Dec/ Jan IVF support #2

[Chooklass]

First thread is filling up fast so I thought I'd get a new one ready so we can keep on supporting each other through this crazy journey! Will post a link in old thread 😊xx

Sorry sorry to hear your news @Kellyprt1, try to be kind to yourself.
@UnicornPuff, try and stay positive as you just never know.
@Lily999, some people dont have any side effects until near EC, think yourself lucky.

Well its 5dp3dt, yesterday I felt nothing, today o feel slightly sick, still dont know if its pessaries or good news, this tww is a killer

@Kellyprt1 so sorry to read bad news, ask your clinic if there’s any other options they are usually helpful as the others have said. It’s a really cruel process.

@UnicornPuff there’s still hope, your embryos are in the best possible natural environment with medication to give them every chance so everything crossed 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@41trying I am hoping it’s good news!! Are you going to wait for OTD or a different day to test?

@FlapJackered A lot of ppl seem to start testing at 8 days post ET so I don’t think that’s too early 🤞🏻🤞🏻

I’m feeling really low today. OH & I had a massive row yesterday about him being totally lazy yet having so much freedom to do whatever he wants at the weekend after his stressful job still leaving me looking after active DS & 2 x active dogs. Then followed by a bad nights sleep as toddler woke every hour or more after midnight as he’s got a cold (I didn’t go to him but still woke me up) & DH only woke up once so I’m shattered & emotional. Add to that our internet at home has stopped working which means no 3G or phone service either I’m super stressed 🤦🏼‍♀️😥😫

Extremely sad news for me today guys 😞😞 My cycles been abandoned 💔 had day 12 progress scan today which showed 28 follicles all very small. Definite OHSS if they were to continue apparently so cycle cancelled 😔

My body reacted to the drugs the same way someone with PCOS would react apparently 🤔 (although I've never been diagnosed with it - does that mean I have it?!) and it would have been extremely dangerous to continue with the treatment.

Have been told to stop all drugs, have a scan in 6 weeks time to make sure my body's returning to normal then come back in 6 MONTHS when they will hopefully try again with different protocol.

Gutted is an understatement. Had EC provisionally booked for Weds 😢💔 Have booked time off work already for the 2WW which now obviously isn't happening so that's going to be an awkward conversation.

Just waiting to call the clinic when AF arrives now 😔 Complete nightmare 😣 Sorry girls just had to vent. Only got this news about an hour ago xxx

Aw @BaileyBadger4 I'm so sorry - that must be devastating. And 6 month to wait for another go? Still - your health is more important, especially your poor over-worked ovaries. Will you still take the time off? Treat yourself to some you time xx

Really sorry ladies to hear your upsetting news. 😢
It's so cruel when things don't go as planned. Please take care of yourselves.

I got a call this morning from the lab to say my six embryos survived the thawing process and looking great so far so scheduled for ET on Friday.

Oh @BaileyBadger4 sorry to hear you have to abandon the cycle.. Did they not see this happening before day12? And you didn't even feel anything strange? This is odd, I thought they can tell beforehand, you were almost at EC phase. Also would have thought you had symptoms of OHSS. Did you not have days every second day or was it less than that? What was your dosage? Sorry if you feel let down, will you be ok to try naturally in the meantime?

@Lily999 my bad I taught I updated about the embryos, the clinic called yesterda, said they were slow responders and if they freezes them chances of survival after thawing is 50/50. The embryologist asked if it was ok by me to discard? I replied saying what is the use of asking me when she has said it all. Her point was I am entitled three cycles and ......, long and short is nothing in the freezer for me. I believe and positive what ever Gods plan is this one embryo will stick.
@Kellyprt1 so sorry to hear this cycle did not work for you, will you try to ask what might have been the problem? Kindly take care of yourself, don’t be too hard on yourself. Do you want to tryIVF abroad? Prices are fair .
@BaileyBadger4 wow am sorry to hear about your abandoned cycle, how can they say you should try in 6 months time if I read well? That a very long wait. Hoping a Maura ke happens for us all in the group .
@Feline123 @BambiOnIce80 how are u ladies doing ?

