IVF/ICSI May/June 1000 posts plus :)

[Cauliflower82]

Hi peeps :)

I’ll hyperlink this to our old thread so we can continue bitching about crystal82 😂

I can’t believe we’ve almost got to 1000 posts. I didn’t even know that was a thing - thank you @kittykatsmile because I had no idea it would just max out and I can NOT go on without you all. That’s not even an option.

Thanks @KittyKatSmile and @AliciaWhiskers - I wonder if they had my weight incorrect as I found it pretty painful internally, like I was being poked with a sharp stick. I really don't want to go through it again.

I'm already feel impatient about waiting 24-hrs to know if any are viable, gut says it'll be zero and I'll be back to be bat shot crazy in the autumn!!

@Mrbay I was the same too such pain during but weirdly I must have been like half out of it, then the rest of it I was fully gone so I wonder if I made a noise. I said to mum I found it a bit traumatic and not what I expected... That's the hard physical bit out the way for now, hope you get a nice call tomorrow x

Ladies I've been reading so got a lot to reply to, hope your feeling ok @Zest11 sorry it's not the news you wanted , so crappy :(

Hope the ± crew are feeling ok and waiting patiently for scan now what 'week' are your scans? And congrats to @RRoonilWazlib to with your line :)

Keep it up @AliciaWhiskers feels like the longest time ever !

I did test early against all your advice I felt so down about the possible period pains I just felt like I needed to know.. I am so pleased to say I got a bfp! I've tested again and done a Digi yest 2-3 weeks and I will do again tomorrow and call clinic ... Me and DH had a very emotional Skype last night! I wrote on a lightbox that 'fugs to be a big brother,2020' and showed him the dog sleeping next to the box with the test haha. Very American/cheesy but we've never had a positive before so wanted something memorable seeing as I'm not going to be with him till sept either !

@Cauliflower82 stay positive not long until that important blood test.

@Welshpugmomma amazing news! So happy for you and I think your reveal is beautiful. FYI if you'd like a laugh go and have a look on the thread called gender reveal party and see women laying into other women. Quite hilarious and I bet @Ginandtonic31 has read it already.

Almost makes me want to talk about the time there was a fight in this thread but I'm definitely not going to do that

My scan is 7w1. Worse than any other wait x

@Welshpugmomma Congratulations! So glad for you that it's worked out. What was it we all said about it just needing 1? I love the way you told your husband, so cute!

@Cauliflower82 good luck tomorrow, thinking of you and hoping that you are the lucky twin!

I don't need to go for the blood test now as I rung up my clinic and asked if I could stop the vag gel as a tampon would be more helpful! (Girls this "withdrawal bleed" is GROSS) and as I had already tested there's no need for me to go. To be honest I am OK as I have some nice things planned for the summer and I kind of feel a bit of closure that as this didn't work, there is literally nothing I can do as I really did try it all and it's beyond my control. I will get the immunes testing done anyway and at some point our frozen ones will get put in xx

Lovely @Zest11. Sounds like you've really got your head together, which is the most important thing. Definitely good to have plenty on. I hope we still somehow get news of you. I feel so connected to all of you ladies (you can say that in an American accent if you like)

@Mrbay ouch poor you!! I never felt a thing. Next thing I knew I was waking up from a nice sleep. Doesn't sound nice though 😞fingers crossed for the call tomorrow!

@Welshpugmomma yay congrats! Seeeeeee the cramps were fine!! Love the reveal too. I just said to my DH 'can I tell you something? It worked. Shit'.

@KittyKatSmile I haven't read it. Will it depress me? I read one where someone asked people to guess the gender from a scan and she got lambasted for saying gender and not sex because there's more than 50 genders.
When was there a fight in this thread?! Did I sleep through that?!

@Zest11 I'm so sorry. But what a wonderful attitude and yes the ones are the freezer. One of them is the one!

@Ginandtonic31 not sure if it will depress you. It made me laugh but maybe avoid if you're wobbling. The sex and gender thing is covered plus a brilliant 'mumsnet doesn't like gender reveals babe, netmums (or whatever) is over that way'. Brilliant.

