Anyone else having IVF for second child after IVF for first?!?

[Bunnygirlie]

Hello!

We had IVF ICSI in January 2014 which resulted in our little boy born in October 2014. We started trying again when he's was 9 months hoping that nature would be on our side this time but after 3 months we decided to speak to the FC again to see if it was even worth bothering to try naturally. It wasn't and so we are to start IVF again very soon.

Looking for others going through the same thing if possible to be my buddy's

Thank you, I hope so just trying to keep busy and hope my scan comes around quickly and of course my numbers double again. Very exciting for you won't be long until ER now, do keep us posted x

Good news about those numbers Smiley. It’s such a stressful time. Fingers crossed for tomorrow.

Good luck Roxy. I hated the bloated feeling but it is a good sign that its all working.

How are you Sunshine?

We’re back from a lovely holiday and in work again today BOO. I really miss my DD after we’ve spent such a lot of time together.

Aww smiley sorry to hear you've been having some bleeding again. But that's good news that things have doubled and hopefully today they will have doubled again....good luck Hun.

I have woken up to bleeding, pretty heavy period like bleeding and starting to get tummy ache. I've e-mailed my clinic to ask what to do (we are on hols at the mo with no signal, only slow WiFi, hence my silence over last few days) but I can't see there being anything they can do as I think I'm miscarrying for sure. This is shit......really shit.

Ah man, this pregnancy malarkey is stressful....so went to clinic to have hcg bloods but she did preg test first which was showing strong positive so she decided to scan me....there is a sac and a yolk....said she saw more than she was expecting to but too early for heart beat.could have had beta bloods but actually won't give us a definite that there is a baby in the sac so would be pointless to do. Having another scan a week today so will hopefully get more news then.

Roxy, hope you're feeling ok with your double dose injections. Let us know how you get on on Friday.

smiley, have you had more beta bloods done today?

Hello to everyone else xxx

Hey sunshine, that's brilliant news. I'm keeping everything crossed that the bleeding is nothing to be concerned about. The clinic obviously saw everything was OK.

I'm doing ok, just hoping all is ok for my first stim scan on Friday. I'm certainly feeling that things are working. Not having too many symptoms which is a big bonus. It's strange that this time is a little less stressful. I know the process this time and I have my gorgeous daughter to give a cuddle when I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. The first time we did this the pressure was so great. All we wanted was a child of our own. Now I feel like I'm being a big greedy and chancing our luck asking for another chance. I just hope we haven't had our luck and our chance. Whatever the outcome, my husband says we are in a win win situation ( apparently!) Either we have a second child which would be amazing or if it's negative, we book Disney for the three of us. He's an amazing support for me. I'm so lucky to have him around. We just have to have hope I suppose! X

Omg I've just read your posts sunshine what a day you've had! These first 12 weeks are just a nightmare up and down with emotions I don't know whether I'm coming or going! The scan sounds very positive though! They wouldn't even scan me said it was pointless as was too early. My beta bloods more then doubled again 215 this morning so she just said from what they can see my pregnancy is developing as it should. But I will not relax until I see a heartbeat at that scan 2 weeks today, going to be a long wait! But hopefully both our bleeds will be nothing to be concerned about xx

Roxy, your husband sounds like a big support and a man of wise words! He's absolutely right, it is a win-win situation....and sad as it would be if this doesn't work out, a trip to Disney and lots of lovely family memories to come with your DD would be amazing . I completely know what you mean about feeling so lucky to have a baby already and i keep saying that to my husband, that maybe she was our one and only chance and we've got her and should be happy but he says that's rubbish and no one is up on the sky kicking us off the "I want a baby" list. It is certainly a different process for baby no 2 that's for sure!

Smiley, that's fantastic your levels have more than doubled again....sorry if my post sounded negative around the hcg bloods and no point having them today. Obviously the best thing for both of us would be a scan showing a heart beat but we are both not far enough along so anything we have now is just for reassurance as much as possible and there's still further waiting to do. We are on hols so I went to a different clinic within the same company and they were surprised I wasn't being scanned until 7+5 (Same as you). Could you ask if they could scan you week today given the bleeding? Then also keep the following week appt as normal (or even push it back a week so can be scanned at 6+5 and 8+5)? With my DD I had scan at 6 weeks to check position of implantation as I have bicornuate utetus and then another at 8 weeks (plus 10 weeks cos my DH missed the 8 week one) so didn't have too long a week after test date.

