The mind numbing boredom of infertility IV

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Yes it's the return of the thread where we're so fucking bored of being infertile and talking about infertility and thinking about infertility and worrying and infertility and learning about infertility treatment and explaining infertility to other people and making up lies to cover up for going for infertility tests and treatment that we can't even be bothered to think of a better name for the thread.

Join us if you are barren, bored and bitter, or any combination of the above. We'll listen to your tails of woe when everyone you've ever met upduffs in an instant, accompany you through the trials of tests and treatment and commiserate the inevitable setbacks and disappointments.

Welcome to the ghetto.

When I can work out links, I'll post linnks to threads 1, 2 and 3

Wow littlebee. That's immense. Hope the appt goes ok.
Tammy that's brill news. I think having 6 on day 3 is a good reason to go to blast.

Thanks, beanhunter. It's actually only day 2 but I'm putting my trust that the embryologists know what they are doing.

Tammy, that is fantastic news - well done on all 6 still looking good, and so relax. The best ones will be waiting for you on Monday.

LittleBee hello - I too am 40, with low AMH. Welcome and sounds like it is time for things to happen for you. As it stands I am 4 weeks and 1 day pregnant with my own eggs. Very long way to go, and genetics will be a question if I make it to 12 weeks, but I am holding my optimism.

How long since your last IVF, and where is your clinic and are they good enough? Do they specialise in low AMH for 40+?

Hi LH
My last cycle was last month so I've got my review today. I'm at Care in Nottingham, they are brilliant but not quite good enough to get me pregnant just yet!
Congratulations on being pregnant, that's fab news and I really hope it works out for you!

Wonderful news Tammy - keeping everything crossed for some fabulous blasts on Monday

littlebee welcome to the barren ghetto - so sorry you find yourself here, but you're very very welcome.

AFM well this pregnancy lasted a week - hCG hasn't risen so it's a chemical / v early miscarriage. Stopping meds today. Sigh. 😓

So sorry to hear that banana, so cruel to have a BFP and then all the uncertainty. Take care of yourself

Hey fiends, well it's all go on here! Living somewhat vicariously through ya'll right now as my life feels distinctly uneventful. Icy- so pleased for you though still can't find the post where you had bfp! You deserve this so much. Littlebee- welcome and wtf? 17 years? Glad you found this thread. It's got me through first failed cycle and the myriad of emotions that follow it. Tammy- exciting news sounds very positive roll on Monday x LH- how are you feeling? Must be amazing! Banana- sorry to hear that. The fucking hope is the killer. I found stopping the meds made me feel crushed. Be good to yourself. AFM waiting till Jan. Holiday for Xmas. Will keep trying. Sounds like a school report - must do better!

Welcome to the newbies. Glad you found us. There are lots of weird and wonderful barrens here that can offer lots of great support and advice.

littlebee you must be the Mother Superior of being minddumbingly bored.. 17 years! Wow!

Any other lurky barrens out there give us a wave. 👋🏻

Thanks for all the welcomes!!

Banana - So sorry about your news, such a cruel and shitty journey.

I've been for my review, I'm going for the level 1&2 tests so will see what they come back with but looks like it's donor eggs for us.. Which is another massive hurdle to get my muddled head around

Hugs banana xx

Evening, thanks for the welcome.

Littlebee wow, that is a hell of a long time. I can't imagine how shit it has been for you after that long. I've also had donor eggs suggested at most appointments, (low amh). Had uNK cells tested which were very high so I've decided to try own egg again with immunes treatment before going to donor. I hope the level 1&2 immunes give you some answers.

Bananafish, so sorry to hear your news, how cruel

Tammy great news your embryos are doing well, day 5 lets you have so much more info about them so in my book that's good. I've always had day 3 trf so I have no idea if any of them made it to blast stage. Fx for monday.

Sara, I constantly feel the must do better pressure, and all from myself!

Icy hope you're doing ok. Maybe we should open our own clinic with all the knowledge kicking about "barren ghetto IVF".

Closephine the additional crap that comes with this is like an extra kick in the teeth every month eh.

beaky, hello lovely!

banana thinking of you. It's so bloody unfair.

closephine I get that too. Bastarding AF. Naps are your friend!

littlebee 17 years is a very long time indeed, you deserve a medal. I hope you get some answers from the immunes. I'm thinking of moving to Care as they run a satelite clinic here, going to an open day in a couple of weeks.

All sounding very promising there tammy - go embryos!

