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Keith's BPG II

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KittyKatSmile · 02/08/2019 08:19

@AliciaWhiskers @CornishMaid1 @Ginandtonic31 @Cauliflower82 @Welshpugmomma @Mrbay @Zest11 @RRoonilWazlib @Weenumpty

Hope this works xx

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KittyKatSmile · 20/08/2019 19:21

Jesus H Christ ladies! Quite the few tasks here for old Keith. Right, I've contacted Channel 4 about getting my own show. They're getting back to me on the format; watch this space.

Why don't we try and help each other out again; @AliciaWhiskers are there any particular chargers you need?! We could see if we've got what you need, only if you promise that you will indeed charge them, wipe them and then send them to one of those places where they give money to charity!!

(I'm actually not amazing at throwing things out. Not terrible, but not amazing)

Also: don't burn everything! Statute of limitations! Keep documents relating to the last 7 years!!

And onto some real advice/my two pennysworth (sp?!). This is advice given to me by a friend who had IVF 12 years ago. Throw all the mud at the wall; something will stick. I normally hate any sort of positive thinking bs but if this is going to be your last shot (notwithstanding what others have said) you want to be able to look back and say you've done absolutely everything in your power. So get a bit healthier maybe, cut down on drinking (if you drink to start with) etc etc. You want to have no questions around 'could I have done anything else?'

That said, like @Ginandtonic31 I was my heaviest before this round, largely due to the steroids I'd been taking previously.

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Zest11 · 20/08/2019 21:22

Yes @AliciaWhiskers actually, I do echo what @KittyKatSmile smile said there about looking back and saying you did absolutely everything, especially if this is your last shot. My work told me to have some time off after EC and ET. When I came back I said that I was really grateful for the time off but next time I wouldn't take it as I didn't need it. HR said that it would have been worse for me if I hadn't taken the time off work, it failed and then I would always be wondering what if I had taken the time off...Hope the rambly anecdote is helpful.

KittyKatSmile · 20/08/2019 22:26

And in other, far more boring news, I am (almost) drug free! Just stuck the last little bugger up my arse (thought you'd like the poetry of that) and just stabbed myself for the last time. Now just the steroids to wean off. Shame as I've got used to stroking my peachy little face....

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Zest11 · 20/08/2019 22:36

@KittyKatSmile Whoop whoop! Congratulations to you :) I hope you at least have a few weeks feeling more normal!

Zest11 · 21/08/2019 15:15

@KittyKatSmile @AliciaWhiskers

You two were quick to work!

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KittyKatSmile · 21/08/2019 16:09

@Zest11 argh! Keith's identity has been compromised! Witness protection programme straight away!!

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AliciaWhiskers · 21/08/2019 17:39

@Zest11 hahahahaha that's brilliant!!!

Ginandtonic31 · 21/08/2019 19:22

Hahahahah i love that. I did used to be a journalist by the way!!!

Well I've had red blood today so was told to go to A&E. My local one was brilliant and I'm back for scan #4 tomorrow. I swear I'm breeding a little rebel. Hmm also found out I'm resus negative so now got to be even more aware of bleeding!

KittyKatSmile · 21/08/2019 19:50

@Ginandtonic31 oh my goodness. You poor thing. Hope everything is ok tomorrow. Why didn't they just scan you today, do you know?

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Ginandtonic31 · 21/08/2019 20:28

@KittyKatSmile I didn't go until 5pm and also EPU aim to see you within 72 hours so they just book you in next available slot. If it had been bad they would have kept me in overnight to monitor with a scan in the morning.

I wasn't impressed with where I work. I went to EPU and they said they could scan me next Tuesday!!! My local hospital have been much better and I'm now thinking of pulling my care back to my local hospital as I had requested to be transferred to where I work.

Zest11 · 21/08/2019 22:04

@Ginandtonic31 oh you poor thing, you really don't need this do you! Good luck tomorrow!