I thought about asking for an earlier scan, as I know you can see more from 6 weeks can't you, I think they'll charge me but I don't care for peace of mind! I was surprised they hadn't suggested it with the bleeding, but you have to trust they know what they're doing I suppose. Oh don't worry I didn't take it the wrong way, it did make me think my clinic aren't doing as much as yours though and wondered about the hcg but she seemed confident that if anything was going wrong my levels wouldn't double? I'm not sure how it works I just tried to take some reassurance from that but like you said best thing would best scan when we're far enough. I'm glad you've had some reassurance Its awful waking up to that I know!
I spotted a little with DS at 6 weeks and they gave me a scan a week early aswell as the 7 week so I got to see his heart beat at the first one! I've actually spent today with no pad on so hoping it stays away now! Fingers crossed for us! Have you stopped? Xx

smiley my clinic don't charge for the scans as included in the original price (doesn't technically say how many scans are included but never paid for any extra). Would have had to pay £35 for each hcg bloods tho.

Glad you're not getting any bleeding. I stupidly was using tampons this morning(as I didn't realise you couldn't use them if miscarrying) and the one I put in before leaving for scan came out completely clear as I tried to quickly yank it out before she came back in to start scan.....and not had any bleeding since then. Every time I go to the loo tho I am petrified I'll see blood.

Surely they'll scan you earlier given the bleeding.otherwise you'll just enduring a long period of worry which could be prevented. So do you get beta bloods.back same.day at your.clinic? Mine would have been take blood today and results back tomorrow ....which seems ages!

That's interesting to know, thank you I'll look into it, I get my 7 week one in with the cost was presuming I'll have to pay for extras but I'll ask. I haven't had to pay for my betas though which is good, yeah same day, took them 8 o'clock in the morning and phoned me up at half 10! Appreciated that then not sat waiting and worrying! They don't seem too worried about it now I have had my bloods back, they don't want to see me again, they said see you in 2 weeks now for 7 weeks scan! I'll definitely have to ask for an earlier scan. I am a little reassured but don't think anything will put my mind at ease until I see that heartbeat.
I bled for 2 days but the 2 nd day was only when I wiped and was really watery. The first day I thought was heavy it was definately a worrying colour, but because i wasn't filling a pad every few hours they didn't class it as 'heavy'. I'd like to believe I'd see a lot more if it was bad but who knows its such a scary time!
So glad our bleed has stopped too, same day has got to be positive too! And I know what you mean I'm back to manic knicker checking every hour! Xx

Sorry you’ve had a stressful few days with the bleeding sunshine. Scary times but I’m really pleased that you had good news at the scan. I think bleeding and spotting with IVF is common (don’t know why though). Great news about your bloods too Smiley. It’s hard to relax until the scan (or the baby is here for that matter!) but all of the signs are good. Hang in there.

Good luck for tomorrow Roxy. Hope you’re still feeling okay.

Totally agree that this is easier this time around. The pressure to have a child last time was so intense but now we have our babies and are so grateful for them we know this would be a bonus. It is still an emotional roller-coaster though. I had forgotten just how hard this bit actually was with all of the waiting, feeling out of control and the worry. I’m starting to get jealous of pregnancy bumps and announcements again…must try and keep it in check because it’s a bad place to be

I was stupidly hoping for a miracle natural bfp this month – going on holiday, two failed IVFs – just the sort of story you hear about, but it’s not to be. I’ve got all of my usual period signs (due on Sat or Sun) and I think the tiredness and headaches can only be because of sleepless nights (teething GRRR).

We’ve got our follow up consultation at the clinic this afternoon – it will be interesting to hear what they say. Hopefully then we’ll move straight into FET number 3.

Aww holly sorry you might not get your miraculous natural BFP.....altho you never know, you may be wrong about AF being on its way. Hope your appt went ok this afternoon.

Smiley that's great clinic aren't concerned and are happy to sit back and wait until your scan. But ring and move it closer if you need the reassurance. I am so impatient....if i had a scanning machine of my own I'd be scanning myself everyday!

I am in a right pissed off mood today. We are away with DH's family and they all know I am pregnant (until proven otherwise) and that we had the mc scare yesterday....but nobody ever offers to help carry anything for me. We went out earlier for lunch and dh went to pay the car park and mil came over to my side of the car where I was carrying baby bag and DD and she just said did I want to go into the restaurant as DHs sister was inside waiting ..... No offer to carry anything....just let me toddle off with a two year old and massive bag in tow.....I'm probably being unreasonable but it just pissed me off and I don't seem to be able to shake this mood. Now we are home and I'm sat in bed while everyone else is outside in the sun feeling like I want to go home and be by myself.