Have decided that I am going to have intralipids to see if that will help. Booked in for Monday at 9am. Scan on Wednesday to hopefully set transfer date.

Fairly quiet weekend ahead - plodding on with the various drugs, a bit of yoga and a spa day tomorrow. What is everyone else up to?

Utterly rubbish news Banana, I'm so sorry. I hope it's at least a little bit comforting to see how many people are rooting for you.

Beaky I have very low AMH too. In my mind id ideally like to try own eggs again if the tests come back showing something but realise there's far more chance with donor eggs. Arggh it's such a shitty old position to be in isn't it!

Tiger, I think Care are fantastic. I switched consultants yesterday for a fresh pair of eyes and have the medical director now. She's really clued up. Highly recommend Care, even tho I've not been lucky, there do have excellent success rates.. Just need me to be one of this statistics now!!

Yes little, I know exactly what you mean. My high uNK cells results are at least partially responsible for this next oe cycle. At least I can feel like Ive tried everything though.

Tiger I'm going to do intralipids too, why not I reckon, my fc only does them around transfer though so will need to find someone here to do them before too.

Morning all, welcome to newbies, sorry you find yourself here but I am sure you will find it a place of huge support. I am another low amh person.

Here's my fun this morning.....some of you will remember my baby bomb explosion in june when dh family tried to hold a party to announce a pregnancy as his mum thought I would handle it best that way. I luckily clicked and didn't go and then there was a massive fall out. Well, it gets better. There is now to be a surprise baby shower in December. Fantastic. Yet again I am being dragged into it and because it is a surprise, can't even have a quiet word with lady and explain why I can't go. Have barely spoken to mil since last incident and having already been accused of being selfish and needing to get over myself and think of others I suppose I'm going to have to do it. My SIL promises gin in a hip flask and prosecco as soon as we get home so at least that's something. Worried sick about it already though. She is so me me me. I honestly feel I would not behave like they have to anyone ever, even if I had not been in this shitty position.

Anyway, hope everyone's ok. Quiet day here. Dog walking and housework. Rock and roll.

Just touching base to send all my love and sympathy to those suffering this weekend: Banana, I hope that encyclopaedia brain is starting to kick in with a new plan, and revived pain meds are FULLY kicked in. FourPaws that all sounds absolutely horrible - because I am over 40 most of my friends are well finished in the baby department (or doing IVF themselves) so I forget what a total punch in the face big baby announcements or showers would be.

Lovely to see some new faces on here.

As for me as it stands today I am 4w+2d pregnant and feeling ok. I flew to the US yesterday for a big family birthday celebration - am conscious that compared to how I looked when the same group were in London for my wedding back in June, I look rather different now (puffy, swollen, knackered, bruised, nervous, round faced etc etc). Ho hum.

fourpaws what the fuck is wrong with you MIL. I would 100% flake out. Say you'll attend and then just don't show up. If you feel the need after to explain to the pregnant whoever then do so..... your mil sounds like a class a cunt over this. Give me her address I'll go and sort her out [scrappy doo style lemme atter lemme atter]

Does anyone else wish they knew what Icy looks like? You are fab Icy.

IIRC in thread 1 icy have us a sideways selfie to show the poor/post bloat from something, possibly a hycosy.

I believe the words used were "stone cold fox".

Welcome beaky and littlebee.

Icy is awesome, you are all freaking awesome actually. The only good thing about this shit is having had the honour of "meeting" each and every one of you.

Hi all,

Please can I re-join you? I was on one of the previous threads earlier this year, around the time of my first IVF cycle (which was a BFN). Had to take a break from all things fertility related as we've had some bits of bad news with both of our families so it was all a bit much. I did manage a BFP from a frozen cycle but unfortunately miscarried at 8 weeks. So now I'm just waiting for next fresh cycle and for my period to show up (not had one since the MC and not sure where the hell it is)!

Glad to see some of you have had some good news recently - congratulations Icy and LHReturns.

Banana I'm so sorry to read about your recent news. Life is just so bloody cruel sometimes. Do you have a plan for next cycle?

Hello everybody else! [waves]

Sorry for weirdo typos, that should read

IIRC in thread 1 icy gave us a sideways selfie to show the pre/post bloat from something,

Welcome back annie, sorry to hear about the bad news. Hope you get some good news soon.

Oh fourpaws how awful, totally agree with icy like. Don't go, you shouldn't have to just to please your mil when she's being a knob.

Hello potatoes, thanks for the welcome.

Hello Annie, sorry to hear you've had such a shit time.

LH hope you're feeling ok after a long flight!