Missing Woman Nicola Bulley 2

The Facebook pages about it are insane. It's like Charlie Gard (Charlie's Army) all over again.
Madness

There is no reason to believe Nicola has gone missing on purpose. I’m finding your attitude toward my questions quite patronising. Missing people are just that- people- not MPs, as you referred to them earlier. This is a mum, friend, partner- not an abbreviation.

How am I being aggressive? You just need to be logical about this. Putting some tape around a bench won’t stop people if they want to go there.

You are right, she is a real person with a real family. Many, many posters of here would do well to remember that and stop treating this like a drama show.

This thread is in poor taste and I’m joining those reporting it, it’s not helping her family or efforts to find her.

Last night I saw some ridiculous social media campaign because some “medium” had been up there and wasn’t listened to by police even though he knows she’s in an industrial park nearby. The line was crossed so long ago with people and their “helping”.

they can easily map the speed water moves and direction, so they will have a rough idea of where she would be. It’s just very murky water, quite deep in places. And the divers are basically going side to side, using their finger tips, can’t see properly and can only do a max of 100 metres a day.

more divers are going in today, which is positive, and with the search guys brining their equipment in, which they are saying covers 10 miles a day and clearly, then if she’s in there I’d expect her to be found quite quickly this morning and certainly by the end of the day.

if they don’t find her, which I think is unlikely, then Its overwhelmingly likely she’s not in there

Her phone being left on bench is explainable: she was in a conference call to work, phone on loud speaker (surely the way most people listen to work meetings). She stands up to stretch her legs and look at view, sadly falls into river (maybe the dog tripped her). Very sad but sometimes the simplest explanation is the most likely?

yes, although the dog would need attention too - while listening to teams

Mumsnet always has and always will be a "chat" group. (Or gossip, call it what you will).
If you find the thread tasteless then just hide it and stop getting stressed.

@Strictlyfanoftenyears is that what you'd tell her family too? They've asked for the public to stop with their vile speculation.

It's not entertainment. It's real life.

If you see a post you think is speculation on a specific person etc , which is what the family wish stopped. Then report it. Mumsnet has been very clear what’s permitted

the family and friends have not said please can no one discuss this. So you are going too far trying to halt all discussion. As a pp said, if this is triggering uou in some way, hide the thread, the mods are doing their job, you don’t need to feel Responsible..

@Activelyannoyed

It's your opinion that I have gone too far trying to 'halt discussion'. I am allowed to suggest that it's distasteful.

Anyone who genuinely believes that this thread is somehow helping the investigation is delusional. I'm not sure anyone actually does but if they tell themselves that it'll make them feel better for rubbernecking.

Gossip not allowed on what's partly a gossip site is an interesting one.

I think we all draw out own lines regarding our behaviour and the site can enforce its own rules. There are legitimate things that seem discussable.

@MMBaranova whether it's allowed or not is irrelevant. If it were your child, spouse or parent missing would you like people to be 'gossiping' about what happened to them.

I agree @Activelyannoyed posters who dislike the thread can hide it. Inappropriate messages are deleted by MN as they should.

Strange how some people want to shut down this conversation. The case is in the public domain, social media enables people to talk about it. No laws are being broken but I agree that no individuals should be singled out as potential suspects as it could undermine and potential lawsuit later on and ruin innocent people's reputation.

I feel all angles have been mention on theses 2 threads so not sure what else to say. It's as much a mystery today as on the first day. It will change the local community for ever and there will be finger pointing, suspicions and accusations among the people of St Michael's on Wyre. It's a village and I assume many locals have been there for generations.

If anyone from the area is on this thread, can they say what it's like in the village at the moment? Are people being supportive or angry or both?

How many people have gone missing along this river over the last 10 years, is there any data on this?

Being a teacher at the primary school must be really hard right now. I'm not sure I'd want to stay in the village if I lived there with family, this is always going to haunt them. I'd probably seek to move elsewhere.

Which posts are distasteful? Call them out.

The family and police want publicity for this to be front of mind incase she is being held or hiding somewhere to jog memories - she could be anywhere in the U.K.

Activelyannoyed · Yesterday 17:46
I actually think threads like this and on other social media platforms are really important, it keeps public interest on it, and when public interest is on it, then the police are held more accountable. It gives huge pressure on them to solve this, which sometimes is a positive .

This.

I would accept that people would speculate about what might have happened. I think non biased speculation is natural and not morally wrong, I also think its natural to be on people's minds and for people to scratch their heads together. I don't think it's mawkish, I think people can feel powerless when these tragedies happen. I am praying this morning she is found very quickly and Nicola and her family are in my thoughts and I hope with all my heart there is no criminal involvement.

@NerrSnerr Irrelevant. But thank you for your comment. I would have no control over it.

This is a news story. The friends and family have gone over the heads of the police with how they would like things to be steered. Who owns this now? Police? Family? You? Me?

It's over the news and social networks. I might not like some of the tone and think some things tasteless. How I contribute (very little) and absorb things is up to me and the standards I live by. They are mine and no doubt not yours. You can see what I have contributed to this topic. I tend to discuss things related to Putin's war on Mumsnet, but this disappearance is interesting on a variety of levels: what has happened? what can/should be done? what it tells us about the Police, the saturated media age we live in and so on.

I don’t see why it can’t be discussed on here. It’s not like a family Facebook page with abusive messages directed to individuals.

I think it’s acceptable to discuss it as long as accusations aren’t being made. I think people most definitely shouldn’t be posting on her Facebook page that’s intrusive but Facebook should address that. Hopefully this week there will be resolution.

@AndysAudi It will change the local community for ever and there will be finger pointing, suspicions and accusations among the people of St Michael's on Wyre. It's a village and I assume many locals have been there for generations.

Possibly. A friend lives in a small town where there was a notorious pair of murders when I was a child. I remember them having brief international spread. Today for many the name of the place is synonymous with them in the minds of many. When I go there or drive past (which isn't frequently) the events come into my thoughts.

I suspect though that the Police are correct in their seeming assessment and Nicola Bulley drowned. If that is the case I doubt there will be much finger-pointing. Who know though? Some of the interest is no doubt in 'but what if she didn't'? Let's hope that in the fullness of time we learn from whatever has happened and that something good, no matter how small, comes out of this.

It was a circus in st Michaels yesterday. People treating it like a tourist attraction, news vans everywhere... God help the poor family. It’s so terrible.

This is the thing.
I live a few miles away but there is real fear among people, especially women, that there is some crazed individual about. I hear people discussing it in town every day and there are posters up in nearly every shop.
I don't think we will feel safe till she is found.