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Anyone else having IVF for second child after IVF for first?!?

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Bunnygirlie · 11/01/2016 20:18

Hello!

We had IVF ICSI in January 2014 which resulted in our little boy born in October 2014. We started trying again when he's was 9 months hoping that nature would be on our side this time but after 3 months we decided to speak to the FC again to see if it was even worth bothering to try naturally. It wasn't and so we are to start IVF again very soon.

Looking for others going through the same thing if possible to be my buddy's Smile

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Bunnygirlie · 19/02/2016 19:27

Yay Keep!

OTD in a few days, I'm being good!

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Milkand2sugarsplease · 19/02/2016 21:34

Hi,
I've just (today actually) got my appointment through for discussing our options with our little Frosties. First round was Easter 12 and DS arrived xmas 12. I'm nervous and excited at the same time.
I've not got much of an idea about how it all works with a frozen cycle so I'm looking forward to gathering info.

sunshineonarainyday1 · 20/02/2016 19:23

BunnyGirlie, just realised you're on this thread too and that you're testing in a few days too!! Good luck!

Hello to everyone else. I am in 2ww TTC baby no 2, first attempt through fresh ICSI cycle. Had IVF rather than ICSI first time round that produced my DD who is 17 mo. Nothing to freeze from that cycle unfortunately so started all over again this time.

Very strange going through it all again but with a toddler a lot less time is spent thinking about it all.

Good luck to you all. Hope we are all as lucky as the first time round xxx

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Bunnygirlie · 20/02/2016 20:53

Not so lucky, bleeding today Sad

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 20/02/2016 21:28

Oh Bunny I'm so sorry. Does that definitely mean bad news? I assumed the progesterone would stop AF arriving regardlessly..... Could this just be normal bleeding a lot of women get in early pregnancy? When is otd?

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Bunnygirlie · 21/02/2016 11:12

OTD today and a negative, I'm gutted

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westergille · 21/02/2016 12:12

Oh Bunny! I'm so sorry - you're in my thoughts. Sending big mental hugs. xx

keepitgoing · 21/02/2016 14:53

So sorry bunny. It sucks so much but this time you know it can work, and you have a frostie when you are ready x

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Bunnygirlie · 21/02/2016 18:23

Thanks ladies. I'm feeling proper crappy. No idea how people get through this time and time again and never get a baby out of it.

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 21/02/2016 22:10

Bunny, I'm so so very sorry. That really is disappointing. Hope you've been kind to yourself today. Lots of love and hugs xxx

sunshineonarainyday1 · 23/02/2016 06:41

Otd is tomorrow but I've started bleeding....started off as brown spotting but now pink and normal period like. This is it though....all over. I agree with you Bunny, not sure how people cope who do this over and over. Although I do just want to try again asap. Anyone know how long until realistically until could do a FET? Do I need this bleed and another normal period before I can then start the process or could I start on day 21 of my next period? I obviously need to speak to the consultant and discuss with her but an idea would be good.

Thanks xx

keepitgoing · 23/02/2016 11:26

Oh sunshine, I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm not sure about going straight into next cycle, I'd have thought if you are doing medicated and downregging it'd be OK as they control everything

sunshineonarainyday1 · 23/02/2016 15:49

Thank you KeepItGoing xx

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Bunnygirlie · 23/02/2016 23:02

Oh Sunshine I'm sorry to read yours may be going wrong too. This just sucks doesn't it.
I also wonder about FETs as we have one frozen. I've read things about people trying straight away or clinics saying wait a few months, guess they are all different Sad
Big hugs, infertility can go feck itself!

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 23/02/2016 23:42

Thanks Bunny....it certainly can!! I did a test and it was negative. I wasn't surprised as I'm bleeding heavily and really bad period pain. Still need to officially test tom and ring to make consultant appt so will ask then about timelines. Hoping to see consultant asap. How are you doing? This time last night I had first spotting and was gutted but think I'm OK about it now. My little girl puts a smile on my face like no one else can. Hope you're being kind to yourself and taking it easy.

