BFP after IVF: nervous ladies needed a handhold Part II

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Hi everyone,

Think that the last thread for this topic reached its limit, so have started a new one.

Good luck to everyone who has finally got that longed for BFP!

This is a place for everything that comes after the 2WW: celebrating milestones, being (cautiously!) excited, symptom checking, worrying, sharing advice, commiserating bad news, generally keeping each other going, and willing each other along on our way to the 12 week mark.

A bit about me: 39 y/old, 0 DC, IVF ICSI cycle 1, first BFP since TTC, currently 6+0.

Look forward to meeting lots of people with new BFPs and sharing your journey!

Tagging in some ladies from the old thread,
@itonlytakesone
@TheArtfulScreamer
@cannonball8726

I got my BFP today following ICSI. Feel like a deer in headlights at the moment. Been waiting so long to see those 2 lines I think I'm in shock!

Congrats snow and welcome to the club.
Bloody hell bean you don't do things by half do you, I hope you soon start to feel better, hopefully once you get into the second trimester your symptoms will ease off, fingers crossed x

I feel I’m scan obsessed now! 16 week one this weekend, my nhs one is at 18 weeks, and I know for sure that I’ll have more. Really want a 4d one.

@cannonball8726 my sickness is pretty much away- i do get a funny feeling in my stomach, and it gets sore. Very exciting about your results tomorrow.
And everyone at my work knows yeah. Even though I’m nervous, I want this pregnancy to as normal as possible. So, talking about it etc. I don’t think I will put on social media though.

I felt major anxiety this morning. Just wasn’t feeling much at all (except pain going through my boobs 🙊). Stomach wasn’t bloated or stretching. I suppose I’m just looking into things too much.
You’re all more patient than me, not getting scans!

Is everyone still just as nervous? Xx

@Beherenow32
I felt the same today! My stomach was not bloated felt like absolutely nothing was going on? It's small i was like, this is so weird? I'm so glad you said that. I'm feeling sore boobs still and slightly nauseous but it's wearing off.

Good luck on your scans / results this weekend @Beherenow32 @cannonball8726

@Itonlytakesone thank you for replying. Our symptoms seem to be quite similar. My stomach was so big last night! I was so happy. Wake up this morning and it’s away again 😒 xx

@beanhunter hope you’re better soon!!

@snowfee congrats. X

I’m still here. Still vomiting. Fed up. And now working myself up that baby will die from lack of any nutrition - I’ve eaten 3 chips and 2 pieces of toast today which were vomited - and at my scan it’ll be another mmc like last time. My head is all over the place.

@beanhunter that sounds horrendous for you! ❤️ Don’t worry about baby though. I know people, including my mum with me, who were the same. Their babies were all fine. As long as Hospital are helping with your hydration to help you feel a bit better. Hope you’re over this soon. Xx

Aww bean you are having a hard time, I have a strange sense of humour so please take what I'm about to say in the spirit it's intended, babies are to all intents and purposes parasites it will not suffer any lack of nutrition as it will suck what it needs from you and your body reserves before your own body ever gets a look in, your teeth and bones may crumble and your hair may fall out but your baby will be just fine and please god know that I'm joking and trying to make you smile. Fingers crossed your next scan is all good and your second trimester is a lot kinder to you xxx

@snowfee congratulations! I had never seen those two lines before! I jumped up and down as soon as I saw the results. How many weeks are you and how are you feeling?

@beanhunter that sounds awful. Are you feeling any better? As above, don't worry about nutrition at the moment. Try to eat what you can. When is your scan next week?

@beherenow32 and @itonlytakesone my abdomen has become a bit round but think that's just the weight I've gained. I've gained 2kg since before IVF (all the carbs I've eaten to fend off AF!) Was previously very small and the weight gain is obvious! Also so bloated in the eve. I'm exercising three times a week still but not able to do as much in the gym! Thanks for the luck @itonlytakesone and @beherenow32. Best of luck with your scan @beherenow32**!

AF?! I meant nausea! No AF please!

Scan Friday. I get the parasite thing. However my anxiety is in overdrive that it’ll be dead next week and then that’s it over for me despite having 3 in the freezer as I cannot do this again. I’m broken.

@beanhunter Infertility and IVF have definitely increased my pregnancy anxiety and I can only imagine that previous miscarriages would heighten that awful feeling. But there is nothing that we can do (apart from the obvious things like abstinence from alcohol, reducing caffeine, avoiding high impact activity etc) to really change the outcome. I really hope the next few days fly by and you get some reassuring results. Are you still in hospital?

@beanhunter your mind must be in overdrive. It is a worrying time, but I don’t think you should stress about diet. Try relax as much as you can. Would speaking to midwife about your worries help? I was thinking of mentioning my anxiety at my next appointment.

@cannonball8276 that’s great that you’re keeping up with exercise. It will be healthy weight gain then. I’m thinking about starting a bit more exercise now. Walking or swimming.
I was reading that the baby/ womb are still quite low down. Just below the belly button. I’m def a little rounder and it feels solid under there. So I’m starting to relax about lack of bump now.

Baby is supposed to have a huge growth spurt over the next few weeks, and start moving up. Hopefully we will notice something then.

Xx

@cannonball8726 I'm only 2 weeks past transfer, clinic said that means I'm 4 weeks pregnant - crazy the way pregnancy is counted!
I'm still on progesterone pesserys once a day and get AF like cramps on and off throughout the day which is really unnerving. I hope that's just a side effect of the progesterone.
Been feeling nauseous on and off too since Thursday. I know it's too early for morning sickness, but the transferred 2 embryos, could that make the symptoms appear sooner?

Still in hospital. Lovely nurse has organised a scan for tomorrow.

I hope your scan brings some relief and appeases a little of the anxiety, I guess a joyous carefree pregnancy is another thing fertility trouble takes away from you.

@beherenow32 I'm still exercising but getting fat because of all the food I have been eating 😂 the nausea is better now though so hopefully back to eating well again... swimming sounds like a good idea! I am really missing Pilates classes - have been too scared to go over the past few weeks!

@snowfee I had cramps early on too! My nausea started at around six weeks I think. When is your scan? How long do you have to stay on the progesterone? I'm still on it but weaning down now and will stop completely at 14 weeks. Can't wait!

@beanhunter - glad to hear you're having a scan tomorrow. Good luck!

We got our Harmony results today. Thankfully low risk. And found out we are having a little girl ❤ let us know about yours, @beherenow32!

@cannonball8726 scan is on 23/10 when I'll be 7+5. Stuck on progesterone until week 9 I think

@snowfee Ah okay. Just 3.5 weeks to go. Keep yourself distracted- hopefully the weeks will fly by!

@cannonball8726
Ah congratulations a little girl 💞that's lovely news 😊😊😊

Thanks @itonlytakesone. Joining your club

@cannonball8726 fab news! ❤️❤️
Must make it feel more real! Can’t believe I’ll know soon too. Ate no fruit or veg yesterday 😑😑 I’m bad.
Will be in touch after scan xx

@Beherenow32
Good luck, it's a massive thing to find out but really exciting, also hope your test results are all low

Scan all ok. Measuring spot on 11+4 or 5. Now the stress til Friday. But relieved for now.