The TMI April onward IVF thread

[AliceAbsolum]

@hopingforbabyd @pleaseletitbeme @phreedam @westywoo @mouse1234567 @viletta @hoping1 @twiglet2353

A bunch of April IVF ladies onto another round. Graduates and waiters we like hearing from you too.

[AliceAbsolum]

Reprofit gang!

@Hopingforbabyd Sorry o hear you're having a horrible time :( Is it muggy where you are? You working next week? I think half way through the 2ww is the hardest because you're close to amazing news but also easily close to horrible news, you're not just a few days away either. So hard to wait.

@Russkispy Great to see you, I realised I forgot to tag you sorry about that. You've had a really rough ride so far. How come you would dna test donor eggs?

@Viletta Love a good research. Do Reprofit do "mild" ivf? I'm so on the fence about PGS testing, 65% is a bit too low for me, what if you threw away a embryo that would be OK in the end?
I'm ready for the next cycle already, I'm annoyed it's so long away, I'd go next week if I could. But I can't, so I've decided to run another marathon in Sept, need something to fill the hole...

[Russkispy]

@Viletta no, Not with them. All my fertility treatments were done back at home, in Riga.
@Hopingforbabyd, thank you. Hoping you're still for a chance this cycle!
@AliceAbsolum , I'll need to speak to my clinic about PGS again. Last time we spoke, she just wanted to make sure that everything was absolutely perfect for my transfer including the donor egg. She didn't want me to suffer any more losses. And after this miscarriage, I think she will still suggest to PGS at least one, the best quality. We've become like a family at my clinic, and they're all rooting for us and really care about me and I trust her recommendations.

[AliceAbsolum]

@Russkispy Good shout, if you trust them that's brilliant. They're the experts. Riga sounds interesting.

[Russkispy]

@AliceAbsolum thank you. I grew up there from the age of 10 but was born what's now called Russia. With DE cycles, I'm also being realistic, it's not all the answer to our prayers but I believe there are higher chances. And I'm good with that.

[Viletta]

@Russkispy I am from Moscow. I was thinking of having my treatment there, I'm not eligible for anything free as I now live in the UK and it's expensive and tiring to make DH visa for traveling. Funny enough I used to work in a private clinic in fertility department as my first serious job. Many girls that I worked with ended up having IVFs themselves. I'm convinced there must be many people in my office who are going through the same but no one talks about it.

[Pleaseletitbeme]

Just to continue your thread Viletta... there has been a Facebook page set up about infertility in my line of work.
So many people have posted about loss and failure and success. I’d like to post but there is something I just don’t want to share with people who would known it's me.
Plus I’d feel like a traitor away from our group! Hahahahaha.
I just feel normal. Not pregnant at all.
My resting heart rate is just the same as ever too.
Now I’m back on another 2WW for viability scan.

[Viletta]

@Pleaseletitbeme yes I do t really talk about it myself, only family and very close people know.. just wondering how many people go through this. Who would have though pregnancy would be such a journey! I hope you keep yourself distracted and the next 2ww go quickly. I hear many people who felt pregnant naturally not feeling any different in the first trimester.

[Russkispy]

@Viletta for a split of a second I thought...god, I know you, you're my friend who lives here but is from Moscow, and we talked about IVFs etc But then you mentioned Brno. And I know you're not her. That would be so funny!
I'd love to work in a fertility clinic, to help an support all the ladies going through their journeys. Maybe once I had my rainbow baby, I'll look into it.
@Pleaseletitbeme I'm still hoping you're not out! Fingers crossed!

[Viletta]

@Russkispy haha, my only Russian friend here got pregnant on her first month trying with both first and second child. Some people are just lucky!

[Hopingforbabyd]

Ladies, I was really naughty and tested yesterday and today. Yesterday was a pink faint line and today 7dp5dt is this picture. I have never in my life seen a line before and I don't know what to make of it. I've just done this test about 10 minutes ago and don't know whether to believe it's true as I really feel like af is about to arrive I am so crampy! X

[AliceAbsolum]

@Hopingforbabyd!!! Yaaaaaay! Massive tentative congratulations xxxxxxxx

[AliceAbsolum]

How much mlu hcg did you trigger with?

