BFP after IVF: any other nervous ladies in need of a handhold?

[wombats]

I've had my BFP after our first FET and in a bit of a state analysing symptoms/lack of symptoms. Had two losses prior to starting IVF so really can't get my head round what might be normal or not. Clinic will scan me at six weeks, but that is two very long weeks away! Anyone else in a similar position? xxx

Oh hobbes so glad! 🤞

Brilliant news Hebbes! Keeping everything tightly crossed for you! xx

Congratulations Hobbes, CBD is clearly the work of the devil.
Glad you found the heartbeat, Becky!
And to everyone inserting their final progesterone, I hope you find a fitting way to mark the moment. And Rational, I hope the nausea eases off very soon.

Finally got our harmony result. All fine - low risk across the board. And we are having a girl. Didn’t mind either way with the gender, but it feels nice to know. So relieved about the result. Still feeling moderately rubbish, but I think I do feel slightly better than I did last week. And hearing my Nan’s happiness when I told her about the baby tonight was worth it all. Bless her, she’s really unwell and lost my grandpa recently so it means so much to finally give her some good news.

Hope everyone else is doing ok x

Just typed a long message and somehow managed to lose it all! Just wanted to say fantastic to hear such great news for Hobbes and Rational, and lovely for you to hear the heartbeat Becky. Hope your scan went well today Daisy?

Nausea and vomiting much better here. Just massively bloated and nearly fell asleep at my desk this afternoon. Hope everyone else feeling ok x

Yeah rational! Its such a relief to see that low risk isnt it?
Though mine didnt last too long, have my nhs booking in appointment & scan tomorrow, and the anxiety is back again. Not sure if i will ever be able go to a scheduled scan with confidence.
bruges totally understand the bloating- am struggling to find a sitting position this afternoon that accomodates my ballooning stomach - yet in the mornings it’s almost flat!

Grrrrrrr...... just got scan date through...... for right in the middle of our holiday!!!!! Annoyed as I told them the dates we were going away, we'll be at John O' Groats at the time my appointment is scheduled for!!

Thank you all for your warm welcome and great news @hobbes. I have my booking in appointment today and also a meeting with a embryonic medicine specialist due to my pregnancy being through an egg donor. I’m almost 9 weeks and am wondering if the worry lessens after the 12 week old period although I very much doubt it. I remember my really have any symptoms apart from feeling nauseous but I’ve felt that way for months now due to all the medication I’m taking and I’m asleep by 8pm most nights x

Brilliant news, Rational! So glad you were able to share with your nan. Is this her first great grand baby?

Bruges, I'm also massively bloated. I think I can feel my womb above my pubic bone but I reckon that's pushing everything else up. Came home from work yesterday and DH even said "you look really pregnant!"

Decaf, good luck with the appointment and scan today! The anxiety is rubbish but hopefully will ease with each milestone.

Melanie, sorry the scan's not convenient with your holiday. Can you ring them to rebook? Is this the nuchal scan?

Barcelo, good luck with the appointment today! Will you have a scan as well?

How's everyone else getting on?

I'm just waiting for Harmony results and booking in appointment, will ring GP again if nothing received in the next couple of days. Hope they don't think I'm a neglectful mum for not enroling until after 12 weeks!

Bruges hope you’re ok, the bloating and nausea is so rubbish. I’m feeling better this week so it’s either because I’ve reached 12 weeks or because I’ve stopped cyclogest. Hope you soon feel better too.