I can't comment on a fight. None of us but you never know who is lurking

@Welshpugmomma - sounds the same as me, I roughly remember make a groan and the nurse telling me it's nearly done, oddly can't remember seeing the doc at the business end! Felt like it only took a few minutes.
Congratulations!! I love how you told your hubby, so cute!

@Zest11 - I'm so sorry to hear that this cycle hasn't been successful but sounds like you have a plan, which I always find things easy to deal with when I have a plan.

@KittyKatSmile regarding the argument...do you mean the baby/pregnancy bomb?! Thank you for still wanting to include me, it's so kind of you! I'm not sure how though. I guess I can update on this thread if I have any news but I don't think I can get the testing done until after I have a proper period.

@Ginandtonic31 thank you. It is hard but I have to think there are worse people out there than me as we did get some frozen.

@mrbay thank you. I think I feel like how you said with things not being the end of the road whatever happens. I cried and cried and cried over the weekend but I know I am more fortunate than some and yes I do have a plan for now.

@Zest11, the 'hi can I join? Yay I'm pregnant!!' one. Boy that was tense.

I guess in time people will need to decide whether they want to go and join a new month's group (Nooooo! Don't leave us!!!! I am really bad with rejection!)

@ginandtonic31 - sorry I didn't see your message for some reason. Yeah, wasn't the most Pleasant, I'll ask for me sedation next time!

@zest11 - it's such an emotional rollercoaster, where it feels like a bit of a competition. I love a bit of data, so I feel comfortable that there's a very high chance of success after 3 cycles and I'm extremely lucky not to have the financial pressure of having to pay privately or only having the one NHS cycle. I don't think financial worries help at all.

@kittykatsmiles - oh Keith I remember that! Perhaps that person should have realised that they may have missed the boat a little.

I'm not sure if I'm more worried about getting the call tomorrow to say no embryos (likely) or having to leave your lovely lot behind

Oooo yes I do remember now!! Gosh that seems so long ago. Was it Crystal82 do you think in disguise?

I love our little group!!

I just went to yoga. I know really it won't hurt but the up and down stretching really made me a bit conscious and crampy.

@Zest11 even with people you think are worse off you're still allowed to feel sad and angry sometimes! It's natural and who we are.

@KittyKatSmile yes...that's the one I was thinking of. Not great! Personally speaking I don't think I will join any other groups (how can any other group compare?!!). I originally joined this as people were ahead and it was to see what to expect in the process. Now I know I what happens I don't think I need that. And more importantly now, what other thread is as upbeat, positive and fun as this one? Nothing will compare! But equally some people may naturally move onto the pregnancy group.

@mrbay I know what you mean! I am so gutted to be leaving everyone behind haha. Yes I understand what you mean about the success and 3 cycles. You're also lucky that you have chance to play around with meds etc so if needs be you can get more eggs. However, my understanding is the fewer the eggs, the better the quality so you may get good news tomorrow! And welshpugmumma only had 1 fertilise and she has a bfp!

@Ginandtonic31 hahaha crystal82 in disguise.
To be honest I cried allllllllll weekend and cancelled plans because I was so upset but for now, I am okay. I also am clinging on to hope that as I have 4 more blasts in the freezer I'd be incredibly unlucky to have no success at all with any of those.

I feel that I may have to go back through the old thread!!! Lol!!

It wasn't until late last night that I got the fear of shitting or farting on the op table. Can you imagine?!

@zest11 - you are so right, however I joined and I wondered if the thread would cease to interact as that is normally what happens to me!
Glad you are feeling better, yes 4 blast in the freezer is amazing, so don't forget that!
Well, I suppose, there has to be some benefits to DH being in the forces. I take my hat off the NHS, they have been outstanding for my family over the past few years.
Well I'll find out tomorrow AM, if it's bad news at least I'm out on the town on Friday night so I can have a few G&Ts 😁😁

Oh id like to add, I'm not an alcoholic but I've missed the juniper kick gin gives. Oh and I can continue with my blue/rare steaks (what I'm most upset about!)

