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Anyone else having IVF for second child after IVF for first?!?

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Bunnygirlie · 11/01/2016 20:18

Hello!

We had IVF ICSI in January 2014 which resulted in our little boy born in October 2014. We started trying again when he's was 9 months hoping that nature would be on our side this time but after 3 months we decided to speak to the FC again to see if it was even worth bothering to try naturally. It wasn't and so we are to start IVF again very soon.

Looking for others going through the same thing if possible to be my buddy's Smile

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Smileybobs29 · 08/08/2016 19:06

I'm not sure yet think I'll have to wait and see what Wednesday will bring and what grade the embryos before making that decision, my clinic have a one embryo policy except for certain circumstances which I think are quality of embryos, age etc so have a feeling it will be one but we shall see! Xx

GilbertBlythe4JM · 09/08/2016 06:26

Line fainter again this morning - anticipating the ol' chemical pregnancy on Thursday....we'll have to make a quick decision about whether we go straight into another FET. ...

HollyHx · 09/08/2016 21:10

Hi can I join? I’ve read through the posts and I think I fit in here.

We had ICSI in 2014 which happily resulted in our DD. We started TTC again when she was 12 months but I didn’t want to face the monthly disappointment again so we started the ball rolling with FET. We are lucky enough to have some frosties and went for a natural FET in June. The cycle went really well, had loads of symptoms and a positive test except it ended in a CP, two days after test day I was bleeding and getting negative tests. We felt okay about it. It doesn’t seem as hard now we have our DD. We went straight again into another natural FET. Again cycle all went well; lining great, good embryo, survived the thaw, transfer fine… but it’s all over already. ET was on Tues and by 2 days after transfer I was spotting. Tried to convince myself it was implantation then yesterday full on period. OTD isn’t even until Saturday! Today I have had really, really heavy bleeding with clots – way more than my usual period so I have no idea what is going on. Feeling pretty rubbish now. Why is it so hard? We’ll have a break now and hopefully see the consultant to discuss. I don’t think they’ll change anything though, it’s just a numbers game isn’t it? (a pricey one!)

Gilbert, think we had ET on the same day. Sorry to hear your lines are getting fainter. I had a CP last month. Its crap. Hope it hangs on for you. We went straight into another natural FET, my cycle went back to normal straight away.

Good luck for tomorrow Smiley!

How are you getting on Glummymummy?

GilbertBlythe4JM · 09/08/2016 21:34

Hi Holly - so sorry to hear about this cycle - what an absolute bugger. I agree - it is completely a numbers game. And it's not as bad having a CP when childless - I found it devastating to have four positive hpts followed by a low beta - I hadn't even heard of a CP at that point (which I'll have confirmed on Thursday - dh keeps telling me not to give up yet but been here before)
I wonder what the consultant will say? Mine has always been pretty brutal (the nurses are much nicer) but if you have frosties I guess they'll just tell you to crack on. I think we'll roll straight into another one....

GilbertBlythe4JM · 09/08/2016 21:35

Good luck smiley! Hope you've got loads of nice juicy embies to choose from! Xx

Smileybobs29 · 09/08/2016 21:47

Hi Holly! so sorry to hear about this cycle, it never gets any easier does it :( and agree it's completely a numbers game! Why is it so expensive it adds so much more pressure which can't be good!
Wishing you all the luck for the next go, have you more Frosties? Thank you I'll keep you posted!
Thanks Gilbert, I had 4 of the 12 brewing nicely when they rang yesterday, so hoping those 4 look perfect tomorrow! I'm so, so frightened. So sorry about your test today You never even contemplate a cp when you have a positive result it must be devastating! Agree with hubby though, no blood, still a faint line it's not over til the fat witch sings!! Xx

Smileybobs29 · 10/08/2016 08:44

Must have misheard them on Monday turns out there is 5 not 4 embryos, all of which have gone to blastocyst! On the phone they said they'll choose the best 1 to transfer so I'm guessing it will only be one I have put back. Transferring at 11 today xx

GilbertBlythe4JM · 10/08/2016 08:52

Good luck! Hope you've packed your lucky knickers Smile

Smileybobs29 · 10/08/2016 09:03

Ha ha I'm not sure I have any lucky knickers, plus all my knickers are getting ruined from these damn pessaries!
Thanks Gilbert! Are you going to test again today or wait until tomorrow? Xx

GilbertBlythe4JM · 10/08/2016 18:39

How are you doing smiley? One embryo on board?

Smileybobs29 · 10/08/2016 18:56

Hi Gilbert, all good thank you, yes one beautiful embryo on board!! 2 blastocysts good enough to freeze left over too! Now begins the dreaded 2ww.
How are you today? Did you test again? Xx

GilbertBlythe4JM · 10/08/2016 19:15

I did - it's now super super faint. I guess that amazing strong line on Sunday must have been the embryo latching on and starting to pump out hcg, then it must have stopped developing that day, hence the weaker and weaker lines. Of course, there's a teeny tiny part of me hoping for a miracle but I'm basically resigned to another CP. I'm planning a cheer me up trip to joules and jojo to buy DD lots of lovely autumn clothes on Friday! Really good luck with the next few days - will you do hpt or leave it to the blood test? Xx

Smileybobs29 · 10/08/2016 19:38

Sorry to hear that, I am keeping everything crossed for you that it's not over, I do love shopping especially for little people so have fun!
Thank you, the clinic give me a hpt to do on 23rd and that's it, I don't think I have a blood test, they never mentioned it and can't recall having one last time, they said if I get a positive result then I need to come back for more drugs and I'll have a scan 3 weeks later. I am going to wait to test on that day though as hard as it will be xx

HollyHx · 10/08/2016 20:25

Sorry to hear about the probable CP Gilbert. It's cruel when your hopes are lifted. I found just moving straight into the next cycle helped last month. Happy shopping tomorrow!