Out of interest, why did you choose near where you work? Are you planning on working right up until your due date? Grin In all honesty, don't worry about making a decision now, just see how the care goes at both places over the next few weeks and if your gut is telling you something, go with it but there's no need to jump ship yet :)

KittyKatSmile · 21/08/2019 22:09

Does someone in here work in HR? @Mrbay? Have I imagined this? My HR person, who is one of the most poisonous and despicable people I've ever met, has asked my best friend at work if I'm pregnant. I think it's just gossip, but I'm honestly so upset by this. Why can't I be treated with respect and I'll tell people if and when I want to.... I'm considering making a complaint because I think HR should be acting with more professionalism...

My friend also said to me 'yeah I think half the office know. Someone asked me before what you were drinking'. I wish she hadn't said anything (and now so does she); I just feel so shitty.

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Ginandtonic31 · 21/08/2019 22:39

@Zest11 I work in a hospital so I felt more comfortable there etc. I'm planning to work until a week or two before but that isn't why. But I work in a hospital out of the area where I live. So my midwife in my local area requested for me that I was transferred to my work hospital not my local. However it's a mess and I've still not got a scan there. I've also had trouble with EPU there. So if all is okay tomorrow I'm going to ring my midwife and tell them to pull back the request.

@KittyKatSmile that's horrible. Why do they suspect?

My husband said tonight your belly is rounding. I was like well it shouldn't be yet and I'm gaining weight so you've inadvertently just called me fat.

KittyKatSmile · 21/08/2019 22:43

@Ginandtonic31 I presume because of my tummy but maybe because of the weight on my face. One of the ladies in my steroid group (ha!) said that her friends said she looked a lot better after 12 weeks because she lost weight or stopped bloating so I'm hoping for the same. I'm not really rounded, but just more 'filled out'.

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Cauliflower82 · 22/08/2019 04:56

A case of insomnia going on here, just another normal night...
so thought I’d catch up on the boards.

@KittyKatSmile I feel for you with this one tremendously - some people have no self control and are simply despicable. I work in a school where I have exceptionally close friends and I’ve been off so much recently because of scans, the ohss, etc. One week I was in the clinic every morning and didn’t get to school until about ten each day. Because I’m aging 😂 😂 😂 😂, don’t have any children YET and people in the office know I love kids, people have gossiped. I actually had one woman confront me on the stairs in front of pupils as it was lesson changeover and she said ‘she just knew’, congratulated me, blah blah blah, this was the day after finding out Pip had worked - kids overheard. I was devastated. Went into my cupboard and just cried with the invasiveness of it all. Just devastated I couldn’t be given an ounce of privacy. The children didn’t say anything as I suspect they’re too emotionally mature for that and our school is huge on treating people with respect and dignity. Apparently when I’d been at these appointments, she’d been going from close friend to close friend asking if I was pregnant. I’m not an overly private person but I feel like if I want to share then I’ll share, if I don’t then back the hell off. I’d told my close friends and thankfully not one of the four relented. It sucks, doesn’t it! Don’t let yourself get too worked up about it - these people need a good stern bloody talking to!!!!

@Ginandtonic31 bless you, just one thing after another. I hope all is well today and I’m sure it will be. The more I hear about light bleeding, the less it concerns me - I never realised that it’s not abnormal. But that doesn’t help, when you find some blood yourself, you just get so anxious. I hope you’re doing well :).

@Zest11 I did get a phone call back and she offered over the phone sessions, but I’m not quite sure that’d work for me so I’m going to speak to the midwife today or maybe consider private.

I was speaking to a close friend today and I was saying it’s like ivf physically and mentally drained me that it didn’t leave me with much reserve to handle morning sickness and feeling so ill when I was also feeling so unwell - the ohss still hasn’t settled and if things effect me physically then they always start affecting me in other ways too. I’m not sure if that makes sense but I’ve been making steps to feel more like myself recently and feel I’m getting there.

Sorry for rambling. Hope you’re all sleeping well.

Ginandtonic31 · 22/08/2019 06:44

@Cauliflower82 was it the early morning call for a wee that woke you? I find between 4 and 5 I need a wee!

I also think light bleeding is fine. It was just I was told if it's red go to A&E so my mum made me. Baby certainly loves a photo opportunity!

Why are people like that!! If anyone has guessed where I work they've not said a word but I think they will be surprised when I tell them as I'm not maternal at all!!

KittyKatSmile · 22/08/2019 08:07

@Cauliflower82 @Ginandtonic31 my wee time is 1am in the week and 1, 4 and 5am at the weekends!

