Would love to hear your Donor egg ivf stories

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I'm booked for DEIVF in April and nervously excited. we are travelling to Czech Republic. I'm in my 40's!
Would love to hear your success stories...good or bad

Resipsa...I love the theory of spanners in the works having the effect of a good outcome. this is something that buzzes around my head in "trying to calm myself calm moments" so I am glad that somebody else uses a similiar train of thought.
Cherry.....I will keep everything possible crosses for you for tx. Do let us know all the gory details.
I am busily taking my 3x Norethisterone daily and feeling a mixture of nausea and ravenous hunger. Joy.

Well, we hit our spanner this morning! No sample from DH, had to rely on a pre frozen sample. The good news is we got 5 mature eggs from our amazing donor. The bad news, not enough motility in the sperm meant we've had to go to ICSI. Still, as of tonight we have 5 eggs nestled in the embryoscope, we find out tomorrow how many have fertilised and whether we're headed for 3 or 5 day transfer. Come on little embies! Are they even embies yet?

Cherry....wow what a rollercoaster of a day for you!!! Great news that you got a decent amount of eggs though. Lets hope they are "doing their thing" right now and you have some lovely embies all fit for transfer.

Thanks Elba. Another spanner, another roller coaster. Of our five only one has fertilised so we're getting our one little egg transferred tomorrow. Here's hoping its a fighter.

Cherry... Everything crossed for you and DH today that all goes well. As my mum keeps saying you only need one (it's getting the bloody thing), come on little egg! Thanks for your kind words, I am still at the early stages of this all so who knows where this will all take me but I am preparing myself for DE as an option. That link was beautiful, might have to print it for my DH and Mum to read.

Elba, I agree Cherry put it all so well.

Resipa... I think that I'll have to start making decisions soon. I have a pre-op for my laproscopy on Mon and I'm going with a list of questions. My parents have said if I'm not happy with that then they'll pay for me to see Dr Kingsland privately. I'm just scared of having a fallopian tube whipped out if there is something else we can try first. I'm all ready looking at crap odds, don't need to halve them!

A possibility for me is a DE from my little sister. But when I had my AMH done she also did and hers wasn't great either. She's having her contraceptive implant out this week and I'm urging her to give it a month and get her bloods done. Not for me but for her. She is 3yrs younger and if she can be spared this process and get pregnant I'd be delighted. But as my DH said we couldn't consider an egg from her when she needs to concentrate on herself. The only shining light we have is that his sperm test are apparently "the best I've ever seen" according to our Dr. The only bloody bit of him that works well!

Great that you're tackling this so positively Dusty and looking at all the options, especially if you can help your sister too.

Thanks for your well wishes. I must admit I had a bit of a restless night fearing the worst for our lone soldier but I'm pleased to report so far so good.

Our little two cell embie is safely on board and getting it in there was delightfully quick and painless compared to any other time I've had a catheter shoved that far up the foof. Hurrah! Just lots of good vibes needed now for our little cherry pip to blossom please

Cherry - oh, I've been where you are - you want to fast forward and at the same time to stay still as in the 2WW there is always hope.

I wish you all the best in the next 10 days. Keep us posted.

We started out with 22 eggs and ended up with 'only' 2 viable ones for transfer so don't focus too much on the number(s). One is kicking as I type.

Good luck!

Taking so much hope from your post right now, thanks Resispsa! I have to say I love this bit of the 2ww, you're PUPO, full of hope and the what ifs haven't started to creep in to ruin the zen yet. Yet! IOTO is my mantra of the moment.

Not really sure when to test. OTD is not for 16 days after TX but I'm wondering when I might start to see a line after a 2dt?

I'm not one to ask about testing but not for the usual reason - I was always so keen to hang on to the 'maybe' that I used to wait until 21+ days post transfer. I'd think you'd get a reliable result after 14 DPO so 12 days post transfer...

Thanks, I do hear what you're saying resipsa but then the needing to know creeps in. Plus end of 2ww coincides with going back to work and a full on job role, so all in I'd rather give myself time and deal with any fall out sooner than later. But also hopefully at home with just DH! It's a minefield!

Cherry it must be so hard to resist testing but Resipa sounds sensible on this. I had a 30 day cycle recently and those 2 days when I thought it had finally happened by itself were great, just having that hope. Also see your point about how it falls with work etc. Stay strong xxx

Morning all...
How are you feeling Cherry. I'm of the "can't resist" gang when it comes to testing I'm afraid. With the one BFP I have had since trying, I had the faintest of lines at 10dpo....I will never forget that feeling.

Well I managed to get DH to administer my downreg injection on Friday before the wedding got going. By Sunday I was super emotional....especially saying goodbye to my family. (DH is army and we are in Northern Ireland away from everybody). I had a permanent lump in my throat and teary eyes. I hope that goes away before work tomorrow. :/.

Hello ladies

Just been catching up on the thread as I've not been back for a while. Exciting times...hope it's all going well for you Cherry.

MrsElba - if it's any consolation, after the first few days on downreg, I felt blissfully calm and zen-like - I'm a big fan of the down-reg phase.

Respipsa - have you had your scan yet? Hope it goes/went well.

Dusty - we looked into having DE from a young relative and it turned out to be a bit of a minefield in the UK. They were going to charge quite a lot more for a known donor cycle than they would if you had one of their anonymous donors. Didn't seem entirely fair to me, since you don't need to use so much of their resources, but there we are.

We had our transfer last Monday in CZ - 2 x day five embryos. Official test date is not until next Tuesday, but that's 4 days later than I was told to test on my OE IVF, so I suspect I'll be POAS before then. I'm feeling much calmer (at the moment!) than I did during the 2WW with my OE.

