Would love to hear your Donor egg ivf stories

[wouldleavehomeforIdrisElba]

I'm booked for DEIVF in April and nervously excited. we are travelling to Czech Republic. I'm in my 40's!
Would love to hear your success stories...good or bad

Pregnancy has ceased to be something natural and easy and now seems entirely impossible.
It's weird. All of my friends have effortlessly fallen pregnant. Some have even planned their babies around the school year. I envy this total utter easiness. I don't envy the babies or the pregnancies - it's the hope my friends have 'I'll have a baby next year' they say. And then they do. After all having babies SHOULD be easy, I can't quite get my head around it being this hard.

Thank you for the "good luck wishes" Purple. The virus I had sounded very similar to what you had.....a full two weeks of miserableness. Strangely, even though I dont suffer with asthma I was left feeling breathless for ages. The plane journey played havoc with my ears. Very much on the mend now though and hopefully it has no effect on implantation etc.
We had the news yesterday that 10 eggs were collected, 8 of which were mature and 7 fertilised . Hoping and praying that they continue to grow well. Out of interest. ..how many embryo's did you all choose to transfer....did you infact get a choice? We have said two. I wonder is there are any statistics out there which give outcomes for singletons or twins when two embryos are transferred?
How are you cooking Resipsa? Cherry...if you're still reading I hope you are ok.

Carrot - I feel exactly the same. I used to be a terrible planner. Life feels as it if has been on hold for such a long time, waiting for another child.

MrsElba - my clinic has a table of those stats. It's obviously based on their own success rate, but it might give you an idea. here

We had two transferred. We have three frosties and I was thinking that we might have all three transferred and "have done". But our clinic has strongly advised us against doing that as our blastocysts are good quality and they feel that the risk of a multiple birth is too high.

I think my feeling was based on an emotional response to another failed cycle - and the 10% risk of having triplets seemed negligible compared with better odds that hadn't worked out for us - I was fixated on the 85% success rate. But I've had time to calm down and re-introduce some rational thinking (!) and I read an article about a woman who had 3 tranferred and miscarried one (which puts the others at greater risk) - and we're going to go along with the clinic's recommendations.

Thank you Purple for that link. That gives exactly the info I was pondering. Where is that clinic based? I like the matter of fact way it gives the statistics.

I can also understand completely your rational on having the three frosties put back.....I would probably be exactly the same. my feeling would be that the 10% risk of triplets would be a small risk to take alongside the chance of a healthy baby. However ...I'm sure that comes from a slight panic about time running out and if the situation should arise for me, my sensible head would take over and I may even be appeased by the thought of having one frosty left should there be a second failure (god forbid). Oh the things our brains put us through eh??

It's a couple of hours drive from Prague, but if you choose the all inclusive package, the coordinator comes and picks you up at the airport, drives you to and from the clinic and back to the airport, so it's no biggie. I really like the clinic - I'm really glad we chose it. I also really like the fact that they have their donor database on there and you choose, rather than being matched by the clinic. But in my case, it provided yet another way to obsess....I ruled out anyone with brown eyes (DH and I both have green eyes), ruled out anyone with a blood group that would be impossible for our child and then scored all the attributes for being as close to me as possible (except age and weight, where I went for an upgrade ). I put it all into a spreadsheet (I know, I know!) and asked for one of the top three. We got our first choice.

That's exactly how we felt about the risk of triplets, but looking into it a bit more, we thought about how we'd actually cope. From the practical - we wouldn't be able to fit all our children into either car- to the fact that if I was here with them on their own, I wouldn't be able to cuddle them all at once if they were crying. And I talked yesterday to a friend who had IVF twins about how much harder it is in those early days when you have two at once...we'd be delighted to have twins, but triplets would be such a challenge...

Hi wouldleavehomeforld
Have been following your story. I know it's a hard road.
I'm 45, have a lovely 9yr old daughter. Also had a son when I was 40 but he died of a blood infection a little while ago. I'm Utterly heartbroken. But my partner and I want to try and have another child, not to replace our son but to soften the hole that's been left behind. My daughter wants a sibling too.
We decided to go ahead with IVF, my own eggs were no good so are going ahead with donor eggs. Have just arrived back from Barcelona. Quiron hospital. Dr. Seemed very positive, gave us a 65-70%chance of success. They are now looking for a suitable donor. But this hospital like to put 2 embryos back. I'm worried as twin pregnancies are higher risk. But I gue it increase the chance of at least one taking?!
Did you decide how many to transfer?
Thinking of you and good luck?!?!

