Would you be my Infertility/Clomid/Follicle tracking friend please?!

[scienceteachergeek]

Hi there ladies

I’m really looking for a ‘clomid friend’ or ‘infertility pal’!

I’m 30, DH is 38. I came off the pill July 2013 to regulate my cycles and ended 15yrs of antidepressants in March 2014 as I’d read that was the best plan if possible.

I’d been having regular 27/30day cycles since I came off the pill but after no positive tests, buying OPKs and the Clearblue Advanced Fertility Monitor, plus charting temps and monitoring my cervix and mucus it quickly became apparent that I wasn’t ovulating. After all the blood tests, sperm analysis, trans-vaginal scans and the HSG it showed that he was fine but I wasn’t ovulating, but there was not obvious reason why.

Fast forward to now, 2yrs since coming off the pill, I have been prescribed clomid and have taken my first 5 tablets. I’m day 12 today and have been having follicle tracking to check if the drugs have worked. My largest follicle was 16.4mm today and have to go back on Wednesday to check it again.

Do any of you know if that’s a good size? Or have any experiences of being further down the clomid path? Or are you in a similar position? I just feel like I’m going out of my mind and could really use a buddy!

Thanks for reading and hugs to you all. Interested in hearing from any of you xxx

I totally understand your hesitation science everything crossed for you. Will you have an early scan? When is your next appointment with the Drs for your arm? Sounds like it will just have to wait until after baby. Will you still get your mat leave from new school? I'm so pleased for you

Not a clue what I'll qualify for in terms of mat leave. I certainly won't be asking for a while!

I'd like an early scan but DH doesn't want to get his hopes up.

Waiting for next arm appointment so we'll see. Hopefully it'll all have to wait until after the 15th November ☺

Science: are you in a new job? If your not entitled to it, look into maternity allowance. It's 90% for 9 months but I'm not sure of all details.
I hope it all goes well 😀

Hi Honeybeez, welcome to the thread. I've not had any bleeding in the middle of the cycle before so know nothing about that. What's your story? Are you having issues with bleeding?

science

So so pleased for you, this is fab fab fab news and you guys were so due some luck!!!!

For the worst nuclear baby bomb ever, go over to aibu and read the one "Is my Bridesmaid BU?" Dear god!

Thank you lily

I started clomide as I was ovulating but not every month, I don't think I've responded great to it as I ovulated well the first cycle, not the second and as af arrived on day 22 doctor said she couldnt say if I did or not as i only get blood tests on day 21. I took a month off this month as she swapped me from cd5-9 to cd2-6, I already missed this as I was on cd4 so thought I'd give it a break. I've had lots of on n off bleeding this month which I've never had in all my cycles, blood after we bed and occasionally when I go to the loo. Doctor isn't very helpful if I'm honest.. The OH isn't very supportive of all of this, he was quite annoyed at me when I told him I was bleeding mid cycle, apperently I over medicate and shouldn't be taking such things- conceived ds naturally. I feel quite lost and alone through this as I don't have his support. When I suggested paying privately for folicular scans he wasn't really supportive of that (it's not the money aspect). In not sure if I should continue the last three cycles of clomide. Feel really lost. I don't want to mess up my already irregular periods. It's so heartwarming to read about the bfp, gives me hope too which makes me more confused lol

That's a baby bomb and a half! She is getting quite the bashing for it though now isn't - poor girl. Very insensitive though!

Sorry to hear you feel so confused HoneyBeez. As I haven't experienced the bleeding I really don't know what this could be. Clomid is mean to regulate you more which is odd that you got AF on cd22. What dose did they put you on?
Maybe it's the coming off it that has caused the bleeds and will rectify itself soon?
Are you going back into see consultant or anyone? I would probably demand an appointment so you can out your mind at rest before you try the Clomid again?

Can you put up a link to the bridesmaid thread? I'm in a hotel with super slow internet and can't find it.

They've removed it - people were getting quite harsh

It didn't read it on but seriously, the bride was asking if her bm was being out of order not speaking to her when the bride announced at the wedding in front of everyone that she was pregnant - the bm wasn't told in advance, had suffered 5 years infertility and wasn't eligible for NHS treatment.....