@Cauliflower82 I remember that happening to you. I think it's the fact that it's HR is what has really got to me. I expect people to gossip and I think people will be happy for me but also curious because I quite openly don't have a partner. I need to reframe this (sorry!) and look at it in a positive way as otherwise it's just going to continue to upset me.

My mummy is coming over this evening so she can come to the 12 week scan (and get the Harmony test results) tomorrow. She is going to be so excited. I've had to say we need to go out for dinner as she can't be around my housemate in case she busts me!!

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KittyKatSmile · 22/08/2019 08:08

@Ginandtonic31 thinking about you today x

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Ginandtonic31 · 22/08/2019 08:25

@KittyKatSmile thank you. I feel ok but it's that moment when they're squinting at the screen and you just lay there thinking oh shit.
I've also been worried it has stopped growing.

Also will it look like a baby now at 11 week? Or just a blob still?!

CornishMaid1 · 22/08/2019 08:48

Good luck for your scans today @Ginandtonic31 and @KittyKatSmile. Hope they go okay for you.

It will look mostly like a baby at 11 weeks - they are apparently fully formed at 13 weeks and then just grow bigger, but are mostly there now.

It is rubbish that you have people at work prying. That is so rude of them. I've told two at work (my best friend/secretary and my boss). My boss was only told as my leave will have a big effect on the business, so I wanted to give him plenty of time. Part of me wishes I hadn't as being asked how mum and baby are each day is starting to get really annoying!

My best friend here is great, but she is currently going through treatment too. I don't think I'm actually going to tell anyone else for a while as I can't be bothered with it being brought up all the time (weird I know). It is funny though as I do carry most of my weight on my tummy, so I think they are going to go through a phase of 'is she pregnant or has she just put on weight' and that may make them think twice for a while!

Ginandtonic31 · 22/08/2019 09:15

I'm the same @CornishMaid1. I don't think I'm going to tell anyone much! I've also clapped weight on through treatment so people will just think I'm a fatty at the minute!! Might see how long I can go before people ask!

My 'official' scan isn't actually until 13 weeks so at least this one breaks it up. I'm convinced it stopped growing though!

KittyKatSmile · 22/08/2019 09:50

@Ginandtonic31 it will definitely look like a baby! Less of a deformed clown (or was that just Cutie?!) It will also be moving around. Especially yours because it's such a little show off!!

@CornishMaid1 it's really just the HR angle for me. And I guess because I'm small (5'2") and petite, anything shows up on me. I was hoping it would be the other way and I just wouldn't show for months. (A friend of mine went through this on her own a few years ago and she didn't tell work until 20 weeks!) Anyway, just trying to be grateful for Cutie and my health and not let that poisonous bitch get to me.

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Ginandtonic31 · 22/08/2019 12:17

@KittyKatSmile people love a gossip don't they. Who could you complain to about them? Is it the only HR person?

Baby is doing fine and the Haematoma has gone so maybe the blood was the rest of it. I didn't think it was wriggling but my mum said it was moving its arms and a leg and turned to look at us like "hello, I'm here!" . They just said be careful of any bleeding after 12 weeks now and to call them as I would need the Anti D shot with me being rhesus negative and also if I have any trauma to my stomach. They've told me to stop my cycling and no HITT training and to walk and do pregnancy exercise as the risk of trauma is too high 😫 I'm such a fat blob.

KittyKatSmile · 22/08/2019 14:20

@Ginandtonic31 great news that baby is ok (does it have a blob name?!) Sort of disappointing that they didn't point out any movements to you; when I've been they spend the whole time being a bit OTT and going 'it's waving at you! It's saying I'm ok mum' blah blah.

But horrors about exercise etc. Eek.

Yes we've only got one HR person here. I could complain to her boss at head office who I know fairly well. In the first instance I'm going to bi-pass her in announcing it to make it clear that I'm not talking to her. I'll also try to avoid speaking to her at all.

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Ginandtonic31 · 22/08/2019 15:26

@KittyKatSmile it wasn't doing anything to point out. The Sonographer was excellent to say I'm on scan 4 and did point out the slight arm movement but it was just Laos there. Lazy sod like me.