Guide on what NOT to say to people going through infertility..

[Vixxfacee]

I thought we can have a space to share all of the stupid, outrageous and plain hurtful things that family, friends, colleagues and even strangers have said to us.

I will start.

Before starting ivf, friend says 'you really need to consider and get your head around adoption, they will match you with a child who looks like you'.

Same friend on a different occasion 'you should really go for counselling, I think the drama with your family is causing you not to conceive, your body is preventing it'.

Same friend when I told her I was spotting "you need to get the hospital to check you properly, you can't seem to hold pregnancies'. (I had a miscarriage 4 years ago and haven't been pregnant until now).

In the 2 ww after first round of ivf, telling another friend I was nervous she said 'have you guys ever considered adoption?'

Spotting at 5 weeks after having a fet and telling newly duffed friend I was going to the hospital, Friend says 'Oh can they just put another embryo back in?'

Same friend after I ignored the above comment "you need to have more sex, that's what I did and I've been pregnant twice'.

They are the more hurtful ones but I've also heard on many occasions:

Just relax
You need to try ovulation kits
Blah blah fucking blah

Anyone else care to share?

[VivienneWestwoodsKnickers]

We've just had it confirmed that my DP is infertile and will need to go the ICSI route. Already I've had all the success stories of everyone that my family and a couple of friends have ever heard of.

Apart from trying not to sob all the time, is it wrong to want to punch most of these people? Gah.

[ellesbellesxxx]

Holly may

[daisyrosie]

Holly May, that's terrible! So sorry that happened.

[Hope2409]

Happy New Year everyone, i hope you all get your wish in 2017 xxx