I'm a little bit worried about supplies of meds beyond pregnancy test, if it all works out. My clinic in CZ supplies meds up to test date, so I've just been to see my GP to discuss what happens next. He said he can prescribe, but he needs oversight from a UK obstetrician, which I don't have at the moment because my cycle was overseas. I hope I will be able to see my consultant from when I was doing OE IVF here, but I was just wondering how other people have managed this bit.

Purple.....lovely to hear from you and excitedly nervous for you . I would be really interested in finding out the answer re the meds if you get your BFP as I will be doing the same. We are using a third party co-ordinator and she told me last week that she has contacta with a pharmacy in London who will send the meds. There is also a forum somewhere on the Czech thread on Fertility Friends site which gives some Pharmacies in Uk who will accept the prescription. I'm on my phone just now so not able to pin the thread, but have a search in the Czech threads on FF. Keep us updated x

Hello MrsElba. Yes, someone posted an answer to my question on FF and told me that you can send your Czech prescription to Fertility2u. However, in the meantime, I'd contacted the lovely secretary of my former UK IVF consultant (who also very kindly did my endo scratch a few weeks ago as I obv couldn't get that done in CZ) and she thinks that he will sign off on the prescription - the Czech doctor has written to him for me, so hopefully it will all be fine. It feels a bit like tempting fate to be worrying about post-pregnancy test stuff before test date, but I'm glad I didn't leave it until then, since it seems to be taking a bit of sorting!

So I'm now 9dp5dt. Every time I go to the loo and there's no spotting, I do a little dance in my head, because in previous cycles I've always been spotting by now. Well, my 10 miu tests have just arrived in the post, so we shall see how restrained I am now!

How are you coping with the wait, Cherry?
Resipsa - how old is your dc and do they know about your pregnancy yet? My ds is 7 and has been desperate for a sibling since he was 2...if this works, we've decided not to tell anyone in RL before we tell him, so that it's his news to share.

Hi purple.

Yes, thanks, had scan last Weds. All is well! 50th centile - decidedly average all round. And a girl!

Ours is just 4. We told her too early! Before 12 weeks (let alone 20) she was outing me all over town. If I was there, I just smiled and given my history, no one dared ask. She came to 12 week scan and was so excited. Every day now she asks questions about her 'baby sister' which range from the sublime to the ridiculous!

By the way - eek!!!

You could definitely test - NOW please.

I suspect that you know the outcome; I always did .

Cherry - how are you holding up? Still sane?

PurpleMeggie please please explain why you had infertility issues after a section.
How does a section affect fertility?

Hello Holly. I was left with adhesions on one fallopian tube, so the two sides were stuck together, also the tube was adhered to my uterus and pulled it out of alignment, which apparently affects implantation. I conceived ds in the first cycle of trying, but never again had a successful pregnancy - two chemicals and one mc at 8-10 weeks.

We had all the usual investigations, all the blood tests etc., but it wasn't until we decided to bite the bullet and go for IVF (which was not for five years because we were self-funding and we didn't have the money before that) that anybody suggested that the c-section could have had anything to do with it. When we had our first IVF consultation, the gynaecologist said it immediately - so I think it's not that uncommon.

Could you be in the same boat? It can be fixable - it was just in my case that I was 41 before it was diagnosed, so my fertile years were probably behind me.

Thanks Purple. Not for me but it may explain an unexplained infertility.

Oh wow Purple, have you decided when you're going to test? Great signs so far... Wishing you all the luck!

Lovely news after your scan Resipsa, lol at being outed all over town! The confidence of innocence hey?! I have to ask, when you said you knew, what did you mean? Wishful thinking made me hope last time but I'd sure like to know what a positive feels like!

How are you feeling MrsIdris?

I'm 6dp2dt and doing fine thanks. I'm bloated enough with progesterone to look 5 months pregnant anyway but that's about it. Have given up on the resting as it was making me stress out far too much, and instead am on a gentle schedule of social engagements, time with my horse, dog walking with friends, yoga etc. it seems to suit me much better. As does staying away from the computer!

Hi Cherry. Glad that you're still sane(ish).

As for the 'knowing', I am now on my 5th pregnancy (still just one child!) so by the time of the positive tests on the 3rd, 4th and 5th occasions, I knew in advance because I had the same 'feeling'. My body reacted in the same way IYSWIM, even with all the drugs playing havoc!

I'm sorry, Resipsa - I completely failed to see your lovely post about your scan the other day - I was on my mobile, and I saw Holly's post and answered it and it was only when I got to my computer that I realised I'd missed all sorts of excitingness. Great news about your scan.

Not such good news from me. I tested yesterday afternoon and it is either too soon (which I think we all know isn't true) or it's negative. I'll keep taking the meds until blood test day on Monday, but it looks as if that's me done. I was so optimistic about this one....still no spotting/AFy symptoms at all and the only time that's ever happened before was when I was pregnant with ds. I didn't have any early symptoms with him at all, just a lack of symptoms, which is how I felt this time. I know what you mean about "knowing" - I knew immediatley with my last pregnancy, which ended in mc, but I also had a feeling of foreboding with that one, right from the start, so I was much happier about having no pregnancy symptoms, but no AF symptoms either.

I had such high hopes for this...really thought that the donor eggs would be the answer to everything.

Oh Meggie I'm so sorry to read your news today. It's not over yet, you could have had a late implantation so don't count yourself totally out but it's a blow all the same. I think we're all prepared for the worst as well as the best news in our heart of hearts as we go through this process. It never makes it any easier though hey? Take care of yourself.

I'm feeling like I'm getting a cold and a little under the weather today so allowing myself the luxury of reading in bed. Unheard of for me, it's bliss! I have no idea how I feel as to whether it's worked or not. By all accounts implantation should be underway in there now so I'm trying to think of that and stay positive.