Would love to hear your Donor egg ivf stories

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I'm booked for DEIVF in April and nervously excited. we are travelling to Czech Republic. I'm in my 40's!
Would love to hear your success stories...good or bad

Definitely a time to indulge yourself and take it easy, Cherry - hope you're feeling better soon and that the cherry pip is sprouting nicely x

Oh purple . It's an awful feeling (understatement) when you've built up your hopes. 50% success rates (as they quote) feel like a dead cert.
How're you doing?
I am not trying to insult your intelligence or build false hope but it might have been too early.
Let us know how you're getting on.

Thank you Cherry and Resipsa. I'm certain I'm out now - I tested this morning with first urine - I'm 12 days past a day 5 transfer. I have the bloodtest on Monday, but it's not going to change anything.

I'm remarkably okay, actually. I cried when I tested the first time - I tested when I was on my own, thinking it would be positive and would put me out of my misery, not expecting then to have to deal with a negative result on my own.

We have three frosties from this cycle, and we've decided to have them all put back next time round and if that doesn't work, we'll draw a line under it. We've been on the IVF rollercoaster for a year now, and I want to move on. And our clinic gives an 85% success rate with a triple transfer, so we'll be ending with our best odds yet.

Well done for staying so positive Maggie, it's good to have options and three frosties is a very positive way forward if this ones not to be.

I've had AF type cramps and weird pully feelings in my belly today and I'm still really bloated and full feeling. It's quite distracting and I can't help but try and compare it to my last 2ww. Nothing to do with the humongous doses of progesterone of course.

How are you doing Elba?

Hello lovely ladies.

First of all Purplemaggie how bloody horrible for you :(. Is there even the tiniest hope that the blood test may show otherwise?? Good news that you are already thinking ahead to your three frosties though. When do you think you will be ready to try again?

Cherry how are you doing? Hopefully you are getting over the virus and thinking and planning a test?? The cramps and af type pains cramps are a good sign. What sort of Progesterone support are you using...capsules or gel??

Afm....well I finished my Norethisterone last Wednesday and I'm due to start taking Estrimax tablets tomorow but am in a mild panic that I haven't had a bleed yet. Did any of you find yourself convinced that something, somewhere was going to let the whole thing down? Mayb its just the legacy of three years of disappointment and my stubborn body having a complete minnd of ts own!! Surely if I was to bleed say in 7 days time (or god forbid not atall) it would shed any of the endometrial lining built up in preparation for the emby?? Oh panic panic......somebody shake me please.

I have actually spent the whole weekend on the sofa watching back to back documentaries on the South Pacific on Eden channel, and nursing a particularly nasty headache, sore throat and barking cough....and much to my husbands relief I have lost my voice to boot. Raaaa.

I'd check with your clinic before starting the Estrimax, MrsElba - I was spotting before I finished taking the pill, which overlapped with my down-reg drugs and as soon as I stopped taking it I got AF. It was lighter than usual for AF, but definitely a bleed.

When's test day, Cherry? Fingers crossed for you....

elba I had a light bleed after 5 days the first time and 3 the second but it wasn't much, another friend only had light spotting. In all cases a dildocamage confirmed a low enough lining to start the oestrogen.

I've got utogestan capsule progesterone pessarys. They're extremeley messy and make me very bloated but a necessary evil I guess.

The cold never turned into anything thank goodness and a day of taking it easy was all I needed. I am a frickin idiot though. OTD is not until this Sunday but for some unearthly reason I woke up at 3am this morning, desperate for a wee and while I was there decided it would be a most brilliant idea to POAS. Of course it was a BFN. I've spent all day trying to rationalise this information while in reality moping about like a prize twat.

I'm mad at myself for giving in and then mad at myself for wasting a day of holiday. I'm 10dp2dt. What hope is there that it could still be good news for us? Please talk some sense into me and give me the practical warts and all odds...

Panic over.....af arrived this morning and its a particularly ouchy one :(. Had a note from co-ordinator with brief details of donor.
Oh cherry you must have had an awful day. But surely that is too early for a positive yet? I'm sure I will be the same though. when would be the official test date?
maggie how are you today??

A warming hot water bottle for you Elba, good news! Is this the first donor info you've had? Exciting!

Maggie how are you doing?

I'm an idiot aren't I? Is it too early? I promise to wait until at least the weekend now!

Way too early, Cherry - put it out of your mind and find your optimism again. (We all do it though xxx)

Hooray MrsElba - that's very exciting. Does your clinic choose for you, or do you get some input? Our clinic had a database with brief details on - it appealed to my control-freakery, but tbh it was yet another thing to obsess about. (I scored all the potential donors for different attributes and then added up the totals )

I'm okay. Had my blood test today, which confirmed what I already knew. I'm really glad I'd POAS, because I'm still not feeling AFy and I think I'd have completely convinced myself that I was pregnant and been utterly devastated. At least I've had a few days to get used to the idea gradually.

