Keith's BPG II

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@AliciaWhiskers @CornishMaid1 @Ginandtonic31 @Cauliflower82 @Welshpugmomma @Mrbay @Zest11 @RRoonilWazlib @Weenumpty

Hope this works xx

@Ginandtonic31 That is completely understandable and I'm sorry of what your husband went through.
Check you out for working out everyday though. I am desperate to get back into exercise. I am wondering if waiting 6 weeks really is necessary...

@Cauliflower82 Ahh I am glad to hear you are the same too. My heart has just turned to goo really! I even got upset when he turned 1 week old as I thought he's growing too fast! Recovery is definitely getting there...the antibiotics seem to have helped massively so hopefully things will continue to improve.

I am also intrigued to hear what others say about holding the baby. Our visitors are starting to come in a week and I don't feel too comfortable with him being picked up and held to be honest. I also don't know how to politely tell grandparents etc to stay 1m/2m away...

@Zest11 I started doing some post natal stuff when I felt my stitches were ok so just before 6 weeks. At 6 weeks I started normal workouts. But I'm still worried as I haven't been checked. And I do think I may have some slight ab separation and hoping I'm not making it worse. I've contacted some physios to see if any will check me. Check out Bodyfit by Amy on YouTube. She does a whole load of post natal workouts. I also did her pregnancy workouts when pregnant. She's a real mum so i find it helpful.

Oh @Zest11 check out walking workouts on YouTube! I did these too before 6 weeks as you just walk on the spot. They're low impact but make you feel you're taking proactive steps.

hey girls!

Thanks for the well wishes - I am feel nearly back to normal!

Our review is later on this month and I've accepted that there's not alot I can do until then. DH has taken it a bit harder this time, but he doesn't want to talk about it, not sure if that is because he doesn't want to upset me or not?

Thanks @Welshpugmomma - your poor friend, I just knew this wasn't going to be our time but it is still shitty all the same.

@Ginandtonic31 Yes, I saw that person on YouTube and did a few of her pregnancy workouts. Will definitely give her post natal ones a go - thank you. Also, I have never heard of walking workouts but they sound like something I can do at home.

@Mrbay Glad you are starting to feel a bit better. Make sure you take this inbetween time for yourself.

@Welshpugmomma you must be back now, very excited for you!

How has everyone been the past few days? We have found things really really difficult. Baby has been crying hysterically and we haven't been able to work out why. Dr said colic and we have tried lots of things. We are currently working our way through trying different bottles and winding him loads as that seems to be an issue! It's been so hard though and I actually asked my MIL to come down and help (all our family live some way away) and we are so so lucky she did. Honestly had no idea how difficult this would be but fingers crossed things are improving now!

@Zest11 hold on in there. I promise it gets better. We've never had any problem with MAM bottles. What have you tried to help with the colic? Sometimes I think it's something they just grow out of. Could it be reflux or silent reflux? Is he sick or can you see him swallowing acid back down etc?

@Zest11 ☹️ it’s so worrying those first few weeks and months. I honestly have to second what @Ginandtonic31 I think they just grow out of it. Our HV kept saying colic and there’s a part of me that thinks colic is just short for I don’t have a clue! Either way, he grew out of his ‘colic’ after a few months. I use Mam bottles too and I’ve found them great. I hope you’re having a better day today and he slept well.

Hi ladies I'm back! So good to be home and loving the fresh air, was the best flight I could have imagined only 50 pax, josiah sleep the entire flight in the bassinet and even the pooch behaved! Security was not fun , bet hey we did it!

Hope you're all well :) we're isolating now for 2 weeks but where my mum lives is perfect with country walks on our doorstep so literally don't see a soul! And of course my parents are overjoyed to have us there, so nice having the extra hands!

@Zest11 hope it eases for you, the not knowing what to do n is so normal, I don't know if you carried on bf but I found that my diet was massively affecting him ( im a veggie and he was so gassy after a roast we soon linked it to my diet
Also we use the Dr. Brown bottles (not all thay often mind) but they do the trick for us!
So great that MIL came to assist after all they say it takes a village, dont ever be afraid to ask for help, people love feeling needed too ;)

@Ginandtonic31 Thank you. Yes, hopefully it is something he will grow out of. We have been winding lots more and also colic drops which seem to have helped. Not sure if it is reflux as he is very rarely sick.
@cauliflower82 I agree completely about colic just being code for "no idea." I guess it's hard for drs to work it out too as babies can't communicate what is wrong. I remember you saying you were worried about Noah and kicking his blankets at night...I am now exactly the same and wondering when I can put ours in a sleeping bag!! If it's my shift I can't sleep, I check his blankets and breathing all the time. I bet that anxiety never goes!