Oh Maurice what a dreadful thing to happen. I am so sorry you lost your little boy. Good luck with the IVF, wishing you success.

hi Maurice.....first of all, so sorry for your loss. A dreadful.....awful thing to go through .

We are just back from our trip where we had 2 embryos transferred. My Dr did ask my reasoning for this and explained the possible complications that can occur with twin pregnancies. For me the reason were simple. I'm in my mid 40's already past what would have been my optimum time for pregnancy so I wanted the best chance I could. Yes twins would be tough....but oh so worth it. I think if you really have to pause and worry when you think of the prospect of twins maybe just have a single embryo transferred.

Good luck MrsElba here's hoping. xxx

Thank you *Purple.... 5dpt transfer today. Planning on sneaking in a test at the weekend. lots of pulling sensations going on down there, hope this is good.

Ooooh...hope it's all happening - got everything crossed for you.

8dpt seems quite early to test...personally I'd wait a couple more days, but depends whether an early -ve would burst your bubble or whether you'd just be able to think "it's probaby too early..."

Keep me posted xxx

I know I'm silly but I caved and took a test.
Got a beautiful "pregnant' on a clearblue at 6dp5dt.
I know its early days but will have to just take each day as it comes

Congratulations MrsElba! Brave early test. On a CB too, means a lot of HCG already, ie 2?? I'm 3dp5dt with first DE cycle at Cube in Prague. Trying to feel twinges, but nothing going on. Only had 1 put back as have a kidney issue to watch. And am 43 in Sept. Oh god i cant handle it. Goes off to examine knickers...

Wow wow wow! Congratulations MrsElba that's fabulous news!

And good luck Toast.

I'm racing ahead Mrs but maybe it's twins if that's enough HCG this early

Just realised that Toast already said that!

Thank you both. I'm hovering between super excited and annoyed at myself for thinking too far ahead. So much can happen in early pregnancy to get too excited :(.
I did a FRER with quite dilute wee some 2 hours after the cb digi and it gave a good pink line.

Good luck toasted....would love to hear your progress. :)

Thanks purplemeggie and MrsE. I've woken up with a *&%": UTI. Twinges in the wrong place at the wrong time. I get them more frequently than most due to a kidney issue so got some ABs in the cupboard and have started them up - having checked google again to make sure these are the safest in early preg. I just know if this doesn't work I'll be thinking this is what it was.

Anyway, keep going...Got to do a trigger shot with Ovitrelle today - anyone else done this with a DE cycle? I had to do one the day before EC, and again day before ET, and then a decepeptyl shot day after ET, and one more Ovitrelle today. God knows what this does but I guess that stops me doing any naughty early tests in the next week in case of a false positive?

Mrs E - that plummet from excitement to fear and back, hopefully will level out once you have the proper final results and scans - are you going to do a Beta?

Toasted.....your protocol sounds quite different to mine. I literally just down regged with the Diphereline had af bought on by Norethisterone then started Estrogen tabs to build lining. I think everyone may have slightly different protocols based on your cycles, weather you are regular etc. Also different clinics would use different methods. All you can do is trust they know their stuff lol. Hopefully the UTI isnt too bad. I have a daughter who has suffered similar throughout her life....she gets paranoid at the first twinge bless her.
I tested again on a cheap strip today and the line has doubled in pinkness since yesterday if that makes sense?? .... Hopefully thats a good sign.

I'd say thats absolutely the right sign! Sorry your daughter has same, its a curse. Feeling better already after some Abs.

That's interesting, Toast - no, I didn't have to do a trigger.
I've known people doing OE IVF test from transfer day and every day afterwards, so that they can see where the trigger stops having an effect and can know immediately if it's a +ve. Wouldn't be my approach, but it works for some people!

Delighted to see your update MrsE - all sounds good and great to hear a success story on here.

I am 44 and have been looking at the DEIVF route. The costs of doing this in the UK are too high for us so I'm looking at alternatives. Would be grateful for any information about other clinics in Europe. Thx

I would really love to hear more about experiences in the Czech Republic as we are looking for a clinic there and it would be great to have a personal recommendation.