We're off on holiday tomorrow for a week with some lovely friends, so that will take my mind off things a bit. We're going all-inclusive, so there may be some gin involved in taking my mind off things. And when we get back, we'll make some plans for those frosties...

...not sure whether we'll have internet access, so in case I'm out of comms, I'll be thinking of you at the weekend, Cherry and keeping everything crossed for you.

Thanks for your support, ladies...it does help knowing you understand.

Thanks for your wise words and support Meggie, I've scared myself into submission, no more peeing on sticks for me until at least OTD day on Sunday! Zen and good behaviour is resumed.

I'm glad your being forewarned helped today. Our clinic just takes a HPT I think, no BETA apt at any rate. I'm loving the score system for donors. I think that amount of choice would be enough to send me into a spin. Ours have been offered one/two at a time and we both decided we'd go in gut feel and not analyse our choice too far.

Have a great hols, it must be comforting to know you have options in the freezer for when you're ready. I hope one of those is the sticky one.

hi all. cherry have you managed to resist testing?

Hows Resipsa doing?

One week until we leave. Still suffering with thia dreadful cough/cold....it really needs to do one.

That's exciting Elba, I hope you're having a good chill out long weekend to get your cold shifted. Happy Easter all!

Today is OTD for us but I am studiously ignoring it apart from the mental dreams about test lines last night . It makes my stomach flip just to think of it. I don't want to know and would like to continue living in this cosy parallel universe of hope and what ifs please. I'm scared of looking at that blank test window.

oh Cherry....I absolutely feel where you're coming from. I'm sure I won't have half the restraint you have. I guess its that line to cross between hope and disappointment and what a fragile line it is. Please let us know when you have any news. We can woop with you or commiserate, hopefully the first one. x

I made myself test, BFN for us this morning. Gutted is an understatement.

cherry I'm gutted for you. :(. so sorry my lovely.
did you get any frosties?

Only one egg fertilised. No frosties. Not sure where we will go from here.

I can only begin to imagine what you are feeling today.....and thats partly because I try to prepare for if/when I have to deal with it myself. The disappointment must feel almost overwhelming.

Cherry
No words but thinking of you.

Cherry - sending a big hug. So sorry. xxx

Are you back yet, MrsElba? how did it go? Hope you recovered from your bug x

purple I hope you don't mind me asking but did you have treatment for the issues caused by your c section?
I got pregnant with ds first cycle but three years into trying for dc2 and 3 failed rounds of ivf plus one failed donor embryo cycle and no dc2. The consultants I've seen have all said a c section won't affect anything. Ds was born by emergency c section. I don't know it I should be pushing for a lap. I'm 31 so have been trying for dc2 since I was 28.

hi Purple.....swimmers were gi en yesterday and I started the messy progesterone. Will hopefully hear today how many (if any) eggs were collected and how many fertilised. how are you doing??? I am sure you're mind has been over all sorts these past weeks.
I confess to feeling not so positive after youra and Cherry's outcomes

Carrot - definitely push for a lap....I wasted 5 years of heartache before finding out the damage that had been done by my c-section, 5 years of trying, losing pregnancies and then having test after test that came back good for my age - which was under 40 at the time, so I should have been able to conceive. You're so much younger, you should have a good chance. Did you conceive ds naturally?

But to answer your question, yes, I had surgery and they disentangled everything and left me with clear tubes...but by then I was over 40 and of course my fertility had declined a lot in the intervening 5 years. Whereabouts in the country are you? I would heartily recommend my lovely consultant if you're near enough to Surrey.

MrsElba - I had flu during the 2ww - it came on the evening after my transfer. I was really poorly - a couple of days when I couldn't get up and it really exacerbated my (usually very mild) asthma, so I was literally gasping for breath. I'm certain this didn't help my chances, and remain upbeat about our "last chance" frosties. I'm thinking lots of happy thoughts in your direction and wish you the very best of luck xxx

Thanks Purple.

Yes we conceived ds first month of trying. Started trying again when he was 2 but nothing since.
We have a diagnosis of mfi - dh has very low normal forms and low motility - and yet we got pregnant first time round so I can't help thinking something has changed. Due to the mfi we have been told we need icsi but our embryos have always been hopeless so we went for embryo adoption this time round. Still no good and now I'm wondering if implantation is an issue due to my c section. Although even with embryo adoption they only gave us 30% chance of success as it was a FET.

I'm torn on the lap front. The consultant said even if everything was stuck together from the c section it wouldn't affect our ivf chances.