@Mrbay this might be the longest I haven't had a drink!

@Cauliflower82 good luck today lovely. Thinking of you x

Yes good luck @Cauliflower82! Do you have to wait until lunch for the results?

Good luck @califlower82 - I hope its good news :)

The clinic have called me today, all 3 have fertilised over night, I am still in the game!

It's funny how every clinic is different, mine likes to put them back in on day-2 if they know which one is the best, if they don't they leave them to day-5.

@Mrbay that is brilliant news! Well done! So tomorrow for ET?! (Yes, for an accountant, I'm very bad at counting to 2....!)

@KittyKatSmile - yep or Monday. Don't worry I couldn't work out when day 1 was! Some many drugs in my system have rendered my brain useless!
Now how do I break it to my boss that I'm taking next week off to relax?!

@Welshpugmomma congratulations! Love the way you told your DH too :)

@Zest11 lovely to hear you sounding positive, and hope you enjoy your summer doing some nice things. It's good (and normal) to have a cry about it all, it's how we process things to be able to move forward.

@Mrbay super news about your 3 that have fertilised! Whoop!! Does your boss know you are having IVF? Are they supportive? What work do you do? Hope they are understanding about it and give you the time off without any bother.

@KittyKatSmile how's things, lovely? I'm sure the wait for the scan is agonising. Thinking about you and hope you are doing ok.

@Cauliflower82 thinking of you today. Hope you get some good news later.

Does anyone else have a massively overprotective partner with regards to this IVF stuff? He is working away at the moment, which I understand is probably hard for him as he feels guilty he isn't here helping me out with the day to day stuff, but honestly, it's suffocating. He called this morning, and I said I was doing the ironing. "Can't that wait until I get back?", he said? Of all the things I could be doing, I'm not exactly overdoing it by doing half an hour of ironing! I know he means well, but I'm not sure I will cope when he is back and not letting me do anything and telling me to rest all the time. Clearly this is MN, so I should probably LTB, but if anyone has any other suggestions, I'd be very grateful!

Also, I'm hungry All The Time. My stomach is massive, which I hope is just bloating and not that I've put on loads of weight (my scales say my weight is the same, but I look about 4 months pregnant). Is this normal?!

@AliciaWhiskers - I can't believe it, I thought we would lose a few, if not all overnight or they wouldn't be mature. Just need for them to grow and stick. If not, I am going to have the summer off and start again, apparently autumn is more natural time to get preggers, something to do with doing less and knowing that there will be plenty of food when you give birth. Probably a crock of crap!

Ref work, I work in HR but I was direct today and said that I will not be in the office next week as I'll be taking my IVF leave. The Directors have been really supportive so its cool. How have your work been?

Mine has stepped up, but isn't telling me to do nothing unless I say that I am unable to do it. It's made me love him a little bit more as I didn't know that he had this side. I mean his role means that he could have to end someones life, so I always assume hes a hard emotionally.

Oh I can't help you there, my drug bloat seems to have disappeared but I am still a little fattie!

@AliciaWhiskers I look huge as well. It's horrible as I'm naturally quite slim so it shows up quite a bit. I am quite conscious of not moaning because of course 'I did want this'!! But I hate feeling like I've already got something to hide when I'm not ready to be called out on it. Apparently it goes down once you stop the progesterone; again strange that we all seem to stop at different times. I read into it a bit today; there is no research to show that taking it after BFP makes any difference. But in the same article says that placenta takes over at 10-11 weeks. Will just do as I'm told and suck up this paunch 

I did another test last night as I'd talked myself into the fact I was probably having another missed miscarriage and there would be no heartbeat. It was 3weeks + so my mind is slightly at rest.

I don't have that DH experience; would you like to send him over to do my ironing?!

@Mrbay Good work on the work chat. Well done you.

Feeling more nervous for @Cauliflower82 than I did for myself.