@Lily999 I had my first progress scan 4 days ago which was my day 8 scan. That scan showed 17 follicles in total but all very tiny so they told me to continue with same dosage meds for another 4 days to see if they would grow larger. (Meds were 0.3 Buserilin injection in morning and 225ui Menopur injection in evening)

Today was day 12 progress scan and it showed that even more follicles had developed (to 28 in total) but all were tiny, none had grown any larger.

They said I wasn't responding to the drugs correctly and this happens in about 10% of patients 🤷‍♀️ I also thought they might have noticed or realised something sooner 😕
but no, I've had no symptoms at all! (very weird) No bloating, no tenderness, minimal cramping, no sickness, no ill effects at all really other than a headache yesterday. I'm so confused right now. Everything's a bit of a blur tbh. Been working long & hard for 4yrs now to fit nhs criteria (BMI) so this knock back is a bit of a blow after allll the waiting we've already done. So bloody frustrating 😣 but gotta try see the positives xxx

I’ve just had my egg transfer today I have one 2bb grade onboard and just starting my tww

I’m so sorry to read so much bad news, it’s so unfair. I hope you’ve all got plenty of support around you to get through this rough time xx

I’m 2dp5dt and feeling sooo anxious today. I’ve had phases of anxiety before (usually irrational fears that seem so real in my head) but have kept it away for so long by being in a good routine of exercise, meditation and diet. So I’m not sure if it’s come back because I’m out of routine and not exercising or whether it’s the progesterone which I’ve been on for a week now. I read that this would be hard, but I didn’t realise how hard!

Welcome newbies 😊

So I had my collection today, they could only access the left ovary which I was prepared for anyway and I managed to get 7 eggs so I’m happy with the outcome, I know it’s early days and not as high numbers as some but I’m hoping to get some good news in the coming days 🤞🏽

@Lily999 don’t worry about no symptoms I didn’t have any really at all although yesterday I felt a bit bloated and heavy other than that I felt good.

@FlapJackered that’s great news on your good quality embryos!

@Kellyprt1 I’m so sorry to hear your news, I hope you have some good support around you.
@UnicornPuff you just never know now they are where they should be.

@BaileyBadger4 sorry about your abandoned cycle, 6 months seems a long time to wait have they say why that’s long?

I am so, so sorry to hear the bad news @Kellyprt1 @BaileyBadger4 😔 I'm literally sat hear in tears reading your news, so I can only begin to think how you're both feeling. This whole infertility thing is so bloody cruel. Wishing you all the best for your next cycles 💖

@UnicornPuff you're still PUPO and I know of 2 people who had BFP's from less than average quality embies, so you are nowhere near out yet ❤️

And I'm so relieved to hear your update @FlapJackered 😪 Sending loads of positivity to your embies for Wednesday 💓 I'm feeling mostly alright, but like you at silly o'clock in the morning, I'm second guessing everything 😏 If I'm chilling on the sofa, is that a good thing or a bad thing? If I go for a walk, is that a good thing or a bad thing?! The distraction of going back to work tomorrow is probably going to be a good thing (... or is it?! 🤯🤪). On the POAS front, I've developed a weird pathological fear of those after too many years of glaringly blank BFN's 😏 So no testing early for me as I'll be waiting for the blood test result from the clinic 🧪 Only got to wait until next Tuesday (9dp5dt), which I guess is the plus side of the blood test 😉

That's great news about your scan this morning @Chooklass! 🤩 Bring on Wednesday 💪

@41trying I hope your sicky feeling means good news is on it's way 🤞🏻

Sorry you're having a bad day @Minster2012 💐 I think blokes can be astoundingly emotionally unintelligent (mine very much included!), so I hope your DH has a moment of clarity and makes it up to you tonight.x

I'm really sorry to hear the update about your other embryos @Rovera12 but you're absolutely right to think super positively about the excellent one you have on board ❤️ I've got to ring for my update at 4pm, so bracing myself for whatever will be 🔮

Thanks @BambiOnIce80 😊. Just heard from clinic and I'm up first at 9am which I'm really pleased about! Quite enough waiting going on already!

