Thread 32 | TTC#1 | Making the move from conception to infertility. We've taken some blows but we are not beaten

[Jamon]

Hi all. We're a group of first timers who've been plugging away on the conception boards for some time. The support here is amazing so if you're in a similar boat please jump onboard.

Time to hand hold through treatments and support each other through to becoming the mums we deserve to be 💪🏼🌸🙏🏼

Thank you for the welcomed everyone

Glad to hear of your friends positive experience kwick really hope it works for her.

Don't get me started on the lack of funding. In fact don't get me started on the current attitude to ivf/infertility in general

Oh my, I've missed out on so much and feel overwhelmed even trying to catch up!

Sorry if I've missed anything big everyone and 👋🏼 to the thread newbies!

Work has been mental, decided not to go for that job as the only thing I liked about it was the money, pretty sure I've lost my best friend of 22 years as she's totally distanced herself and TTC sex has been terrible this month. Sorry, on such a downer! Have been using opks to see what's what after IVF cycle, we HS last night (was so crap, no connection at all) and of course stupid bloody opk is positive today meaning I'll ov tomorrow . I really can't deal with more sex when it's the last thing either of us want to do - it makes me sad and depressed. We can't anyway as DH has his sperm DNA fragmentation test on Monday. So that's that for our shot at a natural BFP before next IVF round as we can't TTC next month due to doing the scratch.

PJs sorry to hear that this cycle hasn't been great TTC wise. You and DH are going through so much, you're doing really well.

I'm at the wedding with friends and people are pitying my childlessness. People who know my history but still. I feel like the broken woman. Especially the ceremony which reference that marriage brings children. Well not for me! Time to stop drinking I think.

Well done mud

PJs why has your friend abandoned you? Sounds very unfair.

flash YOU ARE NOT BROKEN!!!! FFS do not let anyone tell you that BS!!!

Flat still not done... have just found my mum's chocolate stash... think I had better go to bed to stop the eating.

Look what I found:
Its so pretty!

Latest news: I have a shower:

You are absolutely not broken flash! I hope the wedding got better xx

Love the shower kwick! No idea about my friend - she suddenly switched when I started first round of IVF. I only ever hear from her if I text her, she won't ever ask how I am, zero interest if I even mention IVF, doesn't share much about her life with me anymore, just not there. She's got a lot of excitement going on in her life which I understand and my life must seem terminally dull, but I can't help but feel let down. Have debated asking her about it, but knowing her, I'd get a cold answer back which would just upset me more.

Thanks ladies. Wedding has got better although someone did badger me about when we'd be having kids so I told them the truth. Then they were apologetic.

The shower looks fab kwick and I love the diamonds!

Sorry to hear about your troubles with your friends PJs.

Flash sorry you had a hard time at the wedding, I hope whoever badgered you will think twice before doing that to anyone else.

PJs sorry about your friend, I've had similar with a long term friend and it hurts. I also ended a long friendship once myself when I realised how controlling the "friend" had been over time, expected me to put her before my family and DH. I felt like such an idiot when I finally realised.
Where I live now I have a group friendship which is nice but relatively superficial. And has involved baby showers which I always said I wouldn't go to but I have done, don't think I could face another one anytime soon.

Kwick love the shower, the rest will follow, leave your mum's stash alone, always dangerous but do have some kind of treat.

Hope you and DH enjoyed your meals out Skip.

I'm looking for something to do differently this cycle but kind of cba, I was a bit self pitying yesterday but DH has given me a pep talk. I'm trying to convince myself he's right. Think I'll eat pineapple 🍍 because it sounds quite easy!

pjs screw your friend!!!! What a horrid person - get her toxicity out of your life

baguette try some of these tips for your TWW - it is my "patent pending" list

Good for you for being honest with them flash - that's what I've started doing when people start asking personal questions. Can't be arsed to lie and feel shit about it anymore - if people ask a personal and awkward question, they get a personal or awkward answer and they can like it or do one.