We have been using mam bottles as just so many people recommended them and I was happy with them but my husband seemed to think they let too much air in? We have also got some Dr Brown ones now too. Apparently there's a market full of teets we can try too!!

@Welshpugmomma Ahh it sounds like things have gone smoothly with your return home. I am pleased Josiah slept the whole flight...that is extremely fortunate. Self isolating doesn't sound so bad where you are with the nice walks too :) Have you made plans for when your isolation period ends? Anything you're desperate to do now you're back in the UK?

You girls are so kind with your supportive words of encouragement, I am really really grateful. Today and yesterday have been better thankfully. Might be because we have had some help from family so feel a bit calmer and the methods we are trying are starting to take effect. He is still be hard work in the evenings and there are a few things he does that my husband and I just can't work out what they mean but hopefully we will learn.

@Welshpugmomma welcome home 🏡 ☺️🎉👏 enjoy your self isolating time - I bet you get loads of visitors afterwards!

@Zest11 I can relate so much to everything you’re saying - we started using a little sleeping bag and it did help. I’m going to find it and post. It made so much difference in terms of my anxiety because I didn’t need to worry about blankets anymore. I also bought an owlet monitor - silly expensive but it’s been my best purchase yet. Honestly the first six to eight weeks are the hardest and then it gets better, SO much better!

www.tommeetippee.com/en-gb/product/little-ollie-grobag-easy-swaddle-0-3-months-1

@Zest11 we also used the newborn sleeping bag. We didn't swaddle though. Just arms out. She still has the same ones now in a size bigger.

They do grow out of lots of things. I always thought something was wrong with Georgie as she pushed and grunted all the time like she couldn't poo and I was always worried what was wrong with her then one day she just stopped doing it. Now she only pushes when actually doing a poo. Every week is better than the last and gets so so much easier.

I'm not sure about MAM letting air in as the design means it flows through. But I've never tried any others. Georgie does get wind but she always brought it up well and now pretty much does it herself when being carried around. Walking up and down stairs with baby on your shoulder helps as the bouncing brings it up. Also, rather than just rub and lay we used to put a finger and thumb on either side of her back and push up to push the wind up.

I always worried something was wrong with Georgie everything she did but now I'm much more relaxed. I still put my hand on her chest when I get into bed to check she's ok or if I wake up before her though.

@Cauliflower82 and @Ginandtonic31 you have both been so helpful - thank you! I do have the newborn sleepbag and even though it says from birth and he is above the minimum weight I wasn't sure if I should leave it a bit longer but I guess at 2 1/2 weeks it's probably okay now. And yes, I put my hand on his chest to check breathing! That monitor also looks really good...the oxygen thing is a good addition!
Thank you for that wind advice too...I see a lot of pushing and grunting as well so I am pleased it's likely something he will grow out of. I didn't know about the finger and thumb trick either but we will try that.

So more of my husband's family are visiting and they just spent the evening with us and got to see how difficult baby can be at this time and we actually feel quite reassured that apparently he's normal. We just need to face up to the fact that he will be unsettled for a few hours each evening and we will have to work with him every night to try and manage it so he isn't screaming.

@Zest11 google witching hour and purple crying. Will make you feel better. The grunting and pushing is totally normal! They are just getting to grips with new feelings and movements. I remember the first day I came downstairs and my husband was with Georgie and she was kicking around all content and I thought OMG this is lovely' she's such a happy girl now.

Sleeping bag is fine. I found Georgie twisted almost near her blanket at a few days old so she went straight into her sleeping bag and has been ever since. She knows now when it's going on it's bed time.

@Zest11 yeah the sleeping bags are great. I think it's only the bigger ones which have got sort of a large flap and fit over their shoulders where they can get their heads stuck. That owl one is basically like a straitjacket so is fine. Agree with @Ginandtonic31 that it gives them a good signal about bedtime once they're a bit bigger. In the early weeks I found there wasn't much to distinguish bedtime from any other sleeping time 

In other news ladies, we are going to need a new thread soon!! @Zest11 I think you should do the honours, if you can work out how to do it!! I have no idea where we ended up parking ourselves but as long as we're tagged it should be ok I think.

Happy Sunday all (I had my first proper night out last night and my mum is on a staycation so let's see how today goes!)

@KittyKatSmile @Zest11 I think we had it still in infertility. Don't do it in AIBU. We learnt from that last time!!

Ok, i think I've done it. Appreciate that was slightly throwing a new mum under a bus and I've got fuck all else to do anyway :-)

Keith's BPG III and have tagged you all x

@KittyKatSmile haha thank you! You are just mega efficient and organised. See you all on the other side!