Thanks for all of your support ladies ❤️
Unsure of why it needs to be 6 months. The Dr just said we'll see you in 6 months when your periods and body have returned to normal 🤷‍♀️😕 then try with a different protocol and completely different drugs.

He's not the nicest of blokes tbf. Quite abrupt and has made me feel quite silly on a number of occasions 😞 today was like he couldn't get us out of the room quick enough. I had to ask the nurse on way out to go through and clarify a few things with me as the dr was extremely vague, almost insensitive 😢 It made the experience even harder.

Always had a few problems at our clinic right from the get go tbh. We had to put a complaint in via PALS in the early days. Soo wish we could afford to go private 😣 but we are only entitled to one free round on nhs where we live so just gotta roll with it lol

Oooh, you lucky bunny @Chooklass!! 👯 😄 I've been either just before or at midday both times 😏

Congratulations on being PUPO @Haych1985 💐

I reckon you're right @Feline123 and it'll be a combination of the progesterone and being out of whack with your routine - I'm really missing running too, so I feel you 😔 It's my go to for de-stressing and it's obviously not an option at the moment. The nurse said I can start again after test day, so that's another reason to look forward to OTD 😄

That's great news @Melissa1983 , well done!x

Sounds like it might be time to get Pals involved again @BaileyBadger4 if they've rushed you out the door without explaining everything to your satisfaction. Sorry that you're going through this.x

I'm OK thank you and I hope you are OK to its a very lonely cruel thing. I watched my DH heart break this morning and it killed me. Its a shame we all over the country we need a weekly support meeting ha. For ones who have had ET I wish you every success I really do. 🙏😊

I am trying to sum up where people are at the moment, could you please help? So sorry I know I probably missed people out.

I 2WW: @41trying, @Feline123, @MissHoney85, @UnicornPuff, @BambiOnIce80, @Rovera12, @Haych1985, @Viletta please add names to the list people!

Stimm: @Chooklass, @Sabz36, @huffleclaw, @rainbow178, @Lily999, @justkeeprunning5, @LBJ2410

Waiting for ET: @Melissa1983, @candycornlover, @minster2012, @FlapJackered, @twinkleyes35, @jcurve

Sorry for people I missed, the thread is rather long, could you please add your names?

Excellent idea @Lily999 😘

@Lily999, I totally understand, it's getting difficult at the moment.
@Feline123 @MissHoney85 @UnicornPuff @BambiOnlce80 @Rovera12 @Haych1985 @Viletta, would you like to join an additional group for TWW??????

oh, no @41trying, I didn't mean at all that you should go to a different group!!! Just wanted to keep up with everyone :)

@Lilly999, I total understand you didnt mean that. Just an additional one, so we can support in here and then have another to symptoms and stuff ha ha, no worries if nobody wants to

I think a TWW group is a great idea! I'm not there yet, but hopefully soon!

I don't want you to abandon us :( So sad, sad now. Maybe if you promise to come back here and check up on us.?

Hi ladies, sorry to see that some of you have had bad news. I've been off here for a few days to try and help destress! I've been up and down since ET - I had one 3BC and a morula put in, I'm assuming that the embryologist was pretty sceptical about the blast to have put both in. Ive been trying to stay positive while not thinking about it too much, but I'm finding it hard. I've definitely fallen off the diet wagon and done some comfort eating! I think the pessaries are making me hungry too which doesn't help. I know in lucky to have had anything to put back though, especially reading what has happened to some of you, so at least that puts things in perspective. Lots of good wishes coming everyone's way!

@Lily999, not to abandon you, stay in group to support etc just as another, then when each person gets to tww, they can also join.
Then also here for support and a little comfort for those that haven't had the best news too, I hope this makes sense???