'I had a child with my dp because we both wanted to be parents'
scotagm sums it up really.
Yes, of course a woman is likely to spend more actual hours with a child in the early weeks as she has maternity leave. But this doesn't have to mean the father is incompetent or should lack confidence in his ability to be a parent and look after his child FGS.
Who are these women who decide that a man is good enough to have a child with, but not good enough to look after that child without her hovering over him? Weird! very controlling and very unfair on the child. Children build up different relationships with people. Of course it's great to do loads as a family too, but the dynamics are different when one parent is one-to-one with the child, and children have a right to experience this and for the relationship to flourish.
I'm not saying every parent should leave their child overnight at a specific age, because obviously everyone's circumstances are different, but I think it's seriously worrying if a mother literally cannot bring herself to leave her child alone with its father for more than a few minutes. It says far more about her needs than the child's.
Oh and while we're at it, can we knock this myth on the head that somehow if you're bf that means you can't possibly leave your child? Plenty of mums express and their child is fed exclusively breastmilk but with the added bonus that dad can feed the baby too! I bf mine til they were toddling around, and managed fine with leaving them with their dad, and also with the nursery when I went to work!