DHs family annoy me at the best of times but think today I am tired and irritable after spending all morning yesterday crying my eyes out

Holly - hope everything went well this afternoon at your appointment!
Sunshine, I don't think your being unreasonable at all! That would piss me off too! It may bother you even more than usual as emotions are running high with everything going on! My mil told dh not to 'molly-coddle me!' Felt like saying just mind your own business you don't know what we're going through at all!
I am going to enquire about an early scan I'm not sure I can take another 1 week 6 days waiting! Is there such a thing as scanning ourselves because I want one too! X

Hi all - I've been on holiday and for some reason haven't had any emails notifying me of all your posts - so sorry! Sounds like a stressful time for all but really glad to hear of the scan and also doubling numbers. Hang in there ladies - it feels like forever waiting for that early scan doesn't it? Xx

How was the scan roxy? Xx

It went well thanks. Back in on Monday for another Scan and hopefully egg retrieval mid to end of next week. It's all getting a bit real now! How's everyone else doing today?

Hope you've had a nice relaxing time away Gilbert.
I'm doing ok Roxy I'm plodding along trying to be positive and chill out as much as I can! Great news about next week! Exciting! X

Yes Gilbert hope you had a nice time away. Did you go somewhere hot?

Roxy glad scan went well. Fingers crossed for this week coming.

Smiley sorry to hear your mil is just as useful

We did go somewhere hot - Essex! (We live up north so it was appreciably hotter - totes tannage on the beach!) Just got back to sorting a mountain of washing and worrying about doctor's strike - sounds v silly but because our private doctors are also nhs, will they be on strike?

Oo very nice Gilbert! It's only junior doctors that are striking isn't it? Consultants are the only doctors who aren't classed as juniors (DH is a GP so that's what he's just told me, altho we are in Wales so not affected here by doctor strikes anyway). So fertility doctors should be fine....normally only consultants can work privately....plus I doubt they'd strike from their lucrative private work!

How's everyone doing?

Roxy are you on for EC this week?

Smiley how are you doing? Did you manage to get an earlier scan?

Holly hoping AF didn't arrive for you and you got your miraculous BFP

Gilbert when is your next appt with the clinic?

Bunny hope you're doing ok xx

AFM I've got scan tom to see if they can find a heart beat so don't think I'll sleep much tonight for worrying

Hi sunshine, I'm hanging in there, not much to report except very painful boobs at the moment! Don't remember this last time! Spoken to the clinic, they're reluctant to do an early scan whilst I'm not bleeding and with my hcg doubling they don't think it's 'nessasary' crazy how different clinics are isn't it! I'm going to try and hold on a week until my Scheduled scan but if the slightest thing happens then I'm going to hound them until they can't refuse!
I feel very positive about tomorrow for you! Very exciting! The more I research read about these things the more common I've realised bleeding is.
Can't wait to hear tomorrow! Will keep you posted if I get any where earlier with my
Clinic Pfffft! Xx

Hi sunshine, I'm doing fine thanks. Did my trigger last night so go in on Thursday for retrieval. It's all getting very real now!

I'm so happy that things are still going strong for you, let us know about your scan. I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine, I've got a good feeling for you and smiley!

X

Holly, Gilbert and Bunny... Let us know how you are doing too! I love hearing everyone's updates. Makes me feel that we are helping everyone along X

How are you Sunshine? Really, really hope that the scan went well for you yesterday.

I would have been pissed off with that MIL situation too Sunshine! They should be looking out for you and helping as much as possible so you can rest.

Hang on in there Smiley. How long to wait until the scan now?

Good luck tomorrow Roxy, another step closer

I am annoyed with my MIL too. SIL has just announced she is pregnant with second child. Very easy for them, they planned it to be now and it’s worked. I find that hard enough, especially as the family will be full of it. They all know the trouble we had to conceive DD (they don’t know about the recent failed cycles) but the first thing she said to me was “No pressure Holly!” GRRR how insensitive is that? She is either stupid or nasty. I think it’s stupid but think before you speak woman

Appt last week was fine. It was good to talk through with one of the consultants. She discussed our options – another natural FET, medicated cycle, put 2 back, scratch, PGS testing, another fresh cycle… She said it’s unlikely to be an implantation problem given that I have carried and delivered. She seemed fairly positive and it was good to know we have quite a few avenues still to explore. Exhausting to think about it all though
We still have 7 embryos but she mentioned that it might be worth doing a fresh because the eggs we harvested, and then fertilised through ICSI, might not have got that far without the drugs and injecting so even though they look like good embryos they may never make it. This has stressed me out because I thought given we had so many embryos one of them would work and now I am worried that we have already used the only one that would. Obviously I’m glad that was the one we used first but the other ones that looked good haven’t worked and the quality is only going to be less the more we use.

Still, we will have another natural FET and go from there. I’m on cycle day 5 so will start ov testing in a few days. No miraculous BFP after all. Hardly a surprise but I still hope every blinkin month