

@Mseddy yes we had to have ICSI as DPs sperm don’t seem to move! Thank you :) Are you planning to start next month too?

Thanks @Eggling I might just have a look at that you know. I know my CCG only offer one cycle, but I should really double check about where we would stand if we had a private cycle too. I'd still want my free go if the private one didn't work. Lots to think about! I hope you've managed to find the snooze button in your mind now 😊

@mseddy that's a great idea to warn people to not announce it. Wish I'd done that. I didn't think I'd need to as I just thought people would use their brains. The one done with her husband present still really gets to me 6 months later. I don't think I know anyone else who is planning a baby but I bet one appears just when I don't need it!

@positivity20 I'm so pleased you've sent the email! Fingers crossed they get back to you with something useful.

@seven201 it's the ones you arnt expecting that hit you the hardest! Doing it with her husband present is really crap.

@Raggity19 yeah I'm all due to start on my next period which should be 28 days from today given I'm CD1. I could have started this month, but it all felt too rushed when they said that 2 weeks ago after so many months of delays! So we went for August