2 frosties and one on board is great Smiley! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you. The 2WW is the hardest bit for sure. I'm impressed that you can hold out until OTD - I never do.

I spoke to someone at the clinic today, said still to do the test on Saturday and if its positive they would check for ectopic given I have had so much bleeding and because the bleeding seems different to my normal monthly bleed. I wonder if the strange bleed is just my body reacting to having two embryos try to implant (and then fail) in a row. Who knows.

It won't be positive, the hint of symptoms I had disappeared with the clots and there is no way there is any lining left the bleed has been so heavy.

We'll have a month off (going on holiday anyway) and then crack on in September. We're lucky that we do still have frosties to have another go.

GilbertBlythe4JM · 11/08/2016 17:49

Chemical pregnancy confirmed here. Had to ring the clinic and they still hadn't rung at ten to five and they close at five! Anyway, we're going to roll into one final fet and are seriouslying considering having two put back. Then that's our lot. Honestly, feel so grateful to have dd, plus am feeling my age these days, so if we end up with a singleton, so be it. It'll be nannies and ponies all the way (if only). Good luck smiley - will be rooting for you xx

Smileybobs29 · 11/08/2016 19:46

So sorry Gilbert I'm really gutted for you Sad u sound quite upbeat though considering. It's good you have some left to go straight into too keep you busy and hopeful, it should be easier then this it's so unfair! Thank you xx I will keep you posted X
Thanks Holly, so sorry to hear what's going on with you too, holiday sounds a great idea, well needed and well deserved have a great time. As for the testing they are quite strict on telling you not to test early for false positives and how distressing it is that's what keeps me in line, but it's definately not easy! Xx

HollyHx · 11/08/2016 21:34

Oh sorry Gilbert. It's crap.

Good to have a plan though. How many FET have you had since your DD?

I know the odds are better with two but now I've had one I have no idea how I'd cope with twins!

How are you feeling smiley?

Smileybobs29 · 11/08/2016 22:27

I'm feeling ok quite achy down there but assume it's the prodding and poking that's been going on other then that feel fine, just trying to be normal yet take it easy at the same time xx

GilbertBlythe4JM · 12/08/2016 19:47

This was put first fet since dd born nearly two years ago (we previously had ivf, icsi, fet and success with icsi). Feel like I've only got one more round in me - six seems like a good place to draw a line. I can't really believe we're up to five now. At the start of it all, five would seem like a crazy number!
Smiley - hope you're managing to get lots of rest and quiet time.
Holly - we shouldn't be too far apart on our next rounds....xx

Smileybobs29 · 13/08/2016 10:48

Hi ladies, today I am 3 days past my transfer and I've woken up to brown discharge/spotting in my pants, as it's brown I'm trying not to worry thinking its old blood, I also still feel uncomfortable like a little crampy around my ovaries, this has been like this since retrieval, are these things normal? I can't remember last time it's been too long, but I'm a little worried Confused xx

GilbertBlythe4JM · 13/08/2016 16:16

That's exactly what happened to me on my successful cycle! Sounds good to me xx

Smileybobs29 · 13/08/2016 16:34

Wow really! I won't get my hopes up but you've definately made me feel more easy, as much as you tell yourself to not think about it it's all you can think about! Thank you Gilbert, hope your feeling ok xx

GilbertBlythe4JM · 13/08/2016 16:42

I emptied jojo and joules yesterday which cheered me up no end! Sending lots of positive vibes your way xx

sunshineonarainyday1 · 14/08/2016 13:31

Hello ladies.

Just checking in....Gilbert, sorry to hear of your recent sad news. What a pile of poo to get a bfp and for it not to end well. Hugs to you.

Smiley, how are you? How's the spotting? Is it still just brown blood? We had ET same day.....I'm trying my best not to think of this all say every day but it's so hard. Testing a week today.

Holly, sorry to hear you're not having an easy time ttc no 2. Fingers crossed for some better luck coming soon xx

Bunny, how are you? Have you decided on next steps? How did consultant appt go in July?

Hello to anyone else xxx

Smileybobs29 · 14/08/2016 13:49

Hi sunshine! I've been thinking of you and wondered how you were doing, didn't realise we had ET on same day!! How lovely, how was yours? Have you got one embie onboard? Erm well I was quite crampy in bed last night very uncomfortable and woken up this morning to more spotting, about the same amount as yesterday so still very small amount and still brown yeah. Trying not to think about it but it's so damn hard!! I've been told to test 23rd so I've still got 9 days 😩 Xx