Good luck for your scan, Decaf - I’m sure I’ll be just the same for mine on Friday. Scanxiety is inevitable I think, but hopefully this is the last one for a while

Melanie hope you can get your scan rescheduled ok

Barcelo Hope your appt goes well. I know what you mean about the tiredness - I’ve only recently started to be able to cope without an after-work nap, even when going to bed early as well. I do feel a bit better now I’ve reached 12 weeks, but of course there are always things to worry about. I’m trying to just accept that I can’t control what happens now and try to be as positive as possible because there’s no point in worrying about things that are now very unlikely to happen. But that’s easier said than done of course!

wombats Yes this will be my nan’s first (and possibly only) great-grandchild. My sister doesn’t intend to have kids (and she’s gay so it def won’t happen by accident!) and her only other grandchild, my cousin, has never shown any interest in having a partner despite being in his mid thirties like me, so I’m the only obvious candidate of the three. She’s 91 and not v well so hopefully this will give her something to look forward to, bless her.

I think my uterus has popped out a bit too as I feel like I can’t suck my tummy in at all anymore. DP says I look pregnant as well.

Hope your harmony result is soon back and you’re all booked and sorted soon 😊

It was all good. Despite the usual panic, baby was fine, just shy - so scan took ages as they tried to prod baby to move to a better position. Between the midwife, bloods & scan we were there almost 4 hours. Due to my age & ivf will be under consultant care, which i find reassuring really. Next midwife appointment at 16w, scan at 20w. So a few weeks to relax and maybe start enjoying the pregnancy.
wombats hope the harmony test results come soon & are good.
rational how sweet about your nan! She must be so happy! My late nan was so excited when my neice was born. Its really something to see 4 generations tpgether

Scan rescheduled for 4th June! I'll be 14+4 by that point!!! I suppose looking at it differently I won't have as long to wait for my 20 week scan......

Great news about your scan decaf, sounds like an epic appointment! Glad they'll be keeping a close eye on everything for you.

Rational lovely to hear about your nan. I'm liking your positive attitude and will try to channel those thoughts when anxiety creeping back in.

Melanie glad you've got a date through for your appointment, and wombats hope yours gets sorted soon too.And good luck for harmony results. We got our Panorama result this afternoon and so relieved is all low risk. We found out the sex but we're keeping that secret, even from mumsnet.

Hello all,

Sorry I disappeared for a bit. Have come down with the lurgy and have been bedridden. Luckily I managed to get to my scan before it hit and it was wonderful to see the little bean moving its hands and feet and at one point bouncing up and down! We heard the heartbeat for the first time too and it's measuring two days ahead. I am now in the wait for the harmony results - they will ring me if it's bad news and if I don't hear anything then all is okay and they will let me know at our next nuchal scan a week Friday. It's going to be a very nervy wait I think and will be jumping when my phone rings. How long did it take for you all to get your results - do the days include weekend days? We have also asked to find out the sex now, but already thinking I may not want to know now. Keep changing my mind! Has everyone stopped taking progesterone now? Did your fertility clinic tell you when to stop taking it? I haven't been told either way what to do. Catching up on all your news.
Hobbes - fantastic that your hcg has been doubling. Hopefully after a nerve-wracking few days, things are on the right track.
Becky - really glad you found a heartbeat. I haven't bought a doppler yet
Rational - congrats on your great harmony results and congrats on having a girl! It's so wonderful that you have been able to give your grandmother such lovely news.
Decaf - so glad the scan went well and your epic booking in appointment!
Bruges - Yay, congrats on your results as well. What a massive relief !
Melanie- good news that you have a date - it is far away but hopefully time will go quickly and you will be able to see a lot more by that stage hopefully
Wombats - have everything crossed for your test results as well

Sorry for anyone else I have missed x

Hi all - it's so good to hear all your positive test and scan results - hope the good news continue for everyone. Having a big wobble again today as was fine, but after a long walk today I went to the loo and there was pink on my panty liner (have to wear due to cyclogest!) and when I wiped. Was feeling mild cramping too, but not so bad I'd have worried without the spotting. Do you think it could just be irritation? I'm so scared of this going wrong.
I'm trying to decide what to do now about my scan. Due to having the mmc last time and the ectopic before, I can have a 6 week scan if I want one.... last time wen we had it, it was inconclusive as embryo measured the right size but they weren't sure if there was a heartbeat and couldn't see a foetal pole... so we had to wait a horrible week to have it confirmed it wasn't good. So I swore after that that I would wait til 7 weeks if I ever got this far again, however I'm now wavering - particularly with this spotting. Should I take the offer of a scan next week or wait til the week after? Wwyd? X