I think you're right lemon, she's got a lot of great and happy things going on in her life so probably wrapped up in that, although she does make time for other people (sounds so petty I know, but I wouldn't even notice if she wasn't being distant). It's sad as she's been my best friend since we were 14 (36 now) but I've always known deep down that she's more important to me than I am to her. Now that our lives have taken very different paths, it's highlighted that even more. I've tried reaching out to her but don't get much back and I figure if she cared then she would try. So, I'm going to try and just let it be what it is and use it as a sign that I need to get out there and make some proper friends!

That's sad pjs but I know the feeling and if she isn't making you priority, why should you fight to save the friendship? Hope you're not too upset.

Thanks Kwick I will use your patent pending list and hopefully send you some royalties or some of those diamonds that you like.

How are you Kerry?

Lemony I get the fear of jinxing. It's a bit late for me though, I have a few lovely baby outfits I've picked up in the sales always saying they'd do for a friend with a baby but have kept them for me. I will keep them for now though, think it would upset me to give them away. I'm not giving up yet.

I'm okay thanks JeNeBaguetteRien - currently on day 6 of first period after miscarriage which is all over the place. Have chosen not to do iui this cycle as feel I'm too up and down both physically and mentally but probably next one.

🍍🍍🍍- I did buy a pineapple and eat the core after my successful iui but I think that was just a good egg month to be honest.

How Is everyone doing this morning?

Hi girls,

Can I join you all please?

I'm 34 ttc for 13 months been referred now for tests and awaiting first appointment. So far all my bloods are normal but partner has 0 morphology.

Not even a whiff of a bfp....

Looking at the lister clinic just now for tests. Fingers crossed we all get there in the end. 🤞

lemon you are welcome on this thread
TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF - weight loss spin-off thread
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

I had to put TTC down until BMI at 35 - putting weight on is not good.

baguette diamonds would be great thanks

Welcome plane!

It's official: I have the lurgy 🤧🤒😷

Finding it tonight tough (bloody tww hormones ). One of my best mates has just given birth, and 9 months ago we were both sharing about the trials of ttc and both talked about being pregnant by Christmas ... Which is looking increasingly unlikely for me. Just another reality check

Welcome Plane!

Hang in there Pyjamas and Winging xx

So drunk right now, probably shouldn't type anything else. Hope everyone has had a lovely weekend xxxx

Welcome back smitten

Good news basset hope it goes well with the consultant

Hope you’re feeling better flash. Completely get what you mean about wedding ceremony and references to having children. Every time I want to yell NOT GUARANTEED ACTUALLY GUYS

Three people asked us yesterday why we didn’t have children yet. Dh’s aunt I told the truth to and cried a bit. She hugged me and said she went through the same thing and even had a miscarriage before conceiving their two children. She was really understanding and reassuring which was lovely

Welcome mummy sorry you’ve had such a rough journey

So sorry about your friend pyjamas. It’s a time in our lives where we need support love and care. Extra hurt is absolutely the last thing you need right now.

Super shower kwick!

Welcome planegazer. Has your partner had a repeat test? Does he smoke or use saunas or do any of the other sperm no-no’s?

Winging 💐💐💐

Skip hope you’re alright lovely 🌸🌸

That sucks winging I'm sorry. It's not fair.

Jamon I would pay good money to see you shout that out in a wedding!

Thanks for the welcome ladies!

@Jamon he will have another at our first appt I'm sure as I know it can vary. He doesn't smoke has s good diet exercises every day (potentially over exercises!) and drinks moderately.... his gp didn't seem to think it's a big issue although when I've googled or read other threads it's definitely a precursor for icsi/ivf.....

On the subject of people asking when we are having kids I just tell them we've been trying for over a year and so far no luck. Kinda want to square in the face punch them though 🙈👊

💐for those who are struggling.

It's looking like tomorrow is CD1 again.... joy.

For anyone who went private, if you used health insurance how long did it take to get that first appointment? We have selected our hospital and just wondered if It would be super quick? Or another month or so?

Loving VICTORIA but can't help get pissed office about how easily she keeps getting pregnant 😏

Jam - fine Jam, happy drunk not sad drunk, if that helps?