lolly so sorry you’re feeling unwell, hope you’re feeling better soon. Good luck with the scan tomorrow!! EWCM is an awesome sign - CM is produced in response to rising levels of oestrogen, which happens in response to a growing follicle in the run up to ovulation (to grow your lining), or if you’re taking loads of oestrogen pills to grow your lining in place of the natural oestrogen your body would produce. So that’s a vg sign indeed!
bear amazing news about your mum and the cycles - that’s wonderful news! I hope you don’t need them, but it’s great to know that you have a backup plan if need be
Nothing to report here, just spinning my wheels. Last pill of this HRT cycle on Weds so desperately hoping for a bleed this weekend. It’s tragic when the thing you want most for your birthday is to get a period. A heavy period would be like Xmas and birthday all in one!
Something is very wrong when you’re on HRT and contraception and desperate for a period in order to try and have a baby :(
We won’t be cycling any time soon - will be another HRT cycle before the coil comes out, then a dummy FET with endometrial biopsies. Absolute best case (which seems unlikely) would be to get these cycles over before Xmas and earliest we could cycle would be in the new year. But that’s best case. If we can’t get me to bleed, and / or can’t get me to respond in a dummy FET again, we certainly won’t be starting a treatment cycle
Surrogacy as an option is a very very very last resort. The thought that someone on the other side of the world would feel the first kick; that I wouldn’t be able to be at every scan, that it would be their body nurturing the baby; that even if our names were on the birth certificate, the UK wouldn’t recognise us as parents, and we would have to apply to the High Court to apply for a parental order and have a court recorder visit us to determine whether we would be fit parents to our own child; the fact that it would be a 6 figure sum on top of the ££££ we have already spent on IVF. Yet a crackhead can get knocked up for free, the NHS will pay for their antenatal, they can support their child on state benefits and social services will bend over backwards to keep the baby with its birth mother. Yet the couple who want nothing more to be good parents, and are going to the ends of the earth and back to try and have a baby, are the ones who will be £100,000 down and judged by the courts if they should be allowed to parent their own child. It breaks my heart.
again yep US is really the only viable option. UK is only really feasible if you have a friend or family member who will carry for you - my cousin has offered, but she has a complicated obstetric history and I could never live with myself if something happened to her because she was going through a pregnancy for us. As you say, UK surrogacy laws are a joke in any case! It may be en vogue, and I agree the celebs have made it less of a taboo - but I’d much rather be a boring run of the mill person who had their baby the normal way :(
My consultant doesn’t think we are a lost cause by any means, but he agrees it’s a possible outcome and it’s sensible to explore all our options. The more that goes wrong, the more likely it is that we will have exhausted all our other options.