Infertility Rant!

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Thread two moving on from infertility meltdown!
Feel free to join us to rant about any part of the infertility journey

When are you due shell? I forgot

Can't believe bean is 2 months old!!! Where did that go?? And yes he is still called bean lol!!!

I guess the time disappeared quickly in your sleepless haze chops! Hope you're getting more sleep now.

I am due 26th March. I've just finished reading Juju SUNDIN's book called Birth Skills. It has lots of practical things to do during labor which seem to make sense - at least it's better to have a strategy for how to get through a contraction rather than just sitting there thinking about how it hurts and is getting progressively worse! Now just nervously counting down to see if the skills work for me!

How is everyone getting on? Thinking of you sammy and hope things are progressing!

Good thanks ruby! I'm feeling less bewildered and more in control these last few weeks. I'm actually getting out and about now after being a hermit. Can't believe baby chops is 10 weeks on Thursday! How's life with the twins?

Hope you don't mind me sharing my current favourite photo of baby chops?? Crazy baby

Lovely photo chops! What a chunky little monkey!!

The twins had their third injections this week and were very grumpy for a day afterwards. Thank goodness for Calpol…..

He looks older than 10 weeks in that photo - must be those chubby little cheeks!

Glad you seem to be more in control. I remember what a shock it was to have such a big life adjustment the first time. Not sure if I will be much more in the swing of things second time or if I am going to feel that way all over again.

Lovely to hear from you Ruby. Watching them get those injections is horrid isn't it.

Hope you're okay sammy?

7 weeks and 2 days left for me. The first time I went with the attitude that ignorance is bliss. This time I know what's coming and have read lots of books and have practical strategies to get me through those nasty contractions... just an anxious wait to see if these natural methods actually do anything at all to help!

That's because he's the size of a 4 month old shell! He grew out of his 0-3 clothes 2 weeks ago! I don't know how I've produced such a monster as I'm stick thin!

Try not to dwell on labour too much shell what will be will be. And chance are because it's your 2nd it'll just pop out with a sneeze

Thanks for the reassurance chops. Yes, what will be will be. But I did feel reassured by being proactive and reading the labor techniques book. At least I feel like I have something practical to do to deal with contractions instead of just waiting for labor and fearing them.

Your bub must be a great little feeder then. I can imagine you bought lots of 0-3 clothes in the excitement of finally being pregnant and now you've only been able to use them for a few weeks!

Just jumping on to say hi!hope you're all ok, Xx

Good ta sammy! Hope you are too and o hope you've had a nice holiday!

shell I've not spent much on clothes actually, and virtually nothing new! I buy 2nd hand bundles for about £10 and make do. There's been some OK stuff in them actually. I've had to buy a few extra 3-6 sleepsuits though. I've already bought a 6-9 month bundle too!

I am a real bargain hunter (forced to be after going broke thanks to IVF!) and I totally agree with the 2nd hand clothes chops - it's not like the previous babies have worn them out as most have simply outgrown them. Feels surreal that we are finally here talking about baby clothes after ranting about our partners and shedding our tears here for so long. I think I still don't fully believe it and won't until I see the baby. Still feels like I'm waiting for something to go wrong!

Lovely to hear from you sammy. I know you were FINALLY starting your IVF cycle with your cycle starting at the end of Feb which must be any day now?

Hi both, glad you're both doing well. Shell, you can't have long to wait now.
Yes, AF due in a couple of days, then off we go again. I feel worn out by it already.

I don't check this thread much anymore, I'm sure you can imagine I feel a bit of a downer around here with all the happy news, but please feel free to drop by the ttc 10 months plus thread on the conception board if you want to see my updates
I don't want to miss any posts from you, but keep losing this due to infrequent posting! Xx

Just to wish you all the best for your next cycle Sammy, will be thinking of you. Completely understand that you're not on here often, I hope other threads are useful and supportive of you.

Glad to hear you are well Shell, not long to go now!!

Thanks Ruby, I just don't want to bring everyone down with my moaning when you all must be so happy.
Hope your bubbas are ok? Xx

sammy certainly doesn't feel like you're bringing me down. In fact, I thought I would be happy to see the end of Mumsnet when I finally got my BFP after 10 previous failed IVF cycles. But I still find the pregnancy world daunting. I still hate seeing all the pregnant bellies when I go to my antenatal appointment. A girl I know got pregnant just after me and she was going on about finding out the sex at her scan and having a boy/girl revealing party. I just couldn't relate. I was going to my scans with nerves building up from days before, just hoping like crazy all would be normal because I knew I would never get this chance again. So I still feel such an affinity to the infertility world and enjoy being on here where people understand what I have been through and also where I know I should be grateful for what I have when I hear of ladies like you still suffering, rather than feeling resentful towards others for being able to conceive so easily.

Hope you're OK shell

sammy I'm following you on bumsnet x

I am well thankyou chops. I am 39 weeks today, and am symptom spotting every day for signs of labor - It's like being back in the 2ww. Except this time I have a 99.9% chance of getting a baby at the end of it unlike the TTC 2ww where I had a 99.9% chance of not having a baby at the end of it! But no symptoms yet.

I assume all is well with you and your little chubby face boy. I assume he is sleeping longer hours now? I forget all that part and think I'm going to be in for a shock again.

Good luck with the birth shell!! You'll be fine x x yes baby G is well and still HUGE! He's now wearing 6-9 month clothes and he's not even 4 months yet! He virtually sleeps through the night except for one feed sometime between 2 and 4am usually!

That's reassuring to know chops that at 4 months you are down to one feed a night. Will give me a timeline to count towards in case I am exhausted in the first few weeks. Although obviously they are all different and perhaps Master G is able to be down to one feed a night earlier if he has lots of reserve and is already wearing 6-9 month clothes! At least milk supply and weight gain are definitely not concerns for you!

Today is my actual due date and still no signs of labor. I did read that 3 out of 10 babies come before and 7 out of 10 come after their due date, so I am reassured by that stat that I am not abnormal. I really don't want to be induced again. At least I know that at my 36 week check, the baby was not low down and I was told this was normal for that time. But at my 40 week check, the midwife said that the head was fully engaged so that is reassuring that my body and baby are doing the right things to prepare for labor.

It's just that after DS was induced for being 2 weeks over due, and then it took 11 IVF attempts to conceive again, it does make me doubt my body and it's ability to get it right and go into labor naturally!

I shall keep waiting...

Hope your baby comes soon Shell and doesn't stop you enjoying some Easter eggs!! We look forward to hearing your happy news soon

Thanks Ruby

Any news Shell? Or from you sammy?

Today is 41 weeks and 2 days, and baby is still showing no signs of making an appearance!!

I am having the stretch and sweep procedure this afternoon in the hope that this gets things going naturally. The hospital does not allow women to go past 42 weeks, so I will be induced this Friday if it doesn't work. I was induced with my first and have since heard how much harder this labor is, so I would really like to avoid it! So I have been madly Dr Googling things that I can do to help naturally bring on labor (feels like I am back in my research obsessed IVF days!)

I have read about castor oil and caulophyllum so am going to ask my midwife at my appointment today if they are safe to take if today's procedure shows no sign of moving things along.

For so long I was on here whinging about not being able to get a baby inside me, now I am whinging about not being able to get it out!

Hope your sweep went well and something has happened since! I wouldn't wish induction on anyone :-(