[Pleaseletitbeme]

Hoping!!!!! Wowzers!!!! Congratulations!!!!!
I’m so so very happy for you.
I have a viability scan in 3 weeks xxx

[Hopingforbabyd]

Ladies this is making me excitedly nervous. I really feel like I'm about to come on. My butt hurts and so do my legs. 🙈 I triggered with buserelin so no hcg A's was at risk of OHSS but on day of EC I was given I believe around 0.2ml of Gonasi (HCG) it was so minimal hubby said he didn't know why she gave me it. It's 12 days now since EC so I'm hoping it'd be out my system. Thank you ladies trying to stay calm although inside I am freaking out lol x

[Hopingforbabyd]

This day 7dp5dt last cycle there wasn't even a hint. Saving a FRER for Sunday eve then OTD Monday. That FRER has collected some dust 😂 x

[Twiglet2353]

@Hopingforbabyd

[Wesstywoo]

@Hopingforbabyd looks like a good line for 7dp5dt! Tentative congrats!

[AliceAbsolum]

Argh I'm having a weird time. spent last night reading a thread about regretting kids. Now I'm starting to wonder whether this is the right decision for DH and I. I'm so desperate to have a baby, how can I then just doubt it?!
Someone said "its better to regret not having kids than to have kids and regret it". Puts the fear of death into me. Plus what if it is disabled? Or dies? Also, climate change is a big thing for me, I'm such a hypocrit flying to another country to try to have a baby.
DH and I could have a good life with a dog. ARGH. Does anyone else ever have these doubts?

[Russkispy]

@Viletta a very lucky girl, your friend! Let's hope we get that lucky too!
@Hopingforbabyd so very happy for you! Fingers crossing for the whole 9 months!
@AliceAbsolum sorry you're feeling this way. AFM, I never had those doubts and if anything I want another baby and a sibling for my DD more than ever now. But that's just me. We are all different and it's nothing wrong with that

[Wesstywoo]

@AliceAbsolum this journey is such an emotional rollercoaster that it is bound to throw up all sorts of thoughts and feelings xx

[Hopingforbabyd]

Ladies, the line is becoming darker so I'm thinking more now maybe this isn't trigger?! I'm 8dp5dt still feel a bit crampy. No sore boobs though which is a little alarming. Dare I get excited? I feel like my luck will fail on OTD. I wish I didn't test but I just feel so different (and majorly scared!) also, @AliceAbsolum I completely agree with you!! I am freaking out right now, the idea of becoming pregnant has been so prominent in my life....for it to possibly be real now has had thoughts whirling through my head. I sound so incredibly ungrateful. I am just scared. Scared to think finally, for once a bit of luck my be coming our way? Ps this is just now x

[Twiglet2353]

Definitely getting darker @Hopingforbabyd!! 😀😀

Go back to when I tested positive - nil symptoms, nada, zilch. I still would think I was pregnant and I'm nearly 24 weeks! Not once have I been sick. Some sore boobs later on and the occasional bit of heartburn.
Try not to over analyse and just keep on that meditation app to help relax you 🤞🤞

[Viletta]

@Hopingforbabyd the line looks very good! Hope all goes well from now on.

@AliceAbsolum I think most people just get pregnant naturally when they have that hormonal surge and then get on with their lives with kids. It's difficult for us as our decision to have children involved lots of "manual" steps and we have so much time to think. My hormonal urge to have kids ended pretty much in my 30s. I know lots of women who chose career and they said their hormonal desire to have kids ended in 40s. I think I do want to have kids but only my own. If this doesn't work I'll get on with our lives rather than adopt for example. I feel I want that experience to be a mother and also give my parents grandchildren. I think most of people say that the love they feel for their children doesn't compare to anything else and it's definitely worth it. I think probably people who regret it are in minority if it surpasses postpartum depression. It's definitely up to you. You can imagine your life with kids and without and think about which one you prefer.. what do you think?

[Hopingforbabyd]

Thank you @Viletta @Twiglet2353 I'm gonna hold off now for a bit and not get too ahead of myself just in case. Thank you for always being there x

[BoomBoomBoomLetMeHearYouSay]

How would you ladies respond to some one saying oh you must be excited to start IVF?

I’m like not really, no! Petrified is more like it. I think the person is trying to be positive but it also feels like kind of a weird comment tbh. Not sure how to respond to this.