Hope everyone else OK and has better luck. Xxxx

westergille · 24/02/2016 21:20

Feeling mega a bit fed up as I was really hoping for BFPs for you both and it's reminded me that there's a very good chance this won't work Sad. EC is on Friday - in fact I have to do the final injection in about 10mins.

sunshineonarainyday1 · 24/02/2016 22:32

Aww Westergille, please don't let our experience dishearten you....I'm sorry but I don't know you're background but assuming from the name of the thread that this is your second baby through IVF....it worked before so certainly can work again....and besides some people must have success a first time with IVF for a second baby....so hopefully it will be you.

Hope the trigger injection was OK...roll on 36 hours! Good luck for EC. Will look forward to hearing how it went xx

sunshineonarainyday1 · 24/02/2016 22:48

Bunny, how are you doing? Are you in much pain? I am having a period from hell.....really heavy and so painful..... I could lie on the floor and cry Angry

Hope everyone else OK

MilkAndTwo, you said you've got your appt through to discuss your frosties, do you have long to wait?

TipBoov · 25/02/2016 11:46

Hi all, I've just started a frozen cycle, we had IVF in 2011 and have DS who is nearly 4. We were so fortunate that the first cycle worked, and now we are having a frozen cycle using embryos we froze as part of that cycle.

I'm on day 8 of buserelin and feel ok, I have a scan next week.

Feeling nervous because I know frozen cycles have lower success rates, but I'm trying to take it one day at a time.

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Bunnygirlie · 25/02/2016 18:41

Hi all.

West - it could still work for you! Fingers crossed!

Sunshine - yep this period isn't fun, heavier than usual but not too much pain thank goodness. Feeling very grumpy and sad today, found out that a friend who has a little boy same age as mine just got a bfp, days after my bfn. It's all just feeling a bit too much today

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 25/02/2016 19:46

Aww Bunny, sorry to hear that. Always difficult to hear other people with good news when you're going through sad times. My friend is 7 months pregnant with her second and always seems to beat me at everything... Getting engaged, getting married, baby no 1....now baby no 2. But that's life. How are you feeling about the whole experience? Are you quite accepting of what's happened? I feel like I am gutted but want to move on as fast as possible and try again even though I know it's not going to happen for a few months.

TipBoov, good luck with your FET. Are you down regging then as part of the process? I wouldn't worry too much about the stats. (Altho I always look at what they are!) But really it's irrelevant what the probability is, it's all about what's happening to you right now inside your body. Lots of women have FET because they had a failed fresh cycle so you need to remove these from the pot as this is your first FET. Then you'd need to only look at those in a similar situation to yours.... Age, infertility factor, cycle number, baby no, embryo quality etc to get an accurate probability. How long until transfer?

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Bunnygirlie · 26/02/2016 11:54

Hey Sunshine - I'm ok, just willing AF to Bugger off so that I can just forget about it all! Gutted is the word. I'm just fed up of the whole world getting pregnant naturally (that's what it feels like) and not me.
Also worried that with only one frostie it may mean full ICSI again and I'm dreading it!

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sunshineonarainyday1 · 26/02/2016 13:58

Bunny, I'm with you on the AF buggering off front. Have had three days of the heaviest, most painful period I have ever had (and I have endometriosis and it is usually pretty bad!). Seems better today tho so hoping maybe by tom it will be over.

It's hard when everyone else seems to be getting pregnant. Had two pregnancy announcements this week for baby no 2. Very pleased for them but obviously their news has come during the worst week. Still we will all get there eventually. I just hate the waiting around for time to pass.

Don't be despondent about only having one frostie to use. Think of it more like "amazin,g we still have another go before we may need to do ICSI again". After my first cycle I would say " only two eggs fertilised" until one day someone said to me "that's amazing that two eggs fertilised..... Until now you've never known if any of your eggs have ever fertilised and now you know that two have". And really they were right, even though it seemed sad that only 2 out of 13 had fertilised .... We still had 2. One was my DD and the other didn't make it to the freezer....the odds were against it working out but it still did....so anything can happen in the future.

There's my philosophical contribution to the thread completed Smile

westergille · 26/02/2016 19:18

Agree with you, sunshine, but sometimes it's hard to think positively.
EC today went well - 6 eggs collected (of which 4 good size). Let's hope lots of them fertilise.

keepitgoing · 01/03/2016 10:38

Hi west how's it going?

Hope everyone else is doing OK. Bunny/sunny any news on when you can go again?