Sorry Honeybeez, forgot to welcome you with all my excitement/nerves! It sounds like you're having a pretty rough time. I have no idea why you're bleeding mid-cycle, I never did.

Thanks newleaf xxx

Everyone else ok? Gutted I missed the AIBU post!

Thank you for your welcomes 😀 I have been on 50 mg for the last three and have a prescription for 50mg for the next three. It could be withdrawal symptoms as I never had the bleed while on it. I spoke to my gp who keeps fobbing me off and just puts everything down to having a smear test.

Oh wow that post sounds harsh.. To be fair I think I would be a little upset to! My bf is pregnant with her third, she'll have three under three, wasn't planned and hearing her say why did this happen and its not the right time can be hurtful, a lot of women out there would kill to be in her position! So I do feel for her bridesmaid

Definitely could be withdrawal bleeds and possibly you need higher dose of Clomid and then it should work for you. I do think it's been a brilliant drug - even though I haven't caught on it. I've never been regular like this so once they adjust your level it should be good for you as well. Good luck for the next few cycles though.

I've spoken to the gp about going the dose but she won't as she's said it could cause stumulation and my results haven't been consistent enough for her to, I also think because they are not monitoring me until they don't want to. I was really hoping it would regulate me to, glad to hear is worked so well for, gives me some hope hehe

I have had blood tests and tracking to check it's working. Now I just use my fertility monitor....which I'm in love with! Best purchase ever...second hand from eBay, £86 ☺

I've just ordered a monitor - bloody expensive so hoping it works!

Science: how are you feeling? Ive got the advance cbfm too, I peaked the first cycle but only had high on the second two which made me think I didn't ovulate 👎🏼
Chocolate: totally agree with chocolate, Defo a amazing piece of kit. Sticks start to get expensive tho but along with temping gives you a clearer direction to when you need to bed

Just feeling mega nervous. Had some pain today in the region of my ovaries/fallopian tubes. I totally convinced myself I was having an ectopic pregnancy! In no pain now though and think it may have been wind

I so wish I felt happy and relaxed. If my mmc hadn't happened in November I know I'd feel wonderful. I'd like another early scan like last time but it's all to scary. If I don't get scanned then nobody has to tell me there's no heartbeat and that they're sorry.

I'm sure you'll love the monitor. To see the 'peak' days are wonderful. They fill me with hope and excitement!

I hope the preggo crew are well and that you brave others are ok too xxx

hugs I know it's easier said but don't beat your self up for worrying..try and remember no two pregnancys are the same and what happened last time was a different pregnancy. Thinking of all you pregnant ladies. The fact we are on this thread means it's not been a easy stright forward road, hope all those who have their bfp have little sticky baby's and baby dust to all those that are still waiting xx

Sorry I am so late to this, but CONGRATULATIONS SCIENCE! That's brilliant news. Very best of luck. I can completely understand why you're so nervous. I have everything crossed for you lovely x x x

Hope everything went well with your scan Flat??

It went well thanks Lily. I was so nervous beforehand so it's such a huge relief. That said, a few days on I'm now back to worrying I am so unbelievably grateful to have got to this point, but I think pregnancy after infertility is hard going because you can't be excited and happy like normal people as you're so used to disappointment and feelings of hopelessness. I just can't relate to all the happy "it was an accident" folk who have already painted their nursery or who plan to take their 3 other kids to their first scans. They just don't even think for a second that something could go wrong. That said, I don't want to sound too jealous of them as ultimately I'm now in a position I never even dreamed of a month ago! I will never stop being grateful for this.

How are you holding up Lily? And how are the rest of the gang (and the newbies!)?x

I'm so glad Flat. Finger crossed all will be ok for you!
I'm ok - cd 16 2dpo and symptom spotting! Here we go again....I've had really strong ovulation pains this time, and really nauseous the last couple of days. I think it's the Clomid (3rd cycle). Back at the fertility clinic on Friday and I'm hoping I can start IVF

10w scan this morning showed our baby has gone. Missed miscarriage Saw a beautiful heartbeat at 7+1 and 8+5 but baby measured 9+3 so it died mid/late last week. Utterly heartbroken.