I am Irish, Elenor, and first let me say that I am not in the least cruel!
But I had a HUGE argument at the weekend with MIL about the cruelty of nuns in particular. MIL is very, very catholic ( to the point of psychosis IMO) and wouldn't hear a word against them.
My first memory of a teaching nun was being 4 years old and it was school break time. My friend and I were loitering in the classroom and this particular nun who was not my teacher came in and ordered us out to the yard. I had a toy in my hand and went to put the toy back in the toybox. Because I didn't go straight out to yard, she slapped the back of my hand.
I was shocked as I don't think I had ever been slapped before and was very, very upset.
Now, on the other hand, two of my aunts are nuns and they are the loveliest, most gentle women you could ever meet. They work with adults with SNs and treat them with love and respect.
I think a lot of women who were not in the least maternal were probably attracted to the convent as it afforded them a get-out clause, in those days you got married, became a nun or were "left on the shelf" . Similarly a lot of paedophiles were attracted to the priesthood as it was an excuse not to have to get married.
And these poor, poor children who had no friends or family, suffered the consequences.
A lot of older people over here bemoan the "lack of vocations" I don't know one nun under the age of 60, for example and on a recent visit to Poland I was taken aback at the number of young people who were nuns and priests, it was like going back in time! But I feel that the lack of vocations is a good thing, as I think as a people we are not particularly religious for the right reasons. I am very scared by MILs brand of religion which seems to be dogmatic in nature and leaves no room for things like love, tolerance and peace which you would think would be the whole point!
I am horrified at the lack of prosecutions and in particular, over the years how it has emerged that the gardai ( police) in many cases knew of the abuses taking place but left the investigation and punishment up to the religious organisations themselves! There is a photo in my Mums' house of my brother on his confirmation day, taken with the local bishop. At the time the photo was taken, that same bishop knew full well about a local priest who was serially abusing young boys like my brother ( fortunately not my brother himself) That man did absolutely nothing but move that priest from parish to parish.
In 1972 politicians officially separated the church and state. A lot of people like MIL were unhappy about this as they felt that Irish law should be God's law. What a lot of people outside Ireland don't seem to realise is that the laws for example, governing abortion are not set by the church, or set by the state, they are set by the people. It took us a long time to legalise divorce, not because the government were against it but because every time there was a referendum the grannies turned up in their droves to vote and the younger, more liberal people just weren't all that bothered about voting. And I am afraid I don't see that apathy changing at all atm.