Keith's BPG II

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@AliciaWhiskers @CornishMaid1 @Ginandtonic31 @Cauliflower82 @Welshpugmomma @Mrbay @Zest11 @RRoonilWazlib @Weenumpty

Hope this works xx

@mouse1234567 oh yes! I'm so delighted for you! Well done on waiting until today and getting a 2-3, woo hoo!

Now the next wait starts! We're all here to hold your paws

@mouse1234567 no I'm not a teacher but work in the NHS so also rated! 😂

@mouse1234567 yay!! Congratulations - I’m so happy for you 🤗. I’m a teacher. A solid 2 possibly some features of a 1 in there too 😂

@Ginandtonic31 sorry I’m getting muddled, I knew there was quite a few of us teachers!

Haha @Cauliflower82 you totally get it!!

Thank you all!

My boobs def feel slightly more bruised on the top of them and I’m wondering if I’m slightly queasy but might just be making it up. How did you guys find it?

@mouse1234567 yayyy! That's soo good, well done! May I ask what drugs/protocol etc you had for a FET?
Also gives me some hope. I have mostly b grade embryos left. My worst out of the 4 left is a 2bb and I remember interrogating the embryologist as to whether that was good or average or what (apparently it's 'good'! I think as teachers we want As/top marks haha!

@Cauliflower82 haha I like those grades!

@Ginandtonic31 congratulations on a girl! That is lovely :)

@Welshpugmomma you look lovely in the pic and your dog is adorable! Glad all is well.

@KittyKatSmile lovely knitting, well done, you are so skilled!

That's me signing off for a while again now (sorry!). I'm just doing everything I possibly can to not think about fertility to keep a handle of my mental health. I will check back in in a few weeks xx

@mouse1234567 I didn't really feel anything at all other than tired. Have got a bit of heartburn now and have done some comedy spews (once (x2 spews) on the side of the road after seeing some dog poo. I am a dream).

Hello all! I don't know how I missed all these updates. The thread dropped off my "I'm on" bit, so I didn't think anyone had posted!

Congrats @mouse1234567, lovely, lovely news.

Not so good news here; DP and I have split up. We still have one little embryo in the freezer, which I guess now will not be used. Feeling pretty shit about the whole thing (the end of the relationship as well as the end of the chance to have that baby). Sorry to be a downer to the thread.

Glad everyone else seems to be doing ok :)

@AliciaWhiskers I'm so sorry to read your news. I hope you're ok. What a tough thing for you to go through. Here if you need a shoulder. Take care of yourself x

@AliciaWhiskers I'm so so sorry to read your update. That is rubbish. In the short term please try to keep yourself as busy as you can and take time for yourself and do things you enjoy. Take each morning/evening/day as it comes and the rest will follow. Here if needed and thinking of you xxx

Hi all

Sorry for the radio silence, I needed some space away from everything.

@zest11 - yep HRT is for he menopause but at 3 a day it helps to build your lining.

@mouse1234567 - congratulations!!!

@kittykatsmiles - honestly, please do keep knitting, it is a dying art! I've been watching loads of call the midwife and I'm loving 50/60s chic.

@aliciawhiskers - I'm really sorry to hear about the split, are you totally sure that's it? I've split up with my DH for 6-months a few years ago and look at us now.

@welshpugmomma - you and put are super cute!! Hope you are enjoying Miami.

@califlower82 - glad pregnancy is treating you well.

@ginandtonic31 - congrats on your baby girl - don't feel bad about finding out the sex, I don't know of anyone who didn't.

So A few things have changed with me, I didn't get the job but had very positive feedback so yay!
Had to let my elderly cat go last week, so she's official a Ghost Cat, her name was ghost cat from the day we adopted her!
Had my FET today, the embryo defrosted well and bounced back (clearly the correct medical term) quicker than expected. Transfer was easy and the nurses were impressed with my laid back attitude - nothing more I can so now!
I feel less excited this time, not sure if excited is the correct word, however I don't feel like I'm racing towards the end of the TWW.

@Mrbay great to hear from you and pleased the FET went well. I think that your attitude is probably a very healthy one; get on with your life and see at the end what has happened. How are things going in your current job?

On that note, I am hating my employer at the moment. Our mat leave policy is terrible (for my industry); we've been lobbying them for over a year now and it looks like they're going to change it from 12 weeks to 14 weeks which frankly is offensive; especially where 26 weeks is the industry standard. They love to bang on about how they are a top tier firm and really focus on inclusion and diversity and then something like this! Out of interest: what is the policy in the NHS and for teachers please ladies?

Hi ladies,

@AliciaWhiskers I was so sad to read your news. Like @Mrbay said, is it definitely the end or the stress of the IVF? I can see how IVF can have that impact, I could have walked away easily!

@Mrbay sorry about the job but I do believe everything happens for a reason and it's because there's something better coming your way. Nothing wrong with being relaxed, you gain nothing by not being!

@KittyKatSmile NHS I believe (I would need to double check online) is 8 weeks full pay, 18 weeks half pay + SMP and then SMP for the last few weeks up to 9 months (I think that's 13 weeks).

Hi ladies, thanks for the messages. I think it's done, but he doesn't want it to be. He basically cheated right at the start of our relationship, and then lied about it. It's only just now I have found out the truth, and I am very upset and hurt about it, mainly because of the lying. Ironically if he had been truthful I probably would have forgiven the cheating, but I can't tolerate lying.My exH was a compulsive liar, and it's not something I want to live with. I'm not in contact with ExDP at the moment, although he is still hopeful we might eventually get back together. Who knows.