@Hobbes39 sorry to hear that your having a scare. I think you should have a scan next week, I one at 7 and also had one at 9, you can have as many early scans as you like if your worrying, you may have to pay private but I doubt it, I think at the moment you need to put your mind at ease. Light pink spotting could be irritation, but keep an eye on it. Xxx

Thanks @becky114 - I'm just not sure as the 6 week scan wasn't reassuring last time at all, but wasn't conclusive... so basically didn't help.
If we have the scan and it doesn't show a heartbeat then it could be too early or could be a problem...but I wont know... so just not sure I can take that happening. But then again if it has gone wrong I'd rather know sooner than later. Ug, is so hard to decide!

Oh sorry hun I thought you were a little further along . My clinic refused to scan until 7 weeks? Maybe get another blood test to ensure continued rise in hcg xxx

Hello Hobbes,
Sorry to hear you have had a scare. I had a bit of brown spotting at six weeks and went for a 6 week scan as was so worried, all they could see was a yolk sac at that stage (and I was actually told I should see a heartbeat, which I now know isn't always the case) so this actually made me feel more anxious. I had a private blood test which was much more reassuring. Chances are you won't see anything much on a scan to reassure you until 7 weeks +. How much cyclogest are you taking? I upped mine to three a day and the spotting stopped. As Becky said the spotting could be due to irritation and if you you only have mild cramps then that is positive.

Sorry to hear you have had a scare hobbes. Pink spotting could be just irritation. When it comes to scan, i too had a mmc on my last cycle. Inconclusive scan at 6w, followed by the worst week ever till they could confirm mmc. I dont think i could stand a week wait like that again, but on the other hand, if you do see a heartbeat then you will have reassurance. So sorry I have nothing to offer except i will be hoping & wishing for good news for you. Xxx

I'm 5w1 day today, so would be able to have 6w scab on the Thursday next week - but yes, @Decafplease - you had v similar to me last time, I remember, and that's exactly why I wasn't keen, but with this spotting I'm wondering if I'll hold out.
I am on 8mg of progynova (estrogen) and 2 pessaries a day of the cyclogest progesterone. I'm still spotting pink - is still v light, but there every time I wipe. Will have to see whether it stops and if it doesn't I'll call clinic on Monday. I am under the impression that a full miscarriage is unlikely to happen while on these meds but I don't know..? I guess it would be possible? I hope not / I'd been doing ok with forgetting about it today, so got a shock when this started. Hopefully it will stop soon...

Shit, woken to more intense cramps this morning and more prominent spotting. This is not looking good.
Called clinic and they will have me in on Monday for another blood test, as will only be 5+4 then so scan prob won't see anything anyway.
Just feel so shit it's prob going wrong again. Don't know why I can't get past this early stage. This will be my 4th early loss if you include the CP I had on the first round. The clinic don't count that as was so early (bled before test date, so was v surprised it was positive), so haven't had recurrent miscarriage tests - maybe they will now if this doesn't pull through....

I’m so sorry to hear that @hobbes39. I also had cramps and spotting but I’m still in with a chance at the moment and I’m 9 weeks 2 days at the moment, so I’m keeping everything crossed that it’s just something similar with yourself 🤞

Sending you every good wish, Hobbes. I hope things settle down and work out for you. So sorry that you are going through this awful stress.

@Hobbes39, sorry you're going through this. Bloods and a scan sound reasonable. I'd had a previous ectopic and clinic wanted to scan me early to make sure it wasn't in my tube again, even if too early to see much. Hope you can rest today and keeping everything crossed for you.