Oct/Nov IVF, ICSI & FET - Let's do this!

[Marmite83]

Hi all

I recently had a mmc from my first IVF cycle and am waiting for AF to appear (probably 3-4 weeks away) so we can do FET. I think we'll probably go for a natural cycle but am waiting for some information from my clinic to make a final decision. Had follow up consultation yesterday and will be having nurse consultation in the next couple of weeks hopefully. If anyone is happy to share their FET experiences I'd love to hear them. A little worried that a natural cycle might be the wrong choice. Anyway, if anyone fancies joining me for some support then join the thread.

When is your scan @ginandtonicformeplease? Best of luck for that! What kind of DIY are you doing? DIY sounds very productive. Queasiness sounds like a good sign! We are currently in seville but am not feeling very energetic very sleepy so lots of tapas and people watching in coffee shops, minus the coffee and beers for me! 😂xx

Hope all is well @marmite83 💐xx

@LillyLeaf Whoop whoop brilliant news. I'm really routing for you and this little one 😊@Ginandtonicformeplease All of this waiting is so tough but hopefully it will all be worth it and you'll see a beautiful little heartbeat.

I'm 10dp5dt and did another test this morning 😊 got another BFP and stronger line today so fingers crossed 🤞 OTD isn't until Wednesday though.

Thanks everyone, it's such an emotional rollercoaster. I've added 'going to the toilet' to my list of anxieties as well as scans. I just hope it still looks good on Thursday. I've been relaxing do my hobby today and it's great for taking my mind off things.

@ginandtonicformeplease I don't think anything can take your mind off the scan. I am seriously wishing for full on vomiting. My dp will be see pleased if I puke.

@Roobles79 oh I love Servile, but it's very much a doing city and now very relaxing.

@Christabelle89 that's great, will you have a blood test on OTD?

@Roobles79 My scan is a week on Tuesday. We're heading off to Iceland later this week so hopefully that'll take my mind off it a bit. Seville sounds lovely. I'm painting the hallway today, I always find painting therapeutic - I did loads during the 2 week wait!

@Christabelle89 that's fantastic - are you going for bloods?

For me, it's not just the first scan - both times before I've seen the heartbeat at the 7 week scan, only for it to have stopped by the 9 week. I don't think I'll be able to relax at all for the next few weeks, it's just finding things to keep myself occupied. If anyone needs any DIY doing let me know! I'm also not bad at making curtains, so I might get the sewing machine out

Just letting you know @cake1987 I done exact same on the first day I took cyclogest in error as that’s what I was told by the clinic an I panicked and the consultant said to be on the safe side, cancel the treatment and try again next month (but this meant waiting till jan as they shut for xmas an I didn’t want to) so we carried on an I’m pleased to say it worked and I’m 5+3 now so try not to panic. I just thought logically one shouldn’t make that much difference. Good luck x

@ginandtonicformeplease so sorry that you had to go through that. It must have been awful ☹️ both of our Angel babies had nice strong heartbeats but weren't in the right place. But now has I have no tubes I'm hoping that is taken out of the equation 🙈 @Lillyleaf no they gave me a home test and said just to do that then ring to book my scan if it's positive. I found it really weird. 🤔 I wonder if my GP would be able to arrange bloods for me. 🤷‍♀️

But strangely enough even though its just another stick I'm so nervous for Wednesday. I just keep panicking that I've got these BFP's but I'll get to Wednesday and it'll be a negative 😏🤔

@Christabelle89 I think it varies from clinic to clinic as to whether they take bloods or not. DH is convinces that ours only offer them as it's £60 a go and of course you have to have a repeat 48 hours after the first - maybe just ask the clinic if they will for peace of mind. I'm so sorry to hear about your two babies - it's my absolute worst fear it happening for a third time.

Update from me... So hCG is still erratic and not dropping, hovering around 100-125 for a while now and since it's been so long now doctors are thinking it's most likely ectopic. A small one since it's not been developing (still nothing can be seen on the scan so they don't know where it is and it might not even be visible through laparoscopy) but I will prob get the methotrexate injection today/tomorrow to stop it and hopefully that will be it. Waiting for yet another scan now.

Argh @Russkispy @BettySwoll0cks sadly you might have to do the Jan cycle without me as I will need to wait 3 months to try again. At least I will still have my tubes.

And trying (very very hard) to find the silver lining here but I guess it means I CAN fall pregnant without steroid and despite my thyroid antibodies. I guess that might be a glass-half-full takeaway here?

@sometimesalways
Sorry it's not good news for you. Are you familiar with methotrexate MTX? I've had it before for treatment of ectopics although ultimately I did lose both tubes

It's not the nicest drugs and used to treat cancer amongst other things - I had to go to the cancer ward at my hospital to be given it which added to the upset as was surrounded by adults and kids obviously far worse off than me although I was also going through something traumatic (just wanted to make you aware and prepare you in case it's same for you)

Also it means you must not try and get pregnant for 3 months after the injection (or 6 if they give you 2) - it's not always clear on the paperwork you sign. But it's incredibly dangerous to a developing pregnancy if you get pregnant too soon as it basically works to stop cell division and removes folic acid from the body

It can also upset your liver and I found I couldn't drink alcohol for a few months afterward without feeling a bit sick. I was also really really tired for weeks after

Update on my news....BFN all last week so looks like I'll be joining the January club - I'm going to ask to do a round of natural IVF though this time x

@LillyLeaf, I'm so happy everything looked ok on your scan. How are you feeling now?

@ginandtonicformeplease, plenty of DIY that needs doing at my house, you're welcome any time . I've had the same experience with both my mmcs. Heartbeat at first scan and then noting at the next one. Hopefully this time will be different for both of us.

Sorry it was a BFN @itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted. Fingers crossed January is your month.

@sometimesalways, I really feel for you. Hopefully the injection will finally give you some closure. Hopefully you can plan some fun things for the next three months while you wait to try again.

Update from me, I'm 7 weeks today. My clinic finally rang me back today after I chased this morning. Apparently my consultant isn't concerned about the shape of the sac but would like me to have a repeat scan in 10 days due to my mmc history. In other news, I stacked it on the frosty driveway on Saturday, full on fell over so feeling quite bruised still. Luckily my hip, arm and chin took most of the impact. I think I instinctively protected my tummy area thankfully but I was still pretty annoyed at myself. Nausea eased off a little yesterday evening so of course I was worrying all night but it's back with a vengeance this morning thankfully.

@Marmite83 I'm still incredibly nervous. I too saw a heartbeat at my first pregnancy that later it stopped so although it's reassuring on the day a lot can happen between scans. Hopefully Thursday scan at the fertility clinic will go well, then I'll have another one at the EPU the following week, then probably another at the clinic the week after, just lots of scans. Not sure how I'm going to get out of work each time. Time seems to be dragging.

@Marmite83 Are you on any extra medication because of your history of miscarriage? My clinic has me on steroids, clexane and intralipids. I rattle when I walk.

@ginandtonicformeplease, I'm just on Crinone. I was on clexane too last time and still had the mmc. I've had one successful pregnancy so I think the mcs are more likely down to egg quality than anything my body is doing but who knows. If this one doesn't work out then I'll probably push for more meds next time but hoping I won't need to obviously.

Hang in there @LillyLeaf, fingers crossed for a good scan on Thursday

Hi @lillyleaf good luck for Thursdays scan. Will be thinking of you. I am 8dp5dt now and feeling so bloated and uncomfortable, I can't do my jeans up! yesterday felt a bit dizzy. All these can be explained by the progesterone though?! Over halfway through my 2ww now. XX

Anyone else on the 2ww with me? XX

Well done @Roobles79 for holding out till now and not testing! I do find it less stressful, weirdly, waiting tillOTD

@Marmite83 @LillyLeaf how are you doing?

My plan for MTX was aborted in the last minute (and prob for the best @itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted it sounded horrid, but at the time seemed the sensible way forward). I had a scan on the same day and they were able to see a small round shadow in my uterus which may be a failing intrauterine pregnancy sac. Which might mean no ectopic after all. Although we still cannot be sure either way. But they suggested we wait a little longer. Of course I am pleased not to take the 'heavy' option with MTX but at the same time it just means that the wait continues... and it was such a rollercoaster of a day! Different doctors saying different things... I am waiting for some new bloods now and we will see.

And I am so so sorry for your BFN @itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted will you try again?

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted doh just read you will try in Jan. sounds good, hope I will be able to join. I had a natural cycle and despite the ongoing headache of a result, I was very happy with the process. Much less fuss and stress than a medicated. Although I appreciate it's not right for everybody.
At this point I admit I can't even think about next cycles. I am exhausted, I can't imagine trying again.
Although I suspect I will feel differently once it's all resolved.

@sometimesalways I'm sorry you're still going through all of this. Not easy. And I really hope it ends soon for you! You need to rest so much from this emotional rollercoaster. Thinking of you. Big hugs to you.

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted so sorry about BFN. Hope we'll be buddy cycle in January

@Roobles79 fingers crossed!

I had my scan today. All good. Back again in 2 weeks.

That's great @LillyLeaf!

@Roobles79 When's your OTD?

Yay @lillyleaf great news xx @ginandtonicformeplease OTD is Monday but will test Sunday as its husband's cancer scan results Monday 😕 I've got the frers ready. No symptoms just the bloat and bad wind some cramps, This normal? X

@sometimesalways I'm sorry the whole saga is dragging on 

@LillyLeaf marvellous

Also had my scan today, all good

@LillyLeaf and @justtheonethen glad the scans went well! And may it continue this way! 🤞🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@Roobles79 crossing everything for you! and your husband for Monday!