@Mrbay can I ask why you and your DP split up for 6 months? What did each of you do in that time? Were you in contact and working towards getting back together? Everything crossed for your FET, really hope this is your cycle :)

@KittyKatSmile - I AM SO BORED!!! But slightly pissed about it, the office think that I should set up for their meetings etc - um if you book a meeting set it up yourself!!
Ref Mat leave pay - I only get sat mat pay, so 6-weeks at 90% and then SSP for the rest of the 9-months.

@Ginandtonic31 - they were really lovely about it and asked me too apply again when they next have a vacancy as I would be the perfect personality fit but need a little more industry exp. So all in all, a really positive outcome.

@AliciaWhiskers - basically we got together at 17-yrs and at 22ish, I freaked out and told him I wanted to experience life outside of marriage. We were way too young to settle down and get a house at 20, so much change in too little time for me.
We still lived in the house together as he was too stubborn to move back into the block.
It came to a head when he broke down in work and their welfare officer stepped in, she spoke with us both and asked us to at least try counselling. We did and yes it was hard work but I am glad that she stepped in and made us see sense.
I understand what you mean by you can take the cheating but the lying is worse. Makes you question everything that they have said previously. Big hugs

@KittyKatSmile haha your dog poo spew story made me laugh!, poor you!

@Zest11 yes so my protocol didn’t change from first one, I guess it was just a better embryo chromosome wise. Day 14 downregged on norethisterone, added buserelin into the mix of 21, stopped norethisterone on day 25 then got period a few days later and continued the buserelin. 5 days before transfer started two times Lubion progesterone shots and 1 Arovi blood thinner which I continue to 12 weeks. I also started 75mg of aspirin each day two days before transfer. Best of luck. Totally understand needed a break, ‘‘this infertility infiltrates so much of life, time out is important. I have everything crossed for that next embryo.

@Mrbay so sorry about your cat. Best of luck in your tww! And thanks for the congrats.

I’m struggling quite a bit at the mo, the anxiety all got to much today and I booked an HCG test at 5w2d- it came back 3571, was hoping it would be even higher but will repeat in two days and hope for doubling. With my first IVF pregnancy I never got an HCG reading above 270 so obviously it’s progress but still so paranoid. Might try and go into the EPU and see if they will scan me early next week as my clinic isn’t seeing my till 7w5d. When did you guys who are pregnant scan and see stuff on the scan? I need to learn to manage my anxiety! Also wondering if a bit of heartburn and nausea kicked in today-who knows. It is great being pregnant and I know there are many on here still praying for this so I don’t want to seem ungrateful, I really am-just hard to trust our bodies isn’t it?

Hi @mouse1234567. I know exactly what you mean about the anxiety. I'll give you a note of caution: if you get scanned too early, then they may be unable to see a heartbeat and you'll have an even more anxious time waiting to be rescanned. The heartbeat should appear between 6 and 7 weeks. I told my clinic I didn't want to be scanned until I was 7 weeks. Maybe you could try and move yours forward? I know how awful this wait is; I found it much harder than the tww. Sending you hugs. Even if you did laugh at me spewing :-)

Hi all-bad news I’m afraid. Went to the loo this morn and lots of heavy red blood. Feels like the beginning of a period. Waiting At EPU but 100 percent sure they will confirm miscarriage. This is all so exhausting isn’t it-I know I have only had two goes and so many people go through so much more but right now the idea of having to do this all again is very daunting.

Hope everyone else is ok.

@mouse1234567 I'm sorry you're going through the stress. But it could be fine! Lots of us have had red blood! Let's us know how it goes and fingers crossed!

Take care @mouse1234567 thinking of you waiting and sending some calming positive vibes...

@aliciawhiskers sorry you've had a bad time as well like the others have said maybe just take some time for yourself and nobody knows what the future holds, this doesn't necessarily have to be the end of your baby journey but maybe just for now it's a breather.

@mrbay sorry to hear about your cat hope you're ok , and remember try and stay positive in the tww, are you trying any of the cookoo tips ?! Sounds good about the interview feedback hope it's given you a boost in your confidence :)

@Ginandtonic31 and @KittyKatSmile
Hope your both well, I'm feeling really nervous that I'm not feeling anything , I know it can take longer for some people but it's putting me on edge and giving me nerves :( I don't have my next scan booked yet as still trying to get things sorted and in place... Im going to a prenatal yoga class tomorrow hopefully try and meet some people as so far that's not going too well I know it's only been a very short time but I'm not sure how to even get out there being pregnant !

@mouse1234567 - thinking of you today, hope it's been a good news day for you at the EPU.

@Welshpugmomma - oh what's cookoo??
Isn't America a different kettle of fish? I've never been but it appears from tv etc, that you can just ask to go for coffee and people don't look at you like you have two heads!

@mrbay hmmm chomping on pineapple core? Protein mad? They just kept saying to me to laugh lots and lots ! I don't know if any of that helped but when I wasn't crying I was probably laughing haha!

So far what I like is that it's really unpretentious like I could go out literally wearing anything and no makeup , hair like a bush and nobody would blink an eyelid, which is really nice when I'm feeling lazy as... People seem nice I just forgot what it's like knowing NOBODY! And starting from scratch :)

@Welshpugmomma - pineapple core?? to be fair, I am currently (have been for the past few weeks/months/year) eating like a horse!!

To be fair, that is how I act most days!!

BPG - how long long did you wait after insertion into one's rectum, before having a poo?! I am slightly allergic to the pills and I cannot face the itch any longer so up the back passage they go!!

@Mrbay I used to think if it had been 90 mins that was fine